Just to get it out of the way, he probably was trying to tap that. This was recommended to a lot of people's feed so there are accusations of "not a real lawyer" flying around that I'm not going to bother posting.

OP:

We have a new undergrad intern (a young woman, perhaps 19 years old), and I thought I'd take her to lunch to welcome her and answer questions about the work. Simple, right? Apparently, taking a female intern out to lunch is now a high-risk situation requiring oversight.

When we got back, it was suggested in the future that I invited other attorneys and avoided going to lunch one-on-one with female interns.

Lesson learned, and in hindsight I get where the firm is coming from. I still think it's a bit of an overreaction, though. I've gotten mixed responses when I've told people this. I'm curious what the subreddit thinks

His darning follow up post where he admits to having something in common with her and actually talked to her.

[–]TurnDownTheRadioJerk[S] -47 points 3 days ago

So here's more: I'm a 24 year old first year and the school she's going to is the same school I went to for undergrad, and she even has some of the same professors I had. We got talking and I asked her to lunch. No, I don't assign her work, but we seem to get along. Yes, there are other interns, but I haven't really had to talk to them yet

Responses to the follow up:

That sounds a little better than I initially imagined, given your ages are pretty close and the power dynamics aren't super crazy off (I'm assuming you don't have much influence at your firm). But your follow-up also makes it sound more like you are in fact trying to hit on her (or at least become her friend), and your firm gave you good advice. You shouldn't be doing anything that looks like you might be looking for a romantic relationship with anyone subordinate to you

Yea OP is totally hitting on her he wouldnt have done this for a dude I'm guessing.

That is pure speculation on your part, is really hard to imagine forming connections and mentorship in a professional field without ulterior motives. It seems reasonable to plausible to me I have gone to lunch with both male and female colleagues.

Dude… that's a crush let's be real, and you were testing the waters.

There's nothing mentor-ly about this. You were trying to get to know her in a personal capacity 😭

Why did this get so downkongd?

Because the world of genuine courteous courtship has gone entirely to the wayside and in its stead is this hyper-sensitive environment. All of this whilst people complain that they can't meet others organically anymore.

He's a young man and shes a young woman. If he is courteous and respectful in his proceeding with her and he doesn't have power over her directly or otherwise in the firm, I don't see the issue. Statistically, the workplace used to be a great place to meet your spouse.

Young man and a younger** woman. She's a teenager AND an intern. He is an adult who can drink and her mentor at a law firm trying to isolate her. He can treat all the interns or a few more so they arent alone.

There is nothing improper, legally or ethically, about a 24 year old and a 19 year old dating

Got ourselves a over here.

Other Responses:

More context is needed. Are there more interns than just her? Are you working closely with her? If you were her direct supervisor or somebody formally assigning her work, and she was the only intern, I don't think it would necessarily be weird. If you were some random associate who just showed up and was like, "Yo, wanna grab lunch", and didn't invite any of the male interns in the same room, I could see how that might not have the best appearance

I think he left them out on purpose. He didn't want to look like a creep

Two comments in we have him being called a creep. Doesn't appear to be a lawyer and posts in a really odd mix of subreddits including /r/aupairs.

Barely a crumb of context which might be explanatory in itself.

Is this the only intern you've ever taken out? If so, why this sudden exception?

Is she the only intern? If not, why exactly did you choose her and her alone?

Do you work more closely with her than anyone else? Most attorneys work more closely with paralegals, so why her and not them?

[–]PoundTown68 -35 points 3 days ago

That's a lot of useless questions. In a sane world, two consenting adults can go to lunch without concern. Two consenting adults should be able to do whatever they want together if we're being honest. This is exactly why feminists should be ignored. We've allowed them to create a culture of fear, where everyone is tiptoes around unnecessary regulation that benefit nobody….except for 40 year old feminists, jealous that they're no longer sexually attractive, who want to force everyone else to be unhappy with them. Misery loves company.

Darn, found the incel

$100 this guy sexually harasses people on the daily

Yeah, I mean, look alive brother. Avoiding the appearance of a questionable situation is very easy if you have situational awareness.

Was it actually questionable? That's not the right question and doesn't matter (unless it got weird). Protect yourself and the firm. Heck, the vast majority of lunches I went to as an intern or otherwise young firm employee were with multiple people, now that I think about it.

This is crazy. Taking someone out to a business lunch in a public place is not out of bounds or even close.

Why was this intern chosen for a solo business lunch with an older male attorney? I'm not saying OP had any untoward intentions, but let's not pretend the optics don't raise valid concerns.

Also, though, based on the follow up, op definitely does have untoward intentions

The optics of it are not great. Put yourself in the shoes of a supervising partner. Perhaps his 28 years old associate has no bad intention when he asks the 19 year old intern to lunch. Perhaps the 28 year old intern has romantic intentions. Partner has no idea. Does the 19 year old intern know your intentions. Did you take any male interns to lunch. If there is no romantic intention perhaps bring along another associate (perhaps female) and more than one intern or staffer.

Yeah he has to think what the firm partners would think if this 30 year old associate took the 19 year old to lunch. It's a bad look when a 34 year old associate is doing that with an 18 year old intern. The 17 year old intern doesn't know she can decline the lunch invite from the 38 year old.

When I was a 19 year old college student, I invited a visiting professor to lunch to discuss their career. I thought thats what we were supposed to do "networking" and all, build a rapport. The lunch was 100% professional the entire time. No drinking. I paid for myself. All day time hours in public. Afterwards i was invited into the deans office and told that my behavior was inappropriate and unprofessional and that I needed to learn my place and not be so forward. When I was ultimately asked to leave the school (we aren't expelling you, we want to encourage you to go to a place better fitted for you) they cited my inappropriate relationships with visiting professors as one of the reasons.

