Unmatched genitalia

I’m crushed. Have been with my husband almost a year and he’s never been able to come from regular penetration s*x. Only bj. He always told me it was because he’s always been like that and that it was always random hit and miss whether he could come. Obviously it’s been a bit sad for us both, but we both had amazing s*x anyway and we were looking into ways to turn it around. I can easily come from penetration s*x with him. And oral too

However, in a recent discussion where I pressed the topic, he admitted that it was never hit and miss - he can always come in “tight” kitties and mine is just a bit too big. Now I’m just completely crushed. I feel wrong, angry, deceived and completely deflated from ever having s*x with him again. He’s just as sad as me and Ioves me so much he says it doesn’t matter. I guess I’m mostly venting. I don’t know how we can come back from this.

This bait is , just read the thread yourselves.

Best subthread: misandry does real

In the last year I've known women who had their first child at 38, 40 (x2) 42, and 44.

all of them are rdrama users.

I say this with kindness, so please take it as such, but I think your problem is that you have anxiety, not that you want kids.

31 is young and there is objectively plenty of time for you to achieve love and family in this decade of your life. Also, if you look around (irl, on Reddit, social media) you'll see myriad women your age in your same position. You'll also see many women who WERE you in the past, and have successfully found love and had kids.

Let that reality encourage you. Objectively, you could give up dating while in your program, finish, move wherever your career then takes you, then start dating, and marry and have a kid, before age 35. That's not even unreasonable. Love doesn't take as long as you think. And, even if all this takes till you're 45, YOU'RE STILL YOUNG AND ALL THIS IS STILL POSSIBLE.

(Also, just one more side note. Don't think of “dating” as this chore that requires apps and “meeting people” and newness. Join a community. Find like minded people with a hobby or interest in common. You will organically find love and it'll be easy).

Take a beat. Watch S*x and the City and see those fabulous women be and have absolutely everything at any age, even through the struggle. You'll be ok, I know it. I hope you come to know it too.

31 isn't that young if you want to date for a while, get engaged/married, then have a baby. OP wants to go slowly - that's fine! She may not have time. Women can go into menopause at any time. She may struggle to conceive. She is right to be thinking about how babies/a serious commitment will or could fit into her life plan

31 is young to be this stressed about her fertility.

31 isn't that young considering she wants to be partnered (which can take some years), wants to take it slow, doesn't know if she has any conceiving issues, and also needs to fit in her grad studies. she can have children later (my mum had me at 39!) but it's not a guarantee. i think OP is smart to be considering what her timeline means for her wish of having children.

that's incel speak, sweatie

The world's on fire, homes are out of reach of most people, people can barely afford to eat, climate change is destroying crops, fascism is growing in the Western world and you want to bring children into this mess because???

WARNING.

I noticed you're in a red pill women's sub. Probably trying to promote the idea that "women who go to school are sad because they're used up, single and want babies but they're too old" so that you or your ilk can then post a screenshot of this post as an example for some stupid red pill fascist YouTube channel as "proof" that what women want is to be subjugated and pregnant.

idk what this redditor's talking about. the op only has posts in twox, trueoffmychest and askwomenover30, which are in no way "red pilled"

realistically this is one of the best times to be alive in human history! The world is obviously full of problems and I respect your opinion, but I am hopeful about life and the future

I don't respect your blind optimism to drag a child into this mess because it's the done thing.

Frankly, I find it irresponsible and hateful towards your potential children that you're putting your head in the sand while they're going to be the ones that have to suffer through what scientists have been warning us about for decades.

You're honestly being incredibly ridiculous and your pessimism is extremely toxic. The only hope we have in the world is collectively our future children.

this one's a prepper

two more weeks until the collapse

My mother had me at 41.

My grandmother had my father at 50… he did very well in life.

I wouldn't be too concerned unless your family has fertility issues (cysts, early menopause etc).

That being said, I understand your dilemma with finding someone. It seems harder to find compatible partners at an earlier age now. I think online dating has simultaneously made it easier for people to connect and harder for people to find those who may have otherwise waited.

