This might be long but I really just have to get this off my chest.

I'm currently studying abroad in Czech Republic and for the Thanksgiving holiday I decided to meet a college friend who is studying abroad in Italy. We met through the sorority we joined three years ago, and have been friends ever since. She's a good friend, one of the handful of girls in the sorority that I actually enjoy. However, she's always been a little selfish. For lack of a better word, she's a little dumb, so I excuse her selfishness because of that. This time, though, I'm really hurt by it.

My first night visiting we went to a bar and we starting making out with this pair of brothers. My dude was kinda cute in my opinion, but her's was the cuter one. I was fine just making out with him, but I didn't want to sleep with him.

He walked me back to her apartment, and her and his brother were a little behind us. We kept making out and touching, but I was ready to go to bed. My friend and her man catch up to us at the door of the apartment and I tell her I'm tired. “You don't wanna go back with him?” She said to me. I felt so awkward because he was standing right in front of me, so I just kept saying I was tired. She obviously wanted to bring her man back up to her apartment, kept ignoring the fact that I wasn't really feeling like going back to the brother's apartment, and just said “don't worry, he'll wake you up in the morning.” So I went.

At this point I'm like fine, I haven't had s*x in a while and he was attractive to me, so I guess I'll have it. We get back to his apartment, smoke a joint, make out, and he pulls his pants down and it's literally a micropeepee. Maybe like 2-3 inches. I'm immediately turned off, but now I feel stuck. He puts a condom on, trying to tell me what to do and be hot, but I was so turned off. I didn't feel safe to say no because it was his apartment and he was way too excited. The condom was huge on him, and while I was laying on my back, he had to let me know that it was inside. At one point he slipped out and literally started humping the crease between my thigh and my gut, thinking he was in me. I laid there miserable, and so I said how I was tired, hinting that I didn't want to keep going. He looked me in the eyes and said “are you lying to me?” I was terrified. No.. no I said. He got up off me aggressively and went pack to finishing the joint. I sat there scared. Let me just act like this is fine I told myself, i genuinely didn't feel like I could leave. I don't know why. We had the lamest excuse for s*x after that, him forgetting I said I was tired probably on purpose. Again, he was humping my thigh. I didn't want him inside of me at all so I just sat there and pretending like he was doing the right thing. I practically ran out at 6am when my friend texted and asked when I was coming back.

Next day, I tell her trying to make light out of it, a funny story, and she laughs of course which I don't mind because I wanted to laugh about it. Then, she goes onto tell me that she didn't even have s*x with her man, and then proceeds to make fun of how ugly my man was, telling her other roommates how I wanted to go back with him and how obsessed with him I was. I was embarrassed, and I got mad and snippy because I literally made it obvious that I didn't want to go back with him.

I'm ashamed, I'm disappointed that I couldn't stick up for myself more, and she's only making me feel worse. It's been two days since and tomorrow I leave to go back to Prague so I kind of let it go now. I want to have a good rest of time with her. She hasn't mentioned it today, so I'm glad. I just feel like shit about it, and it makes me upset that she spoke about it in the way that she did after and made fun of me. Needless to say, I'm excited to go back to Prague tomorrow and take care of myself, spend some time alone and recoup. Thanks for reading

EDIT: forgot to mention that he did eat me out, and it was good but he did it after finishing the joint in an effort to try to get me in the mood. Still, he ignored me saying I was tired. Head is head though, so I can't complain. Everything besides that was an absolute nightmare though.

(UK) I took the day off work yesterday as I had a particularly heavy day, was feeling very tired, dizzy, just needed to rest. Used a day of my sick leave.

Some months I don't need to take much of a rest at all, and can keep working, other days, I need the time to rest and recover.

Seems reasonable, that's what sick days are for

Got me thinking how amazing it would be to have menstrual leave in the UK. I think it would normalise that periods affect women physically and mentally, and sometimes we aren't ok to carry on working.

Wait, don't only misogynists acknowledge that women can act different mentally on their periods?

Yes, I know initially it would result in some organisation not hiring women. But, I do think that with enough time, the organisations that didn't offer menstrual leave or weren't hiring women would lose out. Likely due to gender discrimination anyways (as you can't just not hire women).

She acknowledges this would make women unemployable, but that's OK because laws will force companies to hire women lmao

Another pro of menstrual leave: My boss (male) has a habit of saying "hope you're ok? Is it stress, is there anything I can do?" which get quite awkward if it's related to gynae issues . If I just said I needed to take a day of menstrual leave, life would so much easier.

Anyways, that's my mini-rant for the day.

Yes, one menstrual leave please Much less awkward than taking a sick day.

