All The Men I believe to be my friends want to sleep with me.
So, I'd originally tried to post this on /r/AmItheAsshole, BUT it doesn't fit guidelines. I figured I would try it here, as I'm sure a lot of XXC can relate. I know it sounds ridiculous but I really cannot tell. That's why I need an objective opinion if I'm the problem here.
I'm a 25F social party type, happily single and doing my thing. I have a lot of male friends I met through the industry I work in that I hang out with and see almost daily. While I'm a natural flirt because of the industry, I keep my s*x life(which has slowed SIGNIFICANTLY since my early 20's) private and out of the same social circle I leave my day-to-day in.
I have a few male friends who I love dearly. We go out and see movies, to dinner, etc., and I've always enjoyed their company platonically. Since I'm single, I don't mind jumping on a homie's back or letting them hold doors open for me, a little soft flirting; but I've always felt like generally, it was a platonic agreement. Split bills, wingmanning eachother, etc. I've always stayed vocal about my actual crushes, implying that I respectfully don't have romantic feelings for my male friends.
I stayed over at one of my male friends' house after drinking (we were both super drunk) and he tried to make a sexual move on me, and I admitted to him I wasn't interested in having s*x with him. Frustrated, he sighed and said, "You'll have s*x with (the name of my crush), but not with me?" The rest of the night I sobered up and got a little paranoid.
This has happened a few times now with men who allow me to lean on them (taking me to the beach, helping me lift furniture, etc) even though I always keep the mood goofy and platonic, and I don't understand why me hanging out with guys isn't how it is with girls. Even though I'm sexually attracted women, I don't expect to sleep with women when I get too close to them; I see them as friends when they are just friends.
But my male friends seem to get frustrated that I'm around them but not opening up sexually. I don't know if it's selfish for me to be so close to straight men that I don't want to sleep with, but admittedly I felt like it was too good to be true to have a safe relationship with a man, as a friend, without feeling pressured to have s*x with him.
Maybe for them it's opposite. Maybe it's frustrating having a liberated person like me around, that doesn't want to have s*x with them.
Is it too good to be true for me to be hanging out with them and enjoying their company and laughing and gently flirting, when, I'm not interested in having s*x with them? Like, at all?
*EDIT: I do want to clarify that I am not mad that people become attracted to me. I get mad when it leads them to try and have s*x with me when I'm alone with them.
*EDIT Pt. 2 I flirt because as a bartender, it is part of my nature. I flirt casually with absolutely everybody. I understand the comments saying the flirting is the problem, but I also think for context it's important to know that flirting is second nature in the bar industry.
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Foids do not understand causation. She's a bartender because she's a whore, not the other way around.
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Also she previously posted this:
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Also her insta handle is literally the same as her Reddit, unless they both just happen to live in Corpus Christi, TX.
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“Yo I wanna suck you off lol”
“Ok”
“Uhhh… I’m just being flirty! Yeesh!”
Classic.
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Literally the stupidest foid imaginable. "I keep making sexual innuendos at virtually every guy friend I have, turns out they want to frick me. I thought we were frienddddssss, what did I do wrong?!?!" This is what happens when average looking foids think that they are hot shit because they have orbiters
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I used to do this with women I was friends with as a teenager until I realized they were responding positively because they really thought I was hinting at something and that's called leading people on and I was being a huge butthole, so I stopped. It's the kind of shit you do because you're trying to feel more like a tv character and reality hasn't set in yet, so hopefully she grows out of it soon.
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They never do though. So many women divorcing their husbands at 40 because they think they can do better after a waiter smiled at them cause he wanted a bigger tip
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This is a gender neutral situation, but the difference is men are actually that stupid, and women are in denial.
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women initiate almost all divorces
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Men are lazy, they won't do most things until their hand is forced
Which is why the foids are divorcing them
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Are you neurodivergent? Actual question
Trans lives matter
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no
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I had
of this as a teencel.
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I can't put my finger on it, but she just has a super strong "I put out with little invested effort" energy. I'm really good at picking this up, so her post confuses and upsets me.
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She still said she fricks, just not her coworkers. Your whoredar is still
Strong my friend don’t worry.
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Based on her insta it's easy to peg her as a working class art hoe, probably having to service a lot of debt on a useless degree. She took a lot of peepee in her wilder days and is kinda off it now, but is still willing to put out if it gets her something she wants.
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Ive never heard a more succinct description
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Sue the b-word for false advertising, this shit warrants the FTC
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This b-word is going to prison
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Slut.
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Some do
https://old.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/14kn7sa/all_the_men_i_believe_to_be_my_friends_want_to/jprztet/?sort=controversial
She's a cleaning hooker, she cleans your house and your peepee
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Cleaning is kinda hot tho. Look, I'm a sapiosexual so I'm attracted to women who are really smart at their jobs!
