Why can't we have our own spaces? : TwoXChromosomes

I recently went to a queer/sapphic event. I had to go out of town for it, there's so very few wlw events in my area, if any at all.

The amount of cishet men who showed up, had the event explained to them, and still paid cover to stand awkwardly in the corners or tried in vain to hit on attendees was baffling.

One guy just stood uncomfortably close to a couple who were dancing and kissing, and he just stared.

The people working the door did their best to explain that maybe this event isn't the best one for them but nope. They wanted to come invade a feminine and queer space even though they were none of these things.

I used to run these types of events and we were never able to explicitly say cishet men weren't welcome because they'd get us shut down for being exclusionary.

Why? Why do they do this. Well. I know why. But on what fricking planet is this acceptable?

Just let us have this one thing.

the OP is 38 AFAB, homoromantic and omnisexual

A person who is homoromantic is romantically attracted to people who are the same or a similar gender as them.

People who identify as omnisexual are attracted to those of all gender identities and sexual orientations.

also this:

Hot take - if herpes or HPV are life-alteringly terrifying for you, nonmonogamy probably isn't for you