The comments are somewhat reasonable, but most seem to focus on this making only making women appear to be less valuable than men in the workforce and not literally less valuable, lol. Also a few agreeing with the idea.

Just kidding of course.

Today we have an adult woman who has never learned to operate a motor vehicle.

I know that for our bustling and European friends this may not seem like such a bug deal. But not being able to drive in america basically makes you a second class citizen and a burden to everyone around you.

Back in 2019, my wife didn't have a license and attempted to drive an hour to the airport to pick me up. I got stressed out on the plane coming back to the airport and found out she was driving without a license and decided to scream at her about how dangerous that was and what if she was pulled over by cops and arrested. After this incident, she couldn't drive for 30 minutes without having a panic attack

To counteract this, OP's wife (absolute queen), has successfully gas lit her servant in to believing this is his fault.

She stated it was therapy for me or divorce, I went to therapy. I have been in therapy since february for communication and listening development, as well as increasing emotional intelligence in myself... I know, without a shadow of a doubt, I'm the A-hole in this.

Foids decisively cucked by once again.

This year they're doubling the number of nominees so they can give foids some conciliation places

Organisers of the Brit Awards have announced that they will expand the number of Best Artist nominees after a gender row.

In January 2023 it emerged that there were no females in the new gender neutral category for Best Artist which replaced best male and female categories two years ago.

It had been brought in amid concerns they failed to represent non-binary artists.

But all the artists shortlisted for the category in 2023 were men including Stormzy, George Ezra, Fred Again and Central Cee, with Harry Styles going on to win the prize.

Dr Jo Twist, chief executive of BPI, said: “The Brits is committed to making the show as inclusive and representative as possible. The changes to this year's categories are part of a process of evolution, and we will continue to review, listen and learn.”

She told BBC News that “obviously we were disappointed that no women were nominated for artist of the year in 2023” and added that they had contacted industry experts to “understand how we can improve”.

Male and female solo artist awards had been Brit Awards categories since they began in 1977, but were changed for the 2022 event.

Non-binary pop artist Sam Smith was not included on either shortlist in 2021, prompting them to issue a statement on social media.

Smith said that they “look forward to a time where awards shows can be reflective of the society we live in. Let's celebrate everybody, regardless of gender, race, age, ability, sexuality and class.”

Following their statement, the awards' organisers said that they were “committed to evolving the show and the gendered categories are very much under review” before abolishing them for 2022.

Adele became the first winner of the new artist of the year prize, but in her acceptance speech said that while she understood why the change had been made, “I really love being a woman and being a female artist.”

>This is why women will never win an award again

Lots of women here. What's the list for most beloved characters? Bet it's mostly men there.

Here you go

Holy shit lol. Like I know men hate women but sometimes it just really smacks you in the face

tom and jerry included on the list and not a single woman really makes it for me

>tom and jerry included on the list and not a single woman

correct

walter is so much worse than skylar though

It's exactly what I was thinking. Guys on the top of the most hated characters are sadistic murderers. The first woman, oh, she cheated. Her husband, the dude who did a 180 personality turn and turned into a drug dealer endangering the lives of his family? Top most adored character. Makes sense.

>the dude who did a 180 personality turn

This list makes me wanna throw up lmao

it's not most beloved, it's greatest and most memorable. guarantee Daenerys would be here if not for the ending. i can't think of any other popular woman in TV..?

>daenerys

We need to make our own list, since this sub is mostly women I think it would be much better.

My personal list of greatest tv characters, since the other one was lacking:

1.Buffy Summers (Buffy the Vampire Slayer)

2.Arya Stark (Game of Thrones)

3.Peggy Olson (Mad Men)

4.Marge Simpson (The Simpsons)

5.Roz Doyle (Frasier)

6.Michonne (The Walking Dead)

7.Leslie Knope (Parks and Recreation)

8.Dana Scully (The X Files)

9.Miranda Bailey (Grey's Anatomy)

10.Samantha Jones (S*x and the City)

this is bait, right?

Why Emily? 🤣

She's a woman.

Friends has a mostly female fan base so woman hating on woman sound right to me.

no one hates women more than other women

I watched Breaking Bad for the first time this year (I know) and from what I heard I was expecting Skylar to be this horrible demon lady. No, she's just a woman who is justifiably angry that her husband and father to her kids has turned methy. Wtf that is a totally valid thing to not be fine with!?

Skyler is my litmus test

I said the same thing upthread lol. It should absolutely be a first date question. If a man thinks she's the villain, don't frickt that man.

yes, using a cheater as your litmus test is a great idea

Ladies, we can do better than men like these.

