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Just to get it out of the way, he probably was trying to tap that. This was recommended to a lot of people's feed so there are accusations of "not a real lawyer" flying around that I'm not going to bother posting.
OP:
We have a new undergrad intern (a young woman, perhaps 19 years old), and I thought I'd take her to lunch to welcome her and answer questions about the work. Simple, right? Apparently, taking a female intern out to lunch is now a high-risk situation requiring oversight.
When we got back, it was suggested in the future that I invited other attorneys and avoided going to lunch one-on-one with female interns.
Lesson learned, and in hindsight I get where the firm is coming from. I still think it's a bit of an overreaction, though. I've gotten mixed responses when I've told people this. I'm curious what the subreddit thinks
His darning follow up post where he admits to having something in common with her and actually talked to her.
[–]TurnDownTheRadioJerk[S] -47 points 3 days ago
So here's more: I'm a 24 year old first year and the school she's going to is the same school I went to for undergrad, and she even has some of the same professors I had. We got talking and I asked her to lunch. No, I don't assign her work, but we seem to get along. Yes, there are other interns, but I haven't really had to talk to them yet
Responses to the follow up:
That sounds a little better than I initially imagined, given your ages are pretty close and the power dynamics aren't super crazy off (I'm assuming you don't have much influence at your firm). But your follow-up also makes it sound more like you are in fact trying to hit on her (or at least become her friend), and your firm gave you good advice. You shouldn't be doing anything that looks like you might be looking for a romantic relationship with anyone subordinate to you
Yea OP is totally hitting on her he wouldnt have done this for a dude I'm guessing.
That is pure speculation on your part, is really hard to imagine forming connections and mentorship in a professional field without ulterior motives. It seems reasonable to plausible to me I have gone to lunch with both male and female colleagues.
Dude… that's a crush let's be real, and you were testing the waters.
There's nothing mentor-ly about this. You were trying to get to know her in a personal capacity 😭
Why did this get so downkongd?
Because the world of genuine courteous courtship has gone entirely to the wayside and in its stead is this hyper-sensitive environment. All of this whilst people complain that they can't meet others organically anymore.
He's a young man and shes a young woman. If he is courteous and respectful in his proceeding with her and he doesn't have power over her directly or otherwise in the firm, I don't see the issue. Statistically, the workplace used to be a great place to meet your spouse.
Young man and a younger** woman. She's a teenager AND an intern. He is an adult who can drink and her mentor at a law firm trying to isolate her. He can treat all the interns or a few more so they arent alone.
There is nothing improper, legally or ethically, about a 24 year old and a 19 year old dating
Got ourselves a over here.
Other Responses:
More context is needed. Are there more interns than just her? Are you working closely with her? If you were her direct supervisor or somebody formally assigning her work, and she was the only intern, I don't think it would necessarily be weird. If you were some random associate who just showed up and was like, "Yo, wanna grab lunch", and didn't invite any of the male interns in the same room, I could see how that might not have the best appearance
I think he left them out on purpose. He didn't want to look like a creep
Two comments in we have him being called a creep. Doesn't appear to be a lawyer and posts in a really odd mix of subreddits including /r/aupairs.
Barely a crumb of context which might be explanatory in itself.
Is this the only intern you've ever taken out? If so, why this sudden exception?
Is she the only intern? If not, why exactly did you choose her and her alone?
Do you work more closely with her than anyone else? Most attorneys work more closely with paralegals, so why her and not them?
[–]PoundTown68 -35 points 3 days ago
That's a lot of useless questions. In a sane world, two consenting adults can go to lunch without concern. Two consenting adults should be able to do whatever they want together if we're being honest. This is exactly why feminists should be ignored. We've allowed them to create a culture of fear, where everyone is tiptoes around unnecessary regulation that benefit nobody….except for 40 year old feminists, jealous that they're no longer sexually attractive, who want to force everyone else to be unhappy with them. Misery loves company.
Darn, found the incel
$100 this guy sexually harasses people on the daily
Yeah, I mean, look alive brother. Avoiding the appearance of a questionable situation is very easy if you have situational awareness.
Was it actually questionable? That's not the right question and doesn't matter (unless it got weird). Protect yourself and the firm. Heck, the vast majority of lunches I went to as an intern or otherwise young firm employee were with multiple people, now that I think about it.
This is crazy. Taking someone out to a business lunch in a public place is not out of bounds or even close.
Why was this intern chosen for a solo business lunch with an older male attorney? I'm not saying OP had any untoward intentions, but let's not pretend the optics don't raise valid concerns.
