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I bet this is this GF plan,move in have an oops pregnancy and quit job become Stay at home mooch be set for life. (1)
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Lol you're telling me having a kid is harder than being a cop? You're either a mall cop or a liar (1)
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OOP is an r-slur (although the story is fake). Realistically, if they're moving in together as a relationship progression and not simply for his or her financial convenience, he should be treating it as a shared asset that they both own and fund (ie her name gets put on the deed). Alternatively she's right and she should really only be paying towards costs her presence incurs (utilities and bills). You can't pick and choose from your favourite aspects of bf/gf relationship and landlord/tenant relationship to create the ultimate benefit to yourself
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This is monumentally r-slurred idea to do with someone you're dating
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Exactly - so then he can't charge her rent. You don't get to have a tenant who you also frick
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he's progressed to the part of the relationship where she's moved in and is expecting free shit, they are not fricking
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She moved in at his invitation, she's willing to split the household expenses, and he owns the place. She's not expecting free shit, he is expecting to frick her and get paid for it.
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No, because they're not married. At any point she can renege and leave him with nothing.
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But it's his property, not hers. He took on this debt. Contributing to living expenses is fair, but asking her for rent in return for nothing more than "I'm letting you live here (and also frick me and do the rest of the things in a relationship)" isn't. Are they living together as romantic partners, or as landlord/tenant or roommates? He has to decide, he can't have it both ways. He's not paying rent himself, that's the crux of the problem. If he were renting this place, then asking her to split that as a shared living expense would make more sense. But he's the owner, so is he her boyfriend or her landlord? he can't be both, unless he wants to make it a formal rental agreement.
Right now, he's treating her like a licensee and, depending on what part of the country they are in, he may not even be able to charge her rent, or while she has far fewer rights than a tenant, she still has some legal protection. If he's going to call what he's asking for "rent", then he's entering into a legal obligation, like it or not.
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That's my point, it's a stupid arrangement for everyone. Bringing a casual partner to live with you in a house whose mortgage you're still paying off means you either need to make the a co-owner and share equity (r-slurred), or only charge them for actual costs (utilities etc). You can't make them pay rent like a boarder and still frick them and treat them like an equal
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Oh ok I get what you're saying now. In that case I agree, you can't have your cake and eat it too.
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Yeah, that's the problem here. "I asked her to contribute to the expenses of the condo" is reasonable, "I own the place and asked her to pay rent even though I'm her boyfriend" is not. Like, if he wasn't in the property and he let her live there as a favour while she's looking for a new place to live, then he would have a point. But "I asked her to move in with me as part of getting serious in our relationship, and I think she should pay rent but she only wants to split the living expenses" is trying to have it all.
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Easy solution
Rent away the apartment and earn money yourself with it
Rent another apartment with the 2 of you, and pay half each.
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