Not really drama so much as a term I heard recently when a girl said she had RSD. Having never encountered this word, I looked it up and seems like it's a term used to describe feeling extremely bad when rejected, except of course now it has a “diagnosis” type sounding label, and people with adhd say it's different for them, it's a disorder.
A picture from /r/adhdwomen for your edification:
https://old.reddit.com/r/adhdwomen/comments/1c0ms2h/rsd_signs/?sort=controversial
Or course Redditors apply it to themselves like a girl scout collecting badges:
The funny thing is that a good way to frick with overly sensitive self-diagnosers is to deny RSD exists.
Edit: ithe D stands for dysphoria, not disorder lol
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
It's funny how many disorders are characterised by being either lazy or a kitty
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
Being a lazy kitty is the way these dysfunctions manifest
they're symptoms and we're starting to understand why things are the way they are
Don't gotta use that understanding to be sympathetic or easy on them tho lol
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
It's because women vote. Surely you know this grue.
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
Nah it's because we cured polio
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
This but unironically
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
More options
Context
More options
Context
More options
Context
Things should be harder for weak or struggling people, not easier.
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
Weakness is contextual and relative imo
Placing people in the position of best marginal value is gonna take our humanity away one day, but it's hard to argue against it being the most effective way to organize people
But since I don't want to be a bug… yeah. We should challenge people on their weakness.
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
I just want to kick people while they're down
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
More options
Context
More options
Context
More options
Context
Grue these disorders aren't actually real. Take schizoid personality disorder. It's defined as “keeps to himself” or alternatively “very friendly”.
It has nothing to do with schizophrenia. It's just made up.
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
More options
Context
More options
Context
Abigail Shrier has been doing the rounds for her new book "Bad Therapy" where she talks about how modern day therapy is ruining children pathologizing normal human experiences and making kids think bad experiences are traumatizing and insurmountable. They are making kids neurotic and afraid of experiencing normal negative emotions. They aren't building resilience and instead have dumb-dumb counselors, teachers, and parents (all well-meaning, but the road to heck..) who make them focus and ruminate on the bad and it makes them fricked up.
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
Yeah, I haven't read the book yet, but I have listened to a couple interviews with her. She makes some good points. I know it annoys smaller children in my family when I tell them to solve a problem themselves or toughen up. They're used to having adults problem solve as a default, and are rarely told to manage their emotions independently either. That can only lead to anxious adults.
They're fully capable of self-regulating though. Once they get over being mad you won't tell them the ‘right' way to solve an issue, or let them avoid a task because of negative feelings, they get to work and do fine.
But at the same time, kids still need to know that—even if you expect them to tough certain things out and try and fail—that you'll always be there to catch them when the big stuff goes south. And that they can talk about feelings with you—just not dwell on them. I'm not sure Shrier stresses that part enough. I think she probably undervalues short term therapy for specific issues, like a divorce, as well.
I also think her conclusions are more class based than she realizes. I'm sure the upper and upper middle classes are as besotted with therapy as she says—but everyone else? Nah.
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
I saw a few of her interviews and thought she placed enough importance on parents being in charge and letting their kids know that instead of treating kids like tiny adults.
100%
But at the same time, I think this stuff starts with affluent people who have time on their hands to make themselves neurotic and then it trickles down to the average and poorer Americans in r-slurred ways. Telling minorities and women they are perpetual victims and doomed isn't helping things
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
More options
Context
PlsRope
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
More options
Context
More options
Context
None of these people internalised the message of Inside Out and it shows.
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
More options
Context
More options
Context
We really need a karl pooper of medicine.
