Years down the line, we discussed opening up the relationship. This was during corona and there were a lot of life changing events that happened which caused us to talk a lot. He always said that he feels inferiority towards me since I’ve had 5 partners before I met him and him only 1, which he called “inexperienced”. I always reassured him that he’s more than enough and I’m very happy. But I didn’t want him to regret it years down the line and I thought why not yolo too, so we “opened” our relationship

Sure

There he met this female coworker who he said came onto him straight away. He told me on every other day that “oh she asked if I’m in a relationship” and “she asked if I’ve never cheated, and how’s that possible” 😐 and apparently asked to see a picture of me etc. I didn’t get a good vibe and told him that but I don’t know her and didn’t want to judge her unfairly

Foid detects her moid possibly getting closer to snatching some poontang and tries to discourage him by citing "bad vibes".

Then he said this morning that he’ll be home from work an hour later since he is going on another walk with her to talk it though. He was more than 1.5 hours later than he said, and I started getting paranoid. I went on find my iphone(I know I shouldn’t, believe me when I say that this isn’t something I’ve felt compelled to do since the very beginning of our relationship where I didn’t trust him yet) and saw that he’s in a wooded forest area. I freaked out and started texting him, he didn’t reply. I called him, it rang out twice and he picked up on the third call(he always replies/answers immediately). I asked him where he was, he said I’ll be home soon. I asked if he’s still at work and he said yes. I immediately cut the call. I saw that he was at the spot for 20 more minutes before he left.

She hooked up with two guys but has a panic attack when her moid could possibly be getting down dirty with another foid lmao

We argued further about me telling him I feel like he broke my trust and he violated my boundaries.

Foid thinks there are boundaries in an open relationship

He then texted her saying he doesn’t think it’s appropriate anymore so hope that’s ok. She replied saying “I wasn’t looking for anything anyway, and tell your girlfriend she has nothing to worry about

Whoa an actually based foid!!

I then asked for his phone and saw that they were texting every day back and forth chatting, making plans etc. I was in shock and disbelief, and he kept saying this was just him making it clear that he wants to just hookup. I saw with my own eyes that they were saying how much they liked spending time with each other, talking to each other and updating each other on day to day and making plans to meet up, which according to him never happened(I believe him because he left for and came home from work on time). He also told me that she’d come into his office and they’d chat sometimes. I lost it and told him I can’t believe that he keeps on lying to me, to which he replied that he only wanted a hookup, where did he lie, I knew he was talking to her and he said he wanted to be friends with her etc. I told him he’s shattered my confidence in him and it’s over between us.

she literally can't believe an open relationship lead to her moid treating another foid like a friend. Aren't moids supposed to see foids as more than just a kitty?

This ho so stupid, even her fellow twoxers are dunking on her

WTF did I just read? And you’ll are 30? 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

My head hurts reading this.

I don’t know of ANYONE in love, married or otherwise, who opened their relationship up. It’s done when the love has ended or fizzled out for one of them and the other wants to hang on for dear life so they strike this bargain. Then as soon as the partner who wanted to open it finds someone worthy, even if they aren’t in love yet - BAM.

I didn’t do it out of lack of love, the opposite. I did it because I didn’t want him to resent not having had experience which he complains about down the line.

Darling. It’s obviously not you who has fallen out of love. My statement wasn’t aimed at you. No matter what Andrew Tate and other incels says, men who love their women have no FOMO about banging other women.

Just stop.

You need therapy. Childhood wounds and the kind of family you had might be a factor in the lack of perception but this is not what real relationships are like.

Golden rule.

No one ask to open it unless it’s over deep down and they’d rather not break up.

Common sense from a twoxer

The stupid ho still tries to convince herself that opening up the relationship would somehow save it lol

You clearly are insecure and have alot of control issues but wouldn’t want to accept it. Even if it is just s*x it doesn’t mean someone will go in, bang and come out. You need to flirt, have a build up and take it there. If he had explicitly mentioned in the texts that he doesn’t want a relationship and the girl agreed then I really don’t see a point. You opened up your relationship so what is with this whole drama of getting fussy over text. If he is allowed to seek pleasure outside and it looks like it hasn’t been defined as to what the boundary of that open relationship is then how is it cheating? Honestly girl my one suggestion to you would be therapy. Stop projecting your insecurities on a relationship and you clearly don’t sound like someone who can handle an open relationship.

