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CW: OP repeatedly misgenders her step son

SageSunrise: I am a step-mom to two wonderful girls age 12 and 13. Recently, the 12yo confessed to me that she "wants to be a boy." I asked her why she feels that way, and she wasn't able to explain, just "I don't know, I just do."

Now, she's always been kind of a tomboy. Over the summer she got a pixie cut haircut (with pink highlights), and she sometimes wears "boyish" clothes. But at the same time, she enjoys stereotypically feminine activities like baking cupcakes and playing with makeup. She loves all the current pop music girlies and knows every trivia fact about Sabrina Carpenter. As a younger kid she liked stereotypical "boy" toys like Nerf guns and dinosaurs (who didn't??) but also had a babydoll she treated as her actual child for YEARS.

So what I'm saying is - she's not a boy. She might be a lesbian (she hasnt confirmed it, but she is REALLY into Sabrina Carpenter...), but definitely not a boy.

How do I talk to her about this? I'm sure these feelings are coming from a confused discomfort with puberty hormones and body changes that she's misinterpreting as some kind of "gender dysphoria." The kids go to a very liberal private school and I know they're getting all the TRA messaging there (this is their last year there).

Does anyone have any experience with this? Any advice? I'm afraid if I just shut it down full stop she'll dig her heels in, but I'm definitely not going along with it. Their father (my husband) feels the same as me, and while their mom isn't as peaked, she has assured my husband she would never consider any medical intervention. Plus, we live in a super red state where "gender affirming care" is extremely hard to come by and might soon be illegal for minors.

Any advice?

Comments:

radicalacceptance: Sounds like you should let her parents handle it.

iconic: Did you read the post?

I am a step-mom to two wonderful girls

Step-parents are parents in every sense of the word. They take on the responsibility of caring for, nurturing, and guiding a child

She is trying to handle it, are you treating her as less of a parent?

radicalacceptance:It might hurt some people's feelings to accept reality but stepparents do not have the same rights or responsibilities as legal parents.

PiquedInterest: She's not one of the girls' biological parents, but she's still an adult closely involved in their life, not a random stranger who can just punt them off to their parents.

radicalacceptance: Oh? Why can't she punt this one?

Every divorced dad in the world wants to dump his parenting responsibilities on his new wife. OP doesn't need to play along. She doesn't have any legal authority over these kids' medical decisions anyway. She can and should let the parents handle it.

iconic: Step-parents contribute to the emotional, financial, and practical well-being of the family unit. It's not uncommon or wrong for them to become fully integrated into the fabric of a child's life and assume the responsibilities traditionally associated with "legal" parenthood

The law doesn't guarantee better decision-making capabilities. "Biological" or adoptive parents might not possess the knowledge or understanding to make the most informed decisions for a child's well-being. OP possesses the knowledge or understanding that "transgenderism" ruins bodies and lives. With this knowledge comes a moral obligation/responsibility to ensure that medical decisions are made in the child's best interest

The moral obligation/responsibility of a well-informed and loving step-parent supersedes the limitations of the law. Let OP handle it. Without information on the availability or involvement of the other "biological" parent, it's unwarranted to use the law to dismiss OP's concerns

radicalacceptance: Ok, but that's not actually how any of this works. The kids' parents make the kids' medical decisions and if OP disagrees it doesn't matter if she's objectively right or a better parent.

I'm sure dad loves checking out and letting OP handle this "because you're just so much better at this than I am" though. Divorced dad 101. Let's all be smarter than this?

!schizomaxxxers

There's probably drama here

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— State Farm (@StateFarm) January 31, 2025

And all through the thread itself

Your name is Kevin Miles and you sold every ounce of your soul to an insurance company https://t.co/TIQgSWha0C

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but it's just so surreal that they responded that I'm content to leave it at this

I really enjoy that show.

bro what is summrs doing pic.twitter.com/fyo9b1JDac

— igor. (@hadmyback) February 16, 2025

Rule Clarifications

Howdy all, given what we've been seeing in the mod queue and what you've certainly all been seeing out and about we wanted to be clear on our stance here.

r/neoliberal is a liberal sub, we support liberal values. These include but are not limited to supporting a person's right to live their lives free of discrimination or interference.

