Most annoying way for the wombat grabber to open her response. pic.twitter.com/rmVR1CCKqS

— Bec Shaw (@Brocklesnitch) March 15, 2025

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Reddit women mald over the homosexual patriarchy.

been SA'd by more gay men than straight

what

Yeahhhh as a lesbian I'm calling bullshit on some of the folks in this thread. If your entire concept of gay men is "cisgender dudes who are catty and sexualize women" then you need to stop watching Drag Race and go outside. I'm not discounting the fact that many gay men benefit from the patriarchy, and they deserve to be held accountable for that, but accountability shouldn't look like conservative scare tactics.

Okay, so I'm an older queer woman who's spent time in LGBTQIA+ and alt spaces, but never watched an episode of Drag Race in my life. I don't see gay men as inherently catty. But I can also say that the most blatant misogyny I have experienced has been from cis gay men. Has it been all of them? Absolutely not. Definitely a minority. But it is still a pattern that if there's a particular level of misogynistic vitriol being directed at me, it's coming from a gay man. Is talking about that experience conservative scare tactics, or am I misreading you?

What is it about gay men, specifically, that warrants additional scrutiny when we talk about misogyny? Why is their sexual orientation relevant to the conversation? It's sufficient to say "men are cruel to women when it benefits them" and leave it at that. The compulsion to target gay men specifically for their perceived "special" flavor of misogyny is something I find highly suspect.

I think this is because gay men only accept the hyper feminized behavior. Gay men don't act like women, they act like a caricature of women, and that is the only for of femininity they accept.

While many women go through a phase of hating other women, once they become adults they grow away from that toxic behavior and begin to accept all women for who they are.

I have always thought that gay men think they can get a pass for being awful to women, especially since part of their persona is tearing others down and roasting/reading people. And since they aren't trying to get with women, they don't have to try to hide their misogyny and how much they hate women

It's not you , some twinks are just bitchy and superficial , including to other gay men.

I get the same vibe from gay men as I do from neurotypical women. It's because they don't want anything from me. I use it to remind myself that straight men are probably deceivers and not to trust them either. I admit my cynicism has become problematic so you may not want to go in the same direction, but that's what I've reasoned.

I get along with gays of color but I've definitely had problems with white gay men before. A lot of white gays are racist (white gays are still white) and think that black people are only good for entertainment, and I am not an entertainer or a den mother. So in their minds, I have no use. Also I have a flat affect and I'm introverted, so a lot of white gays assume that I'm homophobic (because all black people are homophobic 🙄). And another commenter here pointed out that a lot of gay men resent women that don't conform to feminine beauty standards, which I don't; I don't wear makeup or even consistently get my nails done. I wish it was easier to talk about the racism and misogyny in queer spaces without having to worry about being called homophobic.

...... you don't give enough information in this post. And as a queer person, it just makes my skin crawl. You use "hate," "dislike," and "bully" but you don't list any concerning behaviors.

You're a straight cis woman, yes? I'd think real hard about this... it could be you.

Definitely needs to be reflected on in a lot of cases - if you repeatedly clash with people it's usually more likely that it's something you're doing than that everyone else in a certain group is out to get you. Gay men obviously aren't a hive mind, they're all different people, the likelihood that something inherent in their gayness makes them universally dislike OP is far less likely than that OP is doing something to trigger this themselves 🤷‍♀️

or perhaps OP has had several experiences of misogyny that shouldn't be dismissed simply because you want to make it black and white. OP never said "it's because they're gay". OP shared their experience and opened up a conversation about it. maybe examine why you had to turn it into a conversation about gay men having something inherently unsavory about them that didn't exist til you brought it up

I didn't say that was definitely the case, just that it bears considering that if you keep having an issue like this then taking a moment and considering if it might be something you're doing is always worth doing.

