I have spent the summer in NYC with my sister & her family. At first I was like "Eww" but now I'm warming up to the idea of moving here.
The Pros: My depression gets so much better when I'm around family. It's a "fresh start" after a really hard year. I can help my sister out with her baby. It's a lot of stress and I want to support her as much as I can.
It will also get me closer to fulfilling my lifelong dream of being a fancy old lady
The cons are that it's a very expensive lifestyle. I will just barely be able to live comfortably in Manhattan. Lots of places do not accept dogs for some reason (?) Lots of Libs (so same as Chicago) and apparently men punch women on the subways.
Should FroCho bite the bullet and move:
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I'd say go for it, but get a better job and date finance bros to offset the cost of living.
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A man in finance
trust fund
6'5"
Blue eyes
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p much
Oh, but protip: the best finance guys are the ones who didn't set out to be in finance and lowkey hate themselves for selling their souls. Ask them about their abandoned stats PhD or their failed philosophy postdoc.
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Jeffrey Gundlach dropped out of his philosophy PhD program! Now he's a billionaire.
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Wikipedia says he's divorced! Get in there, girl!
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What if they don't have either?
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They aren't real human, but NPCs. Spit on them.
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Tbf you can do that in Chicago as well. I get just as many recruiter emails from trading firms in Chicago as New York.
I'd never live in either, but if I had to choose I'd go to NYC.
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NYC is like Chicago but just like... more.
As long as you're not bankrupting yourself for it I'd say go for it. I mean you rent anyways, so if you don't like it in NYC you can always move back to Chicago later.
edit: did you ask either of your dogs what they think of the move?
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The real question
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They said it could be ruff.
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Are there a lot of things to do in Chicago?
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you can join a gang
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Or larp as a bipoc
schizo 
like me and yell nonsense in the middle 
of the street 
at 1:30am. "KURT COBAIN 
THIS MY YEAR! EIGHT TWO FOUR SIX NINE THREE! AAAAAYYYY YO!"
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Yeah it's got its fair share of museums and stuff, there's live sports and concerts if you like those. No good access to nature tho.
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This is Michigan erasure
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bro the nice hikes in western michigan (as close as you'll get) are still like a 4-6 hour drive away
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South
Haven is pretty 
fun.
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It's in the Midwest, what nature is there outside of the Great Lakes?
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there's plenty of hiking and camping areas in Michigan and Wisconsin, but not really in Illinois
there's not much in the way of vast scenic vistas tho bc it's so flat here, but Michigan and Wisconsin have some pretty forests
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I wanna go to the aquarium, planetarium, and museum
of science 
and industry. Haven't been since grade school 
field 
trips. I revisited the Field 
Museum 
but it was kinda meh and seemed much smaller 
as an adult.
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Talk about the river, eat pizza pie, drink booze, b-word about the Bears and join a fantasy football league and make it your entire life.
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Seems like a real no brainer if family helps with depression, it's worth a high cost to not hate life
Dude bussy lmao
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You live in Chicago. It's not going
to be much of a downgrade.
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It really depends entirely on how much money you have, if you make less than $150k a year (edit - probably even more honestly, maybe like $180k) I wouldn't. I'm leaving soon actually, it's just not worth the cost anymore.
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The ship has sailed on NYC offering a decent quality of life for middle class people. If you aren't making at least 400k don't bother you'll live like a roach amongst roaches
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what about your hot therapist?
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He's gay
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You can fix him?
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dont give up queen
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Could you find a job in NY?
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Yes!
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Then why not
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Isn't NYC dangerous? Like even more so than usual these days?
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I mean, I live in Chicago….
Omg my last territory included the South Side of Chicago. (Believe it or not that are some cute and safe parts, like around 90th St? So almost in Indiana) There was one hospital that was surrounded by boarded up houses and homeless people. It was so scary that I would just drive there, sit in my car and mark that I went in (I was unsure if they were using GPS to track us). Those would've been Medicaid patients and IL Medicaid didn't usually cover it so it was whatever.
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Wait, what. Without context this sounds kind of
Fro sister 
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Oh for my job I would visit hospitals and doctors offices on behalf of a drug company and basically just charm and chat up the nurses. We had a territory and a few dozen sites to visit. We had to go to 4 sites a day but the only proof was people marking down that they went in an app. I always wondered if they tracked us via GPS because otherwise you could fake 90% of your visits.
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That makes sense. I thought you meant you had an ankle monitor or something
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I thought NYC was even worse these days due to a huge influx of migrants and the cops being absolutely useless, but if they're both dangerous I guess I would pick being closer to family.
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A lot of the migrants got sent to Chicago as well
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Really? Wtf. I would move to a place with the least amount of migrants. I don't know where that is tho
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Rural Iowa
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In rural Iowa you still get COBBED
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When did NYC didn't have a huge influx of immigrants? 200 years ago?
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You're definitely safer sitting in your car than going in a hospital !foidmoment
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It's not really dangerous unless you are in a really shitty area, the majority of the city is fine. Most major cities are like that though
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should I move to Alaska?
