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One of my favorite :mersya: movie :marseyezramiller:

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I'm a petty beefy guy. Have been for most of my adult life. I'm changing my eating and hitting the gym again to get healthy, but I don't think I'll ever be super thin again.

There seem to be a decent amount of men who find plus size women sexy, which I think is fantastic. But as a man, I can't say that my experience has been proportional or at all similar. Outside of fetish communities, I've not encountered a woman who was sincerely attracted to someone with my body type, and thats... hard.

I don't want to be a fetish. I don't want to be in a feeder-type relationship. I want to be healthy, but I also accept that healthiness for me might still be a hefty body type. The BHM communities I've found on reddit are very sexually oriented. I'm not here to kink shame anyone, but that's just not me.

I'm a man with a deep capacity for love and connection. I'm very connected to my feelings and really would like to find a meaningful relationship based on mutual interest, attraction, and compatible personalities.

I just don't know where to find women who would be interested in dating a guy like me. The apps are out. So are the popular dating sites. I just feel like modern dating isn't made for the plus sized man.

Does anyone have some good advice for me? I'm a 46 year old man, who at this point, is kind of at a loss.

!foidmoment :#handshake: !moidmoment

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Come back after you graduate high school. Lol (78)

they don't teach you how to like people in high school and people are inherently evil and i don't need to like them if i don't want to. (-68)

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Tolerance is for putting up with a bad smell, or physical pain, not the existence of gay people or other ethnicities. (413)

as an attractive young male, i can definitely say i barely tolerate gay people. too happy and personable. and people in general. i hate everyone equally so good luck spinning me as homophobic or racist. yes i hate gays yes i hate blacks yes i hate your pasty hairy french dad yes i hate your evil 16 year old cat. get over it (-104)

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Forget the politics, the stuff she's saying about your relationship should be enough to drop her NOR (3521)

You people are sick who would drop your family over differences in opinion (-100)

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i can't believe people are seriously focusing on people being gay when someone in government just did a nazi salute lmao for God's sake. and they're not not taking them back because "they're the worst of the worst", they literally are just not taking them back because it's FRICKED UP TO DO THIS TO PEOPLE 😭 he is literally sending back literal american citizens because he is getting rid of birthright citizenship. WHY ARE WE FOCUSING ON GAY PEOPLE WHEN TRUMP IS CLEARLY GOING OFF THE DEEP END??? he's trying to get FOUR MORE YEARS AGAIN. he is literally being scary. like she should be worried, period. again, why in the absolute FRICK are people focusing on gay people when WE CANNOT AFFORD HOUSING. OR GROCERIES BARELY. we are being overworked and underpaid. immigrants are being overworked and SEVERELY underpaid and blackmailed by companies bc of their legal status. THIS IS NOT WHAT AMERICA WAS SUPPOSED TO BE. SO WHY ARE THEY NOT WORRIED??? i used to think people on the left were overreacti... (0)

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Some might say that we shouldn't sever contact with our MAGA friends and family because it will let them just fall deeper into their own brainwash pit. Unfortunately that ship has sailed long ago. During his first administration this argument might have had some credibility to it but no longer. It's been a decade. They're lost. Like they are legit lost and gone. We have to sever connections to show that this is not normal. We have to show them that this insanity should not be normalized and doing things such as cutting off all contact with these nut jobs will provide a possibility of showing some folks the seriousness of this. To them they think it's politics and they don't understand why family would cut them off just because of politics. But it's not just politics anymore. It's literally infecting the daily lives of not only Americans but international societies as well. It is affecting human rights, it is oppressing people. The Germans in the 1930's let Nazis become normalized an... (0)

