Hey everyone, I'll start off with saying that I am dating my significant other for over 4 years now. She is the love of my life, I definitely love her and I will do anything to make her happy. I am even saving up to take her to her dream trip and to propose to her there. I am an ex competitive athlete, so my entire life I've been eating right and working out, I did have an obese childhood but when I discovered sports I fell inlove with it.
Now, over the last few years she has gained a lot of weight, we are talking over 20kg when she initially was already a bit overweight. My type was always skinny and fit women but I really clicked with her and liked her that I was still attracted to her when she was a bit heavier than my type. Now however I just don't really feel the physical attraction. I never brought it up to her as I didn't want her to feel bad and I know it also bothers her as she can't dress how she wants and finding clothes is a struggle for her. She brought up that she wanted to lose weight but she couldn't afford the dietition she wanted so I pay for that for her (its a big chunk of my salary aswell) and I definitely know its a good dietitian that specializes in EDs and plenty of other things and I knew people who she really helped. I also do the majority of the cooking but she doesn't enjoy my "healthy foods" and only the cheat meals. I offered to take her workout with me and even pick up a new sport so that we will both be amateurs together but it didn't hold for more than 2 sessions. She is also perfectly healthy (as in no hormonal problems and such) and she is mentally healthy (which I am really happy about!)
Well due to my lack of sexual attraction we barely have s*x, she is trying to initiate but I am just not into it. Today she asked me if I would be happy if she lost some weight and I said "I think you're pretty but you'll definitely be a super model when you get to your goal body". Then she asked me if the reason we have less s*x is due to her fat gain and my stupid brain just said "I think its part of it"
And she doesn't want to talk to me as of right now.
TLDR I accidentally said that I am not attracted to my girlfriend of over 4 years due to her weight gain and now she doesn't talk to me.
its okay to not be attracted to obese people its unhealty especially when something can be done about it bodies do change if you dont work to upkeep them
Health issues happen, babies happen, life happens. Staying in shape is not even close to being everyone's main priority. You don't have to be attracted to obese people, but the love you have for another person should usually be what makes you feel attracted to them.
Those are all cop outs to avoid taking personal responsibility.
I tend to shy away from suggesting that what we find sexually attractive is a choice.
Not saying it's a choice. Just saying if your range of what you find attractive is narrow enough that it excludes people you can fall in love with, there may be an issue
Yeah he is the bad guy for no longer being attracted to his partner after she gained 50lbs in a year. What a horrible person!
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Man did you pick the parts of the post you wanted and run with them...
I doubt this individual runs.
It is hammered into women's heads that their worth is based on their weight and attractiveness. She is probably feeling worthless right now. She is crying a lot and probably is unable to discuss it without crying right now. I doubt her intention is to “cut him off.”
It's not worth but attraction that is tied to her weight, the same way it is with men and height. You can change your weight, so no excuses.
That's your opinion. I don't know any woman who gives a darn about height. I've never dated a guy over 5'9”.
Its the no 1 selector on many sites and your anecdotal data does not change the statistics. :)
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You didn't frick up by telling her that, you fricked up by being a shallow piece of shit.
This is a useless and dumb statement
Nah, it's useful and intelligent. Unless OP is gonna try to Leo it and constantly replace his partner with a newer younger model then being an butthole about changing appearance is not going to work. And of course some day he will most likely begin to degrade in his appearance and he would want to get shit on for that.
as you get older, it becomes impossible to lose weight
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These people have invariably either never been in a relationship or they've only dated other Reddit types
What
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and their partners eventually leave them for a hotter person but their partner will make up other bullshit reasons
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Why? Works well for suicide.
Why do you think frocho has 7 relationships and 0 breakups?
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lmao that's where you fricked up
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Always date proana so she looks skinny after 3
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He absolutely did the right thing. This is one of the times you really don't wanna mince words. She'll be upset for sure but the other path is one of those stupid petty asexual relationships where both parties are full of resentment towards the other person
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Sometimes women never have someone tell the truth to them. My sister complained how she asked numerous friends for feedback on her new hairstyle, and every single one said "omg it's so great slayyy" and she would be like "no really tell me if it's good" and theyd repeat.
