Howdy,

I'm in a really difficult situation and need some outside perspective. My wife (36F) and I (34M) have been married since 2014 and have two children (born 2014, 2017). Our relationship started strong but has faced serious challenges.

Last August, I discovered my wife had been having an affair for over a year. When confronted, she agreed to reconciliation but has only genuinely apologized once. She maintains she's "not guilty" because our marriage was "already dead" before her affair.

After months of attempted reconciliation with some brief improvements, she recently told me she wants a "more mature partner" and is only staying because she hopes I'll "grow as a man." She specifically mentioned my lack of a father figure growing up. She says she can't fully open up to me because she's afraid of getting hurt again.

We're in therapy, but progress feels minimal. I feel stuck in limbo - not moving forward but not ready to end things either. Our intimacy is nearly non-existent and I'm questioning whether rebuilding genuine connection is possible.

For rebuilding trust after infidelity, experts recommend open communication, taking responsibility, consistency, and creating new positive experiences together. However, my wife doesn't seem to be taking accountability for her actions, which is crucial for healing.

I'm torn between trying to save our marriage for our children and accepting that this relationship might be beyond repair. What should I do? Is there hope for us, or am I prolonging the inevitable?

I would say cuck fan fiction, but their post history is surprisingly detailed.

From /r/TrueChristian:

Can genuine love come back after infidelity? (a Christian husband's turmoil)

Hi guys,

My heart is heavy but I've already spoken about this with so many people (friends, relatives, psychotherapists etc.) that I feel perfectly comfortable sharing my rather trivial, yet incredibly painful story.

I'm a believer (I was saved almost a decade ago and have been a believer in Christ ever since) and I married my wife when I was only 24 (in 2014). This was my first real girlfriend, the first woman I had s*x with etc. The relationship was awesome, with true love and passion – the lot. In 2014 we had our son and in 2017 our daughter, both real blessings from the Lord.

However, this is when things started to go south, mainly due to the shift in the man/woman dynamics in the relationship. I've always been introverted, while she's an extrovert and I've always been super supportive, helping with household chores and anything else. Yet, our s*x life suffered and initially, she was the problem, but then, a few years later (in 2019/2020) she regained her s*x drive but this time mine didn't match hers and still continued to deteriorate.

She began disrespecting me by sharing personal (explicit info about our s*x life with a male co-worker, who we all think is gay, but it doesn't make it any less demeaning) and even telling me that she'll find an affair partner if we didn't fix our s*x life. I was kind of in a depressed state, being more inert and just cruising by, not being the man that I knew I could be, nor the one she wanted and/or hoped for.

We were drifting apart in terms of moral values and overall outlook on life more and more. Me being much more spiritually oriented, looking at this life as something very brief, while she's all materialistic and living for the moment. This led to her getting breast implants, as a last resort to rekindle my desire for her, but it just didn't help and our issues continued.

Then, a few months later she began an affair which I found out only a year later (it had been going on for a bit more than 12 months). I can't explain the pain I felt and the bewilderment as I was 100% sure that my wife would never do this to me and that she wasn't like that. Well, I was foolish, very, very foolish.

Initially, she wasn't sure that she'd be able to completely commit to making things work but shortly after that she did agree to reconcile and our journey of reconciliation began (in August 2013). She only said "sorry" in a genuine manner once, as she started crying, but ever since I can't really feel any true remorse on her part and she even says that she's not guilty (she immediately started blaming me after the discovery and even said that our marriage was already dead long before the affair). Still, after agreeing to reconcile I've set new rules, boundaries and conditions, which she agreed to. Initially, things went well and gradually got better as our "new relationship" peaked around February this year.

The s*x was good and overall things looked normal, except that I didn't feel the same love for her (and I think that she felt and still does feel the same way, although it's never been confirmed). I cannot see her with the same eyes and I've definitely loved respect and appreciation for her as a result of what she committed, for an entire year, with all the lies, deception and so forth.

Since February things have devolved slowly, resulting in more fights, a lack of intimacy and just resentment. We're currently 2 months without s*x (I was on a business trip for 3 weeks though) and things look very grim. We started therapy immediately after the discovery and we're currently actively doing work, but it doesn't seem to help that much.

I just think that I've lost my genuine love for her and I'm fooling myself that I can keep this marriage going, mainly for God (who hates divorce and we're to do everything we can to reconcile) and my children. However, I have Biblical grounds for divorce (if love is indeed gone and resentment is all there is) as found in Matthew 5:32.

I'm fully aware that it's my decision and I'm responsible for taking it, yet I still feel like trying. However, it feels like we're just spinning our wheels and my wife is crystal clear that she wants to live in peace, without such issues and to just live happily.