We had an agreement that we would only have casual hookups, which is what I did. Picked 2 random people on tinder and hooked up. I told him I’m not ok with having s*x with friends or family. He didn’t mention that, and he said things like “I love spending time with you, we should do this and that together, I love talking to you” etc. she never even hinted at having s*x and he led her on. I’m angry that he led her on, if like he says that he doesn’t care about her and would drop her anyway. I don’t think it’s ok to lead people on.

It was totally different because he texted her like they were friends or something .

One of the foids from the above thread make a post in the same subreddit which contains a brief mention of the open relationship ho and advices the other foids to stay away from polygamy. Said ho finds it and makes a sneed post in there too.

Yeah hello, you’re probably talking about my post. If it’s about my post, then I can talk for myself. Do not misinterpret what I said as my relationship ended because we opened the relationship and my partner acted on it. You’re projecting your own ideas about non monogamy onto other peoples relationship. blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah seriously this shit goes on for way too long :marseylongpost:

And this starts a minor catfight in the comment section

The fact you felt everyone else is mad - speaks volumes about yourself no?

lmfao, the majority opinion isn't always right. this has been shown throughout history.

lmfao, the majority opinion isn't always right. this has been shown throughout history.

Ah, nice of you to point out that democracy rests on the shoulders of the wrong. That kind of ego, comes from a blackhole of inner life, to imply fascism so casually.

So you agree that Patriarchy is okay because most Indians agree with it? Lmao

So you agree it’s ok to first lack comprehension skills and then makeup for it by forcing implications that someone isn’t making?

Self report? You did just that by misrepresenting /u/Extension_Waltz2805's post.

Lol 😆🔥Got her

Holy fricking shit why are women so utterly incapable of being funny, I've seen better bantz in the comment sections of fricking 9gag memes. This is what counts as "comebacks" and "snark" to them.

Anyway the ho is a pretty interesting character. She's a sexy Indian dudette who posts in vindicta complaining about the yuropoor beauty standards so you just know she is a special case.

She has also went under the knife and is also currently thinking about going under the knife again, so add in a healthy dose of insecurities and an inferiority complex too. I deduct it won't be long before she starts posting in gonewild subs looking for validation, so I'll keep an eye out for it.

Diagnosis: Histrionic Personality Disorder

@JoeBiden !soren !schizomaxxxers !merari !thotpatrol discuss

Typical evopsych storytelling with little empirical basis, but will immediately make you soyjack and scream "SO TRUE".

Explains why women circlejerk so hard online (even when OP is clearly wrong), why it always escalates to "divorce him", and why the gossip is always "I'm concerned about how much Janna drinks" and not just flat out saying what she means with "that dumb slut Janna is always getting wasted".

Also, therapy is a psyop. If your foid suckered you into seeing a shrink, it's so over.

These are "real" womxn

The daughters of feminist libtard Gen X divorcees are shaping up to be the most annoying human beings ever produced https://t.co/6akSlO2Jtb

— samememe (@empathyhaver) April 20, 2023

Loose Women doing the Government’s bidding.

They wanted to get protesting banned, now they have deleted it because they are ashamed.

Would be a shame if it got out. pic.twitter.com/tnOw1z8GUm

— BladeoftheSun (@BladeoftheS) April 18, 2023

So i guess we all know about FDS and how they fell off after going off-site?

I found this thread where they try to cope with the (((gaychad)))

This is one of my concerns. A closeted man wasted nearly four years of my life when I was in my 20s. I found gay porn repeatedly. He would downplay it by saying that straight porn was too fake and that gay porn had more intimacy🙄He even admitted that he’s bi, but I think he’s just a deeply closeted gay man, even though he married a woman. So many of these closeted men want the status and countless benefits of a straight marriage/relationship, and will string women along to have it. Listen to your intuition. A lot of closeted men will swear up and down that they only want women because they know that’s what we want to hear. Another FDS member made a great point along the lines of watching out for bi/gay energy. Looking back, my closeted boyfriend had gay energy in spades but I was too much of a pickme pushover to leave.

Dramabros, what's your excuse when your foid finds the goatse on your phone?

