I've (28M) been together with my wife (27F) for 7 years. She's never had hygiene issues. She has always been a little bit messy and untidy. Leaving dishes out in bedroom/living room. Etc.

About 3 years ago it got so bad in the bedroom when it came to cleanliness/tidy that I decided to move myself into the spare bedroom and sleep separately. Soon after I started using the other bathroom too. Potty never flushed, tooth paste all over the counter, make up everywhere. Clothes everywhere. Literally no space for me to even keep a toothbrush without worrying it would get something on it. Keep in mind we live in a very big house. The bedroom we shared is 30' by 14'. The bathroom has a 7' long vanity. 6 bedrooms. 3.5 bathrooms.

I've brought up my concerns many times. Which usually resulted in a mediocre clean/tidy and then immediately back to mess.

5 months ago we were blessed with our first born child. Since his birth the entire house has become unlivable for me. Dirty diapers in the bedroom for weeks. Living room is unsharable for me. Just stuff everywhere and never put away. Hygiene issues also. 1 shower per week. Many days without deodorant.

I feel trapped in my own house. It stresses me out. I offered to hire a cleaning lady to come by on a regular basis but the house is in such disarray that I don't know if she could even clean. There's stuff everywhere. I don't want to come out of my room some days.

I've had talks with her about this and have told her how much it stresses me out. Shes tried to make some attempts but I don't know if she realizes that what she did is like 1% of what I need.

I've tried to be a leader in the matter and gotten rid of even more of my stuff. I really don't have many things but she doesn't follow suit when I recommend that she gets rid of some old things. I've tried to go through her things with her but she gets so defensive when I recommend getting rid of old things that she doesn't use or will ever have a use for.

She complains we don't have enough space/storage. I built her storage in our basement and in our kitchen. It gets filled and then other items appear. I honestly don't know where it all comes from.

I'm not the cleanest or least messy person in the world. I'm not asking for perfection. I'm not even asking to be minimalistic like myself. I just want to feel at home in my own house. I'm really struggling. I honestly feel like I need to live in a different house from my wife.

Can someone please help me figure this out? I really don't know what else to tell my wife or what I can do to help.

!foidmoment

🚨HOA newsletter says LAPD believes these fires are being started by a “savvy arsonist” that knows “wind patterns and fire science”

They’re targeting affluent areas

Like we’ve said from day 1, this isn’t climate change

It’s arson pic.twitter.com/icXb4cflsd

— DC_Draino (@DC_Draino) January 10, 2025

Another unqualified dumbass.

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— Yuyutsu (@yuyutsurao) January 18, 2025

I have a drinking problem pic.twitter.com/7agFvrSPSH

— Elon Musk (@elonmusk) January 9, 2025

“The Danish king has shocked some historians by changing the royal coat of arms to more prominently feature Greenland and the Faroe Islands – in what has also been seen as a rebuke to Donald Trump” https://t.co/nRa9ltCMUH

— Shashank Joshi (@shashj) January 6, 2025

Please outlaw those darn "update your income information" emails everyone sends out on a regular basis

Approximate situation in Velyka Novosilka.

Contrary to previous reports, Ukrainian forces still maintain a presence in southern Velyka Novosilka, in and around the hospital. However, the formations here are either encircled, or about to be encircled. If there is an escape route,… pic.twitter.com/AJsZa1zVly

— AMK Mapping 🇺🇦🇳🇿 (@AMK_Mapping_) January 23, 2025

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JUST IN: Los Angeles Fire Department chief Kristin Crowley turns on Los Angeles leadership, says they failed her.

Remarkable interview.

Crowley called out the city for having no water in the Santa Ynez Reservoir.

Reporter: "Did the city of Los Angeles fail you and your… pic.twitter.com/fUQPoW32QA

— Collin Rugg (@CollinRugg) January 10, 2025

Just ignore the suicide rates and try gassing up the dude you're arguing with and you win lmao

I finally did it! Dressed trad Goth in public in India

Dressed trad goth and went out in public, took public transport and metro, IN INDIA! Dressed up to was Nosferatu (it got released here yesterday)

So here's how my experience went-

• My rikshaw driver was surprised and we had a wholesome talk about how unique ny style was and he was interested about the movie I was going to.

• People were staring at me in metro station, some girls asked me why I was dressed this way, and complimented my style.

• One guy from the PVR staff was continuously complimenting me but kept saying my "cosplay" is good, I didn't care to correct him cause I had to focus on movie and chillin

So far no bad experience, people looked at me weirdly but no one did anything to harm me, everyone was respectable.

Why I m writing this post- So that people know, you can be yourself, a lot of babybats from India come on this sub and then ask me how I get the courage to be myself, my answer now would be, just take the first step! It took me ten years to dress like this in public and public transport, not because it wasn't safe here but because I was scared of bad things happening to me, the only way to know if my fears were true, was to actually get dressed like this and go out. Here's to all Desi babybats🖤 be you!

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