Saying that this is a common issue they find with gay men does kind of inherently imply that their gay maleness is the common factor in the people OP is having trouble with, and so does imply it's some way related to that. Given that there is no defining common characteristics among all gay men other than that, given they are all separate individuals, I can't really see how it could not be inferred that it's about that really…

OP absolutely may have had a really unfortunate run of interactions with misogynistic gay men, and it may be entirely that the ones they've met have been spontaneously nasty, but to not reflect on the possibility that it may be down to them in any small part at all is a bit blinkered no?

You're clutching at so many strawmen here, it's wild.

I'm a non-binary AFAB person that presents as a woman, pansexual. I have friends of all genders and orientations. I agree with OP. Gay men that spend time mostly in male centric spaces are unfortunately often quite steeped in misogyny in the way they interact with the world. It's a fact.

I was once used by a man who identified as gay and wanted to "explore possibly being bisexual" by leading me on for s*x, discarding me and then telling me "you knew I was gay, it's your fault for accepting my advances".

Horrible experience. It has nothing to do with the fact they are gay and everything to do with the fact that they are men. Hope this helps. No need for the performative tenderqueer offense about something that wasn't about you

Have had similar experiences. Being told "I want to live in a world without any women", "women are disgusting", "have never met a woman who doesn't smell of fish", vaginas are a portal to heck", amongst others, by different gay men, I've concluded that it's because they are men in a societal context full of sexism and misogyny but they don't actually want to (use) us sexually so are just more open about it than the average straight man.

Also - yes off course not ALL (straight or gay) men are like that…

Hard agree, there's a lot of unthinking homophobia across this post and the comments generally. Disappointing, but not surprising

Discussing and criticizing misogyny does not equate to homophobia.

Is "gay men act like caricatures of women" or "gay men secretly want to be women" meaningful discussion of misogyny? I won't even get into some of the transphobic tropes people are spouting.

JFC. Yes, those are homophobic statements. And on the whole, the consensus of the conversation is gay men aren't a monolith, but this misogyny definitely happens and all it does it uphold the Patriarchy that ultimately hurts ALL of us in the end.

Some of the absolute worst mysogyny I have ever experienced was from gay men.

This! I've been to drag shows and the "jokes" are pretty much all hypersexualized/caricaturized insults being throw at straight women from gay men, and I cannot for the life of me understand why it gets a pass. You wouldn't find blackface funny in 2025.

I feel EXACTLY the same way about drag.

It's not just drag. I've noticed that when trans women first openly come out as trans, for like the first year they'll be the most misogynistic representation of a woman and it shows me what other genders see in us and what they think our representation is. I'm very trans positive, to be clear. When my sister came out as trans, for the first year or so she acted the way she thought women should act and it was pretty insulting. But eventually, she found her own way and discovered herself. It happened with friends too but my sister is the best example for me to give because I had to have a talk with her about some of her behavior making me uncomfortable.

I would invite her to hang out with my friends and she would jokingly call them dumb sluts and I had to be like "I can say that because we've known eachother forever. This isn't just something women call eachother" and other stuff like that

You're projecting your experiences with your sister and these other people on an entire group of people.

This kind of prejudice is not okay. Trans women get enough hate and false prejudices thrown their way without this kind of extremely harmful "allyship" too.

I find it tends to be the narcissitic ones specifically. They think they can get away with it because people dont call them out enough on their bitchiness. I do wonder if as being gay becomes more accepted, there might be less narcissistic gay guys from less trauma, or whether its more just a culture problem

Gay marriage and adoption rights never changed them.

...are you LGBTQ+? Because there is a huge difference than the ability to get marry/adopt, and the reduction of discrimination/stigmatization of gay people. Kids across the country are facing book bans, people are still finding ways to discriminate in employment/housing/healthcare, and gen z is bringing back "gay" and "zesty" as pejoratives. Things have gotten slightly better but it is still hella traumatic to grow up LGBTQ

I do not tend to get along with people to whom femininity is something precious that they had to fight to be allowed to express/that they have been denied the right to express, because they resent me for "wasting" the "gift" of being AFAB on not being feminine. I would say those feelings are more common among AMAB people who are not cis or not straight, but I've actually never had that issue with a gay man. More often it's older, conservative trans women, and sometimes straight men who have some underlying desire to transition that they will likely never act on but are still very very bitter that I get to be a woman but don't even do it right

!foidmoment

white womxn are scary as shit ngl.

