I (f26) have been dating this guy (m25, German from a small village) for 8 months now. He's amazing and I truly love him. I have had my fair share of shitty partners but he's totally different.

>date shitty moids

>thought they were actually good people

>found out he's shitty

>break up

>date another shitty guy

However! I have been noticing that he says some really racist stuff. Now, I'm not the kind of person who throws the word racism at every opportunity, so this is big.

He ALWAYS has a bad thing to say about arab immigrants, he always makes the assumption that these people don't work and just leech of the government.

Looks like someone doesn't like kebab

He praises colonialism and tells me it's the reason why these “shit hole countries ” have been modernized, and if they were left alone without the Europeans, they would have still been inhabitable deserts, so there must be a “reason” why Europeans could achieve all this greatness while other ethnicities couldn't.

Germs are quite behind on the colonialism game compared to most Europoor (especially ) countries.

We cooked a traditional dish from my country and he said that I shouldn't be taking any pride in that because it was invented by the British, and if not for them, we would have still been eating rotten fish! (Fermented fish is another traditional dish that we have).

Said by the people who eat Mett (raw pork)

He also says that the reason why black people were so happy about the movie Wakanda was because they wanted to see themselves “finally achieving something”,

Really?

Black users please explain

he's also 100% against immigration and tells me that he doesn't want to see these people here, and when I ask him what if these people integrate, he responds that this is like asking what if water doesn't make you wet.

Expats that only speak English but not local language exists everywhere.

I told him about some very obvious racist situations and he still tried to justify these situations, saying that I'm just overreacting and that this wasn't racism.

no No NO I AM NOT A CHUD

What's really weird is that he isn't even a “pure German”, his own mother is an immigrant and he's half Jewish! And due to his Jewish parent, he always gets mistaken for spanish/Italian, not only that, but his own gf (me) is Arab, an immigrant, brown, Jewish and is originally from one of these “shit hole countries”.

>half jewish

Max Naumann moment

EDIT: okay, I'm stupid, very stupid, I admit that. You're all right.

To answer some questions:

yes I am both Arab and Jewish

no his hatred to Arabs isn't because he's Jewish, it's because they “destroyed his country”

Yes he knows that I am an Arab

Yes I know that I am an idiot, I was just gaslamping myself and telling myself that I was just overthinking, thank you all for opening my eyes.

Chuds not going for non-white womyn challenge (impossible!)

Not going through the comment this time since it's just redditisms.

Saavedra, according to court documents, turned 36 on Sept. 11, three days following his arrest. Court documents listed a number of prior arrests and convictions for Saavedra, but those entries were redacted from the court documents we received.

In court documents, Saavedra is listed as a transient.

Court documents state that Phoenix Police officers responded to a residential neighborhood near 75th Avenue and Camelback Road for a burglary in progress call at around 10:05 p.m.

When officers arrived at around 10:13 p.m., they contacted a man in front of a home, later identified as Saavedra.

"As officers approached this male, they observed him to be suffering from apparent gun shot wounds to his abdomen and right arm," read a portion of the court documents.

Eventually, officers made contact with an alleged victim, who told officers she had received a motion notification on her security system, and then saw Saavedra on her security camera walking around the front of her home.

"The victim stated she exited her residence and gave the defendant several commands to leave the area or he was at risk of being shot, in an attempt to scare him away from the residences front yard area," read a portion of the court documents. "The victim stated she then ran back inside of her residence, instructing one of her children to close and lock the door behind her. The victim stated as she entered her residence, she began calling police and went to retrieve a firearm in order to protect herself, her husband and five children located inside."

The alleged victim, according to police, later heard Saavedra bang on a carport door. After she told her children to move away from the area and hide as far away as possible, she heard the glass windowpane of the carport door shatter, and Saavedra's hand reaching inside.