Is it "ok" for you to be angry?! You should be! This is absurd behavior from someone that is supposed to be your partner. That it is apparently a patterned behavior is insane.

Just throw the whole man out.

Two paragraphs, all the knowledge you have about this guy is two paragraphs.

And yet it says so much that it's more than enough.

jerking off while you're crying in the other room???

he's jerking off to other women to get revenge on you. mentally cheating to get back at you, or watching violent porn imagining he's hurting you...

this will lead to him cheating for real or getting violent next time he gets even more angry.

why would he want to train his mind to associate anger and animosity towards you with s*x?

dump his butt.

Way too many people refuse to believe that men do these acts as a psychological and emotional punishment, operant conditioning and abuse tactic.

"oh it's just porn and masturbation he's allowed to self-soothe" nah they know what they're doing to our esteem, when they angrily jerk it like a chimp, glaring at us, teaching us to never make them mad again.

Decline s*x? Best believe he'll start liking women on instagram who look nothing like you as punishment.

He's not horny, he's angry.

He's not angry in general, he's angry AT YOU.

Fricking wild behavior.

Who hurt you.

Also, a plot twist: turns out OP's a whore.

She became an escort and a stripper. That was me.

Now I'm thinking these two are a perfect match, they totally deserve each other.

Sort by controversial it's not difficult

Meet Lindsey Soucie, a kindergarten teacher in @Loughman_Oaks in the @PolkSchoolsNews district. She identifies as poly and bi and runs 2 public p*rn pages, one of which is under her name, where she asks for s*x.

Would you feel comfortable entrusting your 5-year-old with this… pic.twitter.com/aFVdvOfyrG

— Libs of TikTok (@libsoftiktok) November 22, 2023

Bizarre moment woman pulls down her pants mid-flight to go to the bathroom: video https://t.co/RTb5vsZhXT pic.twitter.com/7e0GnsYKml

— New York Post (@nypost) November 22, 2023

Just venting about 50+ male toddlers in the workplace

(by 50+ she means age, not 50 actual toddlers)

I worked for a year and a half as a doc writer for an engineering group and had to change positions because taking care of several grown men was becoming very taxing to my mental health.

I had no engineering experience when I started and had to learn the field on the fly. Which, they knew and I was comfortable with because I've always been a quick learner.

These are all engineers who had 20-30 years experience in the industry who had to constantly be told that they needed to document their work, check equipment specs to ensure they had the right cowtools, be told when calibrated instrument were calibrated improperly, etc., etc. by someone who was literally learning as they went.

Cut to today, six months later, and I am STILL helping these children. I found out today that one of them had purchased about 12 piece of equipment since I left without using the correct process and now one of the instruments in my new department is going to be out of its calibration interval and we have no way to calibrate it or even buy a new one.

I asked him to help me get the proper documentation started (I tackle half, he tackles half) and while I got my half completed he spent several hours asking me questions that are literally written step by step in a procedure that I gave him on a sticky note and that I followed without issue.

This is just one example from today, but these men expected me to come up everything for them for equipment that they have used for decades.

It's exhausting and I had a little menty b on my drive home today because the weaponized incompetence is really getting to me.

They are like kids. They just pretend to not know how to do their jobs because if they stall long enough I do it for them.

>be boomer

>work in field for 20-30 years

>hanging with the boys

>someone with 0 experience comes in and tells you what to do

>they're female

>weaponized your incompetence

>cause menty b

new zoomer or millennial lingo just dropped

OP is 30F dating a 23M

Some choice lines from the OP and comments

We fight about something stupid (his anger gets triggered and he doesn't listen to me when I explain my side, and tells me I don't make any sense), I cry a lot, he eventually makes up with me

Oh and it's “my fault” he's in a bad mood all the time because I only have s*x with him once a week. (I lost my sexual connection to him the day he lost his temper at me when I declined s*x one night).

I've tried teaching that to my bf and even included a “safe word” during disagreements to try to get us to step back and reassess our emotions but it doesn't work

Neighbor just leave, nobody's keeping you there.

Went to the strip club with my boyfriend. Just want to vent.

I guess I am just feeling a little inadequate, being surrounded by naked ladies that I would never have a chance to even coming close to looking like them.

Imagine getting mogged by a stripper.

When we got home we had really fantastic s*x and I'll admit being at the club turned me on. But there's still a strange, sad feeling deep inside. Jealousy, insecurity, inadequacy, and disdain that establishments like this exist.

