!fellas

35?

A drunk businesswoman who glassed a pub drinker after he wrongly guessed her age has been spared jail after a female judge said 'one person's banter may be insulting to others'.

Mother-of-one Joanne Dodd, 39, flew into a rage and attacked Carl Cooper after he suggested she was 43 in the beer garden of the Unicorn pub in Manchester city centre on September 9 last year.

Mr Cooper fled to the potty in a bid to get away from the heated situation, but when he came out Dodd ran towards him and twice shoved her wine glass in his face.

He was left with a four inch laceration to his face, narrowly missing his eye, and an injury to his thumb.

When quizzed Dodd, who runs a firm which organises children's sleepover parties, said she was suffering from 'low self esteem' at the time and said the banter was 'disobliging' towards her.

43?

DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend is 18 years younger than I am. Our relationship hasn't been perfect, but I love him to death. Unfortunately, I'm going through menopause and have all the side effects. Long story short, he found another girl. It was just supposed to be for s*x, and he told me he wouldn't get into another relationship or marry anyone but me. Well, he fell for her, which I warned him he was going to do.

They are both at my apartment. I'm trying to make him happy by allowing this, but he can be so mean to me, and he's so nice to her. He tells me how nice she is, etc. I told him it's because he hasn't hurt her yet. He won't have s*x with me now. He claims he isn't favoring her, but he is.

I love him so much, and don't want to lose him. I'm in so much pain because I can't please him in every way. I don't know what to do. Should I allow this and try to make it work, or should I give up since it seems like he has given up on me? --- CAN'T STOP CRYING

DEAR CAN'T STOP: Let me get this straight. Your much younger boyfriend and his new girlfriend live in your apartment (rent-free), and he no longer makes love with you. What are you getting out of this charade besides pain?

If I thought it would help, I'd advise you to stick it out and hope his romance will blow over. But I can't --- because whatever respect and gratitude he felt for you is gone. The pain you are experiencing will end only when you find your self-respect and usher the two lovebirds out the door. For your own sake, please do it soon.

DEAR ABBY: I am SUPER outgoing! Always have been. I can walk up to anyone and start a conversation. As I've gotten older, I've noticed that many people have no personality. During the pandemic it became exponentially worse. Neighbors don't speak. People look at their phones every waking minute and have lost their conversational skills. It is pathetic.

I don't know people's backgrounds or interests just by looking at them. I'm smart, but I'm not telepathic. If people don't know how to simply say "hi" or "good morning," something is wrong! COVID shut things down. But if you weren't friendly before the pandemic, how are you going to be five years from now? Humanity is doomed if we don't interact. --- FRIENDLY IN THE EAST

DEAR FRIENDLY: The COVID disruption may have contributed to what you are describing, but it had been building for at least the past 20 years. As people became more and more fixated on their electronic devices, the ability to look someone in the eye and converse withered.

If you don't look someone in the eye and communicate in person, the ability to read social cues withers and is eventually lost. I believe this has caused much of the isolation and loneliness we are experiencing in our society. If we are going to fix this, people will have to teach themselves to unplug and reach out to the people around them. Making the time to exchange social amenities as simple as smiling and saying, "Good morning," is an easy place to start.

^!nooticers

@Dramamine @BWC PING RELEVANT GROUPS !grillers

So basically someone told her to protest so she did, like an obedient

BREAKING: Gavin Newsom just released a new ad saying Trump is going to order police stop women crossing state lines and force them to take pregnancy tests pic.twitter.com/3mZf6NVOqL

— Jack Poso 🇺🇸 (@JackPosobiec) April 22, 2024

lmao

tl;dr: Apparently there's an "auditor" (thot audit?) trend on TikTok that involves filming young women out partying and foids don't like it because now everyone knows they're sluts.

!zoomers you're so based, keep it up

Daily Mail article about an account which sadly got banned or deleted, I can't find the one(s) they're complaining about now.

