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From an email from a Columbia professor to his class. No final exam, and everyone gets an A. Is Columbia going to allow professors to literally not do their jobs? pic.twitter.com/X4KukVg7q1
— David Bernstein (@ProfDBernstein) May 3, 2024
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Yeah no shit, wobbling back and forth waddling damaging your cardiovascular and skeletal structure is as basic as knowing the flu is bad.
Just how much internalized shame we carry. If you've seen someone who was really skinny struggle with shame, with thinking that they are too fat, and feeling guilty about how they lookโฆ.that same shame lives inside so many of us.
We're also judged!!! No shit unhealthy habits are judged. At least anorexic and bulimics just understand that they refuse medical advice and not just blame others for their health issues.
It is really easy to gain weight over time. You get a sedentary job and you snack occasionally, and in the evening you watch TV or read a book instead of going out. So you weigh three pounds more than you did at this time last year. No big deal, right?
It's so easy to gain weight that it's something I just ignored for over a decade instead of taking proactive measures in my life to prevent this when noticed. Instead let's just blame it on the fact that I made no lifestyle changes in this period even though diet adjustment is still the main factor so let's just b-word about things not in control.
Just take semaglutide like every other fatty and stop shoving your mouth with garbage.
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Previously, I had declared my feelings of affection to a female friend of mine (let's just call her Sarah because her name is Sarah). The feelings were not reciprocated, but she let me down in a weird way, she spoke about how she doesn't know how she feels, but she's not looking for a relationship at the moment. She embraces the asexuality meme which is partially how we ended up being friends.
More recently, I decided to give it another shot but to be more tactful this time. I told her I don't think I'm asexual anymore, and that I want to be in a relationship. Once again, she reiterated that she doesn't know how she feels and that a relationship isn't what she wants. Nevertheless, as always, she was nice about it and continues to actively pursue my friendship and constantly tells me she loves me.
At first, this confused me. However, I think I have some of it figured out. I have learned a bit about women and human relationships in general from this experience, and I'd like to share some of the reasons why it's almost certainly a bad idea to pursue your female friends. Now, of course there will be exceptions. Sometimes your female friend genuinely does like you and you'll have a romcom moment. My point is that that's probably not the case, and while you may view the friendship with rose-tinted glasses, she sees things totally differently.
1. They're used to it
Since they started developing breasts, women have been the center of sexual attention. It comes from all angles including older men, teachers, family members, and even other women. At some point, they get used to it and it becomes background noise. "Yes, he's ogling my breasts but I need to finish scanning my groceries".
The sexual attention also comes from male friends. You're NOT the first male friend to express romantic emotions, and you won't be the last. She's turned all of them down, what makes you think things will be different with you? She's used to it, she probably saw it coming, and she doesn't want it. If she did, you wouldn't have to ask because she'd make it obvious to you that she's romantically interested.
Now, there is the possibility of misreading signals, which brings us to the next point.
2. Women genuinely have platonic feelings
This is not to say that men are incapable of having platonic relationships. Nay, that is not my point. My argument is that it is much harder for men to do so. People shit on Steve Harvey but he was 100% correct when he said the following:
Things aren't the same with women. They can genuinely love you deeply without any sexual or romantic feelings. Why is this? Women don't have to deal with the famine mentality. For many men, s*x and love are scarce resources, so when it even vaguely seems like there's an opportunity for it, the feelings come on strong. Hence the cliche of "the cashier smiled at me now I want to marry her". (Most) women aren't leading you on intentionally when they allow intimacy into a friendship. That's the way friendships should be. But it doesn't mean she wants anything sexual or romantic.
3. You're in love because you're lonely
This is probably the crux of the issue. When you're starving, even a mud pie looks delicious. As men, you will face long stretches of loneliness and never being told you're beautiful, attractive, or worthy of anything. Inasmuch as catcalling and sexual objectification should be chastised, it at least serves as some kind of validation of one's attractiveness.
A friendship with a woman can bring about those feelings of validation within men and if you're not ready for it, it's going to develop into obsessive love. If you had higher self-esteem, more experience with women, or a source of love, your friendships with women would be completely normal and platonic. It's when these elements are missing that any smile, hug, or eye-gaze turns into fantasies of marriage.
When she inevitably turns you down, what are you left with? Nothing yet again. Nobody to say they love you or assure you that you are wanted in this world.
Things get more complicated if you're an introvert. Most relationships seem useless unless you're benefitting considerably. In your mind the thinking is "I'd only put this much effort into a relationship if I had romantic feelings". Whereas if the woman is an extrovert, it isn't costing her much mental energy to maintain the relationship. I hope that make sense.
4. She knows already
Don't bother. She already knows you like her. She accepts that as part of the cost of the friendship. That's not a bad thing. It means there's something good about you that she wants in her life even if its not of the romantic nature. You should be flattered by this even if it is heartbreaking at times.
Some women are a bit mean with this. They essentially get everything they would get from a boyfriend (someone to talk to, someone to take care of them) without the need to commit. But that's not always the case. In my case, Sarah goes out her way to be nice to me and to spend time with me. She's not using me for anything - a genuine, platonic friendship is all she wants. It's hard for my brain to wrap my head around it. I thought it was obvious that she felt something. Maybe I had to take the lead and break the ice? Nah, I'm convinced she knew ages ago I liked her but loved me enough to still be my friend despite not sharing romantic feelings.
5. You may lose everything
Life is about taking risks so I don't want to stress this point too much. However, if she doesn't already know and you spring it up on her, she may never trust you again and you will lose all the intimacy of your friendship. She will remain guarded around you, and perhaps even think of you as a slimy coomer who tried to use friendship to get into her pants. Shit can get brutal.