We've seen a large uptick in comments stating that democrats should abandon certain groups (specifically transgender people) in order to gain votes. Let's be clear, this is not our sub's position - we support trans rights, we support minority rights, we support freedoms of movement and expression.

Anyone making these comments will be permanently banned, we've had enough. Like Jesus fricking Christ, be better.

Example of what's okay to say: "I'm afraid democrats will abandon X group to earn votes"

Example of what's not okay to say: "democrats should abandon X group to earn votes"

This feels straightforward but apparently has to be said. Please use the report button to help us enforce this policy, as there are many comments we otherwise don't see (there are maybe a dozen of us active, and the sub has gotten tens of thousands of comments in the past 24 hours).

Just be kind. It's easy. God bless.

According to Wikipedia Neoliberalism is "both a political philosophy and a term used to signify the late-20th-century political reappearance of 19th-century ideas associated with free-market capitalism". Apparently caring about free markets more than legalizing over the counter puberty blockers is incompatible with neoliberalism, though. Incidentally, did anyone else really like Bernie's policies but not vote for him because he's a priviliged white man???? !neolibs

https://old.reddit.com/r/newzealand/comments/1iey8j7/good_news_ted_cruz_wants_to_kick_nz_out_of_five/

https://old.reddit.com/r/worldnews/comments/1if850r/hamas_frees_americanisraeli_keith_siegel_2_other/

https://old.reddit.com/r/Destiny/comments/1if1p3g/hamas_piker_defends_stalins_purges_that_resulted/

https://old.reddit.com/r/h3h3productions/comments/1ietrng/hasan_fans_being_honest/

https://old.reddit.com/r/anime_titties/comments/1ifcfhc/arab_nations_reject_suggestion_to_clean_out_gaza/

https://old.reddit.com/r/grandrapids/comments/1if45gt/a_message_from_your_local_trans_guy/

"Gays go splat when they hit the ground ! Gays go splat when they hit the ground! Here in Palestine"

https://old.reddit.com/r/unusual_whales/comments/1ifa9pl/arab_nations_firmly_reject_resettlement_of/

https://old.reddit.com/r/youtubedrama/comments/1if9uxb/twitch_never_banned_israel_95000_new_acc_were/

An excuse for Israelis to say how much they hate Palestinians and articulate the reasons why

https://old.reddit.com/r/IsraelPalestine/comments/1if2uhx/if_a_sole_palestinian_state_is_successfully/?sort=top

Prior thread: https://rdrama.net/post/335949/tariq-nasheed-and-other-fba-patriots

FBA lessons:

There is a Nigerian dude who is selling online courses on how to look like FBAs and how to talk with Foundational Black American accents#smh pic.twitter.com/hS6wztF5Sv

— Tariq Nasheed 🇺🇸 (@tariqnasheed) January 29, 2025

True & Honest FBA's unpleased by this, but some respect the hustle

in its time as one of the deadest( but best) esports of all time, competitive tf2 has had numerous dramas, some funnier than others. most of these are libertarian drama. one notable one occurred back in 2016

b4nny

Grant "B4nny" Vincent is the most successful competitive tf2 player of all time, having at least 30 tournament wins, 4 international tournament wins and numerous other meaningless trophies for his collection since 2008, racking up over 28,000 hours in the game. (no seriously) He is notable for being perhaps the only tf2 player to have made a career from streaming and for his enormous ego, creating numerous moments of hilarity.

(there will be more.)

one of b4nny's most redeeming traits (at least in the past) remains his penchant for tweeting.

his tweet game was so prolific that there is a 15 page thread on the main competitive tf2 forum compiling people's favorites

https://www.teamfortress.tv/32408/favorite-b4nny-tweet

some of these have caused immense seethe.

some of my favourites include:

(ok, this one is pretty funny, hes making fun of someone for not going to lan because of school or something lol)

despite his mastermind X antics b4nny has had a rough relationship with the community through the years.

initially starting off well liked, something seemed to snap in b4nny's heart, turning it cold.

maybe this was when he got cucked by his teammate and continued to play with him after finding out because he loves winning that much. Maybe it was his own teammate leaving mid-playoffs match due to him insisting on swapping the team's roles around for some reason, causing his team to get upset, get 3rd place (up to this point b4nny hadnt been either 1st or second in the top division for 4 years!) and disband immediately after. This also happened again like 7 years later but thats a different story.

