I am so jealous of my boyfriend's girlfriend.
My partner and I of seven years decided to be in an open relationship about a year ago. He stated he didn't want poly but really just s*x and fun connections and what not. Well he met someone and now he spends half his time with her. They go away for days at a time, I am forced to Google schedule time together otherwise he fills up his time with her, I don't feel like a priority. He says I am and I expressed that they are spending too much time together but it has seemed to fall on deaf ears. He had told me time and again if it came down to it he would chose me. While I didn't give him an ultimatum he told me a couple days ago that he won't break up with her and that if I cannot handle this new change in the relationship then essentially it will end. I am absolutely gutted. I feel like this is the beginning of the end. He said if at any point we need to shut it down we could but now he has changed his mind. He spends time with her family and goes away on little trips and runs when she calls crying and I feel like this is going to tear me apart. He is a good man but all I think now is that he is choosing someone else. If I don't put up with this then it's over. He knows I am upset and I can't help it. I feel like my anxiety and sadness over this will push him into her arms and home will not be a place he wants to be anymore. I feel like he bait and switched me and now I'm sharing the love of my life 50/50 without a choice. Less than that because our of the 50 percent he is at home, his work and friends and other life stuff needs to be addressed. It was my idea to open the relationship and I feel like I am losing him and I feel like I will lose him.
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That part put it over
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The account is plausibly a foid if you read the post history
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nah i saw educational poly insta accounts they do ts all the time
They make infographics, charts, and comics about how to cope with absolute insane poly shit
"here's a self care workbook to do while your primary is away with someone else, uwu, remember that feeling ownership of people is toxic internalized monogamy!!! It's ok to cry tho, just make sure you work thorough it and become a better person"
edit bc i got interrupted while commenting:
they rarely discuss what to do when you are un-seated from your primary position (I've never seen that???)
In this way, Caroline "The Weasel" Ellison
figured it out
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Lol you must be new to /r/polyamory
this is tame & boring by their standards
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We call that a lie hon, either you believed a scrotes lies or gaslit yourself
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Some foids don't need to be gaslit.
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Sounds like his calendar isn't all he's filling.
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/s
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These posts should have mandatory pics of everyone so we can really see why she got ditched.
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Just means she had a dude in mind who didn't pan out
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a month ago she made a post saying some dude lead her on and she finally found out he wasn't in to her
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Can't deepthroat
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You should teach her!
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I've taught so many it's tiring all the gagging and cumming
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She wanted her ex to choke her.
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Maybe, or maybe he was hinting he was thinking of moving on, so she hoped by doing this she could keep him: let him have some fun on the side but he'd come back home to her. We see how well that worked out!
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nah, shed have said that because itd garner more sympathy from the redditors
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All three will be hideous
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Dude should be fatter for current reddit tbh
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Yeh but how much of an uggo is she compared to the new foid. And what does this moid look like to get 2 uggo foids into him. Many such mysteries.
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He probably moved from a brap with a 32 BMI to a
svelte 
brap with a 28 BMI
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So many possibilities! No fats. All fats. Mixed
fats. Each with its own fascinating 
story.
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I bet $50 on "she's white"
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i am rewatching arrested its so good!
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It's a classic fr.
Worlds first analyst+therapist - analrapist.
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/s
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wow you rarely see the reverse of the "I convinced my wife to do poly and now she is fricking everyone" type of post
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lol ok somehow i missed the fact that she opened this relationship to go do BDSM shit with one of her exes. that is the truest "frick around and find out" i've seen in a hot minute
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Every time. Every time. Is it mandatory to have no brain if you want to try poly?
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it's like being a cop, they kick you out of the polycule if your IQ is too high
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No one intelligent would want to be poly in the first place
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It's like voting democrat but faster
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I remember one where the husband just started pounding boypusyy/transkitty left and right and the wife couldn't take it. I don't remember which though.
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Trussy destroyer
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"I asked my husband to open our relationship. He's been sleeping with transexuals ever since and I don't know how to feel."
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Because women don't mind finding out their moid is able to get tons of female attention. They don't like it when a moid can spend emotional currency on another woman because he is spending less of it on her
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That's real, my wife has always seemed to kinda relish it when a girl flirts with me. I can't imagine she'd be happy if I didn't shut it down or reciprocated, but she has definitely been living proof to me that women want men that other women want.