Fat 1 cat-piss scented 2 woman is surprised she's somehow still single after ranting at every match about politics; because there's nothing normal people like more than their lives revolving around the latest drumphler elongated muskrat news.

My now husband was 'apoltical' on a dating app. We are both in the middle but I definitely lean more left and him right. It actually balances out pretty good because it's comforting hearing diffierent perspectives. Like straight up therapeutic. I can't imagine being surrounded with people who think just like me. Living in a red state has been awesome.

Downdooted for being sane.

Conservative men see you as private property. Liberal men see you as everyone's property. 4B more appealing by the day.

What does "everyone's property" mean exactly?

I'm not baby chupacabra but I think that what baby chupcabra is referring to is that a lot of supposedly liberal/left men are still pretty regressive in their attitudes toward women and these men feel that women should "put out" quickly and not have too many expectations for a relationship.

Yeah they love sexual liberation. They love being able to use and abuse all the women while saying they are feminist. They are, in my experience, even more entitled than conservative men. At least with conservative men, you know what you're getting into. I'm registered independent. In all aspects of life now lol not just politically

If sexual liberation liberated women and their bodies and souls and their children they may have bc of it, I'd celebrate it. But it's just another mode of degradation and humiliation in the patriarchy. Birth control, with all the side effects, is our ticket to freedom. But men couldn't even complete clinical trials, bc of the same side effects and risks we have been suffering for decades. We lose, they use. Just looks different. Psy op.

You sound toxic.

Lol why? Because I'm outspoken about my political views?

It's sad that racism indicates a political party.

When you surround yourself with NAZIS, have Nick Fuentes spouting your party's line as well as have Enrique Tarrio pardoned by your party's leadership i think it might give off a fairly obvious indication.

Dating as a liberal man in a red state is also weird. At the end of dinner with a girl, she didn't do the check dance. I made a joke about it, and she straight up said she wasn't a feminist and didn't believe that women should need to pay for things when the man can provide for her. I don't get how women can have these views that demean themselves and hurt their own lifestyle

"I ended up hanging up on him and told him that he should probably reconsider being outwardly racist in the first phone call he has with a woman."

Probably shouldn't have given him that advice actually, lol.

Fortunately (in this case) men are famously bad at accepting ideas presented by women

"How would a dumb female know better than ME what women want??"

You don't ask fish about fishing, you ask the fisherman!!! /s

I have a visceral reaction to that phrase lulz it makes me want to punch whoever said it right in the face and ask how it feels to be punched by a fish

This morning I literally asked a dude "are you a Trump supporter?" and it went:

Him: meh the whole government sucks

Me: that didn't answer the question

Him: this will

Him: I didn't vote for either of them

Me: it's a yes or no question

Him: it's not tho….long winded paragraph about complexities of government

Bro just tell me you're a conservative. Why waste everyone's time but beating around the bush??

Why would he be in the girl's bathroom anyway

Is it so unreasonable for her to expect a man who will guard the bathroom door while she's inside? Chivalry is dead! /s

I would just point out that her fear of trans women is just a fear of men but she's probably not ready for that conversation. Because they never talk about the "horror" of trans men using the men's room

Honestly, that's where my mom's fear comes from. She's not afraid of trans women, she says stuff like "Well what about the ists who will use being trans as a way to get access?" which I mean, they could've been doing all along.

But also, if a ist wants a way they can find a way.

-Being a doctor -Being a coach -Helping vulnerable groups Etc, etc. There's a lot of cased out there of ists specifically picking professions that help vulnerable people to .

