@Mithridates's comment on 'My (M21) Gf (F23) keeps getting r*ped at parties. I don't know what to do... : relationship_advice'

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Throwaway, because I am ashamed to even ask for help.

My (M21) Gf (F23) has gotten r*ped 3 times over the course of her life. 2 before she met me and one during. We have been dating for about a year. All of them have been at parties and have been caused by a stranger taking advantage of her.

Obviously she is a victim and doesn’t deserve anything that has happened to her, but she will not stop going to parties and getting drunk and high to the point where she isn’t fully aware of her surroundings. She says if she stops going then the male feminists win, because she’s loves to have fun with her friends and listen to music. I usually do not go to these parties as I despise party culture and have a tight circle of friends who I will only celebrate their birthdays with. I have gone to some of these parties that she goes to and she is very popular and friendly.

I worry that she is being taken advantage of to the point where she doesn’t consider that a huge trust factor is being broken with me. I really do not like her going to these parties and have been going with her ever since the last one happened. I feel that I ruin the mood she has, by being worried and feel that she doesn’t want me there. She tells me she loves me and appreciates me going because she knows I hate it. So I'm not worried about her lying or anything of the sort just confused.

She tells me that people grope her in public and kiss her when they pass by too. I am deeply disturbed that something might be wrong with her as I care about her very much. I don't know if it is caused by dissociating or some other mental illness but I will never let anything happen to this woman again. I have considered marrying her in a couple years but I don’t know if I can trust someone that puts no effort in trying to stop this from happening. I feel like an butthole for even thinking that but I want to protect her. Please anybody let me know if you have been a in a similar situation or any ideas to help her. Thank you.

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HeyMoon hey/moon :marseyfoxgloveyourself:

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2yr ago #3372597

She says if she stops going then the male feminists win

lol

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Patrice e/acc HeyMoon 2yr ago #3372626 Edited 2yr ago

reddit reply:

Promiscuity, hyper-sexuality, and putting oneself in dangerous situations are all ways that r*pe victims can cope. It sounds counter intuitive, but in my case was a combination of trying to own my body again, feeling dirty and like being “used/abused” was all I was good for (after all, why else would this happen to me?)

Woman logic

I've been with too many girls who got off on being "used/abused" to not see this as an elaborate excuse

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TariqNasheed cum/coom Take the thong out ya bussy playa Patrice 2yr ago #3372939

In the most misogynistic way possible, this. Idk why women like being treated like whores, but that’s what I’ve generally found. Also after I find out they’re like this, I break up with them bc I know other neighbors were treating them like fleshlights first.

:marseysick:

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_Ghost_Poster Ghost/Poster Dwhite Dynamite <3s WPD Foids TariqNasheed 2yr ago #3374222

after I find out they’re like this

You'll break up with them all. I was very promiscuous in college, and it was almost universal.

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TariqNasheed cum/coom Take the thong out ya bussy playa _Ghost_Poster 2yr ago #3374255

I know, I just settled with someone after becoming somewhat jaded, don’t want kids w her or shit and cheated on her while she was visiting family in Dubai last month.

:marseyexcited: :marseycringe2: :marseyshrug:

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Mithridates they/them TariqNasheed 2yr ago #3375626

Disgusting

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MakePepeDankAgain king/king Sub 2 r/caucasiancringe TariqNasheed 2yr ago #3375784

You're way worse r-slur

_Ghost_Poster Ghost/Poster Dwhite Dynamite <3s WPD Foids TariqNasheed 2yr ago #3374364

Should have invested in my Thai compound instead.

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TariqNasheed cum/coom Take the thong out ya bussy playa _Ghost_Poster 2yr ago #3374378

Thai compound?

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_Ghost_Poster Ghost/Poster Dwhite Dynamite <3s WPD Foids TariqNasheed 2yr ago #3374401

Imagine, a self-sustaining compound in Thailand run entirely by dramneurodivergents. Why live like a commoner when you could become a Lord? Only 4-5 years away.

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Shreddedmanlet White/Pride The only user here with an actual big white peepee. _Ghost_Poster 2yr ago #3375793

lol, I’d be running the compound within 4 minutes.

:#marseycapitalistmanlet:

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TheGrillcast Cent/Rist Get radicalized at YouTube.com/c/TheGrillcast _Ghost_Poster 2yr ago #3375824

What does it say about me that I shit on the idea of reddit city, the tranch, etc as cringe but if I was single I would actually consider doing this.

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MARFAN_EATS_DOODOO doo/doo 🤣😂🤣 _Ghost_Poster 2yr ago #3574775

:#marseywoodchipper2:

Yeah no.

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_Ghost_Poster Ghost/Poster Dwhite Dynamite <3s WPD Foids MARFAN_EATS_DOODOO 2yr ago #3577385

The fact that that's where your mind goes and that you over compensate with this image makes me think that this is projection and that you're the real libertarian.