For what it's worth, strip clubs make me feel the same way as a man. There's so much that goes into those feelings, like resentment of culture and capitalism and many other things. It's confusing to navigate

I too had experiences involving a relationship with a man and contact with women doing s*x work. I realized that only by brainwashing myself completely I could avoid being affected by seeing the deep inequality between men and women that is delineated on common s*x work. (And this doesn't mean I have anything against the women that do this work, I just realize it's an exploiting and fricked up job like many with added layers of misogyny).

Even calling a whore a whore needs a fricking land acknowledgment baked into it.

You're the father of the bride and your new son in law does this to your daughter. What's your next move?pic.twitter.com/ksgZozsx8e

— General™️👀🇺🇸🦅 (@TheGeneral_0) November 18, 2023

This is a terrible thing to write. I am 27/F. I'm a wife and mother. In my teens/early 20s I was very much a ‘pick me' girl. Like a Pearl Davis type. I cooled that down a lot over the years but I've gone to the opposite extreme. Rationally, I know this is unfair and unhealthy. Most men aren't bad. But a little voice tells me that even the ‘good ones' have some ingrained misogyny even if it's on the milder end.

I love my husband very much, he did something to hurt me very badly in the early days of our relationship. I feel this was the start of it. It wasn't cheating or anything like that. I don't wish to rehash it too much but it was related to s*x. We worked through it, went to therapy, and we're now just like any other couple. We have one daughter and we're very happy together and with our life.

It's been years since this happened, but gradually I've found myself growing a stronger dislike for men. It's not because of what my husband did but I think it triggered it. I started noticing casual misogyny in everyday life more and more to the point where it's made me angry that men…exist? I get so sad thinking that my baby girl will one day be hurt by a man, not maybe, but likely.

If anyone is wondering, I actually have a great relationship with my dad, we are very close. I'm also in therapy for unrelated reasons but this has come up a couple of times. I want to get over this disgusting hatred and have a healthier outlook. Is this worth discussing with my therapist? I would appreciate literally any insight at this point.

It's a known issue that medical professionals and physicians often ignore women's pain and dismiss it as hysteria.

We aren't treated the same way men are, in that a man can go to the ER and has a much better chance that people listen him.

We live in a world where men get Vicodin for vasectomies and women get whatever OTC meds for childbirth, even if their is tearing or in some cases when she actually has a C-section.

So how are you gonna tell me that culturally, the gender that is taught to both ignore and deal with pain solo is some how worse at dealing with it then the gender that get legit narcotics for a simple out patient procedure? Maybe they feel less pain because of all of those prescription narcotics their given?

As a researcher, I try to be unbiased but there is a long history regarding medical bias against women and how are pain is ignore

So how am I supposed to believe studies that come from that same biased community about how we as women have both a lower tolerance to pain but also experience higher levels of it for the same things?

Maybe those doctors need to interview some tattoo artists or something, because they seem like the only group of people who understand that when you put both a man and a women under the same stimuli, one group is more likely to fall asleep and the other can't seem to sit still because they claim it hurts so much.

Maybe it's that as a women, pain is life. It starts when we're in our early teens and continues for the rest of it. Which we know pain is both subjective and exposure and range both breeds tolerance. So if it the fact that we experience more pain that make people think we are some how are less tolerant of it? Is that the logic?

Make that make sense.

I have suffered from chronic pain several times in my life, I had endometriosis that took ten years to treat because no one believed me. Maybe they just lacked the references for what nerve damage due to unchecked tissue growth does to a person?

My partner was hit by a car and it permanently fricked up his spine, causing mass nerve pain. While it's been surgically repaired, to this day, he seems to be the only guy I've ever met that gets my pain, understands it and recognizes it's severity. While other people I've been with have described kidney stones or tooth aches as ‘the worst pain imaginable', I wish that was the case for me.

Pain touches so many spaces for us in ways that men will never experience it. Seriously, thank about it. A man would never power through painful s*x, if men got pregnant, abortion would be free, if men had periods Vicodin would like be a standard treatment for cramps.

Do men just not have a frame of reference?

It just seems to be that this whole stance of women being less tolerant to pain isn't even about pain but about people acting like we are weak without proof or a reference what it actually feels like to live in a female body.

What are they trying to prove aside for finding more ways to ignore our experiences?

It's just one more dig at us, when some days that all life seems to be, more attacks and more micro aggressions without any empathy or understanding.

It's just really hard not to feel exhausted by all of it.

If this wimp was tolerating her pain, I would not know she was in pain.

R-slurittors have their usual BS takes like:

that tarot card was a gift. you may not see it that way now, but the universe was looking out for you in the long run. i'm so sorry you're going through this, nobody deserves it. as soon as I read the part where he said “maybe it's about you are you keeping secrets??” i knew. he immediately deflected and projected it on you. also please get yourself tested asap.

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