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So clearly you cut the start of this argument. Why? And yes if I saw "Two same-s*x parents cannot typically have biological children. But what if two men could have a baby? What do you think the s*x of the child could be" I'd also be going like WTF is this r-slurred question(AND SO SHOULD YOU). What did you expect calling her homophobic. This isn't even about homophobia, it's a stupid fricking question to have in a BIOLOGY textbook! Wtf are you people teaching your kids in the USA. At first I thought republicans were just exaggerating rare cases but shit has become so muddy I don't think either side knows what's up or down. Every well known reddit thread has become a illogical Lib/Cons cesspool of politics ,propaganda and bots(or r-slurs IDK). No fricking wonder Trump won because Dems seem to be the more radical, illogical, brainwashed morons than the republicans usually are. You people need to seriously do a reality check on yourselves or face another 8 years of Republican dominance. ... (1)

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Cal Fire captain found stabbed to death inside of her San Diego County home :marseyterfdomesticabuse:

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A Cal Fire captain was found stabbed to death inside of her San Diego County home on Monday and authorities are still searching for the suspect.

Deputies were dispatched to the 20200 block of Rancho Villa Road in Ramona at around 9 p.m. on Monday after learning of an assault that happened in the area, according to the San Diego County Sheriff's Office.

Upon arrival, they found the victim suffering from multiple stab wounds, deputies said. Despite attempted life-saving measures the woman was declared dead at the scene.

On Tuesday, the victim was identified by the California Department of Forestry and Fire Protection, as Rebecca Marodi, 49, a 30-year firefighting veteran who was stationed in French Valley just north of Temecula.

Thus far into their investigation, Sheriff's Homicide Unit detectives have yet to identify a suspect or motive in the incident, but they suspect that Marodi "knew the perpetrator and are treating this case as a potential domestic violence incident."

According to Cal Fire officials, Marodi began her firefighting career in 193 as a volunteer firefighter in Moreno Valley. She then served as a seasonal Fire Fighter I from 1994 to 2000 in San Bernardino and Riverside before she was promoted to Fire Fighter II. In 2007, she was promoted to a Fire Apparatus Engineer and to Captain in 2022.

She was previously stationed in Perris, Home Gardens, Indian Wells, Menifee, North Rancho Mirage and Temecula before ending up with French Valley Station 83.

"Beyond her operational assignments, Captain Marodi was deeply involved in Peer Support and Hazmat, always prioritizing the well-being of her colleagues," the Cal Fire statement said. "Her legacy of mentorship, service, and dedication will be felt for years to come. Her passing is a profound loss to her family, friends, and all who had the privilege of working alongside her."

Anyone who knows more is urged to contact SDSO homicide detectives at (858) 285-6330.

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Redditors cope with Canada not being a serious country anyone is worried about

					
					

https://old.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1ir8idw/comment/md6j97q/?context=8

Canadians, trust me, nobody outside of extremely online people have any idea you are boycotting us lmao

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Google is unironically gonna make weapons now :marseyexcitedgif:
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Shine :marseychaosemerald: on me + Trouble :marseyevilgrin: of this world :marseymars: - YouTube :marseymetokur:

https://media.tenor.com/_WgPN1XTO0AAAAAx/jesus-the-way.webp https://media.tenor.com/LJY7wl9AHgMAAAAx/jesus-christ.webp

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Banned for islamaphobia. No appropriating the culture of Islam for your rDrama username.

https://i.rdrama.net/images/17396628264-92RSkfQQCDDw.webp

!friendsofspiderman

Who should I ban next. Should I ban award @sandkwinn more? She said something mean to my girlfriend. I hate her. I hate Sandkwinn.

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the only based political subreddit

					
					
					
	

				
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Pizzashill in shambles as he gets scooped on totally normal grocery sales

					
					

Driving around downtown Portland or whatever begging (thru texts) Redditor's family for address to local liquidation store.

Also, Pizza may find love in this post

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They targeted G*mers. G*MERS!, as chud :chudseethe: gaymers sneed over a :marseykey:ed take
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Trump is using an executive order to ban all guns!!!