Edit: Here's something similar on YouTube but it's filmed by a foid so it's ok

Warning: contains British women

I was inspired to dig around for some delicious downvote trauma from @JimieWhales comment since I hadn't in a while and found a day old downvote trauma thread in my favorite girlboss sub, /r/CPTSD

I know I'm asking for downvotes for this one, so this time I'm prepared lol.

Like you just poured your entire list of traumas and coping mechanisms into one post, you allow your heart to just let everything out, raw and uncensored, entirely of how you feel. You're sad, you needed to let it out, so you did. You're in a weak place right now.

You upload it, and the first reaction you get is that you're indirectly told that it's stupid or doesn't matter so people hit the dislike button. At least, to me, that's how it feels. Which is fair, not everyone on Earth is going to approve of me as a person or who I am or what I do. There are plenty of people on this planet who hate me. But honestly it just re-enables the notion that my trauma really is my fault, that I am a bad person, and sometimes I don't know wether it's a safe place to ramble or not if someone was so quick to say my issues were invalid in a sub that was literally created exactly for what the subject matter was about.

This is honestly though, with everything I ever post or upload. One Downvote, I delete it. One dislike on a YouTube video, I delete it. I don't know why I'm so sensitive, but one singular hint of someone disapproving my issues or me really expressing myself just sours my mood and I just go silent. My brain makes a big deal out of the most trivial things, even down to some stranger across the country who doesn't even know me judging who I am or what I say. Is this a trauma thing? Does anyone else deal with this? Why?? Why am I so darn sensitive to every little thing?

I think some of it is just trolling. When I sort by new there's been a few times that I've seen several posts in a row that have been downvoted to zero, like someone has just worked their way down the list and hit the down arrow.

Oh wow, that's such a piece of shit thing for someone to do on a sub like this...

Most of the time I post it and then immediately delete it because maybe someone will argue with me.

Years ago, I deleted my whole account for a downvote on a sensitive reply I made. And yes, definitely a trauma thing for me. Perfectionism can be brutal.

Upvoting to counter all the downvotes :) are you familiar with Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria?

time to add a new thing to the CTPSD/CFS/POTS/fibromyalgia/chronic lyme/long covid list

Decided to dig deeper into seeing who you're causing downvote trauma to when you're irresponsible with your heckin' downdoots.

Claims her dad is a narcissist for wanting to spend time with her. Mentions autism, anxiety, depression

Calls her mom a narcissist for not having enough money to pay a vet bill for a marsey with a broken leg

“If I had the number of chromosomes of how many times my posts have been automatically removed, I'd be an autist..”

Calls her mom a narcissist for refusing to play taxi for therapist appointment

“Is It Normal To "Seek Attention" So To Speak, Due To C-PTSD?”

Another example of her dad being a narcissist and giving her CPTSD for telling her about Santa Claus

How Do I Know If I'm Actually Having Depressive Thoughts Or If I'm Just Being An Attention Whore? (self.CPTSD)

Upset that her narcissistic parents aren't accepting of her art

“Does Anybody Have a Food Disorder or Eating Problem Due To Your Trauma?”

“Some random person on the street today shouted "FAT B-WORD" at me from the back seat of their car today.”

On train again, abusive drug addled bum started yelling at a woman. Men did nothing.

— Caryn Ann Harlos (@carynannharlos) April 16, 2024

Note: This is foid is not a leftoid, she's an anarchocapitalistoid. This does not stop moids from responding as if she's ridin' with Biden.