Honestly I feel if you ever have a doubt he is not 100%. I’ve had 2 gay exes and some that were for sure bi. Not sure why but I could always tell right away in tiny ways and ignored it.

Now, that's a HVW!

I don’t blame you for not wanting to date a bi man. I know gay men who wouldn’t want a bi man, either. Every bi man I’ve ever met has just been an equal-opportunity frick-boy.

goddarn bi slutties!

It doesn’t take long for the ladies to begin essayposting about :marseygaslamping: -

https://old.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/12odxbw/my_husband_and_his_entire_family_hid_a_medical/jgi0pe2/?context=3

"she said they wanted to protect my fragile mental state”

"He told me I was being dramatic" and "he was 'protecting' me"

"His whole family thinks I'm crazy"

I find these phrases and the bold words in particular very telling of your husband and his family's view of mental health. I don't like how close to gaslamping this is coming across; it may even be gaslamping, actually. It's like they don't think you're a functioning adult or something, and need to be treated as a fragile child.

I too have anxiety, among other mental health disorders, so I know what it's like to have people think you're not capable. It's painful to realize that those who are supposed to love and care about you have decided you're too messed up to handle drama.

I don't know what your plans are of course, but I would absolutely have a serious conversation with my husband ASAP. That he's willing to lie this easily over something this big and then try to gaslamp you into thinking they were doing it for your best interest is messed up. They were not. They didn't want to deal with how you would respond because they're uncomfortable dealing with someone like you and can't be bothered to learn how to actually help you in difficult times - you know, what husbands and family should be doing for one another. I would insist he get better education on your diagnoses and attend couples counseling as well. This is the kind of behavior that only worsens when not addressed, and you deserve to be in a safe, healthy, loving environment.

These terms have also historically been linked to women and used to strip them of autonomy, not only of their own bodies, but all decisions effecting them.

Weakness and fragility in women was linked medically to both their mental and physical health, and was viewed as something inherent to girls and women. Women and girls were for instance recommended to not do physical activity, such as walk stairs during their periods.

Women were also diagnosed with hysteria, while men were not. Hysteria literally comes from the greek word for uterus. Women and their emotions or lack thereof were controlled and conditioned this way.

These attitudes OPs husband and his family have towards OP are rooted in misogyny. It is infantilizing of the highest degree.

It goes on for awhile like that

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/u/snatchpanda says it’s time for a divorce and there’s absolutely nothing that will fix things:

It won’t go anywhere. It’s not worth having that conversation. OP, I went through something similar in my own relationship.

He has already made a decision. If anything, it will just confirm to him that he was correct in hiding it because he predicted correctly that you would start “acting crazy” if you found out. Any subsequent reaction will just be used against you and he’s already started a smear campaign with his family so that they believe you’re unstable.

No level of bargaining, negotiation or reasoning will convince him that you’re worth seeing as an equal, no matter how correct you are. Best thing to do here is disconnect. Go silent. Start making an exit strategy

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Some assorted 1k+ upmarseyd circlejilling about how your husband’s stroke isn’t “the diagnosis”, your anxiety is “the diagnosis” and he needs to be respectful of it

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Additional divorce highlight reel:

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• 4 ^{with bonus conspiracy theory!}

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• 6 ^{with OP response}

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Reminder to never get involved with a woman who even knows what Reddit is.

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And now we move on to Controversial, which the j-slurs have been hard at work mopping. Unddit seems fricky and won’t load comments for me? So here are links to, at least, the resultant discussions

https://old.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/12odxbw/my_husband_and_his_entire_family_hid_a_medical/jgijeua/?context=3

This one ⬆️ goes on for quite awhile. My favorite part is “Don't feed the trolls, you've got like 99% of people agreeing with you, you're not crazy.”

The lone voice of reason is also one of the most controversial comments in the thread:

Dishonesty in a relationship is not okay. But your husband had a major situation happen to him and you are making it about you Both are serious issues and are problematic. You should look into couples therapy.

Controversial sort was a lot less interesting than I thought it would be. OP edited her post to call out all the haters calling her crazy, but I couldn’t find a single one of those.

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Also of note is the fact that OP is fricking enormous and has a narwhal tattoo

& lol.

That’s all for now, happy Monday rDrama!