Also, though, based on the follow up, op definitely does have untoward intentions
The optics of it are not great. Put yourself in the shoes of a supervising partner. Perhaps his 28 years old associate has no bad intention when he asks the 19 year old intern to lunch. Perhaps the 28 year old intern has romantic intentions. Partner has no idea. Does the 19 year old intern know your intentions. Did you take any male interns to lunch. If there is no romantic intention perhaps bring along another associate (perhaps female) and more than one intern or staffer.
Yeah he has to think what the firm partners would think if this 30 year old associate took the 19 year old to lunch. It's a bad look when a 34 year old associate is doing that with an 18 year old intern. The 17 year old intern doesn't know she can decline the lunch invite from the 38 year old.
When I was a 19 year old college student, I invited a visiting professor to lunch to discuss their career. I thought thats what we were supposed to do "networking" and all, build a rapport. The lunch was 100% professional the entire time. No drinking. I paid for myself. All day time hours in public. Afterwards i was invited into the deans office and told that my behavior was inappropriate and unprofessional and that I needed to learn my place and not be so forward. When I was ultimately asked to leave the school (we aren't expelling you, we want to encourage you to go to a place better fitted for you) they cited my inappropriate relationships with visiting professors as one of the reasons.
It was humiliating.
15 years later that school got sued into the ground for 30 decades of sexual abuse against minors.
(am woman)
Talk about getting absolutely on.
I think they are trying to help you out.
I went to not-lunch with a support staff ... we were both new to the org, and she accused me of being a predator. And then coworkers hacked my email and spread it around the community. It was too late by the time we established that she was lying, for my email inbox was everywhere and the firm decided I had to leave before I could figure it out.
You need to be extraordinarily careful.
I found one of the few dissenting voices that wasn't downkongd into oblivion.
I strongly disagree with this take. Be professional about it. Make sure it's a public place, but refusing to take women to lunch in a professional environment is Mike Pence culture crap that prevents women from having the same opportunities as men.
IMO, a work culture that discourages men from meeting 1 on 1 with women is a massive red flag and usually the #1 sign that the employer has fostered an anti-woman environment.
There is a difference between "men and women can't have lunch together" and "attorney shouldn't take young intern of the opposite s*x to lunch alone". The power imbalance inherent in the latter certainly has a higher chance of producing a bad situation, from either direction (attorney actually taking advantage, or intern falsely claiming they did).
Keeping that sort of thing as a small group activity avoids all the possible issues.
Muh power imbalance.
You're a lawyer and don't understand professional conduct or ethics?
OP about to be disbarred.
Why is no one talking about the 19 year old intern's perspective. That's what matters here. And that's what the others at the firm are focused on, not the intentions of the OP.
Possibly the most incorrect response in the whole thread.
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50501 is underway y'all !nooticers
https://old.reddit.com/r/50501/comments/1iia7ku/stay_safe_stay_strong/
https://old.reddit.com/r/50501/comments/1iic9i4/im_not_moving_my_truck_today/
https://old.reddit.com/r/50501/comments/1iid9vz/elon_musk_is_a_nazi_upkong_this_post_so_when/
https://old.reddit.com/r/50501/comments/1ii9bou/mentioned_on_ap_news/
https://old.reddit.com/r/50501/comments/1ii9793/upkong_everything/
https://old.reddit.com/r/50501/comments/1iidpas/state_capital_protest_has_already_started/
On a weekday afternoon lol
https://old.reddit.com/r/50501/comments/1iid1mr/reddit_is_shadow_banning_posts_spreading_the_word/
https://old.reddit.com/r/50501/comments/1iicc0v/heading_out_to_trenton_nj/
https://old.reddit.com/r/50501/comments/1ii2q5y/got_my_sign_for_tomorrow_lets_do_this_thing/
https://old.reddit.com/r/50501/comments/1ii8s2t/boycott_the_super_bowl/
https://old.reddit.com/r/50501/comments/1iiem6j/texas_starting_to_gather/
https://old.reddit.com/r/50501/comments/1iidl5b/bring_us_flags/
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not Haivng him as Ur lock Screen bcuz Ur ashamed of His Face ? That Just means U guys are a Private , Introverted , Discrete Couple . not Like all those other Gross weirdos Doing PDA on the Tram !! cant Stop stalking Ur hotter Exes On their Socials ? it's Because U Kno they Cant Compare 2 Ur Boyfriend's GROUNDED, DOWN TO EARTH , UNIQUE hotness <3
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Hi, I'm Penny.