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I got catcalled by a group of women walking with my girlfriend and she seemed more proud of it than me
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My ex got very jealous when women were crushing on me and so I toned down the flirting with other girls (neurodivergent btw)
She then admitted that she wanted me to keep flirting with them because she actually fantasized about me cheating on her and liked me making her jealous
Why are women like this?
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rdrama's /h/lit is finally getting more creative
(I'm onto you frickers. If I find it too easy to greentext a story it's usually fake, kinda odd how OP always turns out to be Gay hmm??)
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I think that was a plot point in house md like three times.
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I feel like this is a work of fiction but frick it I choose to believe because a foid losing in the "lets open the relationship" is always so sweet to read.
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A foid's attraction for a man skyrocketing when he's aloof and banging another foid
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The worst thing you could ever do to a woman is give her exactly what she wants
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I know it's fake, but I want this to be real so bad
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Exclusivity in a relationship is based on detente, this is the consequences otherwise, an arms race. Time for the Sino-Soviet split, when they both claim the other ruined the relationship which was fine before and started from the foundational principles their relationship was founded on. Hopefully they go nuclear of each other which would be giving each other aids.
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if you're dating for 7 years and not engaged then I'd expect the engagement to never come
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Is this your way of breaking up with me
our 7 year anniversary is tomorrow!!!
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Shit time really does fly huh
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7 yrs always seems to be the magic (cursed) number
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Exactly. If he hasn't put a ring on it by now, he's ready to find some new squeeze and looks like he has done just that.
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Lol good post. I'm actually close to believing this one.
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On the face of it, it could be real; it's got enough pathetic desperation (we're together seven years! he admitted he just wnated some fun on the side! why is he picking this new woman over me?)
If she had any self-respect, she'd dump him but "self-respect" and "poly" do not go together.
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She (male) admits she (again, male) pressed the arrangement so she (male) could do bdsm stuff with her ex.
Its completely fake.
Women dont admit (drop cuck hints) fault on an online forum.
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Classic Frozen Post
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8 months ago OP posted about trying frick a prof at her uni and saying she has a student prof fantasy
but she also has a bf of 7 years. Lets assume she is 24 that would shes been dating this man since 17 yet also has a super kinky ex.
https://old.reddit.com/r/Advice/comments/zliwiq/should_i_write_him_a_goodbye_letter
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https://old.reddit.com/r/Advice/comments/zliwiq/should_i_write_him_a_goodbye_letter/j05ntda
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I'm surprised at how many comments there are siding with the guy, and not being removed to boot.
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Poly foids are weird and prioritize defending the sanctity of ENM over foids that want to keep their husband's peepee to themselves.
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Because she sounds like she is committing the one sin they can't abide: jealousy. She should be delighted he's finding all this love and romance with his new chick, not being clingy and expecting him to put her first.
The amount of back-pattting poly people do about not experiencing jealousy and this is what makes them superior to monogamy is incredible. So of course they're all on his side, not hers, because if they were on her side, they'd be admitting poly isn't the greatest thing ever and people do get hurt.
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It's the poly sub. They live in their delusion that if you adhere to rules that everything will work out. So if it doesn't work out you must have broken the rules.
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would you let me be your side chick?
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No. Feel that shirt you're wearing? It's boyfriend material
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not even good enough to be a side chick to a girl dating a shirt
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woke chad
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This is why poly relationships don't work. Yea she was lied to and probably has a legitimate reason to feel duped. But if she complains, now she's the complaining girlfriend who is always negative - only making the other girl more attractive
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Welcome to the life of 99.9% of men in "open" relationships. Sucks, right?
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Why the heck do people think "opening the relationship" is a good idea? The first warning sign is "we're together seven years but not married yet". If he was serious about this relationship, he would have proposed by now. But he's getting s*x and domestic benefits without having to fully commit, why would he change anything? Now he gets to have fun with the new chick on top of that.
This is already over, she just doesn't recognise it. He's already picked the new woman, the best thing is to end it now rather than hang on pathetically until he finally dumps her.
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The gigaest of all chads
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A lot of Redditors really need to read the old xoomer book "He's just not that into you" because it applies to so many of their lives. The men on /r/GuyCry have the same problem different gender.
Krayon sexually assaulted his sister.
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You and your little "drama" buddies are too busy staring at men's bussies to know an attractive woman if she swam up to you in anthropomorphic-shark form and let you frick her on a cold, windy cape cod beach.
Snapshots:
archive.org
ghostarchive.org
archive.ph (click to archive)
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