You've identified that you're a PickMe. Congrats, one of the first steps towards being a goddess is knowing that you are part of the equation of your cyclical misery. For those in the back, I said PART OF. You can't fully blame yourself, that's still practicing these feeble behaviors. Yes, we're here to take responsibility for our current mindset leading us to where we are right now. However, realize that you have been surrounded by men who exhibit microaggression towards women, you have been brainwashed by other PickMe's. But now you know the truth: You are worth SO much more than anyone ever said you were. YOU determine where you go from here. Being a woman, you have been through so much. Think about the men who try to control our bodies, who use us to fulfill their sick fantasies, the statistics on violence. The media celebrates this and fuels this grotesque reality that we are meant to be meek, feeble and to endure abuse.

1. Promise to yourself "never again". Never again will you be manipulated or abused. Never again will you quietly endure your discomfort.

2. Realize that AMALT (All Men Are Like That). Thinking "Not all men" is DETRIMENTAL to your safety. "Not all men are male feminists". Fine. But if I gave you a pack of gummy bears and told you one was poisoned, wouldn't you treat each of them as potentially lethal? Let them prove to you that they are "not like the other men". Do not prove to HIM that you are "not like the other girls". One of men's biggest worry is to get "divorce r*ped" but are they ever worried about ACTUAL R*PE? NO. So don't give them the benefit of the doubt, make them show you through ACTIONS. A HVM will have no problem with this. A scrote will act offended and immature and just not worth your time, this is because he doesn't respect you. Which brings me to...

3. Define your standards and warning flags. You need to write this down. 5 is a good number to start with Comment this below if you must, I want you to be CRYSTAL clear on what you will NEVER tolerate ever again and what you will NEVER tolerate ever. For example, I will never be with a man who cheats on me. I will consider repeated arguments a huge warning flag. If I need to repeat myself more than twice about something that is clearly important to me... boy BYE. (If you choose to comment, it also helps other women identify red flags and help them define their standards as well.

4. BLOCK THAT SCROTE/ EX/ STALKER. Stop being nice to him. He sucks and has zero value to you. You know he just wants to sleep with you. Block him now. You will feel so cleansed. If they try to reach out again, say that you have been really busy and focusing on yourself. They may call you a b-word for "leading them on". You can tell them to go to heck. You don't owe no one an explanation.

5. Read the sidebar. Take your time with it, it's a lot to take in. But it will equip you in the long run and there's plenty of good stuff.

6. Take care of yourself, starting today, starting now. Say no to something you don't want to do. Don't pick him up, don't make him a sandwich if he doesn't deserve it. Begin breaking out of your PickMe routine. Don't adapt to his needs now because it will be "worth it in the end". Honey, it's not worth it. You deserve to be happy NOW. Another way you can practice this is to take care of your hygiene and your environment. Be proud of your appearance and your surroundings because you did it for YOUR well-being. Most PickMeishas are externally motivated, they just HAVE to get that "good job" sticker. Nothing wrong with being externally motivated, but pining for a man's approval is just pathetic. Do it to make FDS proud, do it for YOU. (this will take time, I'll make another post on it someday but try your best! We're rooting for you!)

7. Realize that there are high-level women out there who will support you. Maybe even on here. We're all just trying to look out for each other, but no one can help anyone that doesn't WANT to realize their own self-destructive behavior. So if you think your situation "isn't so bad". Sorry, this wasn't the post for you.

I will try to update with more suggestions as I get them.

@Neon_Needles @TED_SIMP

The news/information that has resurfaced regarding the 2006 undercover investigation into Butterball turkeys is HARROWING. It's been reported that the entire production line/conveyer belt was stopped specifically so that workers could SA these turkeys. In the report it stated men were BRAGGING to their colleagues about SAing & stomping these turkeys to death. Am I surprised or shocked? Honestly no. Am I mortified by the actions of men yet again? YES. No one, no being, no orifice…nowhere is safe from men.

!moidmoment

I'm so horny from slaughtering and gutting all these turkeys, I need a release mane

My aunt always wisely said, more men than you'd think or want to assume will in a pinch frick a dead body, a goat or a chicken sandwich, so don't worry about impressing them

!foidmoment

Women Egyptian mummies are often in worse shape than their male counterparts, as the family would often embalm them at home to keep the male embalmers from defiling the corpse. So it's been going on for a long long time.

I have a couple friends who have worked in the funeral industry. It seems the majority of people who handle the deceased now are women. It could be just that it's low wage caregiving, or it could be intentional for the same reason.

Disturbingly, the turkeys were very much alive. These men were SAing restrained turkeys, punching them in the face 'for fun' & stomping/strangling them to death.

Why do so many men have the seemingly innate urge to hurt/dominate/conquer/destroy/ravage other living beings when given the chance to do so? Genuine question.

They are "possessed" by evil archonic demiurgic energy a.k.a mostly wired that way. One female commenter here put it this way: "They have no soul. They are containers for evil" or containers of evil. The higher s*x drive combined with lack of empathy, lack of compassion, lack of internal accountability, and lack of fear of external consequences/ramifications, combined with desensitization, and short term instant gratification seeking and pleasure seeking, makes for a dangerous sadistic morally questionable character. Being the physically stronger s*x, on average, with a sense of entitlement and higher testosterone and aggression, also adds fuel to the fire. It's sad all around. I believe some can change or resist some of their wiring and programming. Most, more likely, cannot or will not, or will never.

