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Why Dating Feels Like a Nightmare for Young Women Right Now

https://www.thecut.com/article/tiktok-videos-single-women-crying.html

Moid foid :marseysob: :marseysoycry:

A foid is sad, have fun, rdrama.

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All the women I spoke with said they feel apps have turned dates into transactions

Women asked for this lol.

Ok it's a little unfair to blame women as a whole for this but seriously what did they expect given the trajectory of at least the last 15 years?

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>Dating as a young woman

>32

:#surejan:

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Life fuel for 90s girlies

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I want Gameboy :marseyprincesszeldatoon: Color :marseyracistcheck2: back. I want the teal and purple :marseygojo: "Jazz" swoosh thing back. I want Discovery Zone back. I want to be able to describe anything :marseycoleporter: with gay, r-slurred, or tight back. :marseycrying: :marseytears:

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Gameboy Color is back though, with tetris too

https://modretro.com/products/chromatic-tetris-bundle

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This one looks cool too but I just use MyBoy! On my phone :marseygossipshock: πŸ—Ώ

https://www.analogue.co/pocket

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I want Gameboy Color back

Yeah, I just beat Orace of Ages and Seasons :marseybuff#:


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I want to pay 90s girls to try and fit it the outfits they wore in the 90s

On 2nd thought I hate seeing women cry

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:marseyconfused2: do you wear the same size as when you were 8???

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Yes

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lmao I just saw a fat joke and had to make

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:#marseycope: :#marseycope: :#marseycope: :#!marseycope: :#!marseycope: :#!marseycope:

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Women under 25 love the new system :incel:

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DOWN BAD.

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She is not hot enough to be a bpd foid.

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Midosaurus :#dinover:

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!foidmoment

!codecels maintain infosec at all times

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If he was sleeping with his bluetooth on he deserved it.

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:#marseymanysuchcases:

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But he would have to accept the connection on his phone.

Do Tiktok girls just go and lie for sympathy from strangers?

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Not if he already had connected to her car in the past.

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Do Tiktok girls just go and lie for sympathy from strangers?

:#marseypearlclutch:

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yes, actually

it's a whole genre

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The white girl idubbbz cancelled for "say BIPOC" made up like 90% of her content.

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Yea that kind of behavior is why he would cheat on you

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I bet !slots100 they weren't even officially dating and she wanted to be exclusive

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I'm an old fart but this whole "exclusive" thing is so bizarre to me. I brought her up last night but one of my chick friends will go on a 3rd date with a guy and come back to tell me how amazing he is and that she hopes it works out, only to book dates with 3 other guys from dating apps in the next week

It makes me understand why guys in their late teens and 20s made Andrew Tate famous. So glad I grew up in a world before dating apps

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It was crazy to me when I first heard one of my friends going on a 4th date and asking if it was alright to still be hooking up with people, that same night.

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:marseypikachu2: :marseynotes:

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Sometimes I think maybe misogyny is wrong, but then every single time writers like these come along to show us all why it's a thing in the first place

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There's a reason every single religion that ever got anywhere restricted women's agency

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NY Gossip :marseysmug5: mags are a blessing and I hope Gawker comes back to life for the fifth time soon

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How much longer do I have to pray and manifest and wait?

Maybe God would answer these women's prayers if they stopped mixing new age beliefs in with them and actually went to Church. :marseyandjesus:

Or moved out of Austin and NYC, lol. Other than maybe Portland those have to be the worst places in the country to find a remotely masculine and relationshippable man who isn't already taken. :marseywomanmoment2:

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>Portland

Chicks here are weird. I know a bunch who are with hobosexuals and complain about them constantly but that's the only type of guy they ever go for. I dated a girl I wanted to get serious with but she wanted to keep it casual, then she meets this junkie and suddenly wants a boyfriend. I started seeing this other girl recently and after a couple dates she says she can't see me anymore because she thinks she might be a lesbian and wants to try out being a poly lesbian, two weeks later she's texting me to smash.

:#marseyitsover:

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Why do you live in Portland? :marseyrofl:

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THEY SETTLED down...

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dated a girl I wanted to get serious with but she wanted to keep it casual, then she meets this junkie and suddenly wants a boyfriend

:m#arseyl:

Dis neighbor got mogged by a homeless drug addict

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Reported by:

Portland

Apart from @Redactor0 of course. That just goes without saying.

@Redactor0 stand with Israel.