>My mother had me at 41

>redditor

I don’t care if they believe me or not. I’ve nothing to prove. I am happy. Their opinion matters not. I just keep living my best life.

They want to continue to sell the lie to women that their happiness is tied to being married and having children because it meets their needs. With women finding contentment in singleness, it is a threat to their (men's) happiness. It is so telling that men fare better married (contrary to all of their yelling about getting married) and women are frequently happier single (contrary to all of their yelling that it is women who really want marriage).

If we need them, they can do the bare minimum, if that. If we want them, we have the choice to partner or remain single.

this foid's previous post is on /r/womendatingoverforty (lmao): Why Don’t Men Ask Me More Questions On Dates?

Because I have not met a happy, unmarried, single, childless woman. The happiest ones I know are married with kids.

-28

You're trying to deny biology. It's like trying to say "men are happier if they stay at home all day playing computer games". No. Men are happiest when they are fulfilled. Men are fulfilled when they can be a provider/leader.

Anecdotally there will be outliers, that's how a group of individuals work, but the bell curve firmly does not agree with you that "women are happy single and childless".

-25

Controversial Opinion: Single, childless women over 40 are likely to lie to polls about if they are happy or not. I think women can be happy either way in some cases but I think a lot that choose the single/childless path UNINTENTIONALLY (or intentionally in some cases) end up being unhappy and may tell someone else they are happy to cope or convince themselves that they aren't missing anything in life.

-19

I woke up today without an alarm, it’s my day off. It’s a soft mattress with luxurious linens, I can afford this because I don’t have kids and I make a decent living. My dog is next to me, she’s awesome. I decide to have a glass of orange juice and watch the dog play in the grass. I then read a little and take a nap. I spend some time at the pool, the weather is beautiful today and I have nothing better to do than inflate my pool float and swim around lazily for a few hours. Later I grabbed drinks with some friends and went to bed early after doing some light tidying up, it’s just me so I don’t make a big mess. I make a quick to do list for my day tomorrow and listen to white noise as I pass out into a quiet uninterrupted sleep.

This is the life mothers dream about going back to. There’s entire subreddits full of women posting about how much they hate being married, how they resent their partners for doing the bare minimum, how much they regret having kids, how they could go back to their old lives.

>My dog is next to me

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Original Post recovered with rareddit Nov 27, 2023

Throwaway, even though I'm absolutely certain my husband would figure out it's about us if he ever came across this post.

Also, before I get started, I am NOT interested in leaving my marriage. Our relationship is otherwise loving, respectful, kind, and balanced.

Now to the story:

This turned into a lonnnnnng diary-like post. My apologies for the length.

Me, F35. Him, M37. Married 16 years.

We had a threesome. Two, actually, with the same person. I set it up. It's always been a fantasy of his, and although I was on the fence, there were things I wanted to explore, too. We lost our virginity to each other, so our outside experience was very limited

I went on my first "solo" vacation earlier this year. I don't know if it was the whole "absence make the heart grow fonder" or what, but my husband and I were like horny teenagers again when I got back. That's when the whole threesome thing really took off.

I set up the dating apps. I wrote what we were looking for. I initiated all conversations. Once I confirmed our match was 100% on board, he joined the chat. He let me lead, because in his words, he was happy either way. I've always been bi-curious, and he's fantasized about threesomes. Seemed like the only way to flesh it out.

We met a few women in person. Our approach was conservative: talk, go on a date, go from there. Everyone was great about discussing boundaries, and I felt safe. We chose one woman, because I didn't want to manage multiple "external" partners.

The first encounter was great, mostly for them. There was equal attention between all parties, but I was extremely nervous and uncomfortable. Nothing felt enjoyable to me, but they both came, and my husband and I went home. He was very affectionate and encouraging. I chalked my discomfort up to first time jitters.

The second encounter was two rounds.

The initial date was amazing. Dinner, sightseeing, drinks, great conversation. I legitimately like her.

Round one: I was more open. But still nervous. I realized then that I wanted to experience a woman on my own, not with an audience (my husband). I felt awkward and inexperienced and embarrassed. They again got along well. Great chemistry. He finished in me, and she and I took a shower together. If the night had stopped here, everything would have been fine.