"The victim stated as she stood with the firearm, she observed the defendants hand came through the now open and broken window, and reached for the doors doorknob in an attempt to open the door,' read a portion of the statement. "The victim stated at this point her 13-year-old son, seeing that the defendant was attempting to make entry and his mother was not firing the firearm, in fear for the safety of himself and family, took the firearm from his mother and fired the firearm towards the defendant, striking him."

Saavedra, according to investigators, was later taken to the hospital for treatment of his injuries, and was eventually released into police custody.

What led to the incident taking place?

In an interview that was done after Saavedra was read his Miranda rights, court documents state that detectives asked Saavedra on why he tried to get into the home. Saavedra replied that he had been smoking methamphetamine with a friend for about 48 hours prior to the incident, and that he was trying to locate his friend in various residential yards.

"The defendant stated upon approaching the victim's residence he heard her inform him to leave the area. The defendant stated he then approached the carport door of the residence, and believed it to be his son, despite knowing the residence did not belong to him," read a portion of the court documents.

When asked by police if he knew his actions could scare the people inside the home, court documents say Saavedra replied, "Yeah, I mean I was high obviously."

no drama, just weirdos

I can't tell if this is a butch lesbian with peepee envy who was brainwormed enough to get an actual phalloplasty or a with a very specific coom fantasy.

The history suggests the latter, but I'm not sure.

judge for yourself:

https://old.reddit.com/user/MaryRoseDarling/submitted

which one is it?

sissy porn addict - 37 votes

mentally ill butch lesbo - 10 votes

OP's post:

It might sounds super weird but I'm a girl who always wanted a peepee despite enjoying being a girl.. Since as young as I remember I just always wanted to have one. I like girls so I guess I'm a lesbian? But I've always wanted PIV s*x as the one owning the peepee. It just feels right for me. And doesn't make me feel less feminine cause I'm petite and girly. It's just that I wonder if there really are people open to this out there... That's why I'm asking if anyone of you would date someone like me. (If you say yes I won't harrass you by messages or anything like that. Don't worry. I'm only asking because I just hope that I somehow also have a place in this world..)

the real weirdos are in the comments (as usual)

I'm an ace lesbian, so this probably isn't too helpful, since s*x generally doesn't seem super appealing to me, but I'll admit a girl with a peepee def sounds way more appealing than a guy with a peepee!

Right?!

It seems like the best of both worlds there.

As a bisexual I would, it's like having a warm strap on but still having warm pillow puffs to play with and all the other things I love about dating women

Thank you very much for your answer, it makes me feel a little better about myself 🥰

As someone who's pansexual, I wouldn't say no to an AFAB with a functional peepee. At least it would be interesting lol.

>phalloplasty

>functional

I have peepee envy for sure. I am straightish? I love pegging guys.

38M husband has got freebase 3 times in less than 2 weeks. I 38F am at a loss

Update- he is now getting it again 3rd time in a week and a half. I'm about to just file for divorce. I'm sick and tired of this shit.

My 38F husband 38M is getting base or as I know it crack. He has been acting weird last few days. Finally comes out and says that a guy that sold him drugs a few years ago texted him and said he could hook him up. My husband told me this today. He used do this shit years back and he almost cheated on me. He gets “super sexual” as he puts it. A few years back he met with escorts to get drugs. After that didn't pan out he somehow got this guys number and started buying from him. Anyway. I am completely blindsided by this. I told him that this is a hard pass and I don't want him to get it. I said he will lose me if he does it. He said “I'm just trying to have fun with you” now I don't do drugs unless it's like smoking a joint which I do like maybe once every 2 years but nothing like coke or base/crack. I still haven't fully gotten over the fact that he met escorts to get the shit last time and lied to me and it really was a horrible time. I know I'll probably get shit for asking but I reacted by crying and basically telling him he doesn't give a shit about me or my feelings. Did I overreact? He hasn't done this in years and I'm so triggered that this is happening again. The last time he tried to get on tinder as well. He is also recently sober from alcohol about three months. Says this isn't about hurting me when I told him clearly this will hurt me. Honestly I feel like he just cares about his own wants and doesn't give two shits about my feelings.

update He got it and now is planning to get more this weekend. He told me “I should just deal with it because he doesn't want to lose me” Maybe at this point I don't deserve anything better and should just resign to the fact he's going to do whatever he wants regardless of how much it hurts.

