Billie Eilish says men don’t face criticism about their bodies because girls are nice:

“Nobody ever says a thing about men’s bodies. If you’re muscular, cool. If you’re not, cool. If you’re rail thin, cool. If you have a dad bod, cool. If you’re pudgy, love it! Everybody’s happy… pic.twitter.com/xaihWNyjE3

— Pop Base (@PopBase) November 13, 2023

Guy coping

A woman who often shares her dating life online has shared a horror date she experienced where a man expected her to pay the entire $500 bill.

Annie Knight, who splits her time between the Gold Coast and Melbourne, said she had been talking to a man on a dating app for a week before agreeing to meet for dinner.

She said the date was going well – rating it a seven out of 10 – with the pair sharing cocktails, a bottle of wine and a meal.

After going to the bathroom, Annie – who works as an adult content creator for a subscription based service – found the bill on the table.

The pair continued to talk, when the waitress came over and asked who was going to pay the bill.

"The guy expected me to pay. Over $500! Obviously I paid but it felt really ick. Like he just had that expectation because he saw how much my income is," she said.

Annie said she had no problem splitting the bill, and had no expectation the man would pay, but said she expected him to at least offer.

Earlier this year, Annie revealed she makes $150,000 a month due to her line of work.

However, her bad date experience left many people frustrated with the content creator, pointing out her monthly takeaway and that it would barely make a dent in her bank account.

“I think the people commenting haven't watched the full video as I stated in the video that I'd be happy to go 50/50, I didn't expect him to pay for the whole thing so I don't think it's fair he expected me to pay for it all,” Annie told news.com.au.

“For those saying I should pay because I earn millions of dollars a year, I think that has nothing to do with it. It's simply a respect thing – he should respect and value my time and therefore be at least willing to split the bill.”

I'm a 41-year-old, fat, chronically physically and mentally ill, virgin. I'm nonbinary and bisexual, but only out to a few close friends. I was born into an extremely strict, overprotective, conservative family. I didn't even come out to myself until I was over 30, and living with my parents until their deaths, I didn't have any freedom to do anything about it, anyway. I have one online friend with whom I've been writing erotica inspired by various movie and TV characters since we were in our 20s.

She's a few years older than me, and in a similar boat: disabled, housebound, never had a relationship, only she identifies as cishet female. What we typically do is role-playing where we take turns playing the part of the guy and the girl. Other friends tell me she's sucked up all the emotional space I could have given to an actual partner, but I always saw her and our writing as my saving grace. Until the last year or so, when menopause, medication, and worsening health issues have caused her to lose her attention span and libido, leading to her no longer wanting to write at all, let alone anything erotic. I'm left completely at sea.

I've written solely in a roleplay format for so long that I'm unable to write without a partner, and without that, I have zero outlet for my loneliness or sexual frustration. My own weight and health problems have been catching up with me, and I feel way too old, unattractive, and physically limited to attempt to date for the first time in my life. My steady diet of romantic fantasies has left me with impossibly high standards, and I doubt I'd enjoy actual s*x in this body, with the type of person I could actually attract. But I don't know how to begin finding another weird, quasi-sexual writing relationship like I had with my friend for so long. What should I do?

—Frustrated in Florida

!moidmoment more wisdom from Shera

Drag Race franchise has finally crowned its first ever cis woman winner, as Pandora Nox has just won Drag Race Germany.

In addition to being the first AFAB (assigned female at birth) queen to win any franchise, the 30-year-old drag star is also first to win the Drag Race Germany franchise -- as the inaugural season began in September 2023.

Drag Race.

In 2021, Drag Race UK competitor Victoria Scone became the first AFAB contestant on any franchise, but she was forced to leave the contest after suffering an injury.

Scone returned for Canada Vs. The World last year, where she made the final, before being beaten by Rajah O'Hara.

Earlier this year, Clover Bish became the second cis woman to compete on the franchise, on Drag Race España -- but fans felt she received unfairly poor treatment, and she finished in fifth place.

Pandora Nox was an immediate fan favourite after entering the Drag Race Germany werk room, winning both the mini and maxi challenge in the first episode. She went on to win the season's ball challenge, as well as the runway in episode four.

She placed in the bottom twice, but also received positive critiques on several of the episodes she didn't ultimately win.

In the final episode of the season on Monday (20 November), Pandora performed a dance number to RuPaul's song "Call Me Mother" alongside the other two finalists, Metamorkid and Yvonne Nightstand.