We (and every other subreddit) are required to uphold the Reddit Sitewide Rules, and you (because you're using Reddit) are required to abide by them.
One of those rules prohibits Targeted Harassment, and one expression of Targeted Harassment is "anything that contributes to persuading someone else to cease using Reddit".
That includes moderators of other communities, and other communities.
We also want to keep the topic in this subreddit focused on Conservative Terrorism.
Terrorism towards various demographics as expressed by the Trump administration and its supporters can be in a wide range of expressions both subtle and overt, however
Reddit, Inc. has a particular narrow definition of what is and is not an expression of terrorism - one which doesn't cover such things as "I was banned from /r/Subreddit, after posting / commenting something opposing Conservative Terrorists, therefore the operators of that subreddit are Terrorists / Terrorist Sympathisers".
It also doesn't cover "the audience of /r/SubReddit have cognitive dissonance about their support of hateful policies (which policies are arguably terroristic in nature), here, check out their posts and a selection of comments, these rubes, these pols, these maroons".
This subreddit is not a Sneer Club. We aren't here to Gawk at Other People On Reddit Being Hypocrites.
We're also not here to amplify their hateful messages by reposting them here.
So, here are some ground rules:
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Don't screenshot them, don't post them here.
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Don't post there, don't comment there, don't modmail them, don't @ their moderators or participants elsewhere. Boundaries are important - even the boundaries of closeted, in-denial bigots who burp "States' Rights" as an answer to everything.
And don't come here to showboat about it if you do.
And finally,
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We enforce that. Without exception. That includes the dogwhistles and references to violence.
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"WHY"
Oh, for multiple reasons, including (in no particular order):
It's a FRICKING FELONY.
It's a violation of Reddit's Sitewide Rules.
Making threats online gets the FBI (and sometimes the Secret Service) crawling all over you, which (in the current administration especially) makes you a danger to associate with.
we know that literal terrorists - US NATIONALS literally convicted of felony terrorism in the United States, WHICH IS NEXT TO IMPOSSIBLE - make "false flagging as their targets and making violent threats online" one of their go-to methods to terroristically break movements and communities and draw down powerful persecution of them. Oh, and Jack Posobiec does it too.
KINDERGARTENERS LEARN NOT TO DO IT. REDDIT IS FOR PEOPLE OVER 13.
So don't do it, 'K? And don't enable it. Hit Report on any threats you see, even the cutesy "Mario Brothers" and "in Minecraft" ones.
Because, at the end of the day, when the Trump administration goons show up at my doorstep to extraordinarily rendition me to Gitmo, I would like the world to know it is because I am transgender and didn't bend the knee to their fricking terrorism — not because "This subreddit has been temporarily banned due to a prevalence of violent content. Inciting and glorifying violence or doxing are against Reddit's platform-wide Rules. It will reopen in 72 hours, during which Reddit will support moderators and provide resources to keep Reddit a healthy place for discussion and debate."
Oh, and if you want one final reason, here's the final reason:
I'm the head moderator here, and right wing terrorists have used violent threats to give me clinical PTSD around violent threats simply because I stood up and said "kick the terrorists off Reddit", which I manage to work around to continue to advocate for a better world free from their terroristic harassment, so respect my personal boundaries, thanks. If you can't respect any of the reasons above and can't respect my personal boundaries, there's the door, on the other side of which are people all too happy to talk to you about their desire to see you do their dirty work.
Hope that's abundantly clear!
- Aba : Based alert
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Had to do this it was them or me sorry for my family and God bless pic.twitter.com/IzbwTXstDl
— FarmerRigz (@FarmerRigzDTS) February 3, 2025
I didn't see this posted already so sorry if this is a repost. I didn't really look that hard.
OP was shot and killed, obviously
Tweets for 'nauts without Twitter accounts
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Nice little infighting in this SomaliSpot thread discussing deportations of Ethiopian Oromos from one of the federal states of Somalia, Puntland.
For those who don't know what's going on, Oromos have been caught fighting on behalf of ISIS in Puntland's remote mountainous areas, along with Arabs. Since then locals have demanded that they are deported and the government has obliged.
Furthermore, Oromos have installed themselves on Somali soil and we've lost Dire Dhaba to them and other areas. Moreoever, they are at constant war with the Somalis they neighbour, constantly stealing their land and using flipflopping 'Somali' communities to execute their land-expansionism.
