Woman deals with transphobic partner after opening situationship.

She's 40.

I wouldn't date a transphobe personally. If you're being quite generous with your partner, you could talk to him about why he feels so insecure about you having s*x with trans folks.

Does he feel similarly about you hooking up with other men? Is this some weird way of trying to have a "one peepee policy" without calling it that?

I don't really want to meet other men! I just want to meet queer women, and trans women and men. I think he doesn't get it because, in his mind, he thinks about their biological s*x. I find it so wrong, and it's really hard because I've been in a long-term relationship with him, but I've grown so much as a person and in understanding my queerness. I find it so unfair that he thinks this way about my beautiful trans people.

Trans men are men, dude. That's kind of the whole point.

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