People are more than their political alignments, especially today this sort of attitude just adds to the already spreading divide. Everyone should be more accepting to the other sides view and not just jump down their throats for whatever their view is. If you don't want to date someone who doesn't agree with you politically that's fine, but maybe don't use that as your vetting process. The rule of thumb I learned was you never talk Religion, Politics, or Art at the dinner table. We need to get back to that and back to having decent conversations with the opposing views.

Both side are equally at fault for this don't get me wrong but as someone who is staunchly independent and agree with talking points from both sides. It's ridiculous to see how everyone argues like they're 5th graders playing dodgeball. Not to mention the blatant corruption of our politicians who on both side haven't spoken for the people in a good 3 decades.

Good luck dating if you base a large portion of you personality on one side or the other, because that tends to tell people you aren't even willing to talk about it.

Both sides are absolutely NOT equally at fault.

Both sides don't give a darn what the people need or want. No matter what they say. All they care about is pleasing their political donors and the lobbyist. If you can't see that then you one of the reasons why the country is so divided. Stop blaming the other side and blame the money.

Hi, person of color here. No.

I actually agree with the first guy. Of course there are extremes on the right/conservative, but moderate Republicans or fiscal conservatives aren't these evil beings you should avoid or paint as evil.

Yes, the political landscape was completely different in our grandparents' time but Republicans and Democrats still had opposing views.

The same goes for apolitical people. Times are disastrous and depressing and anxiety riddled and maybe some people can't mentally or physically handle the state of all this. -30f from the bay area.

I don't think it really matters if you identify as a moderate if you willfully voted someone in who is actively trying to put trans women in mens prisons where they will be d.

I don't really care what silly rationale they have to support it, the end result is the same.

I'm a liberal dude in a red state, thinking of getting back onto the apps soon. I'm a bit wary of signaling my views because I'm worried some women won't match because of them or because they'll think it's all I'm about. I also think if a conservative woman got to know me she might just reconsider her opinion of liberal people, but that's probably just my ego. That said, the men in her life probably don't set the bar very high and that's what leads me to think it could happen. Be interested in any feedback. To be clear I am aware that I am not gods gift to women, I'm just a flawed dude who tries to treat everyone with kindness until they demonstrate to me they don't deserve it anymore.

Edit: So tired of trying to be vulnerable and getting silent disdain or disapproval instead. If you don't like what I wrote don't just downmarsey, comment, help me grow, help me see a perspective besides my own.

I appreciate you putting this out there. I'm in a red state and met my now husband on a dating app right after the orange one won in 2016. We both put that we were liberal but the firs time we talked on the phone we confirmed that neither of us was on the dRumph truck. It's hard out there.

i live in the capital of California and every white man i talked to in a 2 years span (except the man i'm with right now, love him) were some type racist, homophobe, transphobe, sexist, or all of the above. it's a problem everywhere, i hope this makes you feel less alone

The "not political" and not having politics listed is an automatic decline from me, too. It means you're a conservative and thus looking to actively take my rights away. They can frick right off.

I did the same thing and matched with a guy once and confronted him about "not political" out of curiosity. He immediately backpedaled and claimed he's super liberal but I didn't trust that at this point. Seems more like he's just trying to say whatever gets him laid and I'm not about that slimy behavior.

I ended up hanging up on him and told him that he should probably reconsider being outwardly racist in the first phone call he has with a woman.

Congrats! You made life harder for potentially dozens of women who have to sift through the same shit. When a guy reveals who they are you block and move on, do not give them advice on how to mask better wtf

Lmao why am I getting downmarseyd for saying not to train these men to scam other women out of their time? Ya'll dumb fr

Because you're being a peepee, it's understandable to initially want to tell someone to not be racist, even if it's ultimately a dumb idea.

Yeah, it is dumb, and I'm allowed to be kinda pissed when someone is setting up another random girl for a way worse time

Guide for anyone not in the know....

