!fellas

A few days ago, after clearly and repeatedly telling him that it's actually pretty important to receive a good morning text from my partners, he forgot again. He has done no troubleshooting, problem solving, or even expressed what challenges he has meeting this one MINOR request. As an example, when I had a partner that got up super early for work but expressed similar needs, I would preschedule messages for the week to be sent when they woke up. They knew this was how I handled this particular thing and were very appreciative.

!chuds !foidmoment

Realizing I'm into hot husbanding has been a big revelation and it feels like things have moved super quickly, but OH MY GOODNESS I am so into this

!chuds

!male feminists

!coomers

!foidmoment

https://old.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/1jnt80q/sydney_woman_unknowingly_filmed_by_man_using/

their source

https://congress.net/these-9-countries-do-not-guarantee-paid-parental-leave-you-guessed-it-the-united-states-is-one-of-them/

i'm such a mess rn can t stop crying. we've been together for 4 years (3 with breakups counting) we were having an argument about his communication with me but it got sidetracked to my feeling a little undervalued and i said 'it feels like i love you more than you love me' and didn't refute it or deny it. later, it became clear that he isn't clear about the future with me and i said 'i thought i'd found my person' and he didn't say anything. i've been distraught for three days, no motivation to do anything, crying all the time. i don't know what to do or where to go from here. i love him more than anything. that conversation has literally shattered me. it sounds stupid but i just like want to cry to my mom but she's 1,300 miles away. :)))))))) so i post here instead

later:

I have bpd

wow what are the odds

!foidmoment

Foid makes boyfriend watch r*pe fetish show… which leads the handmaidens to believe she is being gaslit and abused.

Wow. This is ? Weird? Maybe find a BF with a bit more emotional maturity?

Why you apologizing to him?

"Because it's a joke!"

😐 anyone upmarseying this post should be embarrassed of themselves.

Seeing so many "hur hur it's funny" replies is making me wonder if these people have never experienced the abuse cycle with the gaslamping fun of apologizing for "making" him/her feel and react in an abusive way.

It's gross.

did you watch the show with your eyes closed why are you apologizing for him seeing women's oppression? god we are doomed

She didn't just apologize. She treated him for being uncomfortable with our oppression. The post is embarrassing. Not sure why she expected it to get a warm welcome here.

And then there's people saying the negative reactions "cant take a light hearted joke!!!1" and are "sooo fwicken stuck up!!!!!1"

Actually ☝️ I have no idea who you are, or who OP and her boyfriend are. So, I'm going to take this at face value. And, quite frankly, buying your bf an apology cookie because a show that's centered around womens oppression made him uncomfortable, and then posting it to the Handmaids Tale sub with little to no context expecting a positive reaction is weird 💀

It is depressing. So is reality. Not sure why you treated him to a cookie for saying that.

He for sure appreciates the uncomfortableness and the reality - it was just supposed to be a little light humour

Hmm.

Oh my. Stop hating a bit of fun. Reality is hard enough. Let them have cookies

I'm allowed to dislike a post without being a hater. Nothing wrong with cookies. Something wrong with apologizing to a man about a show that highlights oppression and suffering of women

I share this line of thinking. Dude gets a cookie b/c he's watching women getting tortured and r*ped b/c men crave power? Because that's uncomfortable?

Maybe have a conversation about that discomfort instead, and then get yourself a cookie for opening his eyes a bit.

Oh man I used to love a good cookie cake!!!

ETA: I get the people that say he needs to sit in his discomfort. I don't disagree. But he can sit there and self medicate with cookies. Also, I probably would have pretended it was for him and it was really an excuse to buy it for myself 🤷🏻‍♀️

He didn't buy it though, she did, and with an apology for how he's feeling about horrific treatment of human beings.

Men don't deserve the cookies right now.

💀💀💀

I think we should get a "Sorry I didn't listen to you" cookie...

I don't condone victim blaming in cases where it is reprehensible. However, placing some responsibility on the victim is not always wrong in cases where they actively put themselves in harms way, as is shown here. You can't marry a convicted murderer, get murdered, and then have nobody comment on it. You also shouldn't jump in alligator infested waters for a swim, nor lay on train tracks for a nap.

What he did was awful. That doesn't remove the fact that marrying him and visiting him was a stupid idea. Not one deserving of death, but I definitely think it isn't super surprising.

!foidmoment !truthnuke

Bimothy text

How can I be happy as a woman right now?

I'm a 19 year old and I feel like it's never been this bad for women (at least in the 21st century).

I feel like every 1 in 5 men my age are raging misogynists and the other 4 are at best lukewarm about it. It genuinely is miserable to feel like this and I've been trying to ignore it, but every other day something pops up on the news and reminds me about it, and then I feel unsafe and start spiraling again.

Am I overreacting? Can other women here relate? I haven't spoken to anyone about this sentiment out of fear of being judged, but it's been going on for a while now. How can I make it "go away"?

https://old.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/1jib191/comment/mjg9yir/?context=8

Giving up bullying is really hard

I just asked another redditor to look into the premise of how often women will be met with "no" when they suggest anything.

We all know it, how it's easier to just say no to us than think about what we suggested for real. I think I found ressources saying it happened 70% of the time and with both men and women giving the auto-no. That's why women get so frustrated when a man suggests the exact same thing 5 minutes later at the same meeting only to be met with "such a fresh perspective, great idea from a valuable worker!" and also why men find women to be argumentative and hard to argue with because we're better at it - because we have to be and train this ability in every interaction every single day.

Well, the info is harder to find than I'd like! Perhaps someone is better at googling it or has better search words for me? I KNOW there's research and statistics regarding this out there!

womxn get told no bc theyre better at arguing and scrotes cant even!

Having to dig up scientific studies to prove this point is exactly this point being proven, is it not? Our word that we experience it is auto-dismissed, so we gotta have the numbers in a pocket somewhere to bring out when we experience it, to prove that it exists.

Agree! But you still know that you'll be met with "where's the proof?" since we women aren't enough to prove it by our testaments ... It's a stupid and vicious circle!