It is what it is

>I and my boys (all 30 year old -cels) were playing CS and queue'd up with a random Swede or something and near the end of the game he said "This was the most fun I've had in a long time" and I started fricking crying.

Very female brained

its ok to be empathetic, its what makes you a human bro, I say you should embrace your human spirit and do as much good as possible in this world. Sometimes I look at the world around me and just feel rage at the injustices I see, gives me inspiration and willpower to keep going so I can change things.

Literally just stop caring

stoicism is stupid anyways, people tend to forget marcus aurelius was a literal cuck that used stoicism to cope.

I just gave them like 20€

A balkanoid stuck in a westoid country? He just like me, Fr!

To me, it sounds like you just need to get out of your own head.

A lot of overemotionality/irrational behavior is rooted in people retreating into themselves and engaging with emotions in ways/to degrees that do not correspond to reality. As an example, a person may get irrationally angry at someone who slights them, not because of the slight itself but because they retreat into their minds and think about the slight as being the tip of the iceberg for many other things e.g. "they did that on purpose because they don't respect me. nobody respects me. They're laughing at me. Everybody's laughing." And it's this subconscious internalized dialog that makes them furious about something that may in fact have been a totally one off accident where nobody's thinking about them one way or the other.

In your case, it sounds like you come into contact with some slightly provoking negative thought, you impose an extremely pessimistic viewpoint on it, and then your imagination runs wild with suppositions. It's a situation that can quickly grow out of control because of the nature of imagination--only in our imaginations can the monsters under our beds grow to reality defying proportions. When looked at head on and in reality, we are forced to recognize their limited scope, and the fact that they are not usually even scary at all. The exchange with your friend could've easily been a case of hyperbole on his part, and the polish guys could be argumentative by nature or have just been temporarily short on cash. You have no way of knowing in both cases, and there's no use in supposing about them either way with limited information.

To fix this, you need to start recognizing when you're spiraling into suppositions and you need to cut yourself off. Focus on concrete things, tactile things, things you know for certain. Force yourself to assume the positive, and if you have trouble believing it, tell yourself positive things and try to imagine it, even just if in theory. It's not about denying emotions, but engaging with them in a way that reflects reality and not how you darkly assume things to be. It's a training process, but as long as you recognize these negative/irrational spirals when they happen, you can start confronting and denying them and take control.

These solutions wont solve your problem but they will put you in a better spot to address them:

• Exercise

• Good sleep/diet

• Do something meaningful everyday

I know you already dismissed the idea of reading Marcus Aurelius but you should give it shot (Not just with him but other philosophers as well). It may not mean anything now but overtime you might pick up a couple ideas that you can apply to your life that might change your thinking. Nietzches works are always a good place to start.

I was pretty emotional when I was much younger (not so much now) but I rationalized everything that made me sad as just being part of life and those events for the most part were out of my control, but I could choose how I reacted to them. Because at the end of the day you're gonna wakeup the next day and do it all again no matter if you want to or not.

I've had the opposite happen to me. After being depressed for like two years, I managed to overcome the depression but even now I still feel numb compared to my earlier years. I wish I still had that chaotic energy of emotions i felt before, but im still struggling to find it. But nonetheless, even if i never find that feeling ever again, I'll keeping moving forward and make the best of what i have.

Exercise or something would help

this is gonna sound super generic but

turn off the pc, punch a wall, go for a walk, do house chores, buy a bike, keep yourself safe, hit the gym, get a haircut, buy new clothes, buy me a gpu please i want to play strive , start a creative hobby like playing an instrument or painting

ive been pretty much stuck at home for some weeks now, not being able to go for a walk or hit the gym has some sort of domino effect in me. i start eating worse, spending the day rotting away, masturbating way too much and to 3d porn (i try to keep to 2d/hentai), my thoughts get all messed up...

even if i hate it in the moment, the benefits those things bring me are very noticeable.

so maybe you just need to change some basic stuff? who knows

Tut mir echt leid Brudi ich kenne viele so ne Hässlo-Schicksale wie deins.

Selbst das ödeste Leben ist interessant und kurios und das sollte man immer wertschätzen, insbesondere wenn man sowieso nichts besseres zu tun hat. Aus einer vernünftigen Perspektive heraus betrachtet spielen deine persönlichen Gefühle zwar eine wichtige aber letztlich untergeordnete Rolle. Aber Perspektive hat ja auch nicht jeder...