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
More options
Context
More options
Context
I imagine an individual with RSD's worse fear being an "akiosexual"
https://mogai.fandom.com/wiki/Akiosexual
the crazy bitches even have a flag, lmao
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
Grouchomarxsexual
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
More options
Context
Isn't that just being a
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
More options
Context
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
More options
Context
So basically straight women
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
More options
Context
More options
Context
Are you having a common experience that humanity universally regards as unpleasant? No! You have experience dysphoria disorder. You must:
make it your entire personality
allow it to ruin relationships and friendships
take expensive medication that doesn't help but makes you feel terrible in other ways
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
This is more an issue with how we TREAT these labels, rather than giving it a label at all. I wanna know why so many people are useless
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
Exactly these mentalities didn't manifest out of nowhere, but wy are they so debilitating now?
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
Obv knowing mental health drives you insane because it was invented by Lovecraft but gayer
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
More options
Context
More options
Context
Because they aren't actually debilitating in the true sense of the word.
we see these people as useless cute twinks because we have to deal with their neuroticisms and demands on society.
On the other hand… they're satisfied. They're still eating, being housed and finding leisure. They find community in the likeminded and revel in tearing down dissenters.
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
but enough about rdrama
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
Tag yourself; I'm a cute twink
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
I'm useless.
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
More options
Context
More options
Context
More options
Context
More options
Context
Too much freedom and western degeneracy.
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
More options
Context
More options
Context
It's a characteristic, not an etiology.
Giving it a new label provides no explanatory power.
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
True, but some labels that these labels strip away/replace specifically avoid explanation. It's like we're giving ourselves permission to ask questions.
It's all very dumb. Labels are dumb. But we need them to think how we do, because human are r-slurs.
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
More options
Context
More options
Context
More options
Context
More options
Context
i avoid rejection by never putting myself in a position to be rejected
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
Valid
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
More options
Context
I've never been rejected in this position:
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
More options
Context
Least fragile dramatard
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
More options
Context
More options
Context
Letting foids into the fields of psychiatry and psychology was such a mistake.
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
More options
Context
I feel like this is a disorder you can get over by just experiencing it a few times.
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
More options
Context
So does this make incels inherently RSD-sufferers?
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
I would gamble incels are excluded from these disorders for some reason.
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
More options
Context
More options
Context
This wouldn't be such a problem if we didn't have such a western “treat this at any cost” philosophy towards mental health and not more focus on
ing strategies and well-living.
People need to learn to live with themselves, and EVERYONE, even queers, are behind on that.
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
More options
Context
Have never known someone with "RSD" who didn't just end up diagnosed with BPD
/r/adhdwomen is another good clue - there's a trend of women getting diagnosed with BPD, realizing the stigma, and then claiming that its just that society demonizes neurodivergence in women and they were misdiagnosed. ADHD, autism, CPTSD, these are the usual ones.
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
More options
Context
lol i call my chinchilla enzozo and i love benzos
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
he's called enzo but i like to call him enzozo
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
More options
Context
More options
Context
More options
Context
Whoa, I also get sad when I get dumped. I should get diagnosed.
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
More options
Context
There's no objective category of "mentally ill" we can cleanly separate from human behaviour. At best it's a classification system. But modern mental illness discourse treats them as distinct in a very specific way - once your butthole behaviour is given a fancy word, personal culpability goes out the window and everyone else has a moral obligation to put up with your bullshit. Get rid of this and the whole self-diagnosis schtick would vanish overnight.
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
This.
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
More options
Context
More options
Context
!ranchers
he's finally vindicated, noviophobia is real
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
More options
Context
oh is that what it is
I keep hearing things like "blah blah blah now I think they hate me, my RSD is going wild"
The neurodivergent crowd uses it a lot because sometimes they can't fathom having character flaws, you're either neurotypical smooth sailing or you find more acronyms within yourself
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
So the actual problem these internet neurodivergents have is that they lack a proper theory of mind and can't intuit that other people are coping with their own problems.
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
More options
Context
More options
Context
Foids just never learned to cope with rejection, it's pretty darn serious to them
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
They think relationships "just happen".
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
More options
Context
More options
Context
!incels become !wincels
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
thanks for your interest in our ping but we cant accept you at this time
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
are you persecuting me for having had my virginity stolen multiple times?