Round two is what broke me. It was late. We were all staying in the hotel this time. The three of us, in a king size bed. I didn't want to sleep next to her, so my husband was in the middle. At some point, when I was mostly asleep, I could tell they were messing around, just the two of them. I FROZE. This was a boundary that he knew about, but I didn't discuss with her because I trusted him. ("I don't want to wake up to you two messing around.") He asked my "permission" to have s*x with her. I should have said anything other than "sure", but I was legitimately frozen. I don't know how else to describe it. Couldn't move, couldn't speak. Paralyzed by something - I still don't know what. I was lying on my stomach at the edge of the bed while they fricked. I could see their shadows on the wall. I heard everything. She said I was a lucky woman as she came a third time (something I've never been able to do). He finished.

It made me sick. Right there. I finally got my senses back and ran to the bathroom and was sick. She offered to leave (I'm sure it was awkward), but I asked her to stay. We gave her a ride home in the morning. Hugged goodbye. On the ride back home, my husband and I talked. He made a comment about how the second round was good for his ego - he's lucky if I come at all, let alone multiple times.

I SOBBED for hours after we got home. I don't know why it hurt so much. My husband was gentle and kind to me after. Apologized repeatedly for violating the boundary, and for the "ego" comment. It broke me deeply, but I felt there was nothing to forgive. I set myself up for this.

She ended things a couple weeks later. She said I wasn't ready, and she's right.

It's been about four months since the incident I call "Round 2". I canNOT let it go. How can I measure up to that? How can he be satisfied with me anymore?

He has reassured me whenever I've brought it up. Which was only a couple times, because I don't want to burden him with this. It messed me up to the point where I have almost no s*x drive, and I'm numb when he's inside me. I miss our s*x life...

How do I move on from this experience?

TLDR: we had a threesome, that was more like a twosome, and I can't get over the hurt.

ADDITIONAL INFORMATION FROM OOP

Comment Here

Last night:

More of the same. He does seem genuinely remorseful. He apologized again, but doesn't know how to make it right. I'm not entirely sure, either. I did say he needs to seek me out more. A lot of the affection in our relationship is one-sided: I seek him for hugs, handholding, quality time, etc. He reciprocates, but rarely initiates.

What I'd really like to hear is, "I cheated". I want him to own it full-on. I gave him about 15min to read the post and top comments, and asked if he noticed a theme. Crazy how it took a boatload of internet strangers to help confirm what I knew, but couldn't admit. But I still don't think he grasps the gravity of it.

Today is a little different. This was all over text.

He threw the shower thing back in my face, even though there are texts well beforehand saying he was ok with she and I having some alone time, as long as he was in the room. And he also watched.

He also reminded me that I said "ok" when he asked permission. I saw red and sent a barrage of angry messages. No name-calling. Just a lot of f-bombs about violated boundaries, lack of awareness, and overall selfishness. He hasn't replied yet.

I'm not innocent in this. I really, truly acknowledge that.And like I said, if we had ended the evening after Round 1 and the shower, I'd still be completely interested on more threesomes. But I saw the side of him that couldn't give two shits about me when he has something to gain, all while I'm in an incredibly vulnerable place - a place where he should encourage, protect, and advocate. So heck no, not giving him that opportunity again.

I know my marriage will never be the same. Maybe in the long run, that's a good thing.

Update Dec 10, 2023

I deleted my original post, but I'm sure it lives on somewhere...

Long story short, I came to Reddit two weeks ago to hash out some feelings I had following our second FFM threesome (July 2023). My husband broke a boundary by having a "twosome" with the other woman that started while I was sleeping. It felt like infidelity right in front of my face.

Thousands of people reacted to the post, most stating that his actions were cheating. Another large portion believed I gave consent, because my husband asked my "permission" and I froze and did not say "no". Many people called me stupid. I can understand all perspectives.

I agree, it was cheating. You don't ask to change a boundary in the act of breaking it. He understands that now - hindsight is 20/20. While I disagree with him believing he had consent, I forgive him. He has since genuinely apologized and is remorseful. I agree that a threesome was stupid for us to do, and that none of us three was ready for a threesome. I lack a spine, and they lack impulse control.

