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I'm a petty beefy guy. Have been for most of my adult life. I'm changing my eating and hitting the gym again to get healthy, but I don't think I'll ever be super thin again.
There seem to be a decent amount of men who find plus size women sexy, which I think is fantastic. But as a man, I can't say that my experience has been proportional or at all similar. Outside of fetish communities, I've not encountered a woman who was sincerely attracted to someone with my body type, and thats... hard.
I don't want to be a fetish. I don't want to be in a feeder-type relationship. I want to be healthy, but I also accept that healthiness for me might still be a hefty body type. The BHM communities I've found on reddit are very sexually oriented. I'm not here to kink shame anyone, but that's just not me.
I'm a man with a deep capacity for love and connection. I'm very connected to my feelings and really would like to find a meaningful relationship based on mutual interest, attraction, and compatible personalities.
I just don't know where to find women who would be interested in dating a guy like me. The apps are out. So are the popular dating sites. I just feel like modern dating isn't made for the plus sized man.
Does anyone have some good advice for me? I'm a 46 year old man, who at this point, is kind of at a loss.
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Forget the politics, the stuff she's saying about your relationship should be enough to drop her NOR (3521)
You people are sick who would drop your family over differences in opinion (-100)
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A Cal Fire captain was found stabbed to death inside of her San Diego County home on Monday and authorities are still searching for the suspect.
Deputies were dispatched to the 20200 block of Rancho Villa Road in Ramona at around 9 p.m. on Monday after learning of an assault that happened in the area, according to the San Diego County Sheriff's Office.
Upon arrival, they found the victim suffering from multiple stab wounds, deputies said. Despite attempted life-saving measures the woman was declared dead at the scene.
On Tuesday, the victim was identified by the California Department of Forestry and Fire Protection, as Rebecca Marodi, 49, a 30-year firefighting veteran who was stationed in French Valley just north of Temecula.
Thus far into their investigation, Sheriff's Homicide Unit detectives have yet to identify a suspect or motive in the incident, but they suspect that Marodi "knew the perpetrator and are treating this case as a potential domestic violence incident."
According to Cal Fire officials, Marodi began her firefighting career in 193 as a volunteer firefighter in Moreno Valley. She then served as a seasonal Fire Fighter I from 1994 to 2000 in San Bernardino and Riverside before she was promoted to Fire Fighter II. In 2007, she was promoted to a Fire Apparatus Engineer and to Captain in 2022.
She was previously stationed in Perris, Home Gardens, Indian Wells, Menifee, North Rancho Mirage and Temecula before ending up with French Valley Station 83.
"Beyond her operational assignments, Captain Marodi was deeply involved in Peer Support and Hazmat, always prioritizing the well-being of her colleagues," the Cal Fire statement said. "Her legacy of mentorship, service, and dedication will be felt for years to come. Her passing is a profound loss to her family, friends, and all who had the privilege of working alongside her."
Anyone who knows more is urged to contact SDSO homicide detectives at (858) 285-6330.
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https://old.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1ir8idw/comment/md6j97q/?context=8
Canadians, trust me, nobody outside of extremely online people have any idea you are boycotting us lmao
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Who should I ban next. Should I ban award @sandkwinn more? She said something mean to my girlfriend. I hate her. I hate Sandkwinn.
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You guys are genuinely so fucking pathetic IT'S QUITE LITERALLY JUST VIDEO GAMES https://t.co/sfcujDv4Lu
— kazu°• (@kiikazuu) February 8, 2025
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Immediate family? No. The only other sibling is his sister and she's 20-ish. She does baby sit in fairness to her. Widening net to cousins etc none stepped forward. They definitely are there on my wife's side at least. Not sure about his side. (1595)
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I did that with another story the other day and I got the same thing 💀 Dead internet is looking really real rn (1294)
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NAH. It's a devastatingly sad situation but your wife is doing what's best for her and you're doing what's best for the children. I can't get my head round your wife saying no either BUT she's not an AH for it. Some people really don't want kids and that's their right. Unfortunately, you may have to choose between them. (323)
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This is the correct response. You have not been an butthole. it's a tragic situation that said, she is not wrong either.This will most likely end your marriage and it's a tough spot you have to choose. She made it clear upfront her view of her life. You agreed to that view. Your view changed hers didn't. So you either go back to the lines you both drew together or get ready to start drawing lines without her. She's not wrong or a bad person for this. If you choose her you have to do it under the pretense you can never resent her for this. Can you do that? If you chose the kids and your marriage ends, would you ever resent the kids? There is not an option here that is not going to leave you with massive "what if" questions. Only you can decide what's most important. You are not the butthole unless you resent your decision and others suffer for it. She's not the butthole cause she is just keeping her word about what her life view is. There's nothing wrong with that.Edit due to the 100+ r... (795)
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As youve noticed, ive been commenting in completely almost all your posts
ANYWAYS...