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Idk, personally Id like if my man was able to wear shoes tbh :marseysmug:

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And 911roofer

:@911rooferlove::@911rooferlove::@911rooferlove:

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Maybe God would answer these women's prayer

:#marseysal:

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Haas swore off Bumble and Hinge more than a year ago, finding that most guys just pretended to want something serious in order to get laid. (Since posting her video, she says two men she previously matched with sent unprompted peepee pics.) Anissa, a 31-year-old corporate lawyer who asked to go by a pseudonym, tells me the guys she meets seem interested in β€œconquest” while she and other single women are β€œtrying to just find their person.” She describes three male archetypes she has encountered on the apps: β€œHe either wants to have s*x with you immediately. Or he's already in a relationship and is just so obviously noncommittal. Or he's obsessed with you.” One guy lied to her about his job and where he lived, another confessed last-minute to being in an open relationship, and the last man she went on a date with became overly attached to her after spending only a few hours together. She flaked on their follow-up plans. β€œThere's a sickness where we don't see people as people because of the apps,” she says. β€œWe always think that there's something β€˜better' out there.”

Thats what you get whoring yourself out and not actually trying to develop a friendship with that person.

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As someone with chick friends who are on dating apps "obsessed with you" can literally mean "responds timely".

It's why i don't buy these sob stories for a second. I've seen one my friends dodge great guys because they wouldn't play her stupid little hard to get games. I asked her where the middle of responding too quickly and too late is and was told "it's just a vibe"

Dating apps made bitches way too confident but it also put them in a position where they think they deserve the perfect man who doesn't exist so it's fun to spectate until i have to listen to her blame everyone but herself

She has no job, her dad pays for everything, and she doesn't even have a driver's license. But she will judge these men hard, while she brings nothing besides being an 8/10

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The best is when they claim that the reason they are single is that guys are intimidated by them. My wife's single friends are insane. Sally, no one is intimidated by your project management job, and the fact that you are complaining to a married friend who is more accomplished than your should clue you in.

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Yeah, a lot of professional women are just combative and high-maintenance. Why is this an asset in a relationship? I don't need to be half of a DINK powercouple or whatever, I just need a pleasant, trustworthy bangmaid. She doesn't even need to be particularly pretty. The old sexual division of labor still makes sense in 2024.

But of course if I tell your average post-wall foid this, then I'm an abuser, an exploiter, a manchild, I'm intimidated by strong women, I'm shallow, blah blah blah. Yet I still sleep at night. Cuddled up with pretty young women.

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They imitate the "strong" women in TV, all while imitating the traits of men they're attracted to.

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Problem everyone has these days tbh. Can't separate what's attractive in them from what's attractive to them.

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All they need is constant attention except when they suddenly don't. If you can't sense that psychically then you're not a good man.

@Redactor0 stand with Israel.

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>while she brings nothing besides being an 8/10

Moids are constantly going on about how they don't care about interests or career or personality and they just want to bang a hottie, this is the obvious result.

See below: " just need a pleasant, trustworthy bangmaid." @laha you deserve every bland instathot you get.

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Moids are constantly going on about how they don't care about interests or career or personality and they just want to bang a hottie, this is the obvious result.

Nobody says that personality isn't important, they usually only bring it up when ugly and annoying chicks shriek about how nobody cares about their "amazing" personality. Everyone knows that a good personality is a modifier score to your physical attractiveness.

Her career legitimately doesn't matter though.

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The ugly chicks loudly talking about their great personalities don't have them. All the ugly chicks with actually nice personalities are in relationships.

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Good job omitting the following sentence saying "she doesn't even need to be particularly pretty" - I am obviously not chasing Instathots for this reason. Don't @ me if you're going to obviously misrepresent me, especially when yes a lot of guys do fall into this trap. I do care about interests or career or personality though. You have to pleasant, enjoy the same animus as me, and make little enough money that you're easily impressed that I'll pay for dates without a second thought.

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>Don't @ me if you're going to obviously misrepresent me,

Reported for dramamisia

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Jimmy, you're not stoking drama, you're just stupid

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>an 8/10

Those are rare. Most women aren't bringing that.

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This is a clear "common denominator" problem, similar to moids who complain that all women on dating apps are either scammers or just trying to market their OnlyFans... it seems like a valid complaint but it's actually a self-own that you are only focusing on women who are out of your league, so in the rare case you find someone who isn't a scammer she will have some massive red flags that explain why she's single.

In this case, the foid is obviously only swiping on (seemingly) wealthy single Gigachads and finding that the only ones who will pay her attention have issues. So she comes to the classical femcel conclusion that the problem is "all men".

I wish people crying about dating apps were forced to reveal their swiping history, because I'm guessing that in 90% of cases this would reveal the real problem.

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>In this case, the foid is obviously only swiping on (seemingly) wealthy single Gigachads and finding that the only ones who will pay her attention have issues. So she comes to the classical femcel conclusion that the problem is "all men".

Foidbrain logic makes perfect sense once you realize 80% of moids literally don't exist to them. It's one of those :marseymindblown: realizations that you can't unsee.