It was humiliating.

15 years later that school got sued into the ground for 30 decades of sexual abuse against minors.

(am woman)

Talk about getting absolutely on.

I think they are trying to help you out.

I went to not-lunch with a support staff ... we were both new to the org, and she accused me of being a predator. And then coworkers hacked my email and spread it around the community. It was too late by the time we established that she was lying, for my email inbox was everywhere and the firm decided I had to leave before I could figure it out.

You need to be extraordinarily careful.

I found one of the few dissenting voices that wasn't downkongd into oblivion.

I strongly disagree with this take. Be professional about it. Make sure it's a public place, but refusing to take women to lunch in a professional environment is Mike Pence culture crap that prevents women from having the same opportunities as men.

IMO, a work culture that discourages men from meeting 1 on 1 with women is a massive red flag and usually the #1 sign that the employer has fostered an anti-woman environment.

There is a difference between "men and women can't have lunch together" and "attorney shouldn't take young intern of the opposite s*x to lunch alone". The power imbalance inherent in the latter certainly has a higher chance of producing a bad situation, from either direction (attorney actually taking advantage, or intern falsely claiming they did).

Keeping that sort of thing as a small group activity avoids all the possible issues.

Muh power imbalance.

You're a lawyer and don't understand professional conduct or ethics?

OP about to be disbarred.

Why is no one talking about the 19 year old intern's perspective. That's what matters here. And that's what the others at the firm are focused on, not the intentions of the OP.

Possibly the most incorrect response in the whole thread.

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Terrifier is a horror slasher film series known for its extreme gore

Take time to read the very reasonable, if not meek take from the director of the slasher in regard to their horror slasher franchise. Why he tweeted this I have no idea

> : that's nice but what about the LGBT community. Im gay btw

more fun in the quotes

The horror fanbase apparently is like the punk and DnD now

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The Education Workforce Council's fitness to practise panel was informed of Mr Jones' admission regarding his remarks to a year eight student, calling him a "tramp" and suggesting he "should go back to the special class".

On the day of the incident, the boy caused disruption in a low ability year eight class, where most pupils had a reading age of six, despite being 12 or 13 years old.

Wales moment

Arriving late to class, the boy requested a pen and proceeded to make derogatory comments about the teacher's weight, asking if he had "sunk the Titanic" or "ate the whole menu in Burger King" before labelling the teacher a tramp.

Mr Jones admitted that he had yelled "shut your face" at a student known as Learner B during a school assembly when he thought the pupil had called him "the n word".

The pupil insisted that he had referred to the teacher as a "nugget", not the "n word",

Now the s are getting involved

Ms Davies Bottomley also noted that Mr Jones had leaned over and was "in close proximity" to Learner B as he shouted "shut your face", which she perceived as "quite aggressive".

nooo not close proximity

Headteacher Melanie Ferron-Evans, who employed Mr Jones as an NQT in 2015 and promoted him to head of religious studies, said he had always been an enthusiastic member of staff. She said that seemed to change after the pandemic during which he was "very poorly with Covid".

uhhh yeah I have long covid which forces me to call children c*nts

He had been under diagnosis for sleep apnoea at the time and was getting only three hours sleep a night.

Maybe he really did eat the entire BK menu

On top of this, the teacher said he was dealing with splitting up with his partner of nine years.

omg why is this even relevant? my mans is having his entire life torn apart on Manchester Live? Bro..

Reddit discusses the ethical implications of calling a child a tramp

Talk to me like an "adult" and you'll get replied to like an "adult"

I am britain's NUMBER ONE CHILD PUNCHER

I'd like to invite you to work in a children's home for a few days with me and see how far your attitude gets you. Let's not bother getting into a discussion about how your attitude will contribute to immense generational decay.

TikTok is already doing enough generational decay. Kids getting some consequences isn't going to hurt.

I can verbally abuse children because of.. a mobile app

I only made it half way through the article but I think teachers should be able to tell students to frick off.

All you have to do is set clear boundaries, punishments for crossing boundaries and then stick by them 100%, while remaining calm and respectful yourself.

Just roll over for them chud

Remember a teacher getting struck off in Scotland, - the little twat asked the teacher "why are you so fat?" - the teacher collapsed the arse off the wee twat with "every time I pump your maw, she makes me a sandwich" !!

And probably found himself a nice private sector job that is better paid, less stressful and less demanding as a result. And we as a society lost a teacher.

British 'person' try not to be relentlessly miserable for 3 seconds challenge

I'm more concerned with the teachers who abuse kids, or just the general fricking disgrace of schools and lack of adequate funding,

British 'person' try not to say 'underfunded' for 3 seconds challenge

Good on the teacher for telling him to frick off. Children these days have absolutely zero respect,

Every teacher I know has way more issues with parents than the kids.

They're too fricking fat for starters

Teacher was in the right, frick them kids! - 88 votes

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Minor spoilers, but if you want a list of things that indicate to me that KCD2 is not an "anti-woke" game: * Multiple gay romances, including with a major story character * There are multiple major characters who are Roma * Major ally who is sub-Saharan African * Major ally who is Jewish

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The reviews for the new medieval gay romance game are up, some sites like Guardian and IGN are giving it praises, with scores like 10/10 and 9/10 respectively. This is already suspicious to /v/ users, who comment on it on the review thread:

https://boards.4chan.org/v/thread/702003948

However, one review in particular brings attention, written by IGN, where the author further confirms on Bluesky that the game indeed got the big gay:

Not only is the "gay romance" in, there are multiple gay romances, multiple gay characters, multiple ethnicities, a whole jew pogrom questline and the major romance is with Hans, a deuteragonist from the first game, who was 15 in it

The character is a confirmed strag and game gives us choice to respond to his advances.

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