I've been lucky to have an understanding friends who has continued to be nice to me. I know that this isn't the case for everyone, and it also depends on how you respond to the rejection.
CONCLUSION
Heartbreak is one of the worst feelings to experience. It's like a knife constantly twisting in your chest. But it's part of life for most of us. A lucky few will find high-school sweethearts and never have to play the dating game, but for most of us, we're going to get rekt a couple times before we find the right one (if we ever do). Please, for the love of god, don't go looking for a girlfriend from your female friends. There's a difference between a girl friend and a girlfriend.
I'm probably preaching to the choir, and this may be obvious to most people here. But I know there are some autists who may need to read this to spare themselves the heartache I went through. The funny part is that if you're in love, nothing I write is going to change anything. You'll think your case is different. You'll try your luck. And you'll get rekt. But don't let me stop you. Some mistakes are meant to be made.
I know the asexuality meme isn't true. One day, she'll find a guy she likes (not me) and all that asexuality shit will disappear. And when it happens it will hurt like heck. However, I'm prepared, and I'll still be her friend. I'm wiser now thanks to the mistakes I've made. Thanks for reading.
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Andrew Neil, Bongoid journoid, shared this image from the times:
As per the National, it is a outrageous cartoon. Some Yoons react with glee. Some brave Freedom Fighters react with
Twitter link: https://twitter.com/afneil/status/1786322780465619348
Some screens:
Some noticed one MP is a bit selective about her outrage:
Reddit Thread: https://old.reddit.com/r/Scotland/comments/1cjd4qz/horrific_fury_as_andrew_neil_shares_cartoon_of/?sort=controversial
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straight up I save my own clean piss just in case I need it. But then I'll find those mini m & ms tubes filled with my piss like at the bottom of my freezer or back of my car and i'm like jesus christ eww how do I live like this
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I think you're delusional if you think Nickole Atkinson overstepped any boundary. If she hadn't been persistent, if she hadn't kept hounded CW or didn't call the police it would have been a completely different outcome. Neighbor Nate on the other hand was aiming for his 15 minutes of fame. (13)
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I know right?!? I don't know much about her, but she was the bestest friend in that situation you could have. She was like a darn bloodhound mixed with a Rottweiler! If my partner killed me, went off to workโฆ I don't think anyone would notice for a spell. Especially if he gave some excuse like I wanted some time away as they were have some issues or something. People would just think I was busy or something.Her? She just mobbed up and wouldn't let ANYONE tell her ANYTHING. She was going to figure out what the issue was and where her friend would be. Most of us would defer to a friends husband at first because obviously they know better than us about events. Not her! She was calling up everyone, talking with receptions staff at the doctors, even getting into her phone! Chris didn't even have a full morning to enjoy his new life, free of his family obligations. He didn't even get to go to the Lazy Dog for a date with the mistress. Certainly no romantic trip or anything like that! That... (26)
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Nickole "Scoob" Atkinson exhibited behavior akin to a stalker when she couldn't find her "friend" SW. I thought she was absolutely rude, acting like the house was her own. Normal people would have called the other owner (Chris) and expressed concern, but Nickole had such weird entitlement-- like the world is coming to an end because SW and daughters are missing and she must gain access! Honestly, SW absolutely used Nickole. SW solely benefited from that relationship. Nickole ran errands and mowed their darn lawn, while SW sat back on her lazy butt (blaming her 'health challenges' of course!) SW didn't deserve a friend like NA, and sadly, NA couldn't see that her "friendship" was strictly one-sided. (3)
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Na wasn't her friend, she was more of a caregiver. She was probably more afraid of losing her job. (1)
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The defunct WOT called Nickole Atkinson the Quasimodo for the Thrive huns. That was not a jab at her physical appearance. It was how she was treated with doing their dirty work, especially for Shanann, such as picking up the gift the Watts mailed for Cece and taking it back to the post office to return it, and being unaware that she was overstepping society's objective boundaries or willing to cross them to appease the mean girls she was trying to impress.Nickole was following instructions from other huns because she was the local one in Denver who could do what they said, like driving over to SW's house to look for her. I think all of the huns were worried that SW had harmed herself because she'd been a basket case all weekend - refusing to eat, getting low blood sugar from not eating, getting a headache from low blood sugar, etc. SW was stressed to be sure but based on her flair for drama and medical attention, I suspect she was exaggerating for attention. Likewise, the huns ... (29)
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I mean it's weird to say but I have more fun on this site than anywhere else and it's mostly just schizos laughing at r-slurs. I feel like life shouldn't be this boring. I'm sure I'd like a family and get bored of them eventually. I don't really relate to anyone. My worst problem is I always have problems sleeping. Other than that I just wait for the next happening, whatever it may bring. Such is life.
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Not content with forcing their values on games, Sony has once again shown off their prude side with the PS4 English release of the Tsukihime remake, censoring two images that come in the Limited Edition extra artbook showing off design drafts.
Two of the images in the artbook will be altered according to Aniplex, while the Nintendo Switch version will remain uncensored, showing off just how fragile Sony is. The game itself has no changes made to either version, which raises questions as to what is being censored.
Some people have speculated that it is an image of Ciel mostly naked, while others brought up two images that show off panties on a petite girl, which surely would raise alarm bells with those who can't differentiate reality from fiction:
Like neighbors I had no idea this game exist or what it is
So I googled:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tsukihime
So it's some obscure porn franchises from 2000
This image will get censored
I mean why would you buy porn game on ps if you can pirate on pโฆ I mean buy on steam than install uncensored patch.
It's quite interesting that the good plot japanese games have porn in it