Patriarchy is a protection racket

!biofoids You have to be subservient to us or those other moids will hurt you. They're not in on it, I swear

https://twitter.com/CoolHandJames0/status/1780261530078007527

https://twitter.com/dvigilrpg/status/1780629789960708339

Castrato

https://twitter.com/MsMostDope/status/1780315882612232680

She knows

https://twitter.com/carynannharlos/status/1780472634376945897

Approximately 500 pictures of that one guy

I'm not posting them all, make a Twitter account if you like him that much

https://twitter.com/dvigilrpg/status/1780629789960708339

so, this is a cry for help from me to be honest, because i have no female role models or women older than me to confide in and get advice.

recently, these past few days, i've been going down the rabbithole of how harmful porn, but most importantly "mainstream" porn is (the stuff that is on the front page of pornhub when you don't have an account with a curated feed), which is becoming more and more extreme, misogynistic, a power fantasy and in a survey, it was determined that up to 45% of porn videos contain acts of violence against women.

i've also read a very worrying article about how choking is becoming "vanilla" now, and an act that isn't even discussed beforehand (a huge surge of men in college just choke their partners without consent because of how normalised it is). and i have seen various ways being "vanilla" is used as a way to insult and shame women.

i have a pretty nuanced point of view, by which i mean that porn and porn production that actively abuses, r*pes, manipulates, drugs and exploits women is not in the same boat as women drawing manga for women and selling them, and professional voice actors selling audio CDs. i'm posting here, because i don't want a debate right now, i want a way to cope.

back to my point: i am an 18 year old girl, and part of one of the first generations to grow up with what i'll call "as soon as you hit 13, almost everyone has seen porn". the first time i saw porn, was when i was 11, and googled it because we were warned about it in s*x ed. i didn't really become a girl that watches a lot of porn, but i'd seen it, and masturbated to it before. i'd started masturbating when i was 8.

later, when i became a fan of BTS, i started reading wattpad fanfiction. and watching what was called "21+ imagines" on youtube. after a while, i realised that i didn't really like them as much as i thought, because the popularised daddy/babygirl, male dominance, "punishment" stuff was not my cup of tea. it's through yaoi and BL manga, that i was truly able to discover what sexually aroused me, and what didn't, due to the simple absence of a woman to objectify. now you might call me an evil fetishizer for reading yaoi and BL, but again, please, i'm not looking for a debate, but for possibly advice and help for my feelings. i also discovered otome content a year later.

a few years ago, i started watching irl porn from time to time, which was mostly solo male stuff because couple's porn disgusted me, and turned me off immediately, because of the clearly male gazey shots. but most importantly: the violence, degradation, spitting, slapping women's vulva, and those horrid titles implying incest, barely legal, forced, and all those degrading ways to describe women's reproductive systems, and women themselves. because i only watch solo male videos, my feed is only male focused, when i do open up pornhub. but i always saw the "popular in your region" underneath my feed, where i saw all these horrifying things, whether i wanted it or not.

my brother and father make porny jokes around me all the time, and it honestly makes me uncomfortable to hear "haha put your spermidium in this sauce for some extra protein and rejuvenation" every second sentence. my father was always what i call "too open" about s*x with his children. he is determined of not making it a taboo, but he went too far. i know he likes anally fricking women, that he bought a sounding device for himself, that he downloads porn, caught him masturbating thrice, etc.

now i've watched "beyond fantasy", a documentary about porn. and yesterday, i cried when finishing episode 3. maybe i feel even more pain because of my own history with (non-sexual) child abuse, but still. no matter how you look at it, it's horrible.

and i know for a fact, all men my age watch porn. almost all of them. enough of them, that making porny jokes infront of your own daughter is okay. enough, that porn has become this normal thing that every man and teen uses. and porn isn't what it used to be.

i read a comment from someone that used to be in the porn industry back in the day, and she said something along the lines of "back then, anal was the most non-normal thing in porn, the most extreme. today it's become this mandatory part of porn".

i can't get what i saw in this documentary out of my head. it's like the ceiling came crashing down on me. will this be the reality of dating? will i be called a prude for disliking mainstream porn? will i have to sift through endless amounts of men that watch extreme porn, to find someone to love me? will porn continue to literally detroy women's bodies, and drive them to suicide?

foid with a boyfriend tho so not real autism

orange den of autists discuss: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=40111898

OP

Posting this from my throwaway account. I've been working in health equity for almost 15 years. I have worked with many kind-hearted white women who have the heart to address health inequities, but I think it's time we start addressing the issue.