I just seen this on YouTube! Its so nasty!! Like no wonder bird flu is an issue right now.

Every animal-born disease that humans get is the fault of men

The genius woman who developed that directional-toothed anti-r*pe device; my goodness they need to adapt that gizmo for all kinds of industrial and assorted unglory holes 💀🕳️💀

There's a lot more shiddin and lactating in the thread

I honestly don't understand how people are so upset a woman is sexual and not just in a self pleasing way, and it's actually searching for what she wants

It's because of the way you're framing it. You do not NEED s*x. You might find it really important and fulfilling but it is not a need. Food, water and oxygen are needs. I promise you can and will survive without s*x.

I'm a biologist, I'm aware of my hormonal cycle and get tested often, I know s*x is deeply wired in us and often our brain translates it as a need. That's a biological fact - reproduction is a need for species survival and our brain makes us want to have s*x to the point in which it seems like a need. I don't want children, but my sexual side is very important and I really want to fulfill it. Ofc it's not a need in the sense that I'll die without it. I need it to feel like my life is full, though, because it is one of my priorities. Not everyone is like this, but I am.

honestly thinking about making a fricking tinder where im dressed as a fricking clown The fricking clown escort interviewed says most of his clients are fricking

Note: Please don't get into specific things that happened to you in the comments. Many male lurkers will get off on it. Keep things general and focused around dating and safety.

I was such a sweet summer child when I divorced at 43. I knew some men had fetishes, like foot stuff, or maybe a little hair pulling or spanking, but as time went on and I was trying to figure out wtf was wrong with men my research kept leading me into darker areas. Now that I know what I know I'm terrified and disgusted. Here are some of the things I learned.

• Libertarians target single moms on dating apps

• Many marriages have ended b/c of the husband's porn addiction. This includes CSA, sissy porn and other genres I wish I never knew about. These men are now in the dating pool.

• A not insignificant number of women have been killed by men during 'rough s*x.'

• Men will fetishize anything - see the recent post about the geriatric circumcision fetishist, which also leads to..

• More men than you think are on the down low. Engaging with these men increases your exposure to STIs. More married men than you think are on the DL.

Someone here mentioned a term a while back, they said men have a 'secret sexual basement.' This is true and you don't want to go there.

Male and female sexuality are completely different. Most men watch porn which focuses on harming and degrading women. Women, for the most part, may read some erotica but are more interested in love and romance, building a life together, you know, wholesome things.

I also highly recommend checking the post history of any man on reddit asking for relationship advice before offering him help. There are a lot of very, very sick men on reddit.

For context im a 🚬 and hes not, apparently. The next day i apologised for my erratic behaviour ( i was super drunk) and just said that i cant express myself and/or my emotions because I have this dreading feeling of shame.

Im very sad say something funny.

!besties is this a good strat or nah?

/Slow-Sheepherder3330 hahaha you got your butt beat by a girl.

That's right scrotes. You took away our rights, now face the consequences. Women are going their own way and you will die sexless and alone. We are liberating ourselves like Korean women did

https://www.npr.org/2024/11/08/nx-s1-5182888/4b-movement-trump-south-korea

I (22f) ment this guy back in 2023 and me and him been on and off being just f buddies. I rlly started to catch feelings for him and would think about him everyday like all day and i continue sleeping with him hoping that one day he would like me or see my worth . It's so bad sometimes. He was always so rude to me one over text but then in person he was fine with me then after he sleeps with me he gets disrespectful and ghosts til he wanted to use me again. We only hangout once when I first ment him then after that he told me he wasn't interested, ghosted me for a bit and then came back and said he wanted to just be frick buddies. He told me multiple times he didn't want me and only using me for s*x but I still couldn't let him go. He also gave me chlamydia before even tho he claims it was me and lied and told ppl I gave it to him but he been the only one I slept with In 2023 so it was definitely him giving it to me. Pls Don't judge me for continuing to sleep with him after that Ik I should've ended it but I couldn't get myself to😔. Then recently he cut me off rlly rudely again and I seen on his story of him with a girl, he never posted girls since I knew him so Ik this girl he actually likes and literally only knew her for a week and was always hanging out with her but he never once asked to hangout with me the past two years he only wanted to see me at night for s*x. it just hurts seeing him treat someone good knowing that he was so bad to me. For some reason I still can't get over him and I find myself always watching there stories and getting hurt over it. The two years I rlly lost myself I stop having interest in fitness, yoga and other stuff that help my mental health that I use to do daily which actually use to help me so much in 2022 and I haven't been doing anything but being sad in bed thinking about him, and would day dream about him alot . I hate how long I let myself get depressed over someone that never respected me and idk how to move . I can't even find myself any more and I want to be okay with moving on and not letting him back but my mind just won't let me and I hate it so much . Ik he's not good for me and that I should just block him but I can't get myself to keep him blocked I always unblock him to see who he's following and what he is posting it's like a addiction at this point. And I easily let him back and one time he told me it was entertaining on how bad he treats me but I still let him back. He made me so insecure with myself.Srry if this is long or dumb to not get over him but I rlly wished I can get help but can't rlly afford therapy and it would be embarrassing to tell someone that I'm struggling over a guy I'm not dating. I will try to add some ss in the comments of how he talked to me when he claims he didn't like my body ss from May then the next second he enjoyed my body ss from last month . But it doesn't rlly matter anymore since me and him currently don't talk.