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911roofer he/him Always a wallflower, never a wall 7mo ago (reddit.com) 626 thread views #259419

Wife stopped putting out

https://old.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/1bxbuov/i_would_not_have_married_my_40m_wife_40f_if_i_had/

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SaharaForceIndia77 they/them 7mo ago #6226244

So maybe, instead:

"This marriage is so, so important to me. But I really need to feel sexually desired. Please help me figure out how we can better connect sexually. I miss that feeling with you so much. What can we do, as a couple, to work on this? It would mean so much to me if you'd try with me."

Like, centering the love and commitment, without minimising how much you want to change this?

These sorts of lines sound like a joke when it's workplace advice from askamanager, let alone about talking to your wife.

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arseupwrongo lors/lara bark brölölö SaharaForceIndia77 7mo ago #6226313

That's such a bad way to ask too. She'll respond with some emotional but substanceless bullshit and maybe you'll get a single night of pity s*x before it reverts back to how it was.

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Allende trussy/rate arseupwrongo 7mo ago #6226331

That's such a bad way to ask too. She'll respond with some emotional but substanceless bullshit

That is any discussion with a woman.

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arseupwrongo lors/lara bark brölölö Allende 7mo ago #6226350

Women assume by default that you just wanna vent some bad emotions and then you're done. Then when it's over you realise that nothing actually got solved at all. You need to make it clear that there's a real problem that will have real consequences if it's not addressed.

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arseupwrongo 7mo ago #6226542

ur right he should give an ultimatum

:chad!: gib s*x b-word or I'll cheat on you.

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arseupwrongo lors/lara bark brölölö ProLurker 7mo ago #6226559

nonironically

like you don't need to be a peepee for no reason but it must be made known that it's not a negotiable thing

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arseupwrongo lors/lara bark brölölö 7mo ago #6226198

You can talk to her about your needs being met, if you tell her that you wouldn't have married her if you knew this would happen, there is no coming back from that.

It's HOW you have this conversation that will make it a useful conversation with maybe a chance at moving forward, or destroy any chance of it being useful.

>men need to communicate more
>also lie to us if you're going to do it

While many women are responsive desire compared to most men having spontaneous desire, there are often other contributing factors to why women aren't initiating and/or are rejecting s*x. For example….hormones, pain from childbirth, birth control, antidepressants, exhaustion from parenting, a partner who is doing/not doing things that make them unfrickable.

Women have no idea about how their own sexuality works. Women use sexuality in order to stabilise a relationship and then switch it off when it's stable. You just need to be assertive and make it known that you could leave her any time if you so choose and suddenly she'll become a sexual initiator again.

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Patriarch-ristmas Land/lord Patriarch of Dramastan arseupwrongo 7mo ago #6226325

Disagree on the leave her bit, women brains have the caveman ooga booga and once you realize that it becomes a lot easier. Provided your wife isn't a :marseychonkerfoid: doing stuff like picking her up over your head, flipping her with ease and general shows of strength will turn her on.

Another good thing to do is stand up to her, if a girl is being ridiculous or unreasonable just say no. Standing up to ridiculous foid requests will get you far

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Patriarch-ristmas 7mo ago #6226557

i will add: calling her mean names, getting drunk and hitting her, all good ways of turning her on :marseytroll:

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arseupwrongo lors/lara bark brölölö Patriarch-ristmas 7mo ago #6226336

I'd say they're still activating that same area of the brain. You're doing things that make her feel like she's not entirely in control and thus less secure.