Hello everyone, I'm need some advice from other polyamorous people.
The best psychologists around! 
I'll try to keep this vague in case my partner follows this sub.
He got tested and said that he was clean, but I am still waiting for my results.
The STI is treatable fortunately,
but I am still upset that this is happening because my partner does not practice safe s*x
because he "can't" use condoms. He also has had multiple partners besides me and the ex within the last few months none of which he used protection with.
However I am required by him to use protection whenever I have s*x with anyone who is not him (I have one other partner besides him).
I know it's a double standard and his excuse for not using condoms is dumb, and not only is he putting me at risk but also my other partner. I've tried to speak to him before about using condoms especially when he was seeing multiple people at the same time but it did not go well.
I haven't spoken to him about how I feel about the condom issue since, and I know I have to now that this is happening. As of right now I have no interest in having s*x with him at all especially unprotected, and while he is still having unprotected s*x with other people.
To be honest I am really anxious about having this conversation because I know it will lead to an argument, and he can be explosive.
I don't really know how to go about starting the conversation or what to say. I know it's not his fault that she cheated on him, and he may feel like I'm punishing him for her actions, but i can't go through this again. Next time it could be something worse. Idk what to do and I've just been avoiding him in the meantime. Any help or advice will be greatly appreciated.
How did she cheat on him? Y’all are poly. Are you saying “cheated on” instead of “lied to”?
Please do not use the word clean to refer the absence of an STI. Its immature and gross.
Not using condoms??.. red flag. Says he "can't" use condoms???..red flag. Says that you have to use them, but refuses to use them???... red flag.
Gets explosive with you when you voice your concerns????? HUGE RED FLAG!!!
Gentle reminder that using the word “clean” in regards to STI status stigmatizes STIs and leads to fewer people getting tested!
I (F) am allergic to traditional latex condoms and sometimes even the non latex ones give me a reaction.
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me upvoting the post to ever so slightly increase the chance her partner sees it
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Gotta be
to put up with this
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Not necessarily. I know a chick who's in a poly relationship and she's hot, fit, educated, and comes from a respectable family. She's also self-loathing and crazy as a fricking loon though.
Having a harem seems like an awesome idea, until you actually meet the sort of woman who'd agree to that....
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Can someone tell her bf that his Fleshlight punching bag is talking
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Oh no, the bad thing is being stigmatized!
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Regardless, she posted this to childfree 2 years ago
My fur babies and I beg to differ
The owners of all trad accounts should be required to post face
https://instagram.com/worth__fighting__for/
Cringe f slurs.
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this cuts very deep
I need to start going out more
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Lmao the trad r-slurs would literally crumble at a self sufficient community, because they cannot log off, they're just as internet addicted as the blue hairs they mock. Plus they're unironically skinny fat weak cute twinks. Pure delusion.
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Not true, some of them are just fat. There are even a few jacked ones but those all seem to be closeted dudes for some reason
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Unironically what the frick is wrong with these people? Polys are like the absolute highest risk group for STDs and they're not using condoms? This is insanity
Oh well, at least the other polyamorous people are giving her good advice, which is to cut and run. She'll absolutely refuse to take it, but they tried
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Honestly, an incel is better off than your typical poly person. Incels at least jerk off to attractive people, but polys have some masochistic delusion that if they frick five 2s thats the same as hooking up with a 10
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https://rdrama.net/post/176869/hi-i-want-to-eat-a
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imagine you raise a daughter that grows up to be a vegan "feeder" to a coprophage "slave"
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How do you cheat if youre poly neighbor that’s youre whole shit neighbor
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"Hey frick whoever but you gotta tell me and use condoms"
Seems pretty straightforward tbqh
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“Ya babe just go frick 1,000,000 peepees but pinky promise to not get an STD. Omg no what how did this happen you cheater!”
Fricking r-slurred
loser 
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L2read
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Maybe you need to learn
to read because that wasn’t their frickinng arrangement, r-slur.
He made her used protection but openly refused to use protection himself because “he couldn’t” and when she asked him to he said no and she continued to frick him anyway and got an std. CUTE TWINK!
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He didn't cheat, she did. She's not in the polycule so she's expected to be monogamous because her lack of sexual self control affects the entire polycule.
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Oh wow, a sexual deviant involved fricking strangers in a “polycule” lacked self control?
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I want to report that comment for misinformation to the admins so bad but too bad they stopped giving a shit.
I never seen an r-slured slut foid be so wrong and be so smug about it.
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But most STI are curable. Not everything is AIDS.
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Virals are more common and to basically say oh it's all mostly curable invites recklessness and stupidity.
Sure let's breed penicillin resistant Clap
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The best part is that you can only catch herpes once!
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Everyone involved in this deserves to suffer. Every-one.
I want to live in a world where people who make selfish, fricked up decisions based solely on aberrant sexual desire simply cease to exist.
No more coomers. No more
s. No more incels. No more fetishists. No more sexual abusers.
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You'll be living in a world with little to no male population and you will not be living for long since the civilization will collapse in hours.
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How does a polycel get cheated on I’m so confused.
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They’ll do some insane mental gymnastics to pretend like they are not just some spiritually bankrupt s*x addict. “Oh dude we have this rule where I frick 10 women but the 9th girl I frick is a only allowed to duck my 3rd girlfriends ex husband”
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How can you catch something from someone who is testing negative? Do the tests just have random results?
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This might shock you, but the guy who has outbursts when the topic of condoms comes up and insists on not using them with random nasty b-words might be lying
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The condom dichotomy actually kinda makes sense. Unless her husband is a gay bottom, then her risk for an STI is 7x his
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I wonder if the dude is black
(we need a : blacksrentfree : emote btw)
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Why did you use Donkey Kong to represent a Black person?
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This sounds like on those things they've just convinced themselves is true because they're too scared to call someone over the phone.
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This doesn't sound like a typical polycel relationship. I think these are legit just frickable cheaters
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