The Third Category of Women (in dating)
Recently I posted on the Hinge subreddit, asking why men whose profiles say they're looking for a relationship were initiating s*x conversation early on in chat. I figured I already knew the answer, but was curious what men would say.
In the process of reading the comments, I learned something new. Previously, I'd thought that there were only two categories women would fall into when men were dating (specifically on the apps, but it likely applies to in-person meets as well.) Either they liked a woman, or they didn't.
So, imagine my surprise when it came out over several comments that there is actually a third category: the women that men are not interested in dating, but are attractive enough to frick.
So, men on apps might indeed be looking for a relationship, but if they don't want a relationship with you, they will pull out the innuendos to test and see if you'll take the bait. If you do, they'll use your body for their own pleasure and then discard you.
I was ready to hear “those men are just looking for a hookup.” I knew those men existed. I was ready for it. What I was not ready for was men openly admitting they did this, and evidently saw no problem with it. And it wasn't just one, isolated weird guy.
It was just kind of depressing to learn that men were so morally okay with using a woman's body for their pleasure like a living fleshlight and then throwing her away like garbage afterward. I would never, ever do that to a man. It's such a mean and dehumanizing and just all around evil thing to do.
How do men get like this? Is it the inability to empathize? Selfishness to an extreme extent? I get that getting laid is harder for men on dating apps but this is just so unacceptable.
It's definitely given me a new perspective on OLD and heterosexual relationships. I don't know if I can come back from this revelation.
-Edit-
In case this wasn't clear, I'm not disparaging having casual s*x as long as both parties are cool with that. The issue I'm having is men willing to lie and fake wanting a relationship while knowing full well that they just want you for s*x.
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She gets all of this because...their bio says they want a relationship?
Does she think people who want relationships aren't allowed to hook up with anyone until they meet 'the one' or something and they have to be lying if they do?
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@0 thought "Serious relationship only, no hookups" was foid for "I'm a huge slut and @0 wanna get trained on this weekend".
Does Ghandi love sucking peepee?
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Based. Idk how foids can't get this, there's like dozens of reasons you'd frick a foid but not date her or want to be married to her
1. not hot enough
2. kind of annoying
3. not enough in common
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Women do this too lol, they're to embarrassed to say they're just looking for a hook up or fling after a relationship so always put "looking for LTR". Literally everyone does it
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Sometimes you have to frick somebody to realise that you never want to see them again.
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