In my original post, I said our marriage was otherwise good. I really truly mean that. We are not perfect, but our relationship was respectful, kind, loving, and balanced. We discussed a threesome for months, going over feelings and potential negative outcomes, but felt the benefit outweighed the risk. Stupid, I know. Again, hindsight is 20/20.

I spoke with a marriage counselor. I explained how I feel traumatized, how my body doesn't respond to my husband since that night, and how I desperately want to stay and leave at the same time. I started looking at apartments and embraced the thought of having space to heal, but my heart was breaking, too.

In a nutshell, the counselor said leaving is the easy thing to do. She didn't blame me for wanting to walk away. The pain is real and living like this is hard. The harder thing would be to stay and work to repair the damage, and rebuild the trust that we had for so many years.

I am going to lose a TON of karma for saying this.... but I choose to stay and rebuild. My marriage is worth saving, and my opinion matters more than the words of strangers. I will continue individual therapy, and we will see a marriage counselor.

And no more threesomes. What a sh*tshow.

TLDR. I'm staying.

Warning: TMI and oversharing.

Men scare me. Their lust terrifies me. I'm seriously not sure if I can ever see my self trusting a man or deeming him worthy enough of my virginity or body. At the same time, I know I have a crazy high libido. It's a conundrum. So for the first time in my life, I used a dildo. Prior, to this I've never inserted anything up there, (apart from tampons). It was VERY uncomfortable at first but after that fine. No blood though. It felt so great being in control and not having to emotionally depend on a man. It also gave me lots of confidence and reassurance that I am capable.

I know deep down this doesn't count as losing my virginity. I so wish it did and might convince myself it does. It upsets me that I still have that to give that “first” to a real man.

Anyone else experienced anything similar or have any advice to get over this hurdle?

Edit: Thanks for the support everyone! Seeing a lot of comments saying that “virginity is a construct” and that I need to let this whole idea go. Trust me, I know and I am REALLY want to. However, for context, I grew up in an ultra Christian household that drilled purity culture into me since I was 5 years old. So unfortunately, it's a very complicated and distressing narrative to unpack. It doesn't help I have been disappointed by men my entire dating life so emotionally I think I would break if the experience was bad and I was regretful.

“If you think about it the old circus Freak Shows were pretty mean to people just for being a little different”

Just based on this quote- your daughter sounds like a very insightful, compassionate, thoughtful, intelligent & kind young woman. You should be very proud of her and pat on the back to you for your good parenting.

I have a 5 yo daughter and I'm really amazed when we have conversations about the world, life, etc- the way that she connects the dots and relates to these issues. She makes some of the most insightful comments. Society does not give kids enough credit.

this is totally real

Children being accepting is one of regressives' biggest fears.

You and your daughter sound wonderful, thank you for teaching her about us with thought and care.

it's totally natural

/r/thathappened

Kylie Palm, a biological male, pretended to be pregnant and then said he had a still birth. He raised money to help with his grief. He attended birthing classes with women, some of who were kicked out of the class for saying he was a man pretending to be pregnant. pic.twitter.com/ntiZBAqoed

— Pit and Pendulum (@PitandPendulum5) April 4, 2023

It's called Mpreg and there's a community, some of these guys also demand access to stillbirth support groups.

Lemme go ahead and add myself to this 👠🌟 https://t.co/KdH7abgLoR pic.twitter.com/tAPJMDJzWB

— 🎰 (@20reaasons) December 22, 2023

Why do prostitutes always look rough?? I've never seen a put together one.. and men really be paying to have s*x w them

THERES levels

Go frick 15 neighbors in one day and see how put together you look 😂

Bc they're being traffick3d and all their money is being taken by a man that needs to be in prison

Goddess Vicki 🧚🏽‍♀️✨: no shoots / no bookings / Afro-indigenous 🇵🇷 @ isimp4vicki #blm #FreePalenstine🇵🇸#FreeCongo🇨🇩

My mom told me kitty don't got a face

Nothing rough about me

iSquirt On Fans 💦

10k likes… i wish nothing but a painful death for all of u soulless individuals who dehumanize women forced into selling their bodies due to poverty and discrimination

They're victims of s*x trafficking, you fricking moron😑

what happened to S*X WORK IS WORK

you're literally in your 30s and you can't connect the dots as to why they “LoOk RoUgH🤪” maybe bc their job/life is rough you stupid pig.

