Actual womxn: I wish more young men realised that many (if not most) women don't give a frick about whether or not they "look masculine" or "act masculine"

This person, who I am assuming is , posts in /r/gifted

I went to see a therapist specialised in giftedness a few weeks ago because I identified with a lot of the issues they have too. I'm 20 - I was a smart child but never got tested because my parents didn't see the need for it; until my mother brought up maybe half a year ago that I'm probably gifted I never even considered it, but then when I started reading books about it some things kind of "fell into place" and it explained several issues I had.

After the intake conversation with the therapist she told me it was very likely that I was gifted and that my profile was textbook. I asked her if I had to take an IQ test then, to make sure, but she said it wasn't really necessary because it won't change anything; I still have the same issues and I have to solve them either way, and knowing my IQ won't change anything about that. Honestly, I was quite relieved, because if I knew my IQ, I would probably obsess over it for the rest of my life! I really, really don't want to know!

I don't call myself gifted, especially not in front of other people, but I do read a lot about it because I can really relate to it and it helps to know about the solutions those scientists or whatever offer to the issues. That's why I sometimes check out this sub too. It's just nice to read about people experiencing the same thing you are, and you're not a big faker or something for reading it and relating to it.

lmao

https://old.reddit.com/r/Gifted/comments/16ckvil/deleted_by_user/

She's also VERY talented in basically everything. Reminds me of a certain xomeone

I say "artists" but I mean everyone who is doing something creative. Writers or painters or musicians, ...

I'm asking because I probably could've done anything if I only wanted to. At 18, I started studying something that would make me a lot of money, but I soon found out that I was missing all the history/humanities/language/art things I had to study in high school, and I "felt my soul dying" without those.

I study literature now. It's just as easy as the economy thing I did. I think I maybe want to write because I'm good at it - I'd like to be an artist but can't really paint or draw. I just have this need to express myself creatively I guess. And I thought doing that next to having a normal job would be enough, but it really wasn't. I need to LIVE it. Not having enough time for art made me depressed. (Sometimes I feel I still don't have enough freedom in this course, and I think about quitting uni altogether. That would probably be stupid.)

It's absurd because I have this gift for maths and everyone thought I'd do something with that, because it was so effortless for me. But I was good at playing music too. And language/spelling. Latin. Ironically, the only things that I wasn't good at (AKA as good as my classmates) were drawing and English. I'm studying English now. I NEVER do maths anymore, and sometimes it hurts that I'm forgetting things like formulas after being so good at it. But on the other hand I know that I would feel empty if I dedicated more time to it. Like I'm doomed to waste this "potential".

Sometimes I'm scared I'll grow up and realise that being a writer or artist is impossible and that the "lack of money" isn't worth it, and will in fact lower my quality of life.

What's your story?

https://old.reddit.com/r/Gifted/comments/185fjqf/comment/kb1l425/?context=8