No drama in the link but this will hopefully generate some, for some reason the existence of whores triggers the native neurodivergents on this site. Enjoy.

There's a difference, I think. Men fantasize, hookup and masturbate about these whores, but they would never be exclusive or date these types of women seriously. The majority of men want their women to be more on the reserved side, while also being “their whore” only when it comes to the bedroom

So guys want to frick girls who frick everyone, but want to date girls who don't frick everyone, but frick like they frick everyone?

Make this make sense.

Men don't make sense. It's ridiculous. I don't even think men really like women.

Many women do similar things. Flings with guys they know aren't good for them, but settle down with a man who is marriage and father material.

Ok… this isn't talking about women

least fragile reddit foid

OP Interesting, but then why do they want women to look like these “whores” if they would never date or marry them?

this smells like

Your looks aren't determined by your sexual activity.

Pornstars either have naturally good bodies or have worked on them, usually a combination of both. And that work is usually eating right and working out, you don't get more attractive by being fricked.

Men want to be reserved with their partner in public and get wild in the bedroom. When I'm in a bedroom mood, I may think about watching porn. When I'm not, I'm fantasising about the cute girl I saw in a bookshop or I see a young couple with a kid and I'm daydreaming about when I'm a father and husband.

OP And most men want women with good bodies, so I believe you guys do like the look of pornstars.

100% a fattie

Women also desire guys with good bodies. Porn didn't invent that.

Make a post about it. I'm talking about men.

absolutely seething

Who hates whores, they make the world go around. If someone is so concerned with their partners purity needs therapy.

totally not a therapist is search of clients

This thread just made me hate men. You guys are hypocrites and losers

this thread is why i laugh at the male suicide rate

house edgy member

You are a psycho

of course you're not gonna say this to the males being objectifying, misogynistic degenerates in these comments. i've read comments from males IN THIS THREAD saying that "whores need to know their place in the world" and "should learn to drop to their knees if a man says so" so yeah i'll continue laughing my pyscho butt off

Go outside and get help. You're hurt.

OP Stating an opinion means she needs help and she's hurt? Who hurt her since you know.

OP quickly jumping to the defense of her fellow hoes

Why do women love stories where the woman cheats on her boyfriend/fiance but hate cheating themselves? The notebook, Titanic

OP Make a post about that if it upsets you. This is a different topic.

after not receiving an echo chamber response, the fat foid runs to the twoX hugbox

OF and web cam model here, when I first started it amazed me how many men would criticize Onlyfans and adult site streamers publicly , only to be on my DMS asking for freebies. Bunch of hypocrites.

I never understood this myself. Having dated OF models and the odd lapdancer in the past, I always just viewed it as "it's their chosen job and deserves the same respect as the any other job because at least they working for their money".

please ladies, just a crumb of coochie

The Madonna/Whore complex remains sadly true for many guys. Women are either s*x toys or saintly wives you choose to have your children. They lust after the women they would never have a relationship with openly because they view s*x (especially the type of s*x they are interested in) as fundamentally degrading to a woman. At the same time they find it hard to maintain romantic relationships because they expect the wife/girlfriend to be perfectly angelic and pure. Even if she is a virgin he might get annoyed if she becomes too sexually demanding. S*x and love are split for these men and no one woman can ever really receive both because of their weird view of s*x and love as being incompatible.

this is just "alpha fux, beta bux" foid edition

Is that American thing? I wouldn't even think about relationship with a woman who were virgin, "pure" or not sexually active.

rent free

I think for many men, there is a distinction between attraction/sexual gratification and dating/relationships. They will fantasize over, masturbate to, and empty their pockets for any woman who will meet their sexual need.