					
					

/r/law is one of the dumbest subreddits lol

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:marseyfrog2: :marseyfrog:

Almost as if it isn't actually child safety that they care about

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Immediate family? No. The only other sibling is his sister and she's 20-ish. She does baby sit in fairness to her. Widening net to cousins etc none stepped forward. They definitely are there on my wife's side at least. Not sure about his side. (1595)

What about the parents? (96)

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I did that with another story the other day and I got the same thing 💀 Dead internet is looking really real rn (1294)

Are we the orphans of the dead internet? Who will care for us? (561)

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NAH. It's a devastatingly sad situation but your wife is doing what's best for her and you're doing what's best for the children. I can't get my head round your wife saying no either BUT she's not an AH for it. Some people really don't want kids and that's their right. Unfortunately, you may have to choose between them. (323)

I'd have to chose my wife. I wouldnt consider her an AH either but I'm just very surprised and still disappointed.Edit: I don't see how I'm being downmarseyd. She's my wife. Weve been together since we were kids. I wouldnt be happy with it but the kids are not the only ones grieving. I made vows to my wife.  (-82)

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This is the correct response. You have not been an butthole. it's a tragic situation that said, she is not wrong either.This will most likely end your marriage and it's a tough spot you have to choose. She made it clear upfront her view of her life. You agreed to that view. Your view changed hers didn't. So you either go back to the lines you both drew together or get ready to start drawing lines without her. She's not wrong or a bad person for this. If you choose her you have to do it under the pretense you can never resent her for this. Can you do that? If you chose the kids and your marriage ends, would you ever resent the kids? There is not an option here that is not going to leave you with massive "what if" questions. Only you can decide what's most important. You are not the butthole unless you resent your decision and others suffer for it. She's not the butthole cause she is just keeping her word about what her life view is. There's nothing wrong with that.Edit due to the 100+ r... (795)

While he's definitely not the butthole, she definitely is wrong. These children are her family, of course she has an obligation to take them in when this tragedy occurs. Modern society is all about "muh rights" but we've forgotten all about our duties and responsibilities.You have a duty to your family. Even if you aren't religious and view them as disposable, you should want to take them in simply for harm reduction. The harm and negative outcomes for older children going into foster care/state placement are demonstrable and horrible. They'll be (likely) split up. They'll be (likely) abused. They'll be far more likely to fall into addictions, crime, they'll have lower lifetime earnings, less stable homes of their own (if they even have families), etc. Every single metric is worse.It'd be one thing if they did not have the means to care for the children (although it'd have to be an extremely bad financial circumstance to make keeping them worse than abandoning them to whatever the st... (1)

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Just because she doesn't want to do want you and op wants her to, doesn't make her a bad person. A bad person, is trying to force your beliefs onto others then, slandering them when they refuses. (1)

Um letting your dead sister's children fall into neglect and abuse in the foster system because you're too selfish to step up does make you a bad person. That's what being a bad person is. It's literally being so selfish that you make orphans homeless. This behavior and thought process should be shamed and ridiculed. It's the reason society sucks now, everyone only gives a shit about their own convenience and not about being a decent person. You will never convince me that being so far up your own butt that you refuse to care for those that have no one except you is a good thing. (-1)

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ohhh i ws about to type sorry she would leave you if something happened to you as she lacks empathy and saw he said has standing her and Shes a good women. Mans got np clue hes married to someone with a personality disorder. Oh well i guess unless they end up im the system they are better of or maybe still would be cos that shits pathological and one day has going o look back and hate himself. took a twist tbh i was waiting to read he didn't want them. Its a shame people refuse to believe there are woman monsters too. Don't even feel bad for him those aren't red flags they are giant speakers screaming narcissistic personality disorder. if you red this mate, she might change her mind cos she will know she's crossed a big line but if she does yu need to educate yourself on Narcistic child abuse cos that that will happen and you'll need to educate yourself on you to not become complicit either by ignoring it or joining in, you have no idea what you live with in all Honesty nukes you c... (1)

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So hey , quick shit --> the dete's inside ♡<--