Ich erinnere mich auch an alles Falls du kiffst, hör auf zu kiffen. Mehr Input durch soziale Interaktionen hilft ein bisschen aber verhindert auch nicht die zwangsgestörte Sauerei, die man mit den zu vielen Informationen anstellt. Wenn es einen immer zu Extremen hinzieht, verdeutlicht das nur umso mehr wie wichtig es ist, nach einem gesunden Mittelweg zu streben bei allem, wo man sich so wiederfindet. Für manche kann dieser Weg vielleicht nur auf einer Abstraktionsebene liegen, in der die eigenen Gefühle nichts sind als eine weitere Gegebenheit, der man eben so ausgesetzt ist von Tag zu Tag.

GaLiGrü

When I was a teenager I would go 3-5 days without sleep and binge gore videos on LiveLeak to try to become a psychopath so girls would like me, child.

Possible brain tumor

I'll respond tommorow, I need to sleepmaxx right now

Testesterone injections, stat

Also a tola of hash costs 20 euros and you can pack maybe 120-130 bowls with it lol. I really miss hash.

The problem is likely partially that you don't have enough new stimuli, if you've gotten into the same routine then you might develop emotional dyregulation as you become numb to the expected and hyperaware of the novel. This just seems like standard emotional dyregulation honestly which is often the result of high stress, anxiety, or shame which wears down your ability to regulate and filter emotions resulting in them being expressed in their total extreme. I'm not saying that your BPD as it's also comorbid with autism. It's also common if you've had your emotions and feelings invalidated consistently which resulted in you refusing to express them out of fear of being called an incel loser.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7375152/

If you have had a tendency of suppressing strong emotions rather than trying to temper them then that's likely the reason. Your stewing in the same problems and lifestyle without any noticable progression which wears you down. You have a predetermined response for a majority of your life, as it's the same every day, and extreme reactions to anything novel.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emotional_dysregulation

You might also have alexithymia, the inability to accurately express your emotions, which is comorbid autism.

Could also be a hormonal imbalance(unlikely)

The best solution is likely exploring new hobbies/interests, breaking up what you do within your schedule while retaining the basic schedule structure, exercise(this helps with hormonal balance and general emotional regulation), and reading Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Made Simple: 10 Strategies for Managing Anxiety, Depression, Anger, Panic, and Worry as this is unironically what Cognitive Behavioral Therapy was designed for, regulating emotions without invalidating them through recontextualization. Make consistent and achievable goals, make small changes to your life that you know will stick and over the weeks escalate them.

https://www.apa.org/ptsd-guideline/patients-and-families/cognitive-behavioral

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapy-types/cognitive-behavioral-therapy

Also a consistent sleep schedule,in particular waking up at the same time everyday, is very useful.

It’s part of growing older even tough that sound cliche it’s so. Also after many hardship and sadnesses having a bright moment with your friend bringing some joy because you know that’s not probably where you wanted to end up when you were 14 so him enjoying it kinda hit a nerve like despite it being not what you wanted he still enjoys is.

As fix you won’t be able to fix it and will become only more emotional. Only alternative is becoming a psycho and that’s probably not what you want.

So don’t think much about crying and shit you guys ain’t teenagers anymore and assuming you don’t pretend to impress foids so don’t shame your self for being a human being.

I hope you got my point

Idk if you're 'tistic or anything but you can actively learn to suppress your emotional side - because, in my experience, it's hard to 'mature' emotionally as an neurodivergent. Feels like you pretty much have an adult neocortex sitting on a childlike limbic system. You get better and better at masking and as long as you avoid emotionally intense situations, and avoid making yourself vulnerable by drinking or being yourself around people, you should be fine. You'll be that 'stoic', 'monotone' neurodivergent guy who doesn't really feel (except he actually has intense emotions he suppresses and the occasional breakdown where he has to hide in his room). Pretty sure most non-neurodivergent men do this suppression technique too, to an extent.

I would recommend against this. I've masked for so long and taken so many drugs to suppress my emotions, I can't even feel sad or even happy when I want or need to feel those things. It's just... void. If you really want to do it though, and bypass the effort it takes to actually 'mask', you could get SSRIs from a psychiatrist. They should blunt your emotions and make you feel like a robot - but don't say I didn't warn you.

Your other option is to embrace it and try to really 'mature' your emotional side by trying to understand why you feel the way you do (this is the hardest part for neurodivergents) and accepting that feeling sad or angry or any negative emotion is better than feeling nothing at all, and it's really quite amazing that you can feel anything. Many people get help with this from cognitive behavioral therapy. For me, LSD helped a lot to push me in that direction - but I haven't figured my own brain out yet and I've made very little progress recently, so I can't help much more on this front. I'm a bit younger than you pretty sure but you're still young. You've got time to grow and shit.