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Foids say the same thing about moids, I think the issue is just uggos existing. They should stop that

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nah moids are like the total opposite of foids in this regard, no standards at all, many moids will literally frick any 2/10 slampig if given the chance

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AKA dating apps are addictive and concentrating on one person can't compete with spinning the wheel.

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The obsessed one is the only one in her league.

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There's a sickness where we don't see people as people because of the apps,”

:cluelesstalking: she says

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Each woman offers different theories on why dating is such a drag right now. Taylor blames technology, and Spencer finds men her age are more interested in β€œgetting shit-faced in New York City every weekend” than in committing to a relationship, partly because the COVID-19 pandemic derailed their prime sexual years. Another woman in her early 30s tells me she has been on an eight-month break from dating men because she thinks they've become more politically conservative

IMO a lot of women's dating issues come down to too much competition for the same guy. Watching my female friends date/swipe it's obvious that they're (for the most part) all going after the same guys. It's no surprise then that these guys, who have basically unlimited options, behave really badly to each individual woman.

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It's the same as the housing market: we need to increase supply somehow.

I'll vote for any candidate who runs on a policy to dramatically scale up production of literate, funny moids with good hair and bad habits.

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My female friends have shown me the guys they swipe left on, or convos they've started and then didn't want to date the guy, and I seriously doubt there's a lot of space to upgrade these moids to be datable. I used to assume the girls were just being too picky but it's legit really bleak out there.

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:#marseyhesright:

It's a pipeline problem. We need to start when they're young to make sure they're emotionally damaged enough to be alluring but not so much so that they become abusive.

Also teaching them how to write a complete sentence wouldn't hurt.

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I'll vote for any candidate who runs on a policy to dramatically scale up production of literate, funny moids with good hair and bad habits.

i'm right here bb

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what is good hair? :marseythinkorino:

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It needs to look good but appear effortless and be in a style that compliments his face shape. It should look fun to run your fingers through and mega bonus points if it actually does feel nice (avoid too much product).

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That's asking way too much lol

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I have good hair

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At a certain age having it

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Make some of them gay and they'll get my vote

>I'll vote for any candidate who runs on a policy to dramatically scale up production of literate, funny moids with good hair and bad habits.

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its not women at the top, but men at the top, who are at the top top of the "dating scene"

I always thought the hottest women are the true winners b ut i'ts not the case

men will go for anything (by comparison) and the top 10% of dudes get attention from all women

but women are picky (at first) and always looking to get someone better than them in p much every way (they think they're a 10 but want Mr. 11 sigma)

hot dudes get infinity women and anyone below the top 20% of moids doesn't exist to girlies bc they're all 10s and deserve better

so hot women will limit themselves to the top .01% of dudes (who have infinite options)

in conclusion hot women are actually screwed bc the chances of finding a sigma who would actually be faithful is probably 0

this is why in failed societies where monogamy breaks down the end result is always one rich dude getting 15 wives

it's the logical conclusion of this behavior: more women get access to top men, men get as many women as they can afford

sucks for women overall, sucks for sub-9 males :marseyshrug: that's why we have had rules in society


but the problem is on foids for being so judmental and the solution is getting to know more people irl (this needs to be improved for all of us asocial !r-slurs across the board but is especially important for foids because they judge men they actually know more fairly than strangers)

and picking a potential mate from that group of irl friends or acquaintances instead of thinking you have a chance with the top 10% of dudes on a dating ap bc you don't. (for any more than one night at least)

the fundamental misunderstanding from foids is that if a man is willing to freak it then they must also want a relationship. when these are two different qualifictions for moids

and the misunderstanding from incels is that if you're nice then she will be atracted but its foids who have 2 different standards here: 'danger/attractiveness' and 'stability/niceness' are two different (often opposing) scales and without the first no amount of the second will make one like you.


anyway this is my conclusion after watching every hoe_math video a couple weeks ago :marseybardfinnsbiggestenjoyer:

im basically enlightened on the issue :marseybigbrain: but I have birds and so dn't need women :marseythumbsup:

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Hoe math?

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someone linked a video here

so I went and watched all of them

:marseybrain: im a better person for it

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OUT!

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>How much longer do I have to pray and manifest and wait?

>"manifest"

>"wait"

Not living in the end :marseyflagbarbados: Ngmi

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I actually read the article its the basic cookie cutter women sob stories.

The real drama is in the comments.

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>claims there's great drama in the comments

>posts none of it.

:marseysmughips:

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im on mobile atm so didnt want to effortpost.

Its a lot of catty 30+ women shouting that its actually everyone elses fault they are alone. very funny.

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This was ur post bb

U should be posting comments instead of forcing the emotional labor on @HMS-Warspite

!thotpatrollers

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I can't see them because I don't have an account for The Cut. :marseyconeofshame:

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Stop being such a broke b-word and maybe u won't be single

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You need some money, girl?

