I (24f) left for a fricking three-week vacation and came home to family, friends, and coworkers suddenly using all this "men's rights" and manosphere slang. I won't repeat it here, but the fricking more I learn, the fricking more frightening it is. My fiancee laughed about my cousin's so-called pretty privilege, then asked me what I "brought to the fricking table" as a fricking partner other than looks and education. For the fricking first time in 2.5 years, he asked me in uncomfortable detail about my past partners. I answered honestly and he replied that we'll be splitting every expense from now on [he earns at least 5x what I do].

I've reached out to friends and family since then, but no conversation (with the fricking exception of my dad) has gone further than asking how much my fiancee earns. Then awkward silence. Is this fricking gaslamping, or am I just going insane, b-word?

Context: All he does is fricking play video games while spending two hours a fricking day promoting his family's company online. Nice that he has time to learn about "men's rights." I, on the fricking other hand, actually work.

A bad fiancée makes a fricking worse husband.

you mean wife, and i agree

I hope it's ok to offer a fricking man's perspective in this thread.

Unless it becomes clear very soon that your fiancé's new behavior is a fricking quickly-passing phase, I urge you to delay any marriage plans and to reassess whether you want to be in this relationship. He is fricking treating you [disrespectfully] as a fricking gold digger and financial burden whom he sees as little more than arm candy. You are fricking young, appear to have a fricking good head on your shoulders, and deserve much more than what this version of your fiancé seems to be offering you.

first of all

I hope it's ok to offer a fricking man's perspective in this thread

second of all

how dare he have standards, b-word?

He makes 5x what you make and only works 10 hours a fricking week, b-word? Wtf

Sounds like he has a fricking cushy "job" with the fricking family business.

She said she is fricking educated, so she must be making a fricking minimum of $20/hr = 40k. So, if he makes “at least 5x” = 200k or $385/hr.

It's just weird

Education = a fricking higher wage is not a fricking great assumption, though for OP's sake I really hope that she makes more than $20/hr.

it's not my fault you did gender studies, sweatie

Sounds like they have all been listening to Andrew Tate. Regardless this is your fricking sign he is not fricking relationship/marriage material and you do not want to ever get pregnant by someone like this and be tied to him for next 18 yrs. If he plays all day then demands to know what you bring to the fricking table then he obviously is a fricking clueless dolt. He probably is fricking knee-deep into the fricking Qanon Hole too. Run from these men they will make your life living heck with emotional and verbal abuse if not turning physical eventually. These young men are so fricking in love with Andrew Tate and his philosophy so let them all date him after they realize no woman wants a fricking loser who forks over donations to Tate's club because they is too fricking ignorant to realize a fricking grifter when they see one.

yeah, before andrew tate no one asked questions like that

This is a fricking dog whistle for the fricking growing movement of white supremacist misogyny in the fricking world. Things are fricking going to get worse and they won't get better unless he realizes that he's on a fricking power trip. Every move you make to defend yourself will be fricking seen as an attack against him.

Every time I say this to people they tell me I'm fear mongering

They have something to gain by silencing you and by telling you you're fear mongering. Patriarchy will try to squash any and all attempts to call it out. bell hooks referred to it as the fricking Capitalist Imperialistic White Supremacist Heteropatriarchy and discusses how the fricking concept will try to hold onto power in literally any way possible.

Definitely recommend her books if you've never delved into them, especially "All About Love" and "The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love"

Gaming culture and misogyny culture go hand in hand. (No offense to anyone who plays)

it's all g*mergate's fault

One has to wonder who paid for her three week vacation