Lately I've been seeing so many memes or posts making fun of fat people (mostly women), acting almost as if we're some alien species. Jokes about fat women eating people, being compared to animals, being portrayed as completely desperate or s*x-craved, a regretful one might stand, doing unhinged things like having Oreos in their drawers instead of condoms (recent one I saw lol). Yet being overweight is so common— surely these people interact with fat people all the time and can see we're not that different from themselves? Surely they have fat relatives or friends or coworkers in their lives who regularly prove these stereotypes wrong? In daily life I see so many fat people in relationships so I don't really understand why people act as if fat people are inherently unloveable/unfrickable?

Idk it's probably my fault for using Twitter still and interacting with this stuff so the algorithm keeps showing me similar posts. It's just depressing as heck to be constantly viewed as a disgusting joke and makes me wonder how many people I interact with irl share this kind of sentiment

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"Gimmie my money."

i saw a clip of a german comedian and he has a segment where ppl from the audience are blindfolded and go on „a blind date".

and the guy was asked what he doesn't liek and he just went „i hate fat women"

when i tell you guys the comments where Vile.

i've never rlly went on a date or had a boyfriend and this makes me never want to have one. im literally terrified of someone making fun of me this way, especially behind my back as it so often happens.

it makes me wanna bawl my eyes out.

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My friend. I watch movie "les miserables". I'm finally understand why sIut in America so obesity and no shame. Answer: their ancestor all obesity sIut. Their gene say they be shameless sIut.

Imagine this. You in 1500 England. You walk down street. All fat obesity sIut like first… pic.twitter.com/ygJaepDbgi

— Wei Wu 吴伟 (@WuWei113) January 31, 2025

Never felt more attractive since moving to the US

For context I'm from Puerto Rico and moved to the states about 8 years ago. I've always been a fat girl and experienced a lot of hate for the way I looked. Mostly from the adults in my life, including random strangers and teachers. Back home, people are really open when it comes to criticizing your appearance. I've had people literally come up to me to criticize what I'm eating. Literally complete strangers. Or tell me how good I'm being for eating a salad.

And this happens even is you are thin! And don't get me started if you have darker skin or curly hair! We may be a diverse island but our bigotry is equally colorful. We just hide it behind jokes and get offended when called out. Saying "that you are taking it too personal or it's a joke" when in reality it's a problem.

Long story short PR isn't very body positive even if most of our women can be considered a size 12 and up. Physically I'm a very proportionate fat girl, I have an hour glass figure and carry my weight pretty distributed. And I have a pretty face because people back home always keep telling me that and then follow it up with "you should lose some weight".

I also was a "weird girl" so it was an atomic bomb of bullying. I was too smart or too creative. Too fat or too excited. I really had no room to just be my true self because everything was attached to how I looked.

And being stuck in that cycle of not feeling good enough made me want to change everything about myself just to be felt alone and not bothered for my existence. Before moving to the US I lost a significant amount of weight and it made everything even worse if you believe it. People were now looking at me like a lab rat. Asking if I will lose more and made a game out of my weight loss journey.

When I moved to the states I gained almost 30 pounds of it back. Because the food here is really shit and the native vegetables and meats I really loved go for triple the price here. And I also was dealing with a massive wave of depression from things that happened before I moved.

And I got to say that men really do love fat b-words here! I've never gotten so much male attention in my life or as many compliments from women that are actually genuine. And it took a long time for me to actually get comfortable with them after years of hating myself. And I know that it may come across as shallow for me to find worth in others, but when you have been called worthless for so long you can't help but feel relief in a strangers kind words.

Men have stopped me in the street to compliment me and even offer to buy me stuff. And women always ask me what hair care products I use or that I look beautiful in my dress. I even started buying whatever clothes I wanted because I didn't have the guilt of being too fat to wear them.

I finally stopped looking at that stupid tag at the back of my clothes and actually bought the size that fitted me in that moment. I stopped with the "when I lose some weight I'll wear it" crap. I stopped being afraid or get upset with the work "fat". I stopped caring about if I was too loud or too strong with my opinions. I stopped putting that little fat girl in a cage and decided to let her be free.

Even if I miss my country I can't help but feel so comfortable in myself here in the states. People here just mind their business and are not breathing down peoples neck. I've never felt so confident in who I am and that doesn't only apply to my body. I feel like I have a voice here, even with all that is happening right now.

I'm just so happy that I can finally be my true self and say frick you to the word! I'm proud to say that I'm a fat Latinx girl that finally took up space!