Centrist = Trump supporter

Apolitical = Trump supporter

Moderate = Trump supporter

Libertarian = Trump supporter

Politically homeless = Trump supporter

Both sides bad = Trump supporter

Hopefully this will save folks some time and energy.

I truly believe both sides are bad since they cater to the billionaires and the wealthy, but when I say both sides are bad, I do add that I vote Democrat bc they are closer to what I believe. It's interesting the American Democrat party on a world scale is towards the right. We don't have any true progressive parties here :(

I really, deeply, don't believe this. Can you give me some examples of people like AOC or Bernie or Katie catering to billionaires? I'm asking seriously, in good faith.

Those three people you named are sidelined in the party by the Pelosis and Schumers etc. The Democratic Party abandoned the very idea of democracy with the way they rat-fricked Bernie. The DNC even argued in court they don't have to be democratic inside their own organization. They're awful except for basically those three you named. Republicans are NAZIS, but Democrats are owned by the same billionaires that fund the Republicans.

Who? I'm being serious. I haven't been following bc I'm literally only voting left side of ballot moving forward and I almost don't care. As long as it's not trump/supporter/racist/nazi, I'm ok voting for them in a two party system.

honestly i find it silly to engage in politic talk , because simply this everyone opinion may differ how we view the world around , no two eyes will alway see the same thing. The only time i will engage in the talk , is if we present facts and see which policy matches our desire in living the remaining time on the planet ... but i dont need to be constantly talking about it and have it be main source of talking point.

I rather just talk about games , technology improvement or just talk about garden , how to update our living situation , new gadget ... perhaps just going to places to view as a tourist. Maybe resturant we havent been to yet. Stuff like that. Politic just make people angry and divided when its nothing more then just the government trying to get us to attack each other so that we cant rise up and take them down etc.

So far it's working. Not sure if i like it or not . *goes back to steam and find the new games *

If you're « non policital » and have no problem with fascists taking rights from LGBTQ+, undermining women and marginalized groups, then you're a fascist. It's really that simple.

It's such a stupidly privileged position to say things like "why would you dismiss someone just because of politics?"

In a world where everything has been turned into a wedge issue by the right, a person's political views are the distillation of their worldview and morals. Frick (or rather, don't) anyone who thinks compatibility of worldview and morality don't matter.

Yup. Notice how it's only the righties that say this. It's almost as if they know deep down inside that their views are abhorrent, and don't want to face the social consequences of having antisocial views.

what always bugs me is that even the most racists people can't say "I'm racist"

They can spew tons of racist stuff but they can never ever say "I'm racist"

I gotta believe it's because deep down they know it's wrong, right?

It's cognitive dissonance. They believe they're intrinsically good people. They know that racism is wrong. So in their minds, they define "racism" in a way that covers people whose actions or beliefs are worse than theirs - but doesn't extend to their own actions and beliefs.

Exactly why scientists don't get the same answers when they ask men if they have d someone or if they ask if they've had s*x with someone who didn't want it.

I’m on a train and men are sitting in seats while women stand or sit on the floor.

The declining birth rate isn’t a mystery.

— Ana Mostarac (@anammostarac) March 14, 2025

As a disclaimer, this is all according to a scrote, but the amount of affirming comments from gashes of similar happenings makes me want to believe

So was working with a new nurse putting in a foley on 60s Female pt. I (male) was standby to assist and was impressed by her confidence! She did everything perfect good sterile technique, proper positioning, went to insert the catheter and through it right up the ladies vagina….

Ok nbd it happens especially with irregular anatomy….but this was not the case. She looked satisfied and went to inflate the balloon before I stopped her to ask what she was doing.

Her: it's in place right?

Me: do you see urine return? You're too low it's in her vagina

Her: well yeah where else am I supposed to place it?

Me: ….in the….well in the urethra???