B4nny immediately rebuilt his team with new up and coming players (including some who would go on to play in theoverwatch league (lolll)

all was well in b4nny's camp. He had recently met his funding goal to attend the 2016 international lan hosted in some shithole in england idk lol

one fateful day, b4nny decided to beat his liver and stream drunk. Clearly intoxicated, b4nny streamed on. meanwhile an up and coming top european player by the name of thalash decided to do some trolling by insinuating that b4nny was getting carried by his now ex-teammate who had cucked him in the past. B4nny's ego, already more inflated than the hindenburg (RIp crodies) reached nuclear meltdown levels. how dare a player who has never gone to LAN talk down on me like this!

b4nny also has a bizarre half-joking hatred for european players, berating their playstyle constantly for being slow and boring (true)

these factors lead to b4nny going on a legendary drunken tangent raving about europeans, accolades and how thalash is the equivalent of what someone might call a plumber or taxi driver driver in the UFC.

the most notable part of this autism fueled rant is b4nny's legendary statement that he requests his new found foe utter when he loses to him on lan(0:33 seconds in video 1 :) )

im sorry im not good i apologize for my ego please forgive me, im just europeean.

uh oh!

this sparks huge drama in the community, with some pointing out that thalash was provoking an obviously deathly drunk b4nny while others laughed at his ego about an already small esport.

august 26, 2016

b4nny has arrived in europe with his team to smite the europeeans once and for all.

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at his sexiest, he is ready to take the win and prove why blumpfkenstiltskin needs to stop giving aid to twink european panhandlers.

can you guess what happens?

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b4nny loses, becoming a laughing stock and likely killing some hobo in retaliation (he lived in la).

b4nny later returns to his uncrushable winning ways, winning every single major tournament in NA until 2021 and eventually getting his getback on thalash in 2018 and 2019 at lan, one being in NA one being in ingerland.

b4nny still plays to this day. i think despite his insufferable ego, its quite impressive hes been able to dedicate himself to this without roping or moving on to another esport. hes clearly a talented team leader and team builder.

ill probably never post again on this site but theres so much funny drama from this esport holy shit lol

iPhone 16E is officially announced

- White or black
- A18 chip
- 6.1" LCD with a notch
- Single 48mp camera
- Action button
- Supports apple Intelligence

$599https://t.co/3OsOZkVwW2 pic.twitter.com/aoFgw5srZA

— Marques Brownlee (@MKBHD) February 19, 2025

I saw this:

• https://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/snow_bunny

2. (Canada, US, slang) A young, attractive, female skier; a sexually active young woman attracted to the promiscuous après-ski way of life.

naturally, I looked it up immediately:

• https://www.google.com/search?q=the+promiscuous+apr%C3%A8s-ski+way+of+life

VICE confirmed it's foids slooting, whether rich or poor I just wanted to see the term used somewhere:

"while, I went on a one-woman rampage, spending most of my days either up to my armpits in soap-suds and other people's pubic hair, having s*x with stoned, broke teenagers on Tabasco-soaked mattresses"

https://www.vice.com/en/article/belle-de-neige-ski-underbelly/#:~:text=while%2C%20I%20went%20on%20a%20one%2Dwoman%20rampage%2C%20spending%20most%20of%20my%20days%20either%20up%20to%20my%20armpits%20in%20soap%2Dsuds%20and%20other%20people%E2%80%99s%20pubic%20hair%2C%20having%20sex%20with%20stoned%2C%20broke%20teenagers%20on%20Tabasco%2Dsoaked%20mattresses

For some reason I had to click at least one Reddit link before I backed out. This proved to be a good idea, shout-out to epic definition definer /u/Piper6728:

It originally meant after skiing social activity, but it eventually became lewd and sexual (in superman 3 evil superman used Après ski to screw a woman's brains out)

(in superman 3 evil superman used Après ski to screw a woman's brains out)

• https://old.reddit.com/r/skiing/comments/1b1tve9/serious_question_dont_attack_me_please_but_what/

Gemini explained the Superman III scene with this link

• https://imdb.com/title/tt0086393/quotes/?item=qt1763099&ref_=ext_shr_lnk

[Superman slowly walks into Lorelei's room]

Lorelei: How about a little après-ski?