But most will not want a long-term relationship with one of these women because they won't see them as “wife material”. I also find many men who do date these women end up being incredibly insecure in the relationship and can't handle having their partner be sexual objects for other men. Very much a “not in my backyard” kind of situation.

>can't handle having their partner be sexual objects for other men.

isn't that just a commited relationship, aka the majority of relationships?

Shockingly, misogynists' seething hatred for half the population of the world is not particularly rational.

>hatred for half the population

so all women are whores?

#1

#2

and others.

see more in the thread

!neolibs

Context: Rupi Kaur is a "poet" that generates mountains of seethe by doing the absolute least amount of work possible to pass herself off as an artist. She's the one with the shitty sketch drawings of shock content and incredibly lazy poems that dont mean anything.

Her entire career is based firmly in farming sneed off of people who say she isnt a poet.

I see a LOT of you guys embarrassed for reading Rupi or outraged at her for her writing, seriously just don't send her hate, I don't want a mob, I am just not a fan of her writing, and as for the people who keep saying my opinion/stance is irrelevant, I know that already but I put it out there anyway (like how writers are allowed to have a voice so am I), and this is my opinion, she does not deserve ANY hate but I am not a fan, nothing more, nothing less.

>

my entire post history is what

i post

and bait

i am a curry leaf in wind

This one is for the boys pic.twitter.com/YrVSH4naaQ

— Shadow Cringelord (@ShadowxTwilight) September 17, 2023

The future is female! You never see scrotes giving back like this!

Just say "you also seems to have gained some weight since last time we met". It works and they won't disturb you again lol

no u

"Did you mean to say that outloud? How embarrassing."

someone caring about your health is emabarrassing

While I like the idea of a comeback, I usually can't come up with one in the moment. I've found a slight raise of the eyebrows and walking away to be most effective response that I can be happy with afterwards.

pathetic

put the fork down, fatties

an isolated incident

!foidmoment

OP

Boyfriend(22M) couldn't stop liking half naked pictures of other women so I(21F) posted one of myself.

Alright my (22M) boyfriend has started following a lot of instagram women. Not regular ones I don't mind those but particularly the ones in lingerie, and with their butt out. Even was watching their OF. I(21F) told him it made me uncomfortable and to stop but his response was “it's just Instagram”.. “you're doin too much”.. “it's not that serious” and he kept doing it.. well I posted some pictures of me in a g string bikini.. butt out and all, he saw it and started freakin out. Slamming doors and yelling.. He was like “ew you don't respect yourself, gurls who do that are hoes.. that's embarrassing I don't want my gf doing that bro that's weird..” and he is mad like really mad. I He told me to take it down and I said “no isn't this wat you like to see” and his response again was “you're in a relationship why would you do that..” and I said “im only postin wat you like” after i said that he started ignoring me it's been hours and honestly idc. I don't feel bad at all.. for months I was uncomfortable and asked him to stop and he couldn't so yea. Now he's a victim of a crime he participates in ☺️

Could be a bait account but

Her other posts https://old.reddit.com/user/Ok_Computer2422/submitted

My (21F) boyfriend (22M)wants a threesome.. but I feel that he wants to just frick other women. : r/relationships

I'm mentally and physically drained. : r/NarcissisticAbuse

Trying to escape the poverty cycle.. : r/internetparents

Normally I would say that's childish, but yeah no. You gave him a different perspective. I'd dig it even further, and say now other men like him can follow you, and like your pics.

This is great way to keep a man around

That's the definition of double standard in a nutshell. It's all fine and dandy (in his mind) when it's someone across the screen but as soon as it's HIS girl, it's a moral outrage.

Now these foids get it Will they learn anything from it?

Please keep us updated! I'm hoping your next BF is much more understanding!

Both of you seem insufferable.

Realest comment there.

omg, this is disgusting. where?