Most of these White women (over 80% of them) in health equity are from middle-class. They think that they know all the answers to marginalized communities. They don't understand the needs from BIPOC. Yet, they are leading projects that impact us.

Why can't public health at least place poor White women to lead these projects?

Stolen from https://old.reddit.com/r/BlockedAndReported/comments/1ca2qae/weekly_random_discussion_thread_for_42224_42824/l0vdx95/?context=8&sort=controversial

This bait is , just read the thread yourselves.

Best subthread: misandry does real

He said to me, “she's beautiful. She's quiet, she's simple, she's not annoying. She doesn't nag me. She doesn't argue, she's not combative. She's not fat and she's not lazy. She's fun, she's spontaneous. I forget about my troubles when I'm around her. She makes my life easier oppose to complicating it like you. She's just everything that you're not anymore but you use to be. She's a younger version of you. She reminded me of you 15 years ago”

Proving yet again if a woman is having marriage problems it's because she either doesn't put out, got fat, or is a nagging b-word. In this case all three.

There’s something really really funny about the project host asking for the baby to leave for being disruptive during the interview and then going right back to empathising with the mother about being asked to take her baby out during a comedy show for being disruptive. pic.twitter.com/iwy5Ru9dYp

— cosmic jester (@cosmicjester) April 22, 2024

Context for getting kicked out

!foidmoment

For context:

From OP:

I've seen a few reposts about the Romeo and Juliet play and how unforgivably unattractive the actress is. Each time it's posted, it's just comment after comment saying this girl is "fulgy,"...

I have similar features to that actress (I'm also very fat). I've made peace with the fact that I'm ugly

Oh... She's not ugly. She's just black.

Francesca Amewudah-Rivers is an attractive young woman. Don't listen to all this racist garbage.

Had to look it up - she's stunning. And now she's gonna be gaslit by people who insist otherwise. It's exhausting

Wait until these chucklefricks learn that back in Shakespeare's day when R&J was written, boys played BOTH roles.

So you're saying black women look like men??

It's not that she's unattractive. She isn't. It's almost certainly the fact that these people are racist.

I'm fat and definitely not pretty…. I consider myself plain & nondescript on a really good day. Heck, my ex told me repeatedly that I was “passable”. But my current partner thinks I'm gorgeous. As in I catch them staring in awe of my beauty. (Yes I'm like WTF is wrong with you?) At first I was really confused but I'm starting to understand that as long as I'm beautiful to them, the world's opinion means NOTHING.

You're actually really pretty tho'. Your ex was definitely lying to you .

!foidmoment

Bonus /r/FauxMoi Sneed: 1 2 3

I know 90% of people irrespective of gender are losers.

However, it feels like women are completely incapable of sympathizing with even the remaining 10% of men, and where they do sympathize, they excuse behaviors in the 10% that they consider unacceptable social evils in all other men? Why do women do this? Why do they discourage the same behaviors in 90% of men that they accept and celebrate in the remaining 10%?

Somebody explain as if You are talking to an autist who only thinks in black and white literal statements.

I'm a 34 y/o woman. Struggling with dating apps and dating in general. I'm trying to put the work in to meet men outside. I am just struggling trying to figure out where y'all are? I've been to HEB, Central Market and Whole Foods, no luck. Tried going out alone to restaurants a couple times and sat at the bar with no luck. Are there certain areas y'all professional men like to hang after work? I'm usually at the gym lol

Following bc I'm curious too. 30F and I go out enough to public spots but too chicken I guess to actually talk to someone. Gym had some cute bro dudes but I'd never approach. I've been approached at HEB on wash ave a couple times, maybe that's the new move? Perhaps pickleball spots?