[as Superman walks closer to Lorelei,]

Lorelei: Champagne?

[Superman proceeds to make out with Lorelei]

!crossword

LA Times, Sun, Jan 26, 2025 - "Quality Time"

https://downforacross.com/beta/game/6898590-swug

SOLVED

NY Times, Sun, Jan 26, 2025 - "Letter Openers"

https://downforacross.com/beta/game/6898597-vosk

SOLVED

LA Times, Sat, Jan 25, 2025

https://downforacross.com/beta/game/6898606-glaff

SOLVED

NY Times, Sat, Jan 25, 2025

https://downforacross.com/beta/game/6898604-glemp

SOLVED

rDrama themed crossword

https://downforacross.com/beta/game/6793417-jisk

SOLVED

NY Times, Sun, Jan 3, 2010 - "Antique Finish"

https://downforacross.com/beta/game/6898609-plusk

SOLVED

NY Times, Sun, July 4, 2024 CRYPTIC

https://downforacross.com/beta/game/6898623-vosk

SOLVED

THANKS FOR PLAYING EVERYONE

As you can see, this week we will do the usual Sat & Sun crosswords, then our special drama-themed crossword made by @ShriekingGeek , then we will do a Sunday NY Times crossword from 2010 which was uploaded this week, and then we will finally end on a cryptic crossword printed last year in The NY Times and uploaded this week, which was fortunate for us since we are going to start adding some cryptic crosswords to line up.

If you are not familiar with cryptic crosswords, I highly recommend you familiarize yourself with how they work if you want to help us solve them. Otherwise, the clues will look like gibberish. Here is a guide from The New Yorker:

https://www.newyorker.com/puzzles-and-games-dept/articles/a-starter-pack-for-the-cryptic-crossword-curious

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She is despicable for using her position to talk politics. Shameful (-123)

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Episcopalian here. Where she's not the Bishop of my Diocese, Bishop Budde has already had stern words for Trump, since it was one of the churches in her Diocese that Trump took that photo op with a bible in front of, after tear gas disbursed a number of priests from the campus from giving aid to folk caught up in the protest... after another set of protesters set fire to part of the building the day before. So it's been rock vs. hard place all the way down. (3322)

Well for all the children who had no choice but to attend an episcopal church were caught between a cult and hard place as well. It's why almost nobody came back as adult  (-90)

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I think you're trying to be insulting, but it just came off as amusing. Bless you, friend. (74)

And I find the death of that horrible church amusing. Bless you  (-68)

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I won't forget the rioters who set the church of the presidents ON FIRE out of deep hatred. But she didn't have a problem with it. she diverted and said "it's just a building" I agree. But it is the hatred that is burning this country to the ground. it spreads when we let it take hold. Read about, think about it, talk about, and then eventually demonstrate it. I'm talking killings, burnings, looting, abusing. I am so disgusted with the lies and corruption. but the hatred and finger pointing has to stop. And we have to forgive (1)

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I liked her remarks about LGBT children, but her well-meaning racism upset me."The people who pick our crops and clean our office buildings, who labor in poultry farms and meat-packing plants, who wash the dishes after we eat in restaurants and work the night shifts in hospitals. They may not be citizens, or have the proper documentation, but the vast majority of immigrants are not criminals."It just gets so old. My wife is Latinx, and we have had to deal with so much discrimination from every direction.One side assumes my wife is illegal and scamming the government and should leave. The other side assumes my wife is illegal and a dishwasher and that she should work for less than minimum wage. My wife entered the US as a legal immigrant and she is now a citizen, she's an accountant FFS.I hate all these racists. (0)