Aurelian said: The attack by civilians on Oromos in Somalia will certainly fuel ethnic hatred in Oromia and Ethiopia in general against other Somalis.
LOL You are always sympathising with Oromos, very interesting. What attacks? Hmmmm? The only attacks have been the other way round with Oromo terrorists, Oromo cannibals and Oromo violent land expansionism.
Very spicy, could Aurelian be an Oromo sympathiser? He replies to another user accusing him of harbouring anti-Somali sentiments for our Cushitic cousins:
𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒 said:
They are STILL BREAKING LAWS BY BEING AN ILLEGAL. Or do you think Somalia is a brothel where anybody can walk in without permission?
Aurelian said:
no, if they broke the law the law enforcement should deal with them not mobs them with sticks.
Another patriot expounds on the current naivety of Somalis:
These guys forget this is third world backwards savage Africa, your bleeding heart liberal antics is misplaced, believe me ain't no naxariisc (empathy) in this cursed God forsaken continent, rn Addis Ababa is surrounded by these pagans, they're kidnapping civilians for ransom, if they can't even have naxariis for the weak (Harari) or their fellow countrymen, why should we?
The OP of the thread, BASED Puntite Queen asserts that the Great Replacement is occurring right now not only in the suburbs of Galkacyo but in SomaliSpot itself!!
That is precisely why Ethiopia's plan is to send these people to us, to learn our language and then when they are large enough, they overwhelm our security forces and take over for their coastline fantasy. I am sure many more are in hiding. On this forum too.
One commentator channels his inner Goebbels as he exhorts his countryment to wake up to the Oromo Final Solution!
It's shocking to see how many ppl here have naxriis for these vermins. Man up and stop crying like some lil b!tches. If they had the chance to wipe us out completely they would do it. They are a big threat to our nation. A decade didn't even pass since abiy became president and oromos are responsible for the most genocides and mass r*pes in ethiopia. why don't oromos call their own people out when it comes to the aforementioned atrocities against amharas and tigrayans? Or why didn't our so called oromo 'muslim brothers' oppose the MoU deal and side with us? There is no allies in this God forsaken continent. Believe me abiy would start a war against us and he would supply them with weapons but he can't right now because he's fighting against fano and ethiopia is too broke to fight in two frontlines. Just put two and two together and you will realise that these 'miskiins' are nothing more than sleeper cells whose goal is to take our lands. Kudos to PL
dadkas ha la tarxiilo
The last sane Somali on SomaliSpot speaks up and reminds the angry hordes of the unity of Islam !ummah :
His peaceful response finally brings some levity to the thread as others agree that they might have gone a little too far:
I understand the concerns surrounding Oromo expansionism and tons of undocumented migrants flooding into Somali regions. I don't think most people are saying turn a blind eye and tolerate it or taking issue with safe, legal deportations. The problem is people whipping up Oromo-hate and demonising an entire ethnic group. Someone a few posts before me called them "vermin" and got many upkongs. People are posting tiktoks and twitter posts of Oromo nationalists saying problematic things to paint a certain picture of them and incite further hatred and suspicion. These are dangerous sentiments that don't align with our morals and values. Which, by the way, come from our religion and not "the liberal West". There's never a justification for dehumanising an entire group of people.
I'll call it a day there, plenty more slapfights in that thread for anyone who wants to laugh at more senseless !africans infighting.
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SKINNY SKINNY TUMMY
I could have that seen that live in person, she'd probably be all sweaty dancing around on stage and shit
FRICK
!petitelovers !skinny
I'm not pinging coomers cause I already wasted 610 coins on a post I had to delete
- TheUbieSeether : tl;dr - Fat cute twink barfs out another r-slurred post.
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My company is freaking out over the trade war stuff. They're basically trying to turtle up and slash hours based on the instability of the current government.
They keep preparing fairly large price hikes on tons of items just to shelf them 2 days later.
With unemployment about to explode and government fueled instability increasing food prices I'm legit worried we're gonna see serious strife.
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We spent $20 million on a Sesame Street show in Iraq. It probably looked something like this Lmaooo pic.twitter.com/BGkKEFSjaf
— Libs of TikTok (@libsoftiktok) February 6, 2025
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OP
Top comments all point out that reddit intellectuals were tricked
It's like they don't even care that the GOOD guy got punched!
Redditors seem to not understand that anti-fa means they can't be fascist. Did the conditioning break?
It's like they don't even know the Paradox of Tolerance! It's actually a moral imperative to attack people who disagree with weapons!