May i start submitting a large portion of of the most upmarseyd ones to snappy?
Also
https://rdrama.net/post/336288/dear-jannies
Im stilk working on those 10k upmarseys everyone
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How many of you break the law just to goon? It aint a new thang! The old heads would break the law all the time just to goon! Aight, sheeit imma hit ya'll off with a quick lesson on masturbation. You see, none of the GOONERS can agree on where gooning originated and how some GOONING became illegal and some didn't. Sheeit, some of our GOONERS are Christians and according to them, God HATES gooners. As proof, they point to the story of Onan. That's a real deep cut there nigguh get your googles on that shit for real. That dude was the first to say yo FRICK GOD I DON'T WANT GUSSY because GOONING is better.
Folks like me, we goon hard but we ain't Christians. I'm not tryna read an old book unless its a sticky playboy ya heard me? in my set we believe that true gooning as we enjoy it today originated with De Sade. Now that motherlover figured out that all these laws, morality, and modesty is bullshit. It's all about GOONING NON-STOP to COMPLETELY ABHORRENT shit. Check this shit out, this gentleman GOONED so hard the FEDS said ENOUGH FUN and they charged him with pornography, s*x crimes, and blasphemy. He said I ain't gonna stop COOMING this is what I believe in to the bottom of my heart I die for this goon shit. I didn't even mention that this KING had royal ancestry. They arrested him many times and he just kept getting out. He gooned so hard FEDS were trying to KILL him.
They aint kill him though. My gooners, we look up to De Sade. We stay in that evil shit bruh we know that the best cooms come from the worst filth imaginable
- Virgin vulva in a monogamous marriage making consentual and thoughtful love to each other?
NO. I HATE THAT SHIT NIGGUH.
De Sade is a real G for us gooners. If you don't understand then maybe you're not a REAL GOONER and we don't want no FAKE GOONERS on our set so you best get going. Before he left, he wrote the best filth ever. Shit goes so hard, it has GOONER scholars decoding it in modern day. Sheeeit. This GENIUS left behind the whole blueprint for HARDCORE GOON ADDICTS.
Now there's one more set I wanna talk about and that's the EVOLUTIONARY BIOLOGISTS. Sheeit, I don't really frick with these BIPOCs. They be using science and shit to trace back the origins of COOMING in humans and the psychological underpinnings of GOONING in our shared human ancestry. Because it's crazy, cultures around the world, completely disconnected across space and time, and we all GOON hard.
Some of us gooners, sheeit when we're not out there selling COOMpacks on Whatsapp/Telegram, we look up at the stars and wonder... do aliens coom? If they do then maybe this goon shit goes back further than human history. Maybe it was passed down to us from ancient galactic beings. And it's our duty to pass on the gift of GOONING to the next generation and get them hooked on TORRENTED PORN, USED TAMPONS, and UNSAFE S*X.
But this post isn't about all the sets. It's about one young man who had the courage to stand against society and GOON. That man is me. Sheeit when I started gooning I was just a YB aint got shit going on for me in life except weak butt shit like college, caring parents, and goals and aspirations. Then I discovered GOONING and I realised actually I aint tryna hear all that shit. I was put on this Earth to GOON.
WOMEN TRY TO STOP ME FROM COOMING BUT THEY CAN'T.
I want pain, faeces, and rotten, cut-open torsos that I coom into. But back when I was a wee young lad I didn't have TERABYTES of COOMpacks (DM me for details). So sheeit I did what's called the dictionary game. I would look up naughty words in a physical dictionary, read that filth, and GOON hard.
It's the best way to goon. You don't need:
Clothes
Lube
Internet
Electricity
A mobile device or electronic gadgets
You just need a dictionary and your hand. Just keeping gooning boys. The promised land is almost here.
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DUI suspect caught speeding at over 130 mph said he was in rush to see his cat: cops https://t.co/bhFU83s7NV pic.twitter.com/XX2K3NJW73
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🐞 #BeriArt @beribug.bsky.social
— thernz (@thernz.bsky.social) 2025-02-10T01:45:35.559Z
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Was sitting next to 3 college aged girls and some dude came up to them and mentioned that his daughter had just started going to college. They decided to guess his age and decided late 40s so he got mad at them, asking how in the world they thought he looked that old when he was 34. He then walked away leaving them dumbfounded. Literal !fellas
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When Lorraine Kelly shared her experience of menopause on her daytime TV show in 2017, she was her own last resort. Initially, she set out to interview a famous woman about her story, but everyone she approached refused.
"I thought, nobody else will talk about it so I'll do it. It was a breakthrough moment," said Kelly.
