tl;dr girl hooks up with guy in Paris, hooks up again later, he gets a job in her city (on purpose), they continue relationship, live together in Paris(rent free for her), he tells her he moved there on purpose and wants a future with her. now she wants to be single for a year (or forever) and start dating again after (or not).
I met my current bf about 3 years ago when I was 19 and in vacation in Paris with a friend. I wanted a European hookup and met him on a dating app. He was 25. We met up twice and I had a good time and I genuinely liked and respected him. I thought he was kind, interesting, and smart (especially compared to the men I was used to aha). He also seemed to like and respect me a lot and he was incredibly sweet to me.
Obviously vacation ended and I went back to the US and college. We had no contact beyond liking each others ig posts, but that winter break I ended up in Europe with friends again, by chance in the same city as him. We hung out a few more times there, and I left with even more positive feelings towards him, as he was truly charming and very kind to me.
We both continued with our lives, but that spring he messaged me and said that he'd been offered an incredible job opportunity in the city I live in and that he was considering accepting it. I did think it was mildly odd that there would be such a prestigious job in my city (not America's greatest but it is large) but not in any of the major European cities around him, but I don't know much about his field (architecture).
Anyways I was excited to see him again, and when he arrived we started spending a lot of time together. We ended up deciding to live together that summer, as I was interning in the same city that his job asked him to spend a lot of time in, and it's a notoriously expensive city so it made lots of financial sense for both of us. I was also very happy to live with him, and we spent a great summer.
He decided to spend another year in my city, which I was surprised about again since I thought he would return to Europe, but we had another great year. This summer I found an internship in the European city he's from, and so I stayed in the house he owns (rent free baby) and he took a bunch of vacation he had saved up to spend the summer with me.
I did not expect to spend so long with this man, since he was just an ill advised hookup, but I did see a long term future with him. However, we were talking about our future plans before I returned to the US, and in the course of the conversation he ended up confessing that the original job in the US did not drop onto his lap by random chance- he purposefully applied to jobs in my city because he really liked me and wanted to see me again.
I was kind of floored by that- and the more I think about it, the more upsetting it is that this random man moved to a different country for me and didn't even admit it until we'd been together for years. I was already sort of on the fence about continuing our relationship, as this is my first long term relationship and he's been in a couple of ~ 1 year long relationships, and one 6 year long relationship. I also have not introduced him to my family (or told them his age), as the whole situation doesn't make either of us look great. Now I'm even more hesitant, as although I do really love him, it's kind of insane that he did that. My original plan was to suggest to him that he should move back to Europe for this year (he has lots of job options so it shouldn't be a problem), that we should take a break, and then that I would move to Europe next year for grad school and we could start a real relationship. That way I could enjoy my last year of college single, and then I could pretend that we met organically in Europe with me being older than 19.
I now don't even know if I want that exclusively because of his confession. I feel like I'm being unreasonable, as he's an incredible man with many virtues and I like him a lot and he's always treated me very well, but I can't shake the feeling that what he did was insane. My friends are split and I'm not going to talk to my parents about this so I thought I would ask here.
comments mostly calling her an r-slur, surely jealous that they haven't gotten their own rich European prince and she's casting hers away. don't see much drama there at a glance but i'm also 
pin edit: way more comments and drama now
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Frick this mean lmao
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This is the kind of thing women tell you to make you feel better when theyre breaking up with you but ive never seen one actually claim to believe it with other people
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The experience of half the women I've dated tbh.
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I miss when the onion was funny
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Let's check out The Onion right this moment.
There are others, of course. But I unironically think The Babylon Bee is more amusing than whatever The Onion has become.
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Babylon Bee is just this but rightoid. For every good headline there are 50 bad ones.
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The Babylon Bee is usually self-deprecating which makes it funnier.
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The last one would be funny if you knew it was meant to be ridiculous and wasnt made by some
that actually thinks desantis wants to bring back slavery
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It's like they forgot it supposed to be funny. Babylon Bee is just as wingcucked and r-slurred at times but agreed, at least it's clever sometimes.
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Univision bought them in 2015 to use them as an outlet to support Clinton's election campaign. They purged and replaced almost the entire staff immediately after the acquisition.
Completely unironically.
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It's actually pretty insane how far the quality of so many publications have plummeted since 2014
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Funnily enough I think thats the day I started nooticing and being less of a lib.
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The last one is a little funny because it's the most believable.
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I like the second-to-last one. Last one would be funny too if it was about DDR or DDD but because Ron doesn't have dementia it just comes across like whoever wrote it was coping really hard and stretching to find anything to make him look bad
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Where did this r-slurred foid sub even come from, I see it all the time now
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I think it's a podcast? Not sure,
@FrozenChosen linked it once and it usually has some good r-slurred drama posts so i saved it.
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Makes me think it's some r-slurred podcast where they give advice to their listeners. Naturally dramapilled and made up
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Reddit was a psy-op to make you hate women.
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Sure as frick worked on me
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It truly feels that way.
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Imagine needing to be psy-op'd into that.
Couldn't be me.
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I had my doubts, but this part sealed the deal:
Started making less sense (of course you spend a lot of time in the city in which you work.....). It's like a 30-year-old trying to sound like a 18yo but typing like a 14yo instead.
Reddit "trolling" is really weird.
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that alone is a fantasy
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Yeah, if OP went to college, he would've called it a Summer semester in France.
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Snapshots:
archive.org
ghostarchive.org
archive.ph (click to archive)
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PUT HER DOWN NOW
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Friendly reminder that every major civilization has done everything in its power to take away the voice, independence, and authority of women. Theres a very good reason all these societies simultaneously came to the same conclusion.
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Ya might get some cognitive dissonance once ya try to square the theory with the fact that the world's most powerful countries all have political equality for women and meanwhile the countries that don't have it are backwards Islamic shitholes that are all either poor or only not poor because of oil money.
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Correlation does not equal causation bby. I could say it was because those countries with political equality are significantly white and still have the same argument. Also none of those countries have come to prosper through the amazing decision making abilities of foids.
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Correlation does not equal causation, but there is literally not even one single example of a rich, technologically advanced country that does not have equal rights for men and women other than countries that are rich because of oil. If giving foids equal rights was such a mistake, surely there would be at least one example of a super-successful country where foids do not have equal rights. At least one?
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Ah, a double fail.
His fail is to move to her city without telling her the true reason for why he was doing it. This guy didn't have the cojones to be honest with a college girl 7 years younger than him about a major life decision. How could anyone expect honesty from him about any topic that makes him nervous?
Her fail is embodied in the sentence "That way I could enjoy my last year of college single, and then I could pretend that we met organically in Europe with me being older than 19." Since I'm not a chud loser, I don't have any issue with her desire to frick around. However, her wanting to pretend that they met organically in Europe when she was older than 19 shows that she is perfectly willing to heap her own lies on top of his.
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