(It was really bad)
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I remember the first gf I had told me a story once about how she forgot to brush her hair one morning and just went out like that, and all her friends told her 'oh wow I really like what you've done with your hair today'. She was laughing about it but it was kind of a learning experience for me at the time of oh women do that kind of thing to each other.
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This has literally never, ever, ever been a real issue.
"Ah shit my girlfriend has a beautiful athletic body but she spends 5 hours/week exercising when she could be spending that time with me 😞😞"
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"Don't be fat" is a totally realistic, easy bar to meet. How these KKKrackas immediately resort to hyperbole is everything you need to know
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Minding calorie intake and getting moderate exercise on a regular basis is actually a full time job that monopolizes people's lives
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Whenever women on social media get confronted directly with the fact that their weight gain makes them unattractive and is purely the result of their own disgusting lack of willpower, they sneed things like "Well, you could have phrased it in a nicer way! You should have used gentle encouragement and been more supportive!"
I tried to go the supportive route with my braphog ex for over two years, and all it resulted in was my ex-w*fe cheating on me. Eventually I stopped giving a shit and was honest about her being a disgusting narcissistic braphog, and I'm very happy about that choice. I only wish I had told her sooner.
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Your lore drops are truly indicative of a certain type of life
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Eh, my biggest mistake was my marriage. And even then I was super cautious and never fricked her without a condom - which turned out to be a really wise move.
Besides, if I hadn't finally lost my patience and told my ex what a disgusting hambeast she had become, she would never have been triggered enough to passively-aggressively hint that she was cheating. Then I might not have become suspicious enough to snoop through her phone to discover proof of the cheating, which led me to divorce her before she could pop out somebody else's kid and try to stick me with the responsibility.
You see? Everything happens for a reason. There's a sort of karma to the universe, and when selfish narcissists do selfish narcissistic things without thinking of my feelings, life has a tendency to frick them over
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This is the foidiest take I've ever heard a guy say
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So now your gay, right?
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Sexual orientation isn't a choice, chud. Super-straight pride!
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Get that gussy!
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Always was, clearly.
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I am so done with this i am a person living in a body screams modern faiths views on the soul.
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Pregnancy is such a cope. My 5'5” wife was 115 lbs when we got married, was 145 right before she gave birth, and was back down six weeks after giving birth.
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the list of fat b-word copes is endless
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They lose all the weight super quickly if they're breastfeeding
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If you ever get tired of a girlwife and would rather have a boiwife, you know where to reach me.
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it's licherally all on you.
you have to change like any other addiction. no outside help will work if you don't accept in the bottom of ur heard that your a lardie
and I think fat foids are incapable of such an admission
I've 30lb since september and all it took was change. I just eat less. all the same slop (for now), just less.
this planetoid is looking for an excuse to spend rediculous amounts of money, then when it doesn't work because she doesn't follow the advice, she can claim:
"well not even the dietician could help me guess I better give up"
because spending a lot of money = putting in time and effort to her fat brain. its just easier than willpower and light exercise.
muh fibromyalgia and othr fatlogic gets you nowhere I watch my own family go through this shit over and over
I'm gonna escape. break the cycle.
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Update us in 5 years lol
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!remindme 5 years If I'm still fat and making excuses rope :marsey
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I will be messaging you on 26.11.2028, 19:03 UTC to remind you of this comment
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See, if more foids used rdrama-dot-net they'd become inured to being called fat five times a day, so they'll be ready when their boyfriends call them a heifer.
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Fat girlfriend you aren't attracted to? Feeling like you are plataeuing in the gym?
Tren will fix both
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How do I make my own tren?
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If I ever hit a BMI of 20, I want my husband to dump me. If he wouldnt do that, then he's not a king.
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Architectmisia
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