This some shit right here!!!😱😳 pic.twitter.com/QtxsEfx2nD

— Mesh🇧🇧 (@rahsh33m) April 16, 2023

https://old.reddit.com/r/ActLikeYouBelong/comments/12ln5ss/starving_male_kenyan_college_student_enters/

https://old.reddit.com/r/kittypassdenied/comments/12la5ba/male_player_disguised_as_woman_at_kenya_open/

Cope of the Current Year:

Top comment starts with “Gah. Y’all” and I lost all energy to make an effortpost out of this but goddarn going through post history of the most egregious commenters is something else. What was inadvertently refreshing, though, was this woman acknowledging that if the unborn are indeed human, then exceptions for r*pe and incest shouldn’t exist.

And a reminder for our !catholics that per the CCC and, yes, even per Francis, even saying that abortion is not always wrong is a mortal sin and results in automatic excommunication

BBLs got these bitches riding the toilet like it’s a motorcycle

I never want people to doubt that Men are the prize pic.twitter.com/UbWw8KVOip

— , (@Zvbear) April 12, 2023

Some thot steps up with the homophobia:

Only to get reminded that she is a thot:

The clapback does not land:

BBL:

So you are dating someone with a past of being with a legal, consenting adult, whose parents were all for, and seemingly treated her very well. What advice are you wanting here? You’ll find no shortage of women on Reddit prejudiced towards age gap relationships, so you’re going to get an echo chamber of judgment more than anything.If you want to throw away your relationship for nothing then by all means go right ahead. People have thrown away relationships for far less, so you’ll be in good company.

Gross so you fiancé is a gross pig who only dates minors and people way younger than him…. That’s very concerning.

Any woman under 25 is a minor

Friendly reminder that women on Reddit are divorced terminally single medicated lunatics giving advice and you should always encourage r-slurs there to takenit

This will probably become a dating strategy amongst some OF girls

They realize they scarlet lettered themselves out of the relationship marketplace

The Born Again route gives them appeal with simpy Christian men who want to play White Knight and be the girls savior

There will… https://t.co/531W9vSjTh

— Alexander Cortes PhD, Fitness, Nutrition, Fat loss (@AJA_Cortes) April 5, 2023

Instead of me deleting the pics have you considered blinding yourself?:

Link

Trust the ehoe retirement plan 🙏🙏:

It fits the Mary Magdalene narrative quite conveniently.

Except Mary Magdalene did not wipe Jesus’ brow because she wanted to virtue signal to a society that is increasingly hostile to prostitutes. She did the right thing because it was right. And she did it even when it was unpopular and even dangerous.

This comment leads to people arguing if Mary was a hooker or not:

The long (2 day?) search is over, god does what science cannot:

Yup.

Claims that theu went on disability so thay they could be a stay at home mom, in same breath says that they canr have kids, but motherhood disabled xem

>After years of infertility and loss, I went on disability to set myself up to be a SAHM and to focus fully on my health and conceiving before my 40th birthday. That came and went last year and we gave up trying, so now I’m on disability to grieve and accept a childfree life. If I had the social support to try to become a mother before turning 30 I would have, but it took me that long to get my degrees and find a stable partner who also wanted children.Working is the furthest thing from my mind now and I’ll probably never use my degrees at this point. Not having a path to motherhood kept me working, until it disabled me.

calls out OP on xer white womxn non-sense

>You’re not entirely wrong, but it seems like you really mean “white women”. White women are meant to be kept out of the workforce, reliant on a man, and unable to exist independently or securely, particularly outside of the domestic sphere. But Black women in particular have not just been expected to go back to work after childbirth; they sometimes have been legally required to do so. This seems like a venting post, and you’re right to do so about an issue that hurts so many people. But do also keep in mind this perspective and these experiences when thinking about patriarchy and systemic oppression.

Kylie Palm, a biological male, pretended to be pregnant and then said he had a still birth. He raised money to help with his grief. He attended birthing classes with women, some of who were kicked out of the class for saying he was a man pretending to be pregnant. pic.twitter.com/ntiZBAqoed

— Pit and Pendulum (@PitandPendulum5) April 4, 2023

It's called Mpreg and there's a community, some of these guys also demand access to stillbirth support groups.