Do you consider reading "spicy" romance novels a red flag if youre pursuing a serious relationship? 21M and 19F.

So I just found out that my girlfriend reads a lot of romance novels and when I talk to her about it she said that she wanted to tell me earlier but she forgot. Note that we have talked about books and what we read many many times and she didn't mention this type of books even once.

The books are very porn-ish and role play-ish. Some about having s*x with some billionaire and some about cheating and having affairs with multiple men. It's all about romantic and sexual fantasies.

Her living this double world of reading these romance books as a fantasy and living with me as a reality really made me discouraged to be in such a relationship and the fact that THESE are her fantasies doesn't sit right with me at all.

I should add that I did something not nice and treated her like never before because of this:

I've brought up this topic to her sometimes and one day she brought me one of these books for me to read its first chapter while I was playing videos game(it was definitely one of the safer ones). I did read it and when she asked about my opinion I said "do you know I was this 🤏 close to break up with you because of these stupid shits you read?" and went back to my video game(as I said I've never even come close to treating her like that). She sat about 4-5 minutes and then went to the bathroom and started crying(not loud but I secretly listened). I know what I did was pretty harsh to her but that's honestly proportionate to how much I hated it.

She started laying some(safer ones) of them in her bookshelf after I knew but after this interaction she put them out again(haven't checked yet but they're probably where she was hiding them in first place) and she's acting like nothing happened. I am also not reacting right now but I just can't ignore it.

What's should I do now?

TLDR: my girlfriends reading written porn and I have a problem with that, some are about being with multiple men and cheating which makes it much worse.

I've told her that I'm was about to break up with her over them and it made her cry, I'm still strongly considering it and but I'm not sure.

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Side Note:

Sooooo, imagine a world where we're all just chilling, right? Good vibes, inclusivity, people respecting each other's pronouns, and maybe even agreeing that pineapple on pizza slaps (don't @ me). It's the utopia we deserve. But then—dramatic sting—here comes the intolerant squad, ready to ruin everything. And where do they congregate? Twitter, obviously, because ever since Elon Musk yeeted himself into the driver's seat of that hellsite, it's been a nonstop cringe-fest of unchecked edgelords and literal Nazis. Yeah, I said it—Nazis! They're back, baby, and they're thriving in the "free speech" paradise Elon's turned Twitter into. It's like he saw Popper's paradox of tolerance and went, "Nah, fam, let's see what happens if we just let the gremlins run wild."

And that's where the paradox comes in, because Karl Popper —absolute legend, btw—knew the score. He said if you're too tolerant, like if you let every single take slide, even the ones that are straight-up fascist garbage, then you're toast. Intolerant people don't vibe with "live and let live"—they're out here trying to torch the whole system. Elon's over there like, "I'm a free speech absolutist," meanwhile the platform's turning into a cesspool where swastika-pfp chuds can scream about "heritage" without a care in the world. Bro, you're not defending free speech—you're handing the megaphone to the worst people imaginable. The paradox says you can't tolerate that if you want a tolerant society to survive. It's not rocket science —though maybe Elon could figure it out if he wasn't too busy tweeting memes and simping for crypto.

And don't even try that "but muh free speech" cop-out with me. Free speech is the GOAT, 100%, but it's not a get-out-of-jail-free card for Nazis to goose-step all over Twitter while Elon shrugs and says, "Just vibes." The paradox of tolerance is the ultimate reality check: you don't get to use "speech" as a shield while you're trying to oppress people or, I dunno, resurrect the Third Reich in 280 characters or less. Twitter's basically a case study in what happens when you ignore Popper—spoiler alert: it's a lot of dogwhistles, a sprinkle of stochastic terrorism, and a whole lotta "well, actually" from blue-check weirdos who think they're owning the libs by platforming hate.

This is why the paradox is everything, okay? It's the line in the sand we need when Elon's out here turning Twitter into a safe space for every basement-dwelling troll and their swastika tattoo. If we don't shut down the intolerant clowns —like, yesterday—then we're just handing the keys to the kingdom over to literal Nazis. It's not cancel culture, it's consequence culture, and I'm living for it. Popper clocked this tea back in the '40s, and it's scalding hot in 2025. So next time some Musk stan or Twitter Nazi tries to tell you "tolerance means I can say whatever," just hit 'em with the paradox and watch their smooth-brain takes implode like a Tesla in a ditch. Upmarseys to the left, downmarseys to the Nazis, and Elon, please, for the love of all that's holy, read a book. Mic drop.