Seven years later, it often feels as though we have reached peak menopause. Michelle Obama, Salma Hayek and Gwyneth Paltrow have all been open about their experiences, encouraging women not to feel ashamed about a biological process an estimated 13 million people in the UK are now going through. And yet there's still one part of it that is barely spoken about.
Vaginal dryness.
As with so much in this realm, it took a celebrity – Davina McCall in this case – to shine a light on it. For those of us who'd assumed this symptom was a minor inconvenience, which only affected s*x and was easily remedied with the kinds of lubrication readily available from high street chemists, it was a brutal wake-up call.
"I had severe dryness, so severe that when I tried to wipe myself after going to the loo, it was so sore I was having to kind of dab," McCall said in her 2021 documentary, S*x, Myths and the Menopause. "I didn't know what it was, I had no idea that it was part of being perimenopausal."
Previously known as vulvovaginal atrophy, now rebranded as genitourinary syndrome of menopause (GSM), vaginal dryness will probably affect between 60% and 80% of women, according to various studies. It is caused by the drop in oestrogen levels, which happens as women go through menopause, causing vaginal tissue to become thinner and less elastic. Despite it being so common, one study has found that a third of female sufferers did not report it to their doctor.
This is partly because of embarrassment, says Haitham Hamoda, consultant gynaecologist and clinical lead of the menopause service at King's College Hospital. "Most GPs are well informed and offer a great service, but of course, there are variations of what you can access. Part of it is going to be what is available to you, what is offered to you, and what you feel comfortable talking about."
He continues: "You'd be surprised how many people would come and see you because they're talking about flushes and sweats and brain fog. And when you say, 'Do you have vaginal dryness?' they will say, 'Oh, yes, it's really uncomfortable'. But they never really think about bringing it up, unless you specifically ask."
Hamoda has seen women who are too sore to wear underwear. "You do find people who say clothes are uncomfortable because it's touching against the area … In extreme cases they find it uncomfortable sitting or walking."
GP and menopause expert Dr Renée Hoenderkamp has had cases like this too. "I've seen women who can't go about their daily life because of vaginal dryness. It's absolutely debilitating. They can't go to the gym any more, can't wear jeans, can't go for a bike ride, can't run up the stairs at the station. It's all just too painful."
Clare, 55, says GSM "consumed my whole life". "I used to sit in a shallow, cold bath, sobbing. It was agony, the burning never let up for one second of the day or night. Even walking was painful." It began when she was 47, but she never considered her symptoms could have anything to do with being perimenopausal because her periods were regular, and she was not having hot flushes.
But, as Hoenderkamp points out, every menopause is different: "For some women, vaginal dryness will be their first symptom, very early, even before their periods have changed. Other women won't get it until they've gone through it all. It's really individual."
She also believes that seeing dryness as just a symptom of menopause can be misleading. "Women who breastfeed for more than six months will suppress their oestrogen to a level where they may get vaginal dryness. The pill can cause it. Antidepressants. It's not just restricted to menopausal women."
The implications of vaginal dryness can go far beyond pain, says Hoenderkamp. "Once past menopause, when all of the tissue in and around the vagina and urethra dries and atrophies, women become much more susceptible to urine infections because bacteria are able to attach to the tissue."
Hamoda has also seen women avoiding or missing cervical screening due to GSM. "Sometimes you can't open the speculum because they're so dry and uncomfortable, even though, of course, you're using plenty of lubrication." In some cases, he has told patients to "take vaginal oestrogen for the next two months, then come back and we'll attempt this smear again. Sadly, this is not an uncommon scenario."
Not every doctor is aware of how to help women with GSM. Emily, 44, sought medical advice as soon as her vaginal dryness began four years ago. "It felt like there was a red hot poker inside of me," she says. She also suffered from urinary tract infections. Her GP found it so hard to reach a diagnosis that at one point he told her – on the phone – that she might simply have to prepare herself for a life of chronic pain.
As she was 40 when her symptoms began, her doctor didn't consider perimenopause. She was passed between different NHS services, given courses of antibiotics, a cystoscopy, referrals to urology, gynaecology and physiotherapy. She also paid to see a private vulval pain specialist. As all this was going on, no painkillers could make any difference, and she remained in agony.
"It's been catastrophic," she says. "The pain makes it very difficult to concentrate. I've had to give up four jobs in the space of four years. I've had to sell my house and move away from my friends because I need to have more savings in case I can't carry on working. It's had a massive effect on my mental health."
Out of desperation, Emily began to research her symptoms herself. She found out that one in 20 women go through perimenopause before they're 45, and, presuming this was what was happening to her, Emily wrote a detailed letter to her GP, asking for vaginal oestrogen. He agreed to put her on a low dose. "And within two days the burning stopped."
She is still, however, struggling with her UTI symptoms – which include needing to pee around four times an hour. While it's impossible to know what has caused this, she believes that because her infection was not treated for so long it has got worse. She is now being treated separately for her persistent UTI.