As youve noticed, ive been commenting in completely almost all your posts i can before i run outta good things to ssy in my head that i find funny, so maybe if i word the feeling jsut right youll feel it too.. people say im schizo but i am very empathetic toward my surroundings, i cms feel the tension being released when i pet my cat and give her a tint cat massage after a day of staring at me and eating. I also have taught others this magic that i have truly never seen in books. But i have to see if it is any before whateevr, but to be completely honest, id rather teach people with my own words since its been taught to others who donr even beleive in higher content of christianity, let alone withcargyt and blskc black magic, ive taught people and still people dont understand what ik teaching. Im no saint. Many have called me evil since school, ive done no harm, and never will, theyve treated me so wronf, so in my lonesome road of speaking with the clouds rhat speak back, and when i tell peolle this, that the clids tske shape of what you ask, that theh speak back, but novody lsitens, and ive neber had a camera to show toehrs, people dont beleive me, im no god, no christ not even a king of pottys.. but yall dont usnersteand when i peel this layer of reality and say "hey, does anybodh wanna chilk with me here?" Im the most sickest evilist man to exits.. this world hates me and i ahvendont ntohingwornt k hrit yall..

ANYWAYS...

Where was i ? Sorry psychosis. But wahy i siad was 100% real! Every mispeled word and typo with the correctly enlgish language words? What am ireatrwd? Nobody cant evn ... jo.. i wiukdnr throw you undr th bus.. its me.. i jsur wnana go.. bakc to dust..

.ih yeahs..My comments Please help me!

May i start submitting a large portion of of the most upmarseyd ones to snappy?

Also

https://rdrama.net/post/336288/dear-jannies

Im stilk working on those 10k upmarseys everyone

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How many of ya'll did the DICTIONARY GOON? (real shit)

https://i.rdrama.net/images/1738424915QVQavPYEn43W0w.webp

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https://media.tenor.com/-7HQYqPeJjAAAAAx/ejaculation-explosion.webp

How many of you break the law just to goon? It aint a new thang! The old heads would break the law all the time just to goon! Aight, sheeit imma hit ya'll off with a quick lesson on masturbation. You see, none of the GOONERS can agree on where gooning originated and how some GOONING became illegal and some didn't. Sheeit, some of our GOONERS are Christians and according to them, God HATES gooners. As proof, they point to the story of Onan. That's a real deep cut there nigguh get your googles on that shit for real. That dude was the first to say yo FRICK GOD I DON'T WANT GUSSY because GOONING is better.

Folks like me, we goon hard but we ain't Christians. I'm not tryna read an old book unless its a sticky playboy ya heard me? :coomer: in my set we believe that true gooning as we enjoy it today originated with De Sade. Now that motherlover figured out that all these laws, morality, and modesty is bullshit. It's all about GOONING NON-STOP to COMPLETELY ABHORRENT shit. Check this shit out, this gentleman GOONED so hard the FEDS said ENOUGH FUN and they charged him with pornography, s*x crimes, and blasphemy. He said I ain't gonna stop COOMING this is what I believe in to the bottom of my heart I die for this goon shit. I didn't even mention that this KING had royal ancestry. They arrested him many times and he just kept getting out. He gooned so hard FEDS were trying to KILL him.

They aint kill him though. My gooners, we look up to De Sade. We stay in that evil shit bruh we know that the best cooms come from the worst filth imaginable

  • Virgin vulva in a monogamous marriage making consentual and thoughtful love to each other?

NO. I HATE THAT SHIT NIGGUH.

https://media.tenor.com/IGxWkIMWY4MAAAAx/hate-hatred.webp

De Sade is a real G for us gooners. If you don't understand then maybe you're not a REAL GOONER and we don't want no FAKE GOONERS on our set so you best get going. Before he left, he wrote the best filth ever. Shit goes so hard, it has GOONER scholars decoding it in modern day. Sheeeit. This GENIUS left behind the whole blueprint for HARDCORE GOON ADDICTS.

https://www.independent.co.uk/arts-entertainment/books/we-translated-the-marquis-de-sade-s-most-obscene-work-here-s-how-a7393066.html