Wishing you all the best. Same, I go out a lot alone actually. I have heard that women sometimes unknowingly are not open to men approaching them. So I'm gonna try to make an effort to make eye contact and smile more. I go to the HEB in montrose. I'm a resident and figured I'd run into more like minded men there? Idk. Pickleball does sound like a great place!

!macacos

Erika Vieira Nunes wheeled a dead 68-year-old man into a bank where she told staff he wished to take out a loan worth £2,600.

Erika Vieira Nunes wheeled the corpse into the bank in a suburb of Rio de Janeiro and told an employee that the man wanted a loan for 17,000 reais (£2,600), security camera video showed.

She then held a pen to the man saying: "Uncle, are you listening? You need to sign," according to the footage.

"He doesn't say anything, that's just how he is," she said, adding: "If you're not okay, I'm going to take you to the hospital."

Bank staff soon became suspicious as the man's head kept falling back so they called the police who arrested Nunes.

She was charged with vilification of a corpse and attempted theft through fraud, according to the Rio newspaper O Dia.

"She knew he was dead… he had been dead for at least two hours," Fabio Luiz Souza, an investigating officer told the breakfast news programme, Bom Dia Rio, on Wednesday.

it's been 50 years since we got the right to open our own open bank accounts & credit cards.

in 2024,

• we pay 30% more in overdraft fees

women overdraft their account more often, and this is mens fault

• the wage gap exists after adjusting for hours worked, occupation, education, & industry

no source, so I found this https://www.forbes.com/sites/realspin/2014/02/24/childless-women-in-their-twenties-out-earn-men-so/

https://www.politifact.com/factchecks/2014/apr/09/genevieve-wood/what-pay-gap-young-women-out-earn-men-cities-gop-p/

• everyday goods & services cost us more 42% of the time

women choose to buy more ex0ensive stuff than men, again this is mens fault

i don't think society ever wanted women to have money.

we now outnumber men in the college-educated workforce, yet we still have a whole host of financial issues to grapple with. clearly the system was designed to leave us out and powerful forces are involved in keeping the status quo as it is.

womxn have more access to education and thats bad too

with the rise of the tradwife/stay at home girlfriend trends, "lobotomy core," and "i'm not a feminist" becoming a trend on TikTok, it's clear that people still (at least subconsciously) don't want women to be financially independent.

womxn dont want to be and the west has fallen

also womxn:

Women long held primary purchasing responsibility for everyday household items, but today, they control or influence 85% of consumer spending.

https://techcrunch.com/2023/05/21/unlocking-the-trillion-dollar-female-economy/

Good morning!

Research shows women build cardio and endurance faster than men. Strength gain is basically the same but cardio much faster. RELATIVE muscle gain is the same with the same workout. Women's bodies use oxygen more efficiently and supply it to the muscles better than men. The only advantage men have is starting mass and starting strength.

Oh, is that all?

I was asked the "can you handle the work" question when I was 18 and was in amazing condition. I spent my high school years in the gym from 5 pm to 10 pm 5 days a week. They still asked me the question. The body builder question might be sexism, but if it's blocks that are like 120 lbs, it's fair to ask that of a woman who might weigh less than 100.

Noooo you can't use your personal experience to suggest this isn't sexism!

I used to work for a small company that did a lot of this type of work, and they've turned plenty of men away for being too scrawny. They didn't want anybody that looked like they couldn't press their body weight.

Noooo you can't use your personal experience to suggest this isn't sexism!

If youve never worked any landscaping or similar type job, its about 10 times harder than you would imagine. My line of work sometimes required some minor excavation, and I just hire day laborers for that. A solid 30 seconds with a shovel and i want to die

Noooo you can't use your personal experience to suggest this isn't sexism!

He probably skimmed the email, said “eh whatever.” And called some other applicant lol.

Or maybe he read it all and cried.

Foid nonsense is not being tolerated and it warms my heart