Misdiagnosis is a common thread through this condition. Dr Paula Briggs, a consultant in sexual and reproductive health at Liverpool Women's NHS Foundation Trust, reports, "It depends who the patient presents to, how likely they are to get the right diagnosis. Loads of women will be told they've got thrush."
It's a perfect storm – women reluctant to seek medical help in the first place, then a delay in being diagnosed.
"Whereas other menopausal symptoms resolve – generally they get less severe, then they stop – GSM becomes progressively worse over time and is very difficult to reverse," says Briggs. She now thinks all women should be given vaginal oestrogen at around the age of 45 as a default.
However, as oestrogen pessaries fall under the HRT umbrella, some women remain nervous due to the small increased risk of breast cancer linked to progestogen-containing forms of HRT. Hoenderkamp says that vaginal oestrogen does not carry the same risk. "It is just about as safe as houses, and very easy. I often have women who say I can't have vaginal oestrogen because I've had breast cancer. Well, you can."
Hamoda is more cautious: "Generally speaking, with breast cancer patients you would try other non-hormonal options first. But on an individual basis."
However, it is not a problem that will disappear overnight. "In terms of the oestrogen, women are not going to do it for a year and then it will all be OK. It's probably a lifelong commitment to their vagina," says Hoenderkamp.
Vaginal oestrogen is available from chemists – although it's cheaper on prescription from your GP – and there are also moisturisers and lubricants women can buy over the counter as a possible first port of call.
The message overall is clear, though. If you are uncomfortably dry, you should never suffer in silence – it's not just a part of ageing that happens to everyone, which you have to grin and bear – it's something that can be treated and, in most cases, eased.
"Awareness is key," says Hamoda. So, while there has never been so much talk about menopause as there is now, there's still a lot that needs to be said.
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I hate to defend Hanania, but this is a misunderstanding of the tool. This part just shows a mapping between a person and the NGO they are part of.
— Will I Am - e/acc (@SouthernWintrs) February 6, 2025
If you use the EIN to look at how much he gets from taxes it's just $15.
($15 that he shouldn't get, but it's not significant) https://t.co/IyH0ldedDZ pic.twitter.com/4BTyEjuDZZ
Deaf anime avatar creates easy to search website of NGO data. Specifically focused on USAID at the beginning but slowly expanding to more site
🚨 NEW TOOL: PRINCIPAL OFFICER SEARCH & USAID TRACKING 🚨
— DataRepublican (small r) (@DataRepublican) February 5, 2025
🔎 FOLLOW THE LEADERS. TRACE THE MONEY. 💰
I’ve built a powerful tool to help you track nonprofit leadership and follow USAID grant flows with ease.
Here’s what you can do:
✅ Search by Principal Officer – Find nonprofits… pic.twitter.com/kr1sHCnRwR
https://datarepublican.com/award_search/
Rightoids use this to find millions of tax dollars going to libtards making more than them
For a real eye-opener on the scope of this USAID welfare program.
— Cernovich (@Cernovich) February 5, 2025
1. Run a keyword search via Data Republican.
Example, "Diversity."
2. Find a grant.
Example, "American Councils For International Education"
3. Get Form 990 for the grant recipient.
4. Check salaries. pic.twitter.com/5yMkvOTS7P
They speculate that DOGE is now going to destroy the libtards
A lot of "Marko's" are about to go Full Luigi. Count on it. Read all 4 panels in replies. pic.twitter.com/AqVXQT11LN
— Matt Bracken (@Matt_Bracken48) February 5, 2025
But wait. What about looking inward into rightoids receiving money?!
Well someone searched Hanania and found he had an NGO. And also there's someone name "Shlomo Hanania"
Richard Hanania as well pic.twitter.com/lizDASryi2
— DonJoseLopezPortillo (@donjoselopezpyp) February 6, 2025
But it turns out he's only received $15 So three months of Peepee Hanania's substack somehow made it into some Fed's budget
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MISSION, Kan. (AP) — An 86-year-old Missouri man has died just days after pleading guilty to a lesser charge in the 2023 shooting of Ralph Yarl, a Black honor student who rang the white man's doorbell by mistake, prosecutors announced Wednesday.
Yarl testified at a hearing that he rang the bell and then waited for someone to answer for what seemed "longer than normal." As the inner door opened, Yarl said, he reached out to grab the storm door, assuming he was at his brothers' friends' parents.
He said Lester shot him in the head and uttered, "Don't come here ever again." Although the bullet didn't penetrate Yarl's brain, the impact knocked him to the ground. Yarl said Lester then shot him in the arm. The teen was taken to the hospital and released three days later.
Imagine the terror if a Texas A&M student showed up at your door uninvited.
I love sucking peepee and seeing racist old Missourians die. Kill all Missourians, knockkers forever.