Now there's one more set I wanna talk about and that's the EVOLUTIONARY BIOLOGISTS. Sheeit, I don't really frick with these BIPOCs. They be using science and shit to trace back the origins of COOMING in humans and the psychological underpinnings of GOONING in our shared human ancestry. Because it's crazy, cultures around the world, completely disconnected across space and time, and we all GOON hard.

https://i.rdrama.net/images/1738424915DFo8wKOxccRIjQ.webp

https://media.tenor.com/TXdZvyjjYMIAAAAx/reaction-what.webp

Some of us gooners, sheeit when we're not out there selling COOMpacks on Whatsapp/Telegram, we look up at the stars and wonder... do aliens coom? If they do then maybe this goon shit goes back further than human history. Maybe it was passed down to us from ancient galactic beings. And it's our duty to pass on the gift of GOONING to the next generation and get them hooked on TORRENTED PORN, USED TAMPONS, and UNSAFE S*X.

https://media.tenor.com/lH64UaVl_00AAAAx/lord-vishnu.webp

But this post isn't about all the sets. It's about one young man who had the courage to stand against society and GOON. That man is me. Sheeit when I started gooning I was just a YB aint got shit going on for me in life except weak butt shit like college, caring parents, and goals and aspirations. Then I discovered GOONING and I realised actually I aint tryna hear all that shit. I was put on this Earth to GOON.

https://media.tenor.com/OrQWyfcliMIAAAAx/sasha-banks-moans.webp

https://media.tenor.com/7_Or8zP1S9wAAAAx/doctor-who-dr-who.webp

WOMEN TRY TO STOP ME FROM COOMING BUT THEY CAN'T.

https://media.tenor.com/yHk3UnYtiWwAAAAx/nope-haha.webp

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I want pain, faeces, and rotten, cut-open torsos that I coom into. But back when I was a wee young lad I didn't have TERABYTES of COOMpacks (DM me for details). So sheeit I did what's called the dictionary game. I would look up naughty words in a physical dictionary, read that filth, and GOON hard.

It's the best way to goon. You don't need:

  • Clothes

  • Lube

  • Internet

  • Electricity

  • A mobile device or electronic gadgets

You just need a dictionary and your hand. Just keeping gooning boys. The promised land is almost here.

https://media.tenor.com/VXeY3ukEiSkAAAAx/yes.webp

https://media.tenor.com/eemjMzBp2EgAAAAx/dance.webp

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THEY NOT LIKE US.

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Booze Cruiser goes 130mph so he can see his Marsey sooner :marseybow:

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Spider-chan

🐞 #BeriArt @beribug.bsky.social

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Just saw the worst pickup attempt possible at a bar

Was sitting next to 3 college aged girls and some dude came up to them and mentioned that his daughter had just started going to college. They decided to guess his age and decided late 40s so he got mad at them, asking how in the world they thought he looked that old when he was 34. He then walked away leaving them dumbfounded. Literal :marseyretardchad: !fellas

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The unspoken agony of vaginal dryness: 'I had to give up four jobs in four years' :marseyanorexic:

					
					

When Lorraine Kelly shared her experience of menopause on her daytime TV show in 2017, she was her own last resort. Initially, she set out to interview a famous woman about her story, but everyone she approached refused.

"I thought, nobody else will talk about it so I'll do it. It was a breakthrough moment," said Kelly.

Seven years later, it often feels as though we have reached peak menopause. Michelle Obama, Salma Hayek and Gwyneth Paltrow have all been open about their experiences, encouraging women not to feel ashamed about a biological process an estimated 13 million people in the UK are now going through. And yet there's still one part of it that is barely spoken about.

Vaginal dryness.

As with so much in this realm, it took a celebrity – Davina McCall in this case – to shine a light on it. For those of us who'd assumed this symptom was a minor inconvenience, which only affected s*x and was easily remedied with the kinds of lubrication readily available from high street chemists, it was a brutal wake-up call.