Then, after a final lip-sync to Eurovision icon Conchita Wurst's song "Rise Like a Phoenix", Pandora Nox was announced as the winner -- much to fan delight.

"SHE DID IT SHE DID IT SHE DID IT," exclaimed one overwhelmed fan. "Herstory has been made with Pandora Nox becoming the first ever cis woman to win. I couldn't be more happier with how it ended. She deserves the world and beyond."

"We will have a lesbian in the Drag Race hall of fame. Pandora Nox, you will always be famous," another declared.

"First AFAB winner! Let's go, kitty power," a third shared.

Cis women dominating Drag Race: check. Now, it's time to see some drag kings cast.

So I'm on my dating app of choice recently and not looking for anything serious.

Of course, that's always a tricky thing to communicate on an app because once you let the guys know you're looking for no-strings they're suddenly all interested and a lot of them are jerks about it.

I like a little banter and some flirting. What I often get is short texts like “what's up” or ones that jump straight to dirty talk.

When I mention this I always get some misogynist telling me j deserve it some how. As if a woman open to just having a little fun is a mindless piece of meat open to abuse.

The thing is, that is NOT how most men behave. Plenty can still put a little bit of effort into being charming and witty without acting entitled. The type of guy who thinks a woman is “asking for it” with he behavior is not the type of guy I'm ever going to get with.

The guys I end up meeting are typically good guys. They're respectful and laid back. And they're honest. Well, mostly honest. Except for one thing.

I know you're jumping to “guys always lie about how big they are.” But that's not always the case! Though it often is. In any case, I'm not a size queen. I hate to break it to you, guys, but that extra inch you round up doesn't make an earth-shattering difference. Girth is more important than length anyway!

The thing so many guys lie about is their height. What the heck, fellas?

Look, I'm aware there are women out there who have a height thing. I think it's weird. Personally, I'm tall for a woman. And maybe some women would use that as an excuse to excuse.

“Well, I'm. 5'7” and like to wear heels so I only date guys over 5'10”

I've actually heard them say things like that.

Well, I AM 5'7” and I DO wear heels and I don't care how tall a guy is as long as he's not insecure about it.

And when they lie, it does seem like they're insecure about it.

But the thing is, it's not just guys who are my height or shorter! Guys who are clearly 5'10” often say 6'. Guys who are 5'8” say they're 5'10”

I would say it's like exaggerating on your résumé' to get a job interview, but it's not like they just do it on the apps! Most guys say it all the time! Do they believe their own hype?

So back to my night on the dating app…

I meet a guy who is perfectly charming. He says in his bio that he's 5'9.” Not that it matters to me. I was on the road for work travel and I asked if he wants to meet up at the bar in my hotel's lobby.

At this point, it's not a sure thing for him, but it's darn close. If we are meeting at a bar at my hotel we are more than likely going to my room. I'm just verifying there are no red flags or the guys doesn't have BO or halitosis.

So he shows ups. He's personable and well-dressed. He's also clearly no where near 5'9”. He's clearly shorter than me, and I was wearing flats because I don't need to put on heels to impress a hook up.

It's not a big deal. Like I said, a lot of guys do it. We have a couple of drinks and there is obvious chemistry and we're joking around and flirting and even being a bit risqué.

EDIT: He started talking about how most people are misleading on dating apps and we joked about bad experiences.

And then I ask the same question I asked above: what the heck is up with guys exaggerating their height?

Based on the rapport we had up to that point, I assumed he'd make a joke of it and we'd move on and the night would continue with us going upstairs.

Instead, he lost his cool IMMEDIATELY.

He went right to “why is a big deal? Why don't women disclose their weight?”

Which seems like the definition of a a false equivalency because I didn't make a joke about guys lying about their weight.

Obviously he'd failed the red flag test with how quickly he lost his cool, but I still had not pulled the plug. I laughed it off and asked if he wanted to know my weight or exchange driver's licenses to compare stats. I'm not shy about my weight. I played sports in college and it still on a website somewhere, I'm sure.

He honestly still had a shot! All he had to do was put in a little extra work to reassure me his flare up was a blip. I was looking for fun, not a boyfriend. He didn't have to be perfect.

But he couldn't do it. I want to emphasize that height doesn't matter to me. It was just obvious because I know my height and he was shorter! I wasn't trying to pick on the guy! Just tease in a flirty way.

He couldn't let it go, though. I'm not going to claim I'm a 10/10. I'm not a model or anything. But I'm fit and attractive and pretty open-minded.