"I'm pregnant!!" 🥳🎉🥳🎉

"Make sure to get it sliced out. I want that vag to stay nice n tight." #cueburp

Please say you'll abort this mongrel's semen droppings. 🙏🏻

#cueburp

I read your post history. Seems like you should go with the natural birth so you won't be laid up from abdominal surgery while you're working your two jobs, paying most of the bills, doing all the manual labor, doing all the shopping, driving him around like you're an Uber, cleaning the house, and now raising the baby too.

Throwing the baby in there seems like a great idea, given that you're already short on sleep and whatnot.

Oh, and don't forget to stay tight for your husband. He's very busy doing something or other.

I don't know how she even has time (or the desire) to have s*x with this man after all of that.

i know how.

I swear I need to delete Reddit. This shit gets worse every darn day. I'm so sorry he feels that way, you deserve much better.

no bait is too obvious for these morons

real - 25 votes

bait - 199 votes

A lotta dudes are aware by now that there's way more women going to college than men (!incels how many of you are uneducatedcels?) but dudes seek to be lacking an explanation. I've got it. Do you know what sucks? Being a Ms. Mr. and Mrs. are pretty cool, but Ms. just makes you seem like a bitter, lonely spinstress. Women aren't getting married anymore because men are trash and/or the Jews have deceived them so they're getting stuck with the title Ms. To avoid this terrible fate, they go into academia in order to get a doctorate so they can be Dr. instead of Ms. I think this is entirely relatable and understandable; when I die alone and have my corpse eaten by my various cats, I'd rather have my obituary say Dr. than Ms.

A while ago I asked advice about a guy I had been on a few dates with. On the third date, he said he'd been convicted of two murders and said that was in the past and he didn't want to talk about it. Until that point, we clicked very well and I was head over heels. I came here to ask for advice.

I got A TON of advice and I am VERY VERY GRATEFUL for all of it! Thank you all so very much! A lot of people called me stupid etcetera but that was okay too because I think it was a valid perspective they said out of fear for my safety. That's how I took it at least. lol Lots of people mentioned Theodore/Ted Bundy, who I hadn't heard of before but I thought it was funny that apparently it's such a famous person and everyone kept mentioning him.

There were so many messages and I gave up on trying to reply to them and eventually even reading them. The next days I came back to read more, but I didn't reply anymore because I was exhausted from just the reading. I apologize to the people I didn't answer, but I am really very grateful you took the time to write and share your thoughts, whatever they were! Thank you!

It seemed most people either said to run and wondering whether I was stupid, but a good chunk also said he would have to be completely open about the murders and see from there. I was close to just telling him I couldn't do it after all those messages, but I ended up sending him a text to ask for a few more days. He replied that was fine. Eventually I asked him to get together somewhere public so we could get coffee and talk.

We made some smalltalk and then I told him what many of you said here: it's fine if he doesn't want to talk about his past, but then I can't continue seeing him. If he wants a chance at a relationship (or even friendship), then I needed to know about it. I understand it makes him uncomfortable, but it makes ME uncomfortable to know about him being in prison and then not explaining. He was quiet for a long time and asked whether he could talk to his therapist first. He said he had been seeing a therapist since he was in prison. When he moved across the country, he decided to keep seeing one because it helped him. I agreed. We made some more smalltalk and we left. He told me it would be over a week before his next appointment. During that time, we sent a few messages back and forth but nothing big. Just little things.

Two weeks later he said he wanted to talk so we met up somewhere public again. He looked very uncomfortable, but he said what had happened. I tried not to interrupt him and only asked questions at the end. Here is the summary of what happened:

He was part of this gang because “that's just what you did” where he lived (poor and criminal part of the city that was known for having lots of crime in general). He didn't want to do anything, but joined out of “safety”. He got into a fight with someone from another gang. He punched him and he hit his head on the sidewalk that knocked him unconscious. He thought that was the end of it. Then weeks later he was arrested because the other guy had a seizure from the knock to the ground and died and his parents sued him.