"I had severe dryness, so severe that when I tried to wipe myself after going to the loo, it was so sore I was having to kind of dab," McCall said in her 2021 documentary, S*x, Myths and the Menopause. "I didn't know what it was, I had no idea that it was part of being perimenopausal."

Previously known as vulvovaginal atrophy, now rebranded as genitourinary syndrome of menopause (GSM), vaginal dryness will probably affect between 60% and 80% of women, according to various studies. It is caused by the drop in oestrogen levels, which happens as women go through menopause, causing vaginal tissue to become thinner and less elastic. Despite it being so common, one study has found that a third of female sufferers did not report it to their doctor.

This is partly because of embarrassment, says Haitham Hamoda, consultant gynaecologist and clinical lead of the menopause service at King's College Hospital. "Most GPs are well informed and offer a great service, but of course, there are variations of what you can access. Part of it is going to be what is available to you, what is offered to you, and what you feel comfortable talking about."

He continues: "You'd be surprised how many people would come and see you because they're talking about flushes and sweats and brain fog. And when you say, 'Do you have vaginal dryness?' they will say, 'Oh, yes, it's really uncomfortable'. But they never really think about bringing it up, unless you specifically ask."

Hamoda has seen women who are too sore to wear underwear. "You do find people who say clothes are uncomfortable because it's touching against the area … In extreme cases they find it uncomfortable sitting or walking."

GP and menopause expert Dr Renée Hoenderkamp has had cases like this too. "I've seen women who can't go about their daily life because of vaginal dryness. It's absolutely debilitating. They can't go to the gym any more, can't wear jeans, can't go for a bike ride, can't run up the stairs at the station. It's all just too painful."

Clare, 55, says GSM "consumed my whole life". "I used to sit in a shallow, cold bath, sobbing. It was agony, the burning never let up for one second of the day or night. Even walking was painful." It began when she was 47, but she never considered her symptoms could have anything to do with being perimenopausal because her periods were regular, and she was not having hot flushes.

But, as Hoenderkamp points out, every menopause is different: "For some women, vaginal dryness will be their first symptom, very early, even before their periods have changed. Other women won't get it until they've gone through it all. It's really individual."

She also believes that seeing dryness as just a symptom of menopause can be misleading. "Women who breastfeed for more than six months will suppress their oestrogen to a level where they may get vaginal dryness. The pill can cause it. Antidepressants. It's not just restricted to menopausal women."

The implications of vaginal dryness can go far beyond pain, says Hoenderkamp. "Once past menopause, when all of the tissue in and around the vagina and urethra dries and atrophies, women become much more susceptible to urine infections because bacteria are able to attach to the tissue."

Hamoda has also seen women avoiding or missing cervical screening due to GSM. "Sometimes you can't open the speculum because they're so dry and uncomfortable, even though, of course, you're using plenty of lubrication." In some cases, he has told patients to "take vaginal oestrogen for the next two months, then come back and we'll attempt this smear again. Sadly, this is not an uncommon scenario."

Not every doctor is aware of how to help women with GSM. Emily, 44, sought medical advice as soon as her vaginal dryness began four years ago. "It felt like there was a red hot poker inside of me," she says. She also suffered from urinary tract infections. Her GP found it so hard to reach a diagnosis that at one point he told her – on the phone – that she might simply have to prepare herself for a life of chronic pain.

As she was 40 when her symptoms began, her doctor didn't consider perimenopause. She was passed between different NHS services, given courses of antibiotics, a cystoscopy, referrals to urology, gynaecology and physiotherapy. She also paid to see a private vulval pain specialist. As all this was going on, no painkillers could make any difference, and she remained in agony.

"It's been catastrophic," she says. "The pain makes it very difficult to concentrate. I've had to give up four jobs in the space of four years. I've had to sell my house and move away from my friends because I need to have more savings in case I can't carry on working. It's had a massive effect on my mental health."