This guy got dressed up, left his home, and came to a hotel bar on a weeknight to get laid. And he blew it because of his own insecurity!

And part me wants to be petty because his attitude ruined my night, too.

Of course, from his perspective, I ruined his night by bringing up the height padding in the first place and not understanding why it upset him so much. Still, he was absolutely still expecting things to lead to s*x and I had to politely decline.

He called me a dirty name and I said I'm sorry you feel that way. I could have responded with something nasty, but I decided to be the bigger person figuratively as well as literally.

drama houses are genders

you are valid

this post recognizes:

cute butches, cute twinks, queers, lesbians, gays, homos (some say gays and homos are the same but they're distinct), transness of all kinds (mtf, mtm, ftm, ftf), poly, demi, a limited exemption for asexuals (I believe it's a fiction that I'm willing to abide by because it's such a clear preference, but will reserve the right to believe you are still a sexual being somewhere sometime) (actually it's a quite artful way to say "none of your business") butch lesbians (distinct from cute butches), femboys, femgirls. and then heteronormative men and heteronormative women. 'cis' is stupid language. what 'cis' means is 'breeders.' (Bring calling people 'breeders' back.) and "heteronormative" is a polite way to refer to 'breeders.'

there are no more gender houses. pansexual goes in poly. being in love with the universe is not the deep spiritual insight you think it is. just because teenagers go through phases doesn't mean those phases aren't real.

there are probably more which could be recognized but I think I covered the common queers.

gender shouldn't be taken too seriously.

“Nobody ever says a thing about men’s bodies,” says Billie Eilish. “If you’re muscular, cool. If you’re not, cool. If you’re rail thin, cool. If you have a dad bod, cool. If you’re pudgy, love it! Everybody’s happy with it. You know why? Because girls are nice. They don’t give a… pic.twitter.com/cyMA70F5ys

— Variety (@Variety) November 13, 2023

A couple of hours ago my husband (29) and I (28) where watching TV and I was nursing our daughter (3 months old). He said that he wonders what it will be like when she is older. How he will feel when they sleep together in the same bed and cuddle together. He said he was worried that it might be weird. He asked me what it was like with my father and whether I cuddled with him or slept in bed with him. So I told him what it was like when I was a child. He's mentioned once or twice in the past that he's afraid he'll find her attractive because she looks just like me. I had this conversation in mind when we spoke earlier and I must have made a funny face after we talked because he asked me what I was thinking. I told him honestly that I was worried that he might actually find her attractive in the future. And to clarify I told him that for me there is a difference between finding someone beautiful and being attracted to someone just so we are on the same page. Because he did use the word “attractive” in the past. This whole thing turned into a huge fight. He said that I fucked up big time, that I traumatized him by saying that and he will always think about this conversation when he will kiss or hold her and that I should have kept those worries to myself. He said that he is disappointed that I thought that he might want to do something to her which I never said! He also said that even if he's going to think that she's attractive that these are normal feelings and that everyone has them. He even told me that when he was a kid that he felt some type of way about his mother and that one day our daughter is going to feel the same way about him. He said that my father probably felt the same way about me or had some kind of thoughts about me. He said he would never ever do something with our daughter and he was really mad at me. I apologized and then he went to bed. I just don't think that that's right…. I can't shake this feeling of disgust and anxiousness. I'm in bed with my daughter right now and all I want to do is hold her and never let go. I wish we never had this conversation. And now I think about every joke and every comment he ever made about her or her body. He told me twice that if she has his mothers genes she's going to have massive boobs. And that she's probably going to have a big butt. Now I'm asking all the parents in here: is it normal to talk about this stuff to each other? Is it normal to think your kids are attractive? AITA for making him feel like he's wrong in the head?

nothing-more-cucked-than-having-a-daughter.txt !moidmoment

Nashville Ladies, DO NOT BOOK SERVICES WITH THIS MAN! I just talked to someone else and apparently I’m not his first victim! He books appointments with women then later FTs them from another number showing his bare hairy ass! PUT HIM ON A LIST! https://t.co/K4eGdFgKDk pic.twitter.com/sC9JrsQna7

— 🐆 (@QTheCharacter_) November 10, 2023

Tisha Campbell goes through her dad's DVD stash after he passes. This is so wrong. pic.twitter.com/4sLYbfVgsT

— Ian Miles Cheong (@stillgray) November 10, 2023

How exactly is it this queen's fault that her dad is a dusty?

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