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Died by CrucifixionThe fact that Jesus was crucified is a historical fact. The evidence for this historical event is found in various historical sources.The Jewish Historian Josephus (ca. A.D. 37-ca. 100)Josephus reports the crucifixion of Jesus with the words: "When Pilate, upon hearing him accused by men of the highest standing amongst us, had condemned him to be crucified . . . ."(4) Roman Historian Cornelius Tacitus (A.D. 55?-117)Tacitus, also reported the crucifixion of Jesus as an historical event: "Nero fastened the guilt [of the burning of Rome] and inflicted the most exquisite tortures on a class hated for their abominations, called Christians by the populace. Christus, from whom the name had its origin, suffered the extreme penalty during the reign of Tiberius at the hands of one of our procurators, Pontius Pilatus."(5) Mara Bar-Serapion (ca. A.D. 73)Bar-Serapion wrote a letter to his son from prison. In this letter, he wrote "What advantage did the Jews gain from executin... (0)

2) The tomb was emptyThe Jerusalem FactorIf Jesus' body was not absent from the tomb, the enemies of Christianity could have easily stomped out the movement by removing Jesus' body from the tomb and showing it to everyone. If they did that, Christianity would have died before it even began. It did not die back then. We can infer from this fact that they did not take Jesus' body out of the tomb in order to parade it down the street to prove to everyone that the resurrection claims of the disciples were false. Why didn't they do this? Most likely because Jesus' body was not even in the tomb to be taken out.*All four gospels feature women as witnesses to the empty tomb.Women were considered second class citizens back then and their testimony was considered worthless. The empty tomb narrative is most likely historical because it would have been awkward for the early church to have women as the chief witnesses when their testimony wasn't considered valid back then. They would have made m... (0)

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Elon musk's tweets are so hot, the UK intelligence services are diverting taxpayer resources to reading them

Meanwhile:

I genuinely feared for Jess Phillips' life after his post about her

I feel the same. I truly hope she can stay safe in these times.

wow he must've said something truly heinous

I hope she can stay safe not white schoolgirls though they can get fricked I am the compassionate one

she looks like one of the background ogres in shrek 4 btw

In the Electoral Dysfunction podcast, she said that while Labour is calibrating their response to Musk and everyone else, they have to take her safety into account because of the amount of threats that she has received in the past week. It's sickening.

meanwhile Nige after getting his 34th death threat of the day

Yea, It is litteraly the whole point of Mi6 to monitor forign threats the UK and deal with them if nessesary.

That Manchester bomb plot can wait, Elon Musk's just been rude to Keir on twitter

The Home Office can prevent someone from entering the UK if their presence is not considered conducive to the public good.

OH THEY CAN???

I must've fricking imagined all of this!

Some twit posts on Facebook: 'jail! And death is what you truly deserve!'

Musk tries to destroy democracy: 'well, it's a complex area and we want to prioritise free speech'

The Police and Crown Prosecution Service doing their 'one rule for you and one for the rich' routine.

>call politician a name

>democracy destroyed

Hans Herman Hoppe bros... was it this easy?

Is what he posted actually illegal? Or just terrifying and unacceptable

Watch as a bong realises he cannot enforce his Naughty Words Laws across national borders

There are things which the UK government can do on a global scale, that Musk cannot

What, like get scammed out of hundreds of millions by Paul 'No Refunds' Kagame?

I suppose it is technically true that Musk cannot repeatedly embarrass and subvert himself by selling or scrapping all of his overseas land, bases and materiel

Let's just call musk what he is - a stochastic terrorist.

SUBJECT MATTER EXPERT

Maybe they should consider banning twitter all together in this country like America is doing with TikTok.

Censorship is never the answer.

Is that the sort of thing a Sith would say?

THIS IS JUST LIKE SOY WARS

Are you nerds going to let someone driving a Subaru mock you?

the same elon musk that supports the IA despite having a 'ton of negative bs' about him lmao

even as recently as September he still was supporting them when he was campaigning for Trump

per usual,

Sheila has been vet approved to chill with other cats the boys have had majority contact. Mostly positive, but the size differences piss Sheila off!

!animalposters !cats

I'd assemble it and distribute the PDFs and maybe make some writing/comics too if we did