Jannies are catching strays
Self-defense enjoyers coming out
Bob Dylan- Times are a changin.mp3
The only 2 black kids in history that did something wrong and deserved to be executed on the spot are mentioned
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Welp, don't bother with Protonmail.https://t.co/oNTxq62hnz
— InRange TV 🏴 (@InRangeTV) February 5, 2025
https://old.reddit.com/r/ProtonMail/comments/1i1zjgn/so_that_happened/m7ahrlm/?context=8
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Adding more drama
This is why I physically assault any ford driver I encounter who's smaller than me
Then they should sell it and buy another car as quickly as they can. I'm sure busted windows and spray painted peepees and swastikas can drive the value down, if the rain hasn't already.
If you bought a Tesla in the past two years, you deserve it.
Yes. People sell cars all the time. It's totally normal. You can sell a car you still make payments on. It's not a hard thing to do.
Dude. They're Nazis trying to monopolize the market. We should absolutely not be supporting them as Americans regardless of your views on electric cars. We don't need Elon for that.
I'm very sus of people who still have their Teslas.
why?
That virtue isn't going to signal itself
Ford was an actual nazi. Does that mean everyone driving a ford is one too?
Nobody who bought a Tesla is struggling lmao the base model is $42k.
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Not uncommon actually. pic.twitter.com/VDPJL2GDyz
— HannahReading 📚 (@readtoyourkid) February 5, 2025
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Update 1:
I received a direct message via Reddit from someone holding the position "tech lead for Add-ons at Mozzarella". I will otherwise keep them anonymous. A quick google search of that position does not reveal their name. The individual does have an @mozzarella.com email address.
The individual in question invited me to provide troubleshooting information/Firef*x logs, to which I happily obliged. I will post any updates by appending this comment.
As an additional note, some commenters are suggesting using cowtools such as Revo Uninstaller or checking my registry. I am not a Windows user so this is not applicable.
Is this the answer? Mozzarella Furryfox will sync two daily drivers to info from two weeks ago?? (Probably not lmfao)
https://old.reddit.com/r/firef*x/comments/1iiagzr/removed_honey_after_the_controversy_this_morning/
Don't be a lameass Furryfox user, be brave! The browser that puts you first | Brave
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I hate to defend Hanania, but this is a misunderstanding of the tool. This part just shows a mapping between a person and the NGO they are part of.
— Will I Am - e/acc (@SouthernWintrs) February 6, 2025
If you use the EIN to look at how much he gets from taxes it's just $15.
($15 that he shouldn't get, but it's not significant) https://t.co/IyH0ldedDZ pic.twitter.com/4BTyEjuDZZ
Deaf anime avatar creates easy to search website of NGO data. Specifically focused on USAID at the beginning but slowly expanding to more site
🚨 NEW TOOL: PRINCIPAL OFFICER SEARCH & USAID TRACKING 🚨
— DataRepublican (small r) (@DataRepublican) February 5, 2025
🔎 FOLLOW THE LEADERS. TRACE THE MONEY. 💰
I’ve built a powerful tool to help you track nonprofit leadership and follow USAID grant flows with ease.
Here’s what you can do:
✅ Search by Principal Officer – Find nonprofits… pic.twitter.com/kr1sHCnRwR
https://datarepublican.com/award_search/
Rightoids use this to find millions of tax dollars going to libtards making more than them
For a real eye-opener on the scope of this USAID welfare program.
— Cernovich (@Cernovich) February 5, 2025
1. Run a keyword search via Data Republican.
Example, "Diversity."
2. Find a grant.
Example, "American Councils For International Education"
3. Get Form 990 for the grant recipient.
4. Check salaries. pic.twitter.com/5yMkvOTS7P
They speculate that DOGE is now going to destroy the libtards
A lot of "Marko's" are about to go Full Luigi. Count on it. Read all 4 panels in replies. pic.twitter.com/AqVXQT11LN
— Matt Bracken (@Matt_Bracken48) February 5, 2025
But wait. What about looking inward into rightoids receiving money?!
Well someone searched Hanania and found he had an NGO. And also there's someone name "Shlomo Hanania"
Richard Hanania as well pic.twitter.com/lizDASryi2
— DonJoseLopezPortillo (@donjoselopezpyp) February 6, 2025
But it turns out he's only received $15 So three months of Peepee Hanania's substack somehow made it into some Fed's budget
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New York literally just invented garbage cans
I'm sure it cost the city tens of billions of dollars to pilot this program.
Orange sight: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=42918425
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