Out of desperation, Emily began to research her symptoms herself. She found out that one in 20 women go through perimenopause before they're 45, and, presuming this was what was happening to her, Emily wrote a detailed letter to her GP, asking for vaginal oestrogen. He agreed to put her on a low dose. "And within two days the burning stopped."

She is still, however, struggling with her UTI symptoms – which include needing to pee around four times an hour. While it's impossible to know what has caused this, she believes that because her infection was not treated for so long it has got worse. She is now being treated separately for her persistent UTI.

Misdiagnosis is a common thread through this condition. Dr Paula Briggs, a consultant in sexual and reproductive health at Liverpool Women's NHS Foundation Trust, reports, "It depends who the patient presents to, how likely they are to get the right diagnosis. Loads of women will be told they've got thrush."

It's a perfect storm – women reluctant to seek medical help in the first place, then a delay in being diagnosed.

"Whereas other menopausal symptoms resolve – generally they get less severe, then they stop – GSM becomes progressively worse over time and is very difficult to reverse," says Briggs. She now thinks all women should be given vaginal oestrogen at around the age of 45 as a default.

However, as oestrogen pessaries fall under the HRT umbrella, some women remain nervous due to the small increased risk of breast cancer linked to progestogen-containing forms of HRT. Hoenderkamp says that vaginal oestrogen does not carry the same risk. "It is just about as safe as houses, and very easy. I often have women who say I can't have vaginal oestrogen because I've had breast cancer. Well, you can."

Hamoda is more cautious: "Generally speaking, with breast cancer patients you would try other non-hormonal options first. But on an individual basis."

However, it is not a problem that will disappear overnight. "In terms of the oestrogen, women are not going to do it for a year and then it will all be OK. It's probably a lifelong commitment to their vagina," says Hoenderkamp.

Vaginal oestrogen is available from chemists – although it's cheaper on prescription from your GP – and there are also moisturisers and lubricants women can buy over the counter as a possible first port of call.

The message overall is clear, though. If you are uncomfortably dry, you should never suffer in silence – it's not just a part of ageing that happens to everyone, which you have to grin and bear – it's something that can be treated and, in most cases, eased.

"Awareness is key," says Hamoda. So, while there has never been so much talk about menopause as there is now, there's still a lot that needs to be said.

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Richard Hanania receives $15 tax payer dollars for his NGO :marseyemojilaugh: On this episode of the datarepublican saga!

Deaf anime avatar creates easy to search website of NGO data. Specifically focused on USAID at the beginning but slowly expanding to more site

https://datarepublican.com/award_search/

Rightoids use this to find millions of tax dollars going to libtards making more than them

They speculate that DOGE is now going to destroy the libtards :marseyletsgo:

But wait. What about looking inward into rightoids receiving money?! :marseythonk:

Well someone searched Hanania and found he had an NGO. And also there's someone name "Shlomo Hanania" :marseyemojilaugh:

But it turns out he's only received $15 :marseyemojilaugh: So three months of Peepee Hanania's substack somehow made it into some Fed's budget :marseyemojilaugh:

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Knockkers stay winning! :chadblack2: :chadblack2: :chadblack2:

MISSION, Kan. (AP) — An 86-year-old Missouri man has died just days after pleading guilty to a lesser charge in the 2023 shooting of Ralph Yarl, a Black honor student who rang the white man's doorbell by mistake, prosecutors announced Wednesday.

Yarl testified at a hearing that he rang the bell and then waited for someone to answer for what seemed "longer than normal." As the inner door opened, Yarl said, he reached out to grab the storm door, assuming he was at his brothers' friends' parents.

He said Lester shot him in the head and uttered, "Don't come here ever again." Although the bullet didn't penetrate Yarl's brain, the impact knocked him to the ground. Yarl said Lester then shot him in the arm. The teen was taken to the hospital and released three days later.

Imagine the terror if a Texas A&M student showed up at your door uninvited. :marseyyikes:

I love sucking peepee and seeing racist old Missourians die. Kill all Missourians, knockkers forever. :marseyblack:

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