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Throwaway, because I am ashamed to even ask for help.

My (M21) Gf (F23) has gotten r*ped 3 times over the course of her life. 2 before she met me and one during. We have been dating for about a year. All of them have been at parties and have been caused by a stranger taking advantage of her.

Obviously she is a victim and doesn’t deserve anything that has happened to her, but she will not stop going to parties and getting drunk and high to the point where she isn’t fully aware of her surroundings. She says if she stops going then the male feminists win, because she’s loves to have fun with her friends and listen to music. I usually do not go to these parties as I despise party culture and have a tight circle of friends who I will only celebrate their birthdays with. I have gone to some of these parties that she goes to and she is very popular and friendly.

I worry that she is being taken advantage of to the point where she doesn’t consider that a huge trust factor is being broken with me. I really do not like her going to these parties and have been going with her ever since the last one happened. I feel that I ruin the mood she has, by being worried and feel that she doesn’t want me there. She tells me she loves me and appreciates me going because she knows I hate it. So I'm not worried about her lying or anything of the sort just confused.

She tells me that people grope her in public and kiss her when they pass by too. I am deeply disturbed that something might be wrong with her as I care about her very much. I don't know if it is caused by dissociating or some other mental illness but I will never let anything happen to this woman again. I have considered marrying her in a couple years but I don’t know if I can trust someone that puts no effort in trying to stop this from happening. I feel like an butthole for even thinking that but I want to protect her. Please anybody let me know if you have been a in a similar situation or any ideas to help her. Thank you.

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yihi they/them 2yr ago #3373042

This reminds me of the "you don't come here for hunting, do you?" joke.

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print-hello-world was/were yihi 2yr ago #3373310

Tell it?

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yihi they/them print-hello-world 2yr ago #3374206

So there's this redneck who went hunting. After a full day, he didn't kill anything so he decided to pack up and go home when all of a sudden he sees a bear and tries to shoot it. He fires one shot, but misses. The bear comes up to him and says "You just tried to kill me!" But the redneck says "No, my gun went off by itself" But the bear does not believe him and says "Now I'm gonna frick you in the butt"

After the bear is done with the redneck, the redneck says "Frickin bear, I'm gonna kill you" and fires again... But he misses for a second time.

The bear comes up to him and says "You just tried to kill me again!" And the redneck says "No, I dropped my gun and it went off again" The bear doesn't believe him and says" I'm gonna make you suck my peepee" So after the bear is done with him he leaves, and the redneck is real mad and fires a third time. But again he misses. So the bear comes up to him and says "You didn't come here to hunt, did you?