COMMUNITY NOTED Average Men Don't Have the Cards

That's a lot of cope when you claimed you never mentioned happiness.

I used the word happier one time, to address the sentiment (that CHH seems pretty focused on). I did not say women will be happier as measured by the types of studies that measure happiness (although there's ample evidence to support that claim as well. I just don't think happiness studies are what we should be focusing on.) I also don't think we should throw out the kind of wisdom that came before feminism regarding relationships and the balance necessary to find and maintain a good one because we need to make men miserable as some kind of attempt to balance things on feminist terms or make millennial and zoomer men pay reparations for their ancestors who benefited from the patriarchy more (if you want to pretend that isn't a motivating factor here, you're the one coping).

I'm the only one who quoted that part of the essay. Another instance of you make a claim that's verifiably false.

If one use of the word "happier" to describe the CHH argument is something you feel is a slam dunk, I think it's fair to say this quoted portion is part of the same part and makes the same argument. Since you seem to think you're on reddit.com playing a debate game with rules or something, verifiably false claim made thrown back at you.

I acknowledged that in my second comment, where it's ridiculous to think that women are making their choices simply because they think men might be getting the better deal.

No you didn't. Both the post I was responding to and my post talk about something more than the gender war aspect of all this (though that is an important part). That's the messier issue of the nature of romantic love and living with the lack of it (regardless of gender war concerns, I think most would agree that a life without it or with it for only a short and fleeting period of time is a less full life than one with it for most of their life). That aside, denial or refusal to consider the ill will toward men implied with the arguments and assumptions made is a lack of acknowledgment of them. It's also worth mentioning the Paul Dolan study CHH mentions was later debunked. At any rate, you're just being obtuse. You yourself brought up doing more domestic labor as the primary concern on the part of women, clearly showing a great deal of concern about men getting a "better" deal in having an unpaid housekeeper/maid (as the typical feminist framing of the situation).

Do the single women and their married defenders not get to talk? I see a ton of people angrily responding to this essay, so your argument goes both ways. Maybe it's just fun arguing on the internet.

Sure, they can talk. However, they're the ones who seem to feel that certain men should not be allowed to talk and want to dictate the terms of discussion. I think it's only fair to have their own motivations questioned. CHH doesn't seem to allow for a reasonable dissenting opinion on this issue, it's all mean old misogynists and loser men who want women to settle for them. If that's the standard of discussion, they should expect judgments about their own choices and quality on the dating market. It's also fair to acknowledge the frequency and amount of attention paid to a group of people who one claims have justifiably rejected. Posting about it day in, day out (like many self-proclaimed happy feminists do, CHH herself seems to talk about misogynist men and incels quite a bit, she's even making money off women and male feminists who agree with her) does call into question whether one is completely settled with their choice, and/or maybe the partnered ones are just trying to find a group that's cool to hate and dogpile on them.