Hope this all means something to you, idk man.

I usually go hiking, camping or boating/swimming in an isolated place with no one around for a day every month or so to vent all my misgivings and emotions where no one can see me.

I'm sure the local wildlife is a bit annoyed of me screaming like a madman but it actually really helps since I feel really refreshed and calm afterwards. Plus the outdoors and peace is very soothing for me.

Have you tried journaling? Even just free writing about literally anything to get shit out of your head and onto paper helps otherwise it will sit and churn. It sounds gay, but it works for some people because then the brain is like, "okay, I can stop thinking about that now and move on." Try it every day for a week, just fill at least a page with whatever comes to mind.

Exercise is also very helpful

Looking up cognitive distortions might help put some labels and words to thoughts and feelings you're having

Ive had this happen occasionally too, it goes away on its own. I've noticed that the most emotionally stable people have ways of distracting themselves for situations they might find themselves in and give their brain time to process it in the background ie its not about willpower or following a routine it is clearing your mind for a while.

As for myself I've stopped caring if I get emotional it's not like I have something important to do anyway. And its hard not to, living where I live, seeing so many people in misery

To give a contrasting opinion to most of what is given in this thread: I would assign a significant probability to philosophy and psychology not being capable to help with the issues you are having besides placebo. Even when in therapy, whatever is "working" is not the technicalities they teach you, but maybe something in the process of therapy itself.. ) (At least for me, therapy and self-improvement/ philosophy didn't work)

It all smells of bullshit. And when reading these replies, keep the common bias in mind that people who "fail" tend to think that it's their environment and try to cope (i. e. incels) while people who succeed tend to put responsibility on themselves and therefore give advice in threads like these about how their totally mentally healthy and welladjusted because they worked so hard to deal with their mental issues instead of being just lucky to have the right genes that predispose them towards being more optimistic (stuff like optimistic outlook on life is very heritable, in USA at least). So it's very possible that the advice you read online is mostly survivorship-bias with a fair dose of the blind leading the blind.

That said, from personal experience and research I have found three things that work somewhat

Preventative

1. Get enough sleep, preferably at the same time each day in a good environment

This is by far the biggest thing for me. Fricking this up makes me much more emotional, in all directions. I become more dramatic, easier to anger, despair faster but can also achieve higher highs. I can't get this one right despite knowing this. I think it scales multiplicative with the second point:

2. "Bad" Stress

Stress either let's me perform far above my baseline or make me an emotional trainwreck. "Good" stress is often very acute, for example performing in an exam. Bad stress is often the nagging feeling that I'm not fast enough that's always in the back of my mind. Sadly, it's not easy to get under control. Even during my NEET phase I was "stressed" due to intense feelings of social failure.

Acute

Sadly, these preventative factors are incredibly hard to manage (at least for me). Best I can do for sleep is use good curtains and earplugs and having a nice bed, but actually managing my sleep schedule is above my abilities. I modulate stress somewhat by becoming a shut in so one time sink falls away.. My agency is very limited with regards to these two.

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Yo loser cel when the gayming poll coming out?

Treasure your fun moments, and self-reflection isn't a bad thing. Aristotle has his golden mean which sought a moral life through moderation of his "virtue ethics," so too much self-reflection can easily become self-destructive and full of self-doubt. Don't let it paralyze you.

drink

I hope you're doing better now

You sure your not just a fem bottom b-word girlie?

Yeah, astrology is bullshit. Right. I totally projected being emotionally and mentally abused, gaslit, and physically assulted by my first Taurus bf, projected being r*ped twice by my second Taurus bf, was emotionally, mentally, and physically abused by my Taurus mother so acutely that my therapist called it PSYCHOLOGICAL TORTURE. I must have also "projected" my Taurus MIL being incredibly racist toward me and my family, insulting me constantly for no reason, using any excuse in the book to attack me, and refusing to acknowledge that I married her son. I must have also projected my Taurus co-worker bullying me and other people in the office so often that she was DEMOTED in her position as supervisor. I must have also projected my Leo boyfriend abandoning me while I was miscarrying our CHILD and leaving me to deal with the grief alone, only to call me a month later sobbing about how "guilty" he felt for leaving me.

Please find somewhere else to exist and spew nonsense about people and situations you know nothing about.