"I'm so fat I have blisters where my crotch rubs against my stomach: despite this I refuse to lose weight and talk of doing so is fatphobia."

I've plateaued on my weightloss recently and it's been kinda hard but boy is this shit motivational.

It's so much more effective than all the other posts of people being 300 kilos because this presumably woman is so fricking fat that she has blisters yet she's so stupid that she still tries to find reasons not to lose weight and people are such cowards that they're encouraging her .

This shit gets me angry and motivated to lose weight I had preworkout for breakfast today

“tell me it’s a normal body thing please”

Coddle culture, particularly online and by your friends leads to no action being done, and you just marinating in the shit bed you made. They deserve it.

Unbelievable how she can say 'Im recovering from an eating disorder' with a straight face when she is so fat that her fat flabs rubbing together cause blisters...

I hope she gets an infection and dies of the complications. Would be a fitting death for a fatty ngl.

Tell me it’s a normal body thing please

Nothing to be embarrassed of! It’s normal

yeah, normal American body

These people would go great lengths just not to lose weight.

Also when you get home and in good AC, strip and walk around naked for an hour. Keep a spray bottle of water in the fridge and go to town spraying yourself, it's heaven.

imagining a giant fat person walking around naked spraying themselves with a spray bottle like a good moist piggy

trans lives matter

So what I do is make sure I'm wearing cotton underwear with a soft band, make sure the band of my underwear is tucked up against where my belly folds, between the belly and the fupa. You can also use body glide, gold bond friction defense, talcum free powders, aluminum free deodorant sticks or sprays, lume deodorant, but something to minimize sweating and sticking. Put this anywhere you are worried about heat rash or chub rub. Your underwear and bra need to fit and sit in folds to help dry your sweat up and dry up quickly and it needs to be cotton or something breathable. Everything else should be loose and flowy so that you get some good air flow. Every now and then excuse yourself to the bathroom to stretch and let air get in all the crevices.

Also when you get home and in good AC, strip and walk around naked for an hour. Keep a spray bottle of water in the fridge and go to town spraying yourself, it's heaven.

is all this really easier than just losing weight, if you have to go to the bathroom and air out your "crevices" then something is fundamentally wrong in your life

"oh there goes debbie again, letting her stank out of its meat cave" jesus its like when Bender has a grilled cheese in his moobs

This is a totally normal thing!! There’s absolutely nothing wrong with you. I personally wear a cami under my clothes everyday and keep them tucked in so my pants don’t rub on my belly, but I could see that helping with your issue as well. I get them at walmart for like $3 a piece and I believe they go up to 4 or 5x :))

No it's not normal. She has a severe problem and so do you. This is not a state the human body should be in.

Also, of course Wal-Mart would sell stuff for fat people to stuff into their fupa belly rolls.

Food gives me endorphins, it tastes good, it's easy to get. It dulls all the other shitty parts of life. Eating is social, it's a ritual, there are so many different flavors to discover and learn about. Why are you trying to take away one of the only parts of life I truly enjoy?

Fr doctors aint shit. I will tell them, show them that I have this and they just tell me to lose weight. Like, mf I’m trying…. In the meantime help me out this shit SUCKS.

@Garry_Chess didn’t tell me you got to charge a woman hundreds of dollars to fat shame them then kick them out of your office?

I’m so horribly embarrassed. Two blisters have formed on my belly fold right at my mons pubis. One on my belly and the other actually in my pubic hair. There’s no rash or redness, only the two blisters. Googling has told me that it’s either a heat rash or intertrigo. I’m recovering from an eating disorder and “weight loss” being a treatment for both has me in tears rn which is so silly. I’m just looking for support and advice on how to avoid blisters from belly fold. Tell me it’s a normal body thing please

"I’m recovering from an eating disorder and “weight loss” being a treatment for both has me in tears rn which is so silly."

If you get blisters from your fat folds, you have an eating disorder - it is overeating.

Have the blisters lost the skin protection cover yet? They're so much more painful at that point.

