It's unbelievable how expensive all this is 
Initially, we were going to do a courthouse wedding. A photographer and wedding clothes would have been under 5k, and we could save money for the honeymoon 
Just our parents, and we can go visit everyone else after the honeymoon. Neither pair of parents were impressed with this 
Facing pressure, and with the idea that they would pay costs 
(getting back to this), we decided to plan a simple one day ceremony+reception 
It is not so simple. It's astounding how greedy 
nearly every private vendor is. I have to explicitly make a remark about private vendors; state parks 
have much lower fees to reserve venue space. I do not know why you would choose to rent a private space other than being a brat 
with stupid amounts of cash. No, we are not going to spend $300 :capymerchant just to do some taste testing for a reception dinner. That's the price of a small cake 
I am sick of calling up vendors only for them to demand several thousand dollar minimums, of which our guest list does not even come close to reaching via a price per plate 
Oh by the way, don't forget that a service charge 
is calculated as a percentage of a minimum 
This is mortgage money 
, baby money 
, ANYTHING-ELSE money that instead we are suggested to spend on other people. This is all to put up a Victorian-era farce that should have stayed in last century. What's next; I have to rent out seating for the consummation? 
This would all be fine and dandy if the proponents of these ideas would come forth with funding. But talk about money and they are quick to drag their feet 
Obviously I am not interested in pissing off parents because I am trying not to pay for daycare when the time comes 
No one is even stepping up to offer their property as a venue.
Someone even suggested we take a personal loan out to pay for all this 
Why would you EVER do that?
I want to spend money to build a family, not on ornate crap that does not matter. This is just a hypercapitalistic version of dowry; instead of buying something useful for the other family, like a cow 
, I'm expected to pay OTHER people I will never speak to again an inordinate amount of money 
In short, the west has fallen 
, millions must pay billions for, uh, hors d' oeuvre, chud? 
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!incels imagine if our greatest stress was picking a wedding venue lol
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It was not too long ago that I was in your shoes. Of course, I can't comment if you're a truecel or not.
I knew relationships sucked money, but if I knew it was something this wasteful I would have learned not to love.
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It's not a real wedding if you don't spend $30k and invite 250 people.
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Oh sweetie...
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Indians spend >200k for these massive, ridiculous 3 day affairs
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It's a bit like Christmas where you're expected to make donations to the appropriate corporations out of societal expectation.
Just do the small wedding and tell the parents to deal with it. If they're petty and unpleasant enough to refuse to see their grandchildren for that reason alone they can get fricked anyway, they're not the kinds of people you want your children around.
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If you don't want to pay, just elope, neighbor
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The parents don't want that
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It's okay you're in an incel safe space. You can blame this all on your wife wanting her imagined magical wedding.
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If they're playing games now about funding your wedding, how hard are you really holding out that they'll do the free daycare game? Boomers are writing articles about how boomers won't do the free daycare for their millennial kids.
You could stop fricking around and just murder them and anyone else in the inheritance line. Husbands and wives can't be compelled to testify against each other. It was meant to be.
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Tell the rents youll get a normal
wedding 
if they agree 
to be daycare.
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The first part of marriage is getting buck broken by everyone around you. Congrats
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Women spend money on dumb, vain shit like this all the time. Weddings are in the same category as limited edition Stanley Cups and LuluLemon Gear. Just another product marketed to the least forward-thinking of the sexes. No shit the vendors are all asking for a ridiculous amount of money, every buck broken future husband or father is going to reluctantly get out their checkbook and blow thousands on a ceremony that no one really wanted to go to anyway and only lasted at most a day.
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That settles it. Don't try to hide behind principle or even your own pathetic cowardice as an excuse anymore.
You're just an evil motherlover.
Hope the pibbles get you eventually.
Or you finally realize that, yes, you DO take pleasure in causing animals pain, and in a brief moment of lucidity you relieve us of your existence with a shotgun.
Your body would be more useful to society as dog food than in it's current state.
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