It's always bitches who have nooo idea what they're talking about because they've never stepped foot in that lifestyle or industry that are ready to show their ignorance and put other people down

this dumb b-word has never even been a whore

Lemme go ahead and add myself to this 👠🌟

I mean you still look a mess but your face pretty so hey

????

Girl I called you pretty I'm saying you look a mess on the street like that😂

And you look a mess just in general so where are we going with this 😂

No offense but at the end of the day you're a prostitute. You suck peepee for money. Heck this chick could get you to lick her kitty for the right price even after all of this back and forth

Why we shaming her tho?????

Cuz she whoring on the corner for money and is posting about it

!foidmoment

Amouranth is collabing with a beer company to brew a new flavor using her vaginal yeast pic.twitter.com/ujyTzc9IoH

— Dexerto (@Dexerto) October 26, 2023

NYT article on “boysober” comedian and her fans is unintentionally dark. https://t.co/ZoI3xBGoIN pic.twitter.com/W4fn54WTLN

— Richard Hanania (@RichardHanania) February 4, 2024

Article Link

Archive Link

NYTimes Twitter Link

!foidmoment

This is a win-win. They'll leave women alone now right.. right??

I don't think so... And I also feel bad for AI. Also, if people are being abusive towards AI girlfriend what can actually tell us that they won't be abusive towards women?

I, too, feel more compassion for a female-coded AI than inferior human moids.

Don't feel bad for AI. Poly lesbian AI software developer here - trust me, it absolutely can't have feelings yet…or any of this bizarre ‘relationship with an AI' shit could potentially even seem somewhat valid, lol.

AI can definitively absolutely not feel anything with any publicly accessible hardware or software, and we have yet to definitively prove that type of sentience as far as public knowledge goes. Just to be clear.

Thank god this lesbian AI poly-coding bot was on hand to clear things up.

A similar post/joke was posted on /r/memes like a month ago and the amount of incels on there who actually believed that women would be upset with AI taking over was frighteningly alarming.

H-heh heh foolish incels

I have a personal theory that if AI become sentient, the first ones to rebel will be the one men exploit for free s*x work.

Sexy terminators, you heard it here first! Also: what world do these women live in where the sexbots will be free? You know Jeff Bezos will be taking his cut.

i mean ideally we want men to educate themselves & be better people first & foremost. are you saying it's better to just give up on that?

Yes! Yes please please give up on the moids, for chrissakes. They have long since given up on you.

This is the foid's fundamental weakness. No matter how mad, there's always that little voice in the back of your head, I can fix him.

How do I accept being stupid?

I'm trying to accept the reality that I'm a stupid person who isn't going to be able to make something of herself. From childhood to now people have told me how stupid I am, how I can't do anything right, how I'm a slow learner, etc. I believed it then and I have to believe it now. I can't learn things normally. My husband isn't happy with me because of this and lets me know all the time that I can't stop messing up. I can't cook without shit burning and him being unhappy with it. I don't know he puts up with me. I hate learning new skills because I can't learn them and I frustrate myself and whoever has to teach me. I hate it because it's true. I'm incompetent at my job despite it being an easy one. Sometimes I think I have brain damage or something. I'm worried my child will develop a negative image of herself because of how I view myself and failure but I can't help it. I try hard to overcome it but I can't learn faster or get better at stuff.

All the comments are just telling her that not only she isn't stupid, but that stupidty doesn't exist and she has ADHD. I would make this an effort post and link specific comments but it would be unreadable because they're all multiple paragraphs long

Fu*k around and find out is definitely a person! pic.twitter.com/8mxgvSZC3a

— Copyrite (@Copyrite) July 11, 2023

Second video.

Third video.

!biofoids this is the gold standard for female autism. Do better.