Her: isn't that the same thing???

Me: uuuhhh no it's another opening about 2-3 in above where your at….

Her: huh good to know……do all females have this?

Me: (Flabbergasted) uhh yeah that is normal anatomy for most females.

Her: well that's good to know! No one ever told me that before

THEN the PATIENT: Oh sweetheart why don't you stick around and I'll show you how everything works down here 😂😂😂. I'm still dying

Assuming this all happened, it's somewhat profound because everyone in nursing remembers the first time they had deal with that shit I mean piss.

My first time was with an instructor who fricking hated my guts because of my sexy gender and naturally she tried to set me up to fail because my first straight cath ever was on a literal psychotic wailing morbidly obese white woman shrieking at the top of her lungs.

To my credit and despite the odds and fat rolls and other unpleasant stuff I bullseye'd that shit piss on the first shot so even the bitchy instructor had to shut up for awhile.

Anyway, here's a bunch of the piss-takes to round things off:

Yep. L&D nurse and it's astonishing how many women (or their partners) don't know their own anatomy. Also, I can drop a foley in about .003 seconds. LOL. L&D nurses can cath anything.

L&d for 3 years and just went to ICU, tell me why I struggled to cath a man the other day 🫣😂😂 I've dropped a cath in the gnarliest, ground beef vags ever, but that peepee gave me a run for my money (pt had muscle problems and the catheter was coiling at the base 🥴).

The biggest hack I've learned for a coiling male cath (besides using a coude ofc), is to try picture a creating a straight line with the urethra from the tip of the peepee to the bladder (usually about about 30° from the pelvis toward their head). Next apply traction to the peen along that line while you insert the cath. Also, when I say traction I mean really stretch that gummy worm until you could play the banjo with it.

If you're still having trouble, make sure you're not stretching straight upward towards the ceiling and creating an angle with the urethra that's now MORE narrow than you started with.

This is hilarious, but so is 2-3 inches between the vagina and urethra.

I'm in surgery, doing a gyn case and the scrub tech puts the uterine manipulator in the butthole…

I'm not surprised by much anymore

How did she pass A&P?! Or Patho?!🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

• ( this was my first question as it's a requirement to even touch patients as a nursing student which is why this is so r-slurred)

I had nearly the same experience with multiple young female student nurses or orientees attempting to cath, either aiming for the vagina, or the clitoris. Tactful redirection is the key.

I work in education/IP, and after a few months of really high urine culture contamination rates I made some posters of instructions for patients. They say that women should spread their labia, wipe, pee, catch, etc. and they have anatomical pictures.

The NUMBER OF NURSES and techs that have commented on "never knowing to spread the labia" was shocking. But now they all know!

fricking r-slurs giving people UTIs

standard of practice is if you miss the hole you throw away the catheter because you're otherwise cross contaminating the bladder versus whatever other shit you just wrongholed

anyway you get the idea.

!foidmoment

Patented invention from 1963 designed to help women give birth easily

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Thank you for your attention

!foidmoment

!chuds

!foidmoment She admitted she lied, but women always lie which means the admission must also be a lie so she was actually telling the truth before, except that can't be right because women always lie so she must have been lying before and be telling the truth now wait what

https://old.reddit.com/r/popheads/comments/1j9o34c/woman_who_accused_jayz_of_rape_heard_on_recording/

https://old.reddit.com/r/Fauxmoi/comments/1j9pc6z/woman_who_accused_jayz_of_rape_heard_on_recording/

The irony of getting to have it both ways

fart noises

"Pardon me, Is there a man in here?"

farting noises intensify

about two thousand comments on the article correcting xher though lol, good shtick/clickbait , b-word*

^{*(I'm using this term in a derogatory manner in reference to xher being a super ladygardeny karen vagina kitty butt lil b-word manlet wannabe, NOT as genderism slur about her being a kitty butt lil b-word ladygardeny karen vagina baby.)}

So, although she, in her words - 2 inches of hair - was most likely seen entering from behind, from a distance, and could therefore be assumed to be a male, she immediately jumps to the worst possible conclusion? Is it not possible at all in today's society to show any sort of grace? Even get a little more information before reaching a conclusion as to what is happening? Maybe give a little thought that it might be a father of a daughter(s) who after making said observation, was, out of an abundance of caution, concerned that a male had entered the RR and was then going to wait until a female came in to cause some sort of trouble? Just because someone asks, doesn't mean they have bad intent.