In the meantime another thing had happened too: he was out with a friend (a member of the gang too) driving at night. He was drunk and in the passenger seat. His friend was driving and he was drunk and also high. I'll give fake names here to make it easier to understand: “Stefan” is the one I talk to and “Filip” is his friend. They were driving on a piece of road that had no real sidewalk but just some stripes to indicate the bit for bikes. Filip was laughing and driving into that part to scare bikers but never hitting them. Then he hit one and he was also speeding, so it was a big hit. Filip panicked and left the car and ran away. Stefan stayed and called an ambulance. The police showed up too. The biker was dead. Stefan was drunk but he tried to explain to the police what happened without naming Filip because he didn't want to betray him. The police arrested him anyway. While he was in jail (before trial), the other man had the seizure and died. In the trial he still didn't name Filip. They knew the car belonged to Filip, but Filip said he'd loaned the car to Stefan. Stefan didn't correct them. He said it was really stupid of him afterwards, but he kept quiet because he just wanted to die and was very depressed because of what had happened. The victim was also someone in a gang so they said it was intentional because of “gang warfare”.

I asked why he was so sure about not telling me anything, but now he told me everything. Especially because the circumstances weren't really evil. He didn't go out and kill those people on purpose. He said he'd talked to his therapist who basically agreed with me and who had already been pushing him to be more open with people. If he really regretted what he'd done, he should act like it and be honest. He was very ashamed of what he had done and just hoped he could forget it if he never had to talk about it again. He figured I would find out about his conviction anyway so he tried to admit to it first and then hope I would either not ask questions about it or break things off with him. As long as he didn't have to talk about it again. In therapy he had been working on that for a long time but it was difficult to break through that barrier, but he started to realize he had to change if he wanted have friends or even a girlfriend.

I had taken notes from people who replied in the thread with questions to ask because in the end it was still just his own version of the story that he might be trying to clean up and look nicer. He showed proof he worked as a delivery driver and as part-time electrician for emergency situations and weekends. (The company has a website with a “meet our team” page and his name and picture is on it.) He said he had documentation from his trials and prison time, but obviously not with him. He could show it to me on our next meeting if I wanted. I said I would like that. He was released early from prison because he had taken classes in prison to become an electrician and good behavior and overpopulation in prisons. He still had a police officer he had to see every once in a while at the police station and asked whether I would want to go with him next time. If I had more questions, he could ask them from the third person who I could definitely trust. This surprised me but I said I think I would like that but I wasn't sure yet.

We made some smalltalk after and left and we started texting each other more again without any mention of prison or such. That's where we are now. He will meet the police officer in a few weeks and I will probably go with him. I think he was open now about his experiences and it surprised me so I don't know whether it was TOO quick and TOO open? lol I don't know anymore, especially after reading everyone's comments on here. Any more input would be great, especially for questions to ask the police when I go with him.

Thanks again for all your comments, good and bad, and I wish you happiness, good health and kindness!

I snooped and found his pros and cons list a few hours after we made up. It broke my heart to find out that he thinks so little of me.

The list:

Pros 1. Love her a lot 2. Someone to spend time with 3. S*x 4. Someone to party with

Cons 1. Childish 2. No ambition 3. Smokes 4. Disregards my feelings 5. Selfish 6. Doesn't eat certain meats 7. Full of shit 8. S*x 9. Takes my focus off from work 10. Takes more than she gives 11. Bipolar 12. Don't see a future with her 13. Don't have the same values 14. Cannot be the mother of my children 15. Eats like shit 16. Doesn't exercise 17. Sleeps all day 18. Doesn't do anything

For some context, I am his first. He had planned to wait until he was married, however after a few months he wanted to do it. I repeatedly asked him if he was sure, and he confirmed. He was also always the one to initiate. We are both university students. I used to smoke cigarettes but gradually stopped. His main issue is that I occasionally smoke weed, which he did not communicate during the fight that led to the breakup. He is extremely focused on his work since he is studying a very difficult degree.