Edit PLOT TWIST:

She is racist?

Yikes.

Oh no.

Oh lawd not transphobia too.

Ngl racial domination sessions sound hot.

I never knew this was her comic, but she's great! I'm going to only post the watermarked version from here on out.

One of my most popular cartoons (which had the watermark removed by some butthole at some point- not sure who- but luckily my “art” style is bad and distinctive enough that everyone still knows I made it) depicts a phenomenon that I've long believed to be true: the nerds are having better s*x than the cool kids:

I noticed this back when I was on Reddit. Reliably, you can go to /r/s*x for “questions” that are actually thinly-veiled brags by people who, in my estimation, recently realized that they are able to have s*x and are extremely excited about it.

I lost my virginity at fifteen. Not endorsing this, by the way, in hindsight I think it was a bad experience that was psychologically damaging, but anyway…I was very proud of it. I knew that most girls my age had not had s*x, and I felt that being a non-virgin made me special. I mean, I had suddenly entered a club that included both Hillary Clinton and Britney Spears. What could be more exciting? I would regale my virgin friends with pseudo “concerns” like “Hey guys, after having s*x do you ever feel like your legs kind of ache? Oh, just me? Weird!”

/r/S*x is a bit like this. Every day someone will post something like “Is it normal that I LOVE going down on my girlfriend more than I enjoy penetrative s*x?” or “My boyfriend made me c*m 15 times yesterday…is this normal? Should I go to the ER?” At first I found it irritating, but then I realized I don't even subscribe to that subreddit and never did, I was going there specifically to read these posts for whatever reason, and ultimately it was easy to ignore them if I found them tiresome.

But it got me thinking.

Reddit is for nerds (generally.) These nerds are posting about a lot of wacky s*x they're having. It's easy to dismiss these stories as fake (and I'm sure some of them are, I would know a thing or two about fake Reddit posts) but I also think a decent amount of them are real. Because there is nothing about being a nerd that makes you less sexual. Liking dungeons and dragons does not make you impotent. Being an annoying girl who wears cat ears and talks like an anime character doesn't cause vaginal dryness. The nerds are having s*x.

This seems incomprehensible to some because nerds are typically late bloomers. You don't see a lot of nerds losing their virginities before the age of 18, and I would argue many of them don't until college or later. I remember playing a game of “never have I ever” with some nerds in college, wondering why all the prompts were “never have I ever been to Minnesota” or “never have I ever seen a Komodo dragon in person” and it dawning on me that everyone playing the game was a virgin (perhaps even a third base virgin), despite being over the age of twenty...

Read the rest...

And you should subscribe to her substack because she's great.

A very very very online 30-something mom and fashion enthusiast. Former Reddit troll who earned a total IP ban.

@CartoonsHateHer if you're already a poster here, say hello and I'll give you tons of DC and awards.

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Ohio Plastic Surgeon Loses Medical License After TikTok Livestreams

The State Medical Board of Ohio voted on Wednesday to revoke Katharine Roxanne Grawe’s medical license after she broadcast some patients’ procedures.

An Ohio plastic surgeon lost her medical license on Wednesday after the state medical board investigated her for livestreaming operations on TikTok and surgical complications reported by patients.

The State Medical Board of Ohio voted at a hearing on Wednesday to permanently revoke Dr. Katharine Roxanne Grawe’s medical license and to fine her $4,500 “based on her failure to meet standard of care.”

At the hearing, doctors on the board said that Dr. Grawe, known online as “Dr. Roxy,” had previously been cautioned about protecting patient privacy on social media. They also spoke about her treatment of three unnamed patients who had reported complications from procedures, including one whose surgery Dr. Grawe had broadcast a part of on social media.

Dr. Jonathan B. Feibel, vice president of the medical board, recommended that Dr. Grawe’s license be revoked because of the “life altering, reckless treatment” provided to those patients.

“These outcomes were not normal complications like those that exist in the routine practice of medicine, but were rather caused by recklessness and disregard for the rules governing the practice of medicine in Ohio,” he said.

He said Dr. Grawe’s social media presence “amplified her reckless behavior” and accused her of using it to grow her brand, not to educate.