So what I do is make sure I'm wearing cotton underwear with a soft band, make sure the band of my underwear is tucked up against where my belly folds, between the belly and the fupa. You can also use body glide, gold bond friction defense, talcum free powders, aluminum free deodorant sticks or sprays, lume deodorant, but something to minimize sweating and sticking. Put this anywhere you are worried about heat rash or chub rub. Your underwear and bra need to fit and sit in folds to help dry your sweat up and dry up quickly and it needs to be cotton or something breathable. Everything else should be loose and flowy so that you get some good air flow. Every now and then excuse yourself to the bathroom to stretch and let air get in all the crevices.

>Also when you get home and in good AC, strip and walk around naked for an hour. Keep a spray bottle of water in the fridge and go to town spraying yourself, it's heaven.

>Source: I am 275 lbs and 5'3" and live in south Georgia near the Okeefenokee where is muggy as heck and swamp butt is real. A girl's gotta survive somehow

All that effort and money, when a cheaper healthier diet would do

"You should probably lose weight if that's what's recommended. It may be hard for you, but ignoring it as a solution will make things worse."

OP said, quote, "I'm recovering from an eating disorder" and expressed that replies reducing their struggle to "just lose weight" is causing extreme emotional distress.

OP was looking for empathy and more information that wasn't "just lose weight"

You chose to fire in with "why are u upset just lose weight"

Acknowledging that weight loss can be a solution for health problems alone isn't toxic.

You're a toxic butthole because you:

1. didn't read the room and fired in with the exact opposite of helpful information on an emotionally charged post seeking info about anything other than weight loss

2. were dismissive and invalidating of the heightened emotions OP was feeling

3. were dismissive of the fact that OP has extremely valid reasons to feel hurt, upset, and traumatized, and

4. decided responding with a message that boiled down to "just get over it and do the thing thats causing you severe distress" was appropriate when OP was clearly not in a stable place to do so healthily, running the risk of causing further deterioration of OPs mental health and also potentially triggering further disordered eating episodes

We're all fat here. We all know that losing weight will reduce some of the challenges we face. That is not the conversation right now because not everyone is ready or able to just lose weight right now.

The conversation was about validation and alternative solutions in the interim until OP is less escalated and more emotionally and psychologically stable. This conversation was about immediate solutions for treatment and prevention of skin wounds, and normalizing the fact that these skin wound occur frequently on fat peoples bodies.

Being a jackass and berating someone for feeling differently than you righr now about a long-term solution is not helpful, productive, kind, rational, or reasonable.

It is fine to think all fat bodies should lose weight. But you need to realize that there is a time and place where that advice is appropriate. AND the way you present that advice makes a massive difference.

"Why are u sad about being told to just lose weight its good advice"

And

"Hey, it sounds like you're really struggling with the recommendation to lose weight while you recover from your eating disorder. I've struggled with disordered eating too, and I understand where you're coming from. It can be really difficult to find a balance between mental health and healthy weight loss. Are you comfortable talking about some of the things youre struggling with? I have found that, although its really hard, working to lose weight in a healthy way has helped my mental and physical health when I was struggling like you are, and I'd like to help you"

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Are both basically saying the same shit, but lo and behold, one approach is validating and doesn't make someone feel like human garbage for struggling. The other is how you came across in your comment.

There is a reason why just solutions-based therapy without the validation and emotional piece fails spectacularly for a lot of people. Just giving harsh advice when someone is too emotionally elevated or distressed to act on the advice in a healthy and meaningful way doesn't work for a lot of folks.

I appreciate that you're trying to be helpful, but the way you're going about it is counterproductive. Instead of coming across as supportive and empathetic as someone who has been in close enough situation where you should be able to relate, you come across as abrasive, self-righteous, and condescending. Being harsh and patronizing isn't going to ingratiate you to anyone. It makes people dislike you and discount your advice, regardless of how good or well intentioned you actually are.

I'm sorry that you've struggled with your own mental health and disordered eating. I appreciate that you are also a fat person trying to be helpful. And I hope that you can realize that the issue isn't with your support for fat bodies losing weight — its with your lack of tact, lack of reading comprehension with respect to the actual point of the posts, your attitude, and your inability to read the fricking room.

But hey. I encourage all commenters to never feel down about being called out for being an butthole. You're going to feel down because it's hard out there but always do your best to overcome it. Ignoring our lack of empathy and emotional impact on others will make things worse.