Nature is healing

Sorry if this post is vulgar but it's the truth. Anytime a guy DMs me (i never message first) doesn't matter what app they treat me like a frick toy. Any man that ever shows interest in me seems like they only care about s*x. Sometimes they're misleading because they'll act totally normal then all of sudden start talking sexual which makes me extremely uncomfortable to the point I feel like throwing up. (S*x absolutely repulses me to the point I think I may actually be asexual.) it's gotten to the point I can't even have a descent conversation without being asked something sexual

A few times I have decided to mention that I was almost r*ped in high school to a few of these men to see how they'd react- one apologized then immediately started asking me sexual questions. The other told me "I'd enjoy it".

It's mentally draining being treated like this and it's starting to make me feel icky. I want to date but people either hurl insults at me or treat me like all I'm good for is s*x, and it's starting to really really frick with me. It's like they're brainless zombies that can only think about s*x.

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When I was in school from 2001-2013, my lunches never looked anything like that. I actually really enjoyed the food we were served.

Thanks, Obama. (It must be because of Obama and not because he went to a different school.)

Lookin a lot like a jail tray (minus the fruit cups)

How dare they serve food on a tray!

What's mildly interesting about this?

Shh /u/EasyAsPizzaPie it's a circlejerk thread, those are exempt from being on topic.

They used to be better. Like actual food. If I had a kid and their lunches were this, I'd start packing their lunches myself.

Actual food doesn't include meat, vegetables, fruit or potatoes apparently.

The same corporations that supply the prison system with food appear to also supply the public school system.

If this is what prison food looks like, jailcels need to shut up about food forever.

According to the video, Blanding paid Lyft for a ride from her residence to a party at her cousin's house.

About 10-15 minutes later, a Lyft driver arrived in a Mercedez Benz sedan.

Blanding walked towards the Lyft driver's vehicle, and the Lyft driver locked his doors and started to drive away.

She asked the driver what he was doing, and the driver told her that she was too big to get into his car.

The driver claimed that Blanding was too big to fit into the backseat of his vehicle and that his tires could not support her weight.

The Lyft driver also said that he had this problem in the past and that overweight people need to order Lyft XLs.

Um private company sweaty, they can deny service if they want to?

The junkie is fat! Fat! Fat!

>Imo diet talk is on the rise everywhere right now and it's not entirely unrelated to how right-wing crap is increasing in popularity right now.

Diet talk is right wing is my favorite new redditor talking point

>Tbh I tried to get on RedNote after the initial exodus and I saw a non-zero amount of Chinese ED content in the first half hour. I don't have TikTok on my phone anymore and now I don't look at either.

You mean they eat like normal people instead if the average american?

>Yes to the distraction. Additionally, the rise of diets, "thin is in" and all this type of content are intertwined with the rise of fascism. Ranking bodies and deciding what is "in" vs "out" has always been political.

Fascist always sent the fats to the camps and let the thins go, this is well documented of course

>"No violation found"

reporting someone on TikTok because they aren't 300 pounds

Hi all! I'm a 24F and I've never had any of my partners make me orgasm. None of them are aware of this since I've faked it. For starters I'm extremely self conscious about my body…I'm a bigger woman who doesn't find herself attractive/sexually appealing. I have a hard time letting go and allowing myself to enjoy the moment since I'm constantly worried about the way I look. Yes , I am in therapy.

The men I've been with in the past have all reassured me that they found me attractive and but I didn't believe them. I've tried so hard to enjoy s*x but it just doesn't feel pleasurable for me.

Currently I'm coming out of a two year dry spell where I've become best friends with my vibrator. With that being said I'm worried that I won't be able to enjoy s*x now that I'm so accustomed to orgasming one way. I met a new man who's been extremely reassuring and etc but I can't bring myself to have s*x with him since I only have negative experiences attached to s*x due to the lack of orgasms. I'm not sure what to do for how to even approach this. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

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Proudly stolen from @autodrama

I'm 27(f) and my parents have been fat shaming me for years now, the situation hittig an all time high around 3 years ago. Every single time they see me they will call me fat and just ridicule me in front of everyone.

I started gaining a lot of weight in university. Was depressed. It was covid and I ate as the only way to keep myself sane. I'm not completely overweight (maybe a size UK 14 to 16) but I do have trouble fitting clothes and I admit that I have fat around but steadily it's been getting worse.

It got bad when I had my graduation and I wanted to wear a dress but for months my mum kept insisting I should wear my work clothes aka pants and a shirt. I really wanted to wear a dress and went to buy one eventually but when my mum finally cracked that she thought I would look fat in it I nearly flipped. I felt so mad about the fact she wanted to take away one of the most important things in my life all because I had belly fat.

Then comes visiting them for a family vacation and every single moment my dad would nag about my weight. I would drink juice and he said I would be fat. I couldn't even buy things with my own money especially food and the entire trip I just spent wishing I could go home. He wouldn't stop even though I screamed at him to mind his own business. Ever since he had a healthscare he became a health nut, lost a lot of weight and always wanted to force me and my brother to slim down but if anything it just made us not care even more.