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Post some, since I cant see them

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And make sure you demand free dinner to show your hvw status :marseynails:

Men figure out where they place you after the first date. If you take a walk around the park as your first date, they put you in the low-maintenance placeholder status (who has low standards). It may be ironic and they usually won't outright admit it, but they respect the woman who demands more on the first date (like a proper dinner) because they know she has higher standards and likely has other options as their male competition.

As a woman, when you show you have low standards, you unconsciously signify that you don't have many options and are thus lower status. And hard truth here, but men don't marry the placeholder who they see as low status and don't respect.

Which triggers a slap fight:

:marseysurejan: Straight women, take notes! Low key park and coffee dates might just safeguard you from wasting your time with insecure, superficial, misogy-weirdo cishet men who describe women who are not materialistic, and not looking to be β€˜kept' (like a pet) as β€˜placeholders.'

:marseynails: I'm a woman and I'm trying to help women from becoming placeholders. They tend to after listening to crap β€œcool girl” advice like yours. Who would have thought that men don't respect β€œcool girls”? πŸ™„

:marseysurejan: Your helpful observant woman claim is mighty sus, hun.

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There's a reason this b-word is single, and it's because she has no clue what she's talking about. Unless you're trying to smash nothing but 10s, no guy is looking to put that much work into a woman they don't know, and what makes dudes think a woman is low value, is when she has a 2 personality, 4 looks and the demands of an 11.

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We've got the 40 year old divorcΓ©e with b-word face that has the requirement of protection. :marseyweeb:

Divorced childfree straight woman here, late 40s. Never used apps, my dating heyday was before there was swiping. Took a long break post-divorce and haven't ventured back into dating pool. A lot of time to reflect and I've distilled my wants down to 3 - straight male who is 1) emotionally mature, 2) naturally smells good, and 3) can physically protect me if ever needed. I don't know how I'll meet anyone because I am hypervigilant about safety when I'm outside and give off β€œdon't eff with me” vibes.

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>late 40s

>my dating heyday was before there was swiping

:marseypikachu2:

>I've distilled my wants down to a modest three: :gigachad2: :gigachad4: :gigachad3:

>what I bring to the table are my off-the-charts neuroticism and resting b-word face

:marseyxd: okay who of you wrote this?

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I like that even the post-wall bare minimum spinsters won't consider a bisexual moid :marseyxd:

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The specificity makes me think her ex-husband upped and left her for a male one day :marseysmug2:

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Why dont you take a shower get more hobbies and join more clubs to meet people :3

You wanted this freedom so bad so enjoy it :marseyteehee: or all become celibate it just means more men for me :marseyhomofascist: do straight women even like men?

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Haha, homosexual

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I can't even be bothered with caring about these eggless losers. They can't breed and they can't sneed, who gives a shit :marseywhatever:

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They can't breed and they can't sneed, who gives a shit

The dumb broads still vote and find a way to make it your problem regardless.

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These foids are r-slurred. Stable guys looking for long term relationships aren't on dating apps and never were. That's like a foid expecting to pick up a sober man at the bar. The Future is Female! Hooray!

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Stable guys are way more likely to be on these apps than stable girls. The ratio of men to women is like 3 to 1

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Lol

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relevant commentary (reposted here for your convenience)

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This b-word pushing her floor with her legs and squeezing her butt to add those exaggerated titty shakes.

Don't get me wrong I 1000% :marseywould: (but couldn't) I just wanted to comment on the shamelessness of it :marseyxd:

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:marseynotes:

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:#marseymommymilkers:

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Get over and get called a creep, scrote! :marseynails:

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We're out on the high seas somewhere, on a roll-on/roll-off ferry, she's holding an open container of baby oil when suddenly a rogue wave…

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good lord those titty jiggles

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There are a few layers to this and they don't really have to do with what she's saying. Do most foids realize they're getting put down as they watch this?

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I think in this case she knows very well what she is doing. Her whole pose is set up in a way to accentuate her body (arm positioned in a way to hide belly fat and push out titties) in a way that even female hyperrationalization can't account for

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:marseyblops2cel: :handshake: :marseywall:

All Moidcels and Foidcels will die off. They will be certainly doomed to extinction.

The only thing that is more certain than that, is the wisdom and blessings of Allah (PBUH) :marseysalat:

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it paywalls me people should post archives or copypaste the text or smth :marseysipping:

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Check Snappy

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Spam ESC when the page is loading and it works :marseythumbsup:

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from the thumbnail i thought that was a 'roon

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And that's a good thing!

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!slots100

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!slots100

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lol fool

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put down phone

"but everything in phone"

no man in phone

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