I wonder how much of a NB person's feelings stem from our cultures own deep seated gender stereotypes. Like if our society wasn't so gendered, how would they see themselves? Would they feel more comfortable defining themselves as members of their assigned gender if they could more easily eschew all the trappings that come with it?

Any individual that demands being called "they" seems to have decided to make their life more potentially complicated than it has to be, for no apparent positive reason. So, they can be offended when someone refers to them as individual? Use of a restroom does not seem complicated. The most fair (for your fellow public bathroom users) and reasonable choice would seem if you are a biological male, use the male restroom. If a biological female, use the female restroom. If you don't understand why biological females of all ages might be uncomfortable with a biological male using their restroom, then you don't, but honestly, it seems to me you should understand. It's not all about you.

You can be what you want to be. Sounds like you don't know what you want to be-male or female. It depends on your chromosomes are.

XX-female, XY-male. No matter what you do to your hair or anything else, you are a female.

A whole situation that could be prevented if we don't allow ANY men in the ladies' facilities. If we could trust that ONLY WOMEN were in there and not have to ask or second guess for our own safety... If only.

!transphobes

lazy front-page dramapost, have fun

Deep inside women crave

While moids are too afraid to "cross swords"

Transwoman here. In my past life, I always made my ex beg before I finished. I'd start with a full body massage, then work my way down face to boobs to muff with my tongue. For as long as it took, before I even started to penetrate. Then I'd still go down more if she wasn't done. Literally nothing turned me on more than her muff.

Turns out, I was a lesbian. She wasn't. My current wife and I (44, mtf) have a good s*x life though my drive is higher than hers. We both use fingers and toys on ourselves and each other! I still don't understand why many cis men are so selfish. There is nothing more rewarding than watching a partner squirm with delight! And yes, not all men are as is evidenced by some of the replies.

100% NTA. If he can't figure it out, show him! Just go to the shop by yourself and buy one. Don't accept no for an answer. Next time he pulls this, just whip it out and do your thing in the bed right in front of him. If he reacts poorly, take it as a sign it is time to move on.

You are dating a naive man child, not a man. Has it occurred to you that he doesn't WANT you to feel pleasure? If he won't touch your clit that's a massive indicator. He has some serious insecurity issues and just sees you as a s*x toy, sorry for being blunt but that's how he's treating you. Someone who will want you to feel good will be open minded and find the best way to please you, he won't care if it's a toy, his hands, mouth or experimenting. S*x isn't one sided, it's a tango.

44 year old Eli Manning beats the greatest women's basketball player of all-time Caitlin Clark, in a basketball shooting competition. pic.twitter.com/dM8MKIGqEC

— Nick Adams (@NickAdamsinUSA) March 8, 2025

https://www.unwomen.org/en/articles/timeline/never-backing-down-women-march-forward-for-equal-rights : but go off i guess

I remember when I was anxious about turning 30 I said to a male friend “come on, have you ever seen a happy woman over 40?” And he said “I don’t think I’ve ever seen a happy woman.”

— Cartoons Hate Her! (@CartoonsHateHer) March 8, 2025

to think of literally all the progress that will be lost *sips tea*

https://www.independent.co.uk/news/transgender-prison-first-surgery-lawsuit-b2367563.html

https://www.reuters.com/article/world/california-pays-for-inmates-gender-reassignment-surgery-idUSKBN14R01X/ but go off i guess