'Boys are disappearing' from mental health care as signs of depression go undetected

I wonder if it has to do with how mental health services tend to operate. After being to a myriad of psychologists and psychiatrists I have gotten the impression that the main goal of these professionals is to "make you feel better / less bad". But I don't want to feel better or less bad, I want to change the circumstances that make me feel bad.

For example a few years ago I was extremely depressed because I had been rejected from masters programs two years in a row, hated my job, and was drowning in anxiety over never being able to pursue my dreams.

Went to two psychologists, both had approaches which where roughly "accepting things for what they are" or "learning to love yourself in spite of your flaws" or being mindful or other such approaches to help me easy my anxiety and depression. And it just made me 7 times angrier to be paying hundreds of dollars to be coddled.

Then I got accepted to a masters program and a large part of that anxiety vanished (to be replaced with grad school anxiety, but that one was much more manageable).

I think for a lot of men, the idea of just learning to feel less bad with your situation is unacceptable. We don't want to feel better, we want to fix or change the circumstances that make us feel bad.

I'm shocked this wasn't removed yet.

This is it. Therapy is the new opiate of the masses.

Sounds great, until you come across a situation in which there's not much you can do. The underlying issue of him being unable to handle the stress of a bad situation is still there. Right now it's just hidden away because he's doing okay and he's in a position in which he has control but what happens if things take a turn for the worst in the future and he no longer has control? Like when it wasn't up to him in whether he gets accepted. He's just going to become an anxious ball of stress again.

Having the ability to tackle and address your source of stress is great, but that doesn't teach you how to handle it.

I simply do not have words for how r-slurred this is. How passive must this man be?

Maybe we're doing something drastically wrong to trigger depression in so many people. Pills probably aren't the answer.

Some people don't want to hear this but it's true. Human beings are overmedicated. They want instant gratification cures and quick fixes instead of addressing the real issues.

The things causing depression aren't something an individual can fix, especially not a depressed one. Wealth inequality, increasingly poisoned land and fewer ways to experience nature, healthy food being too expensive and junk too cheap, working hours too long in jobs that give low security or feelings of fulfillment, lack of sleep partly due to the above... there's a lot of objectively bad stuff in our society we have to deal with before we even get to lifestyle choice stuff.

What a cute twink. If muh poisoned land and muh Wealth inequality are making you depressed you might actually just be a massive cute twink.

The world we live in is drastically different from the one we evolved in. All of our instincts are wrong.

"is it the world we developed that is wrong? No, it is our instincts."

Pops more pills