Now I'm visiting my brother for his graduation and the entire time he and my mum kept criticising me about looking fat. My mum even went back to the whole wanting me to wear my work clothes which I loathe to the max to keep my fat hidden. I twisted my foot the day before too and my dad kept putting it down to me being fat instead of the fact the curb was uneven and I was trying to move out of someone's way when I stepped to the side and slipped. I gave up arguing with him and he kept droning on and on about how I should lose weight. He even made me promise to lose weight which I told him I am not making empty promises I will not keep and that's on top of him nagging me to change jobs and me not being ambitious enough for the future.

My family members are generally on the thin side so I do stick out when it comes to weight. I abe tried everything since I was young to lose weight but whatever I tried doesn't work, if anything it gave my body more problems like feeling even more exhausted or sleep deprived of trying to do running before class and not having enough to eat. Weight is just one of the aspects my parents always compare me to with my parents and I absolutely hate it.

I am so sick and tired of being fat shamed. Makes me hate myself so much but I do not have the energy after work to go run or do work outs because of my work schedule making me hard to fit time in to do it. I already cut down my food and my partner has been trying to help too but right now I just feel I rather die than have to deal with my parents health bullshit. I had a period where I was so stressed with work I didn't eat and lost quite a bit of weight and when I told my parents how miserable I was, they gleefully told me they're happy I'm losing weight and that I should continue like this when I was losing my mind and contemplating suicide. They were so disappointed when I was happier and gained back the weight I lost after that which was why I never call them and pretend they never existed.

This hasn't been the only aspect my parents tried to control. They would force me into religion that I had no love for and force me to do things like hang out with people I absolutely hate. My parents have been comparing me to their friends or females in the family especially when it comes to accomplishments and looks. I always had the sense they were ashamed of me and wished I could be the holy smart beautiful daughter like everyone else. It's a miracle I even have a partner who loves me for who I am and even said I am beautiful despite everything my parents paint me out to be and joining in trying to lose weight with me.

The only plus side is I live in a different country for work and it gives me an excuse to not deal with my parents by not calling but whenever I have to meet them in person, this shit happens.

What do I even do? I'm so so so tired having to balance everything in my life and right now my main focus is my job and my weight isn't the main concern on my mind.

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I felt as a young girl that the boys in my class expected me to "know my place" as a girl they did not find attractive. I was mercilessly picked on and targeted by the group of popular boys in my grade. It felt like everything I did was ammunition for ridicule.

For some context: I moved around a lot growing up because of my dad's job, and have been assimilated in a lot of different cultures. But in primary school, I attended a French school. In my experience, French culture is the most fat phobic of the cultures I've lived in by a lot. Many of the girls I knew back then later developed eating disorders, and started chain smoking to manage their weight. The teachers would encourage this behaviour too, making snide comments about fat people, discouraging us from eating too much cake when it was someone's birthday (one memory that sticks out in particular is being called greedy by a teacher when I went to get a second slice, I was 8). French culture is broadly intolerant. They don't like people from different religions , different races, or people who live different lifestyles. But the brand of intolerance directed at women has a particular edge to it. Because men date us, there is an incredible amount of pressure to conform to what they want in a woman, and this pressure is beaten into you young.

Being beautiful was expected of us as girls. And if we were not beautiful, we had "failed" in a major way.

When I later moved to America, I found the culture there to be much more free, and the people much less bigoted thankfully.

It's funny because in the movies, I feel like fat girls or ugly girls or just unpopular girls get bullied by the beautiful, thin, popular girls.

However, in my life the people who have been the most cruel towards me were consistently boys. In fact the "popular" good looking girls in my school were always kind to me, and did not perceive me as being lesser than them. I never lacked for female friends. But amongst men, i felt like being a girl who they did not find attractive was license enough to be extremely vicious towards me. Attempting to stand up for myself just drew more attacks. Because they didn't see it as my place to contradict them, have my own opinions, or stand up to them, they felt that I was the one "wronging" them when I stood up their bullying.

Although this bullying happened to me mainly in primary school, to this day I feel it has affected my relationship with men. I am extremely guarded, and feel that a lot of guys probably see me as inferior to them even if they are polite to me when we interact.

One memory that sticks out to me was when I was dating this man who I worked with (at this point in my life, i was slim). He started taking about a girl we worked with who was fat. I could not believe the hateful, misogynistic monologue that came spewing from the mouth of a guy I had thought was "one of the good ones". He began by saying he could not believe her boyfriend could ever sleep with her, that she used her tits to get tips at work (this was not true. She was only 18, and actually quite shy and introverted. She just happened to have big tits) He complained about how disgusting it was that she ate so much, and said many many similarly awful things. Bear in mind this is a man who was always kind to that girl, to her face. Interestingly, this man had been fat at one point of his life as well. But understanding that it was wrong of people to mistreat him as a fat man apparently did not make him understand that this behaviour is also wrong when it's towards a girl!