Can you truly love your wayward wife again, after she willingly emasculated you in such a way by letting another man do what only her husband should? I feel like I already know the answer to this one...

What's your opinion?

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Side Note:

Sooooo, imagine a world where we're all just chilling, right? Good vibes, inclusivity, people respecting each other's pronouns, and maybe even agreeing that pineapple on pizza slaps (don't @ me). It's the utopia we deserve. But then—dramatic sting—here comes the intolerant squad, ready to ruin everything. And where do they congregate? Twitter, obviously, because ever since Elon Musk yeeted himself into the driver's seat of that hellsite, it's been a nonstop cringe-fest of unchecked edgelords and literal Nazis. Yeah, I said it—Nazis! They're back, baby, and they're thriving in the "free speech" paradise Elon's turned Twitter into. It's like he saw Popper's paradox of tolerance and went, "Nah, fam, let's see what happens if we just let the gremlins run wild."

And that's where the paradox comes in, because Karl Popper —absolute legend, btw—knew the score. He said if you're too tolerant, like if you let every single take slide, even the ones that are straight-up fascist garbage, then you're toast. Intolerant people don't vibe with "live and let live"—they're out here trying to torch the whole system. Elon's over there like, "I'm a free speech absolutist," meanwhile the platform's turning into a cesspool where swastika-pfp chuds can scream about "heritage" without a care in the world. Bro, you're not defending free speech—you're handing the megaphone to the worst people imaginable. The paradox says you can't tolerate that if you want a tolerant society to survive. It's not rocket science —though maybe Elon could figure it out if he wasn't too busy tweeting memes and simping for crypto.

And don't even try that "but muh free speech" cop-out with me. Free speech is the GOAT, 100%, but it's not a get-out-of-jail-free card for Nazis to goose-step all over Twitter while Elon shrugs and says, "Just vibes." The paradox of tolerance is the ultimate reality check: you don't get to use "speech" as a shield while you're trying to oppress people or, I dunno, resurrect the Third Reich in 280 characters or less. Twitter's basically a case study in what happens when you ignore Popper—spoiler alert: it's a lot of dogwhistles, a sprinkle of stochastic terrorism, and a whole lotta "well, actually" from blue-check weirdos who think they're owning the libs by platforming hate.

This is why the paradox is everything, okay? It's the line in the sand we need when Elon's out here turning Twitter into a safe space for every basement-dwelling troll and their swastika tattoo. If we don't shut down the intolerant clowns —like, yesterday—then we're just handing the keys to the kingdom over to literal Nazis. It's not cancel culture, it's consequence culture, and I'm living for it. Popper clocked this tea back in the '40s, and it's scalding hot in 2025. So next time some Musk stan or Twitter Nazi tries to tell you "tolerance means I can say whatever," just hit 'em with the paradox and watch their smooth-brain takes implode like a Tesla in a ditch. Upmarseys to the left, downmarseys to the Nazis, and Elon, please, for the love of all that's holy, read a book. Mic drop.

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Like, I love Jarrett and I'm sure he'll be bringing something to the table, but Gematsu bracketing Global Force Entertainment for the man is hilarious. Dude founded TNA with his dad Jerry, made millions over the years as a wrestler, was the SVP of Life Events at WWE and is the current Business Dev director at the second largest wrestling company in the world in AEW.

Global Force was a very short-lived wrestling promotion that turned into Jeff trying to sell gold for some ponzi scheme while he was pretty deep in some alcoholism.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jeff_Jarrett

So earlier today I received a knock at the door, and I check my door camera and I see a uniformed police officer standing outside my apartment. They leave something on my door and go back to a black SUV parked outside. They are then in the SUV for about 15 minutes. They leave and I wait another 15 minutes before I grab the card and bring it inside. Here is the card with anything that could be used to find me blurred out.

What the frick does this mean? Why am I being watched? I'm afraid that this could be a test and if I call the number listed it could be some sort of trap. I'm not even sure what I could have done because I don't even say slurs or anything like that. I never threaten violence other than through mutual combat which is legal in my state. Was lowkey panicking so I checked with chatgpt to see what was happening.

ChatGPT is telling me this when I ask but it makes no sense because I truly can't think of anything I could have done. It's actually so funny that this happens now. Because when I was actually going through something that could be considered a struggle and this could have been useful they never came. Not a soul noticed. But I have to deal with things like this now when I've been the happiest I've been in my entire life? I have simply never had this much energy, nor been so certain that things are going my way.

Anyways, does anyone have any advice on what I should do? Will they keep coming back?

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