I will be spending a week there next month and at first I was like "frick yeah" but I have no idea what my actual experience will be yet (I will not be warming up ever)
The pros: I've never lived away from family so moving 4000 miles to the other end of the continent seems like a reasonable thing to do with no perceived impact on mental health
The cons are that it's a somewhat more expensive lifestyle. I will just barely be able to live in a shack with no running water. lots of places do not accept cars for some reason (?), lots of chuds (so same as Texas) and apparently men hunt large game and shoot the pipeline sometimes.
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please
go to india 
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You are such cute miss prittee! Come to Bangladesh, I receive you!
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she likes me
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New yorker culture: Ignorant Butthole
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Yes if it means more family, no for any other reason. Those kinds of cities are not worth how expensive they are.
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You hate libs?
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Listen, just know that you can live in Manhattan and it'll still take 40 minutes to get anywhere by subway. Its a pain in the butt, people everywhere.
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What about by Uber or driving?
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Worse due to traffic
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Being a bikecuck is the fastest
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Parking in Manhattan is crazy btw, you may not want a car, most people don't have cars here. Depending on where you look parking garages that are open on weekends can be $600-$800 / month, and street parking isn't really a viable option.
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You should definitely move to NYC, the best city if you can afford it. Finding a place is tough though, you could also look over the bridge in Brooklyn since it's pretty easy to get over.
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I have a childhood bestie who lives in Brooklyn and says the same but I can afford manhattan and I want the excitement!!!!
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Its not that exciting. You are better off living in hoboken or jersey city. They are better city for post-wall mid foids, no cap.
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I WOULDNT BE CAUGHT DEAD AT THOSE PLACES
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What about Connecticut or Trenton, NJ?
Actually, wait.... become an Atlantic City Qween
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RDRAMA MAKES. THE WORLD TAKES.
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It seems like you already made up your mind so go for it
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Most important thing is to make sure you are being paid more in your new nyc job otherwise lifestyle inflation will hot fast. As someone who is still young enough to be making 5 figs shities are pretty much out of the question. I really hope i can get a job in a small town around 20 minutes away from a city because mason-Dixie cities like Cincinnati, Louisville, Lexington, Columbus, Indianapolis ect are getting so bad now just blocks of desolation row and vagrants sitting on curbs and asking you the time hoping youll pull out a phone and they can easily snatch it.
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Idk, I don't live in the US, I've never been to Chicago. I visited NYC as a tourist and liked. But if being poorer is not an issue and you have family there go for it I guess?
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U r the only one I won't benefactor in this thread bc u r mean
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Good Morning
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I don't care at all I'm just commenting because I want a benefactor award 👍
Love
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Remind me after I get my janny salary on the 1st. I'm out of Mbux, sorry.
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Reminding u once again to spoil me 😘
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Hey sweaty how u doin? 😘
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!remindme 2 weeks
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I will be messaging you on 02.09.2024, 09:38 UTC to remind you of this comment
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I live near there. Move to NYC and hold an rDrama meetup and I'll attend.
NYC is way safer than chicago by almost every statistical measure btw.
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If you're going to be a spinster there's no reason not be around family as long as it's a financially feasible thing to do imo. Both are turd world shitholes but there's way more to do there
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Move in with your sister.
Have an escape plan always.
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I'll have my go bag by the door.
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I know sisters.
Prepare yourself emotionally.
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Why be in Manhattan specifically? There are plenty of neighborhoods outside of there within train distance
But truth is you're not going to live your fancy old lady lifestyle if you burn all your capital just to have a hot plate for a cooking space. It's not financially sound.
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All cities are disgusting. Avoid
at all cause for your mental 
health white extinction is long overdue
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I went camping in NY state
some years ago with friends 
I met on CoD4 of all places. We took a train 
ride into the city for a day. Honestly I like Chicago more. There 
were just too many people in NYC for me and literally 
every single 
car I saw on the road had some sort of damage from r-slur 
drivers and the very split second 
traffic lights 
turned green 
it seemed like 10-15 cars would 
lay on their horns. Driving 
and sports 
cars in general 
are my passion so NYC would 
ruin that for me, but that's totally a me problem.
If you're ever feeling especially low I'm apparently excellent
at therapeutic communication. From calming down the homeless 
drug addict 
sperging out who came in for "chest pain" to the normie who's terrified of getting a heart 
cath done in the morning 
where 
none of the doctors sat down and explained things to them like I will. My DMs are open for any advice 
I can give or just an ear to rant to. That offer 
extends to anyone reading 
this. I don't know if I can help but I will certainly try.
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Don't get stabbed
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Absolutely frozen
It's a fantastic idea and you'll be happy there
And if not at least it will be new
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Are you wealthy?
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No
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And doesn't your family pretty much bankroll your life?
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you're ngmi
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It seems like a nice place to visit, but I'm not sure about actually living there. I'm theoretically going to be visiting NYC in December so I'll know a bit more then.
It might be a slightly better idea to scout out a place within a closer driving distance from family.
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MOVE TO IRAQ. ITS ON THE WAY UP.
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you are going to get r*ped by a wild pack of BIPOCs
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I was gonna say no but saw you live in Chicago so you probably should
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i think big cities suck, butt NYC is better than chicago by far
!slots100
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