I know there are good men out there, and lot of men have been kind to me as an adult. But my experiences have made it incredibly difficult to trust them.

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I do occasional work for multiple not-for-profit organizations, mostly ones that offer frontline support to disadvantaged people. Think housing, medical care, education, etc for the homeless, severely disabled, mentally ill, and so on. The people who work at these orgs are a strange mix of social justicey naifs and jaded pragmatists.

The director at a mental health focused org recently learned that the next version of the DSM (the psychiatric bible) may add food addiction as a diagnosis, and she is PISSED. As you can probably guess, she is

I have no idea how she found out about the change, if it's true, or what the DSM updating process is, but she wants to send them an impact statement of how this is evil and wrong and stigmatizes fat people and is genocide probably. The office is split between true believers ready to fight in the Fat Wars, and sane people who think that addressing one of the most common and life-affecting problems of their clients is a good idea maybe.

A friend there showed me this massive email chain that has escalated to coworkers basically calling each other poseurs that don't actually care about the mentally ill, but it's all written in nominally polite HR/SJW speak. It was glorious. An incident from years ago about food being stolen from the employee fridge was relitigated as an example of fatphobia.

The extra hilarious part is that proposed DSM shamelessly excuses fatties for being so fat. They're naming it Ultra-Processed Food Addiction, and they keep harping on hyperpalatable foods. This massive cope is probably because so many psychiatrists are huge chonkers.

I am sorry that this is personal drama that you can't engage with. I couldn't find any current online discussions on the topic, other than by dietitians (who are boring and really, really stupid). I am also sorry that you are too lazy and fat to find drama yourself.

>Also, when you're cutting and hungry you'd be surprised how much more tasty things that would normally seem bland are.

This doesn't explain the wooden cutting board dudes with their unseasoned ribeye and fried eggs

"Nuh uh, eating for actually substance doesn't excuse having no taste"

>I believe taking the romance out of food and treating diet as chemicals to be optimized helps you take control and seek that optimum diet.

How sad to be afraid of pepper

Not as sad as being obese is.

>All these comments saying food is fuel and not for enjoyment…god that sounds like a drab and brutal existence.

I've got two kids aged 7 and 4 who are both in mainstream school. Since they were babies we've talked about food as 'fuel food' and 'fun food'. I've explained to them the importance of both, we talk about how different foods impact our bodies like certain vitamins in fruit, how sugar impacts energy, protein grows muscles etc.

We suspect our entire household is on the spectrum, but one way it shows in our children is very literal thinking. Recently they've both been learning about how to stay healthy and it's completely undoing all the work we've done so far.

Both my children are in small to average sized bodies, their dad is average and I am fat. I've had a terrible history regarding my relationship to food and exercise, I think I'm now at the best place I've ever been. I feel like I can't bring this up with school as I'll be seen as 'the fat mum that doesn't want the kids learning about health'. We live in a pretty narrow minded area rife with diet culture.

I find this whole ordeal really triggering. At one point my 4yo daughter was refusing to eat anything she deemed to be 'unhealthy' and was telling us that it was not good for us. I'm suspecting she got this from school. I would sit with a coffee and a biscuit and she'd remind me it's not good or healthy. I didn't say anything other than 'they taste good though' but I felt really upset and bothered.

Another instance was when I was making our evening meal and they both stood around in the kitchen talking about which ingredients were healthy and unhealthy and telling me the whole meal should be healthy. I kept my cool and explained about balance but I was feeling really upset that at such a young age they were preaching at me about something we talk about all the time. Like they knew better than me.

I know my game plan moving forward just needs to be what I did before and calmly reinforce what we already speak about. But it feels like this will be an uphill battle. My (thin, chronically undereating) Mum would comment on my food choices my entire childhood, now my own children are doing it. The teachers they are learning from are all in thin bodies too.

We don't have the 'healthiest' diet in the world, but there's balance and it's pretty good considering the four of us have our own issues and preferences around food due to textures and intolerances etc. I make a homecooked meal for our dinner most days. We explore food often, I'll buy new fruits in the food shop for us all to try together, and the kids have the 'healthiest' diets in the house because of my efforts.

I'm worried about where this could go. I don't want to feel looked down upon in my own house by my own children. They have never spoken about my body size in anything other than practical, objective ways but they do point out when bad guys in Disney films are fat.

Does anyone have any experience with this at all? Or even just any words of consolation? 😩 Tell me I'm not going mad here.

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