I was not aware that he felt this way about me. I thought he understood that I stuggle to follow a sleep routine and that I hate getting up early. My classes allow me to sleep in, whereas he is up at 5am everyday, regardless of classes. I do not exercise, yet he tells me how pretty I am and that I'm skinny and jokes that he needs to fatten me up. I am lucky to be thin without having to exercise and I hate working out anyway. My "horrible eating" is skipping meals and eating McDonald's whenever I can.

I have asked him in the past if there are any places where I can approve, and he said no. I even asked if he thought I was bipolar, and he said that I was just going through a hard time and having mood swings.

He did not communicate any of these with me, except for the smoking, which felt irrelevant to me since I had basically stopped without even trying to. I did not know that he felt like I took more than I gave. I thought I was giving my all. In terms of physical things, I give less since I hardly have money to do groceries most months. However emotionally I feel like I give more than enough.

During the fight, he said that he felt guilty everytime we had s*x and that he threw all his values away, only to turn around and say that he is still in shock that it actually happened and not feeling guilty. We slept together the same night we made up, and I asked him multiple times if he was sure, because I obviously never want him to feel guilty or pressured.

He has always been extremely supportive, so this took me by surprise. He has never said any of these things to me. And now I'm wondering why he even wanted to try again if he feels this way about me.

Writing about our boobs from an aesthetic perspective. The only time I think about mine are when it's too hot out or my shoulders are aching from my bra straps.

I just read the most incredible novel, Moonglow by Micheal Chabon. It was thoughtful, moving, had something to say about people and relationships and society— and stopped almost every time we saw a woman character, no matter how small, to describe her boobs.

There's a moment where the main character sees his wife (who is otherwise a well developed character) for the first time after her being in inpatient, him being in prison, the suspense built up to be about longing and marriage and obligation, and the first thing we hear is about the shape of her boobs! It's shockingly common and a bizzare tic of male writers, even good ones.

>guy that didn't see his wife for a long time is horny

if shes the protagonist shes always "different" from other girls usally at the cost of making every other woman suck. if shes supporting character her story is completely focused on the men in her life. if shes the antagonist shes either a seductress or an old witch.

>story is more focused on the main character

It's usually the big obvious effort to try to figure out what it's like inside a woman's head. I think, as a lit major who's therefore read enough men to feel like I can state this with some confidence, it's actually pretty similar to being in a man's head. There's a reason a lot of us women on reddit get accidentally called "bro" every so often; it's because generally our thoughts and feelings are not very different. I honestly would guess that if someone took a transcript of a day's worth of my thoughts, they wouldn't be 100% sure of my gender.

Some men, when they write women, just overthink the whole thing. A character's other personality traits are going to come through a lot stronger than their gender in most cases. A Type A dude and a Type A lady have a lot more in common with each other than that lady has with me.

>as a lit major

stopped reading right there

They never fail to emphasize the importance of beauty no matter what.

“In spite of the silver hair framing her face, and the deep creases around her eyes, I couldn't help but be bewitched by her beauty.” Or some corny shit like that.

These characters could literally be fighting for their lives during the dust bowl and male authors often just can't resist emphasizing how gorgeous she is because obviously she has to be in order to make the book interesting /s

This is the one that always gets me. It is actually, counterintuitively, why I have started to like cultivation fantasy stuff so much. 75% of them are written by total incels, so you have to filter all that out, but the stuff that remains is based on the Chinese fantasy ideal, which makes men SUPER pretty. ( Here is an example of what I am talking about. No idea who the character is, this is just how all the men are described.)

So instead of just a constant barrage of random hot women, you also get a constant barrage of random hot men. When everyone is crazy gorgeous it stops being the focus, so in the good ones it is usually only mentioned as part of their "advancement" away from mortality.

The bad ones are all harem psycopath protagonists though, so avoid that.

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My pet peeve is when a woman's death is used as a power to move the plot forward. It's such a popular trope that we barely register that!

I did a term paper on this! Like a decade ago—but I still remember that this trope is called Women in Refrigerators Syndrome. It's exactly as fricked up as it sounds.