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
is your rejection sensitivity dysphoria flaring up
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
More options
Context
More options
Context
More options
Context
More options
Context
I have post exercise fatigue disorder so I can't exercise
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
More options
Context
I prob have it, chasing foids was always hard for me and whenever I'm job hunting I usually have a self harm episode or two
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
Everybody is hurt by rejection to some degree if they have normal human feelings. The important thing is if you've learned strategies so the hurt doesn't hold you back.
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
More options
Context
More options
Context
See? I am not an incel, I just have Rejection sensitivity dysphoria!
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
More options
Context
I think categorization is helpful if it's in pursuit of self-improvement…
I also struggle with “executive function” because I didn't have parents and a lot social norms seem like window-dressing.
But “executive function” is how you get ahead, so it was nice to find ways to target and improve.
I get the feeling that a lot of this pathologization of dysfunction is to excuse the behavior, not treat it
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
I prefer to see them as magic words you can use to get pills
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
More options
Context
More options
Context
Oh cool, they gave "being a white woman" a fancy name.
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
More options
Context
Total Psychologist Death
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
More options
Context
It's been like this for years and it's the cause of a plurality of societal dysfunction. My girlfriend's sister is a special ed teacher, and every kid who can't behave needs some diagnosis. Also, every kid has an IEP so the teacher has to teach a million different individual ways for each student. We're fricked bros the next generation is going to be illiterate, unable to follow basic societal decorum, and listens to songs like this
This songs kinda good tho
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
More options
Context
Yeah, we absolutely will medicalize everything. Interested in something? Autism. Have a lot of energy? ADHD. Too little energy? You're depressed.
Psychology is basically made up imo
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
More options
Context
Just because your ignorant butt didn't discover it until today doesn't mean it hasn't been a thing for a while, r-slur. How fricking self important do you need to feel to think that anyone would give a shit about your ignorant braindead takes on a topic you are completely unqualified to talk about? You should suck my butt instead.
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
More options
Context
More options
Context
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
More options
Context
Hey, I saw that you just joined rdrama and a group of people who hate me are trying to smear my name by calling me a date male feminist. I just wanted to let you know that it's not true. If you want all the receipts proving it they're right here.
The TL;DR is that I hooked up with one of the hot girls on rdrama, and since I was twice her age, a lot of the guys here who wanted to bang her got jealous and assumed that the only way I could have managed that was by raping her, even though she herself said both before and afterwards that it was all completely consensual. So now that you're the new hot girl on rdrama, I guess they think that I'm going to somehow seduce you into flying all the way across the country (or some crazy shit like that) to hook up with me and they're trying to talk shit about me to make sure that doesnt happen. I don't understand it either, but I just wanted to let you know that I'm a nice guy and I hope you'll look at the evidence and make up your own mind instead of listening to all the jealous haters.
Anyway, with that little intro out of the way, welcome to rdrama! The culture's a little rough here and you're probably going to get tons of requests to •show boobsU but if you talk to some of the women here first before engaging with all the creepy dudes, they'll give you some good advice to avoid stalkers and predators. Or (If you haven't been scared off by the rumor mill) you're welcome to ask me and I'm happy to help.
Just out of curiosity, how did you find this place?
Snapshots:
https://old.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/192a5d6/just_learned_about_rejection_sensitive_dysphoria/?sort=controversial:
undelete.pullpush.io
ghostarchive.org
archive.org
archive.ph (click to archive)
https://old.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/131ni64/rejection_sensitivity_is_the_worst/?sort=controversial:
undelete.pullpush.io
ghostarchive.org
archive.org
archive.ph (click to archive)
https://old.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/1b82hos/how_do_you_all_deal_with_rsd_rejection/?sort=controversial:
undelete.pullpush.io
ghostarchive.org
archive.org
archive.ph (click to archive)
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
More options
Context