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Ew.
Her hands must be rough as shit then.
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Reminds me of the classic joke:
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Classic asian dainty hand fetish. Sorry we can't all be mandarins with pale skin from never working the fields.
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All Darkies will be Hwacha'ed until dead.
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Imagine I made a really clever comment about Jo Gwang-Jo's reform attempts here and actually knew more than what I picked up from Dae Jang Geum.
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Strong moral fiber isn't strong enough to stop the insidious knife in the back.
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She is way too conceited for how she looks. I was expecting someone a little more like a thotfluencer look after reading her hyping herself up.
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The U.S. is approaching 80% overweight, and 50% obese. Functionally she can't drop below an 8, and if she doesn't have that many worse qualities like an awful voice or a persisting smell, that's 9+.
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hoeflation is real
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Brutal
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Back to your containment chamber (soon to be house) /h/braincels
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Frick that hoeflation. She's a 5, fats are 0.
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Based fatphobic fellow, it's also my first input on when people ask me to rate someone's looks. Not overweight+? Then you're at least 5/10 if your country has 50% overweight+ people. Simple as. Applies to both males and females.
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Same, but her face is busted. Must frick fat guys or something.
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ong she ugly fr fr
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She's one of those "if it doesn't require effort and it's been a bit I'll go for it" girls.
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That's why the dude in her story waited until she was back at his apartment before making a move, it's the half drunk late night "this or jerking off" moment..."yeeah why not"
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Good enough for a cleaning service
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She has one of those stupid sternum tattoos lol
All in all, I'd smash if it didn't require effort, but girls like this are the ones you normally befriend in hopes that they can introduce you to their hotter friends.
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Sternum? I hardly know 'im!
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That was 2018 during her self confessed even sluttier days. She has dropped off a lot from that.
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Ew she’s beat as frick
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LOL I was just bar hopping in Corpus I wonder if I ran into this psycho
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True and real. Also, bartenderfems arent necessarily flirts. I know a ton of them who are outright rude/bullies to customers and put in almost no if any positive vibes when interacting with customers. Apparently bully dommy mommy vibes get tipped well
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YWNBAW
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Incredibly mid.
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women and opsec lmao
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It's a 200 IQ trap: Employer Googles her name, finds her Instagram username and Googles that, sees she's a Reddit whore and starts sexually harassing her, and finally she gets a big settlement.
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https://www.theonion.com/why-do-all-these-homosexuals-keep-sucking-my-peepee-1819583529
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Back when The Onion wasn’t wingcucked whiny bullshit
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Late 90s Onion was
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2008 to 2011 The Onion on YouTube was the golden age imo.
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this frickin video remains top 10 youtube sketch comedy for me, 10 years later
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lmao the further back in time you go, the onion gets increasingly based
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They lost their balls when Obama got elected
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Excellent taste
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How DARE you not post him with Gary Coleman 😔
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Man single-handedly destroys the soul of Vancouver, but all anyone remembers is Gary Coleman and a stupid Lay's ad.
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Messier > Gretzky
1 seething Canuck’s fan is worth 100 goals.
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Mid
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Probably doesn't help that 2/3 men share around how she's an easy slut that puts out easily
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do foids literally just not understand anything about moids
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I'd shame u if I understood a single thing about women besides they like being called pretty
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massive dramastrag l
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I once brought up my ex while a girl was sitting my lap, my Ls are boundless
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ur so adorably stupid bb
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I did learn to keep any talking limited to "ur so pretty" and "U want another drink?"
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Average dramatard when a woman talks to them
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They don’t like that unless you’re hot.
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some of them don't even like this
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This kind of shit she hasn't learned at almost 30 I knew immediately by the time I was 18.
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Proof why the age of consent needs to be raised to 35 now
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I say 50, since 50 is the new 30.
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Let's make it so women cannot consent unless their handler is with them. Actually, let's make it so they aren't allowed to go out without their handler.
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Islam is just another name for ultra-woke feminism, because under Islam foids are considered to have zero agency and are not responsible for anything they do. How can you possibly get more progressive and woke than that?
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r-slurmaxxing for our youngins
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yes
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GOOD pronouns
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Somehow our founding fathers knew this yet we lost sight of it
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Nor about themselves lol.
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Nah, sounds to me like it's just normalstrag moid delusions.
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She's only 25? These sick p-do freaks she calls friends should be arrested.
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They want that jailbait barely legal kitty
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but she is 25, so that means her mental mind has finally fused all the white matter in her teen brain and she is mature enough to frick people who are now 30+
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Women under 40 are ontologically children and there are statutory r*pe laws for exactly this situation.
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Think of the power differential!
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Of course if she were to become a proper s*x worker then she would be able to have s*x with older men, she isn't mature enough to go in date with any of clients though.
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