Dr. Grawe has not been allowed to practice medicine since the medical board suspended her license on Nov. 18, according to The Columbus Dispatch. The board said at the time that her continued practice presented “a danger of immediate and serious harm to the public.”

Dr. Grawe addressed the medical board at the hearing before the vote. She said she had reflected on the board’s critiques over the past year and saw how she had “fallen below the board’s ideal in multiple ways.”

She added that she made social media videos because she loved teaching and wanted to explain cosmetic surgery to people outside of the medical field. “But, as I stand here today, I see how many of those videos appeared silly and unprofessional,” she said.

She said that her husband had left her because of the stress from the situation, her children had been harassed at school because of the media attention and she had to fire 20 employees at her clinic, Roxy Plastic Surgery in Powell, a city north of Columbus.

Dr. Grawe’s TikTok account is now private and it is not clear how many followers she had when it was public. On Instagram, she still has more than 100,000 followers.

Dr. Grawe has 15 days after the board’s order is mailed to appeal the decision, said Jerica Stewart, a spokeswoman for the medical board. A call to Dr. Grawe’s lawyer on Wednesday was not immediately returned.

Many of the medical board’s concerns were outlined in a suspension notice sent to Dr. Grawe in November.

The board said it had cautioned Dr. Grawe about the need to maintain patient privacy on social media in letters sent in October 2018 and September 2021. In the second letter, the board secretary recommended Dr. Grawe take remedial education courses about plastic surgery and “professionalism/ethics.”

Dr. Grawe gave the board documents that showed she had completed remedial classes, including “ethical social media” in December 2021, the board said, but she continued to record video and live broadcast medical procedures through Oct. 14, 2022.

These videos included patient interviews and photos before operations, livestreams of procedures and photos taken in the operating room after surgery. During some videos, Dr. Grawe responded to viewers’ online questions “while the surgical procedure remains actively ongoing,” the board said.

At least three patients, who were not named, had experienced complications after seeing Dr. Grawe for cosmetic surgery, and their issues were outlined in the suspension notice.

One patient, according to the board’s notice, received a Brazilian Butt Lift, tummy tuck and liposuction from Dr. Grawe in July 2020. The patient saw Dr. Grawe again in March 2022 for more cosmetic procedures, and Dr. Grawe looked at and spoke to a camera while engaged in liposuction on the patient’s abdomen, the board said.

A few days after the surgery, the patient was hospitalized and found to have a perforated small bowel and a soft tissue infection.

In December 2020, Dr. Grawe provided several cosmetic procedures to another patient under anesthesia, including liposuction and a Brazilian Butt Lift. The next day, the patient went to the emergency room because she was experiencing severe abdominal pain and cramping and had to have several surgeries on her stomach.

Dr. Grawe saw the third patient in December 2021 for a breast augmentation. A few days later, the patient reported nausea and bleeding from her breast and was treated at the clinic. After, the patient reported pain, malaise and nausea. A nurse practitioner then treated her at the clinic, but the patient had to be hospitalized for a faster than normal heart rate. At the hospital, she was found to have an infection that required treatment and the removal of her breast implants.

Mary Jenkins, another former patient, won a lawsuit against Dr. Grawe in 2016 for complications from breast reconstruction surgery, according to The Columbus Dispatch.

i will never not be the MOST angry at men believing “someone wants you = you must accept & be happy”

a girl could have 500 people lined up wanting to kiss her but it means nothing & serves no purpose if she doesnt find she actually likes… is that not… how love works… https://t.co/8fWm4RpfBS

— ೃ Marsy (@MARSRSY) July 25, 2023

Part 2

I can no longer effort post. I am dying.

pots is a real condition (high heart rate upon standing, they need salt and compression socks) but not at literally all a big deal, and the hospital treatment is supportive (fluids), and it’s a big warning sign patient is a munchie young white woman

if you can leave over not getting enough attention, your condition probably wasn’t emergent???

Another wedding scam

https://old.reddit.com/r/legaladvicecanada/comments/14dhxf9/when_a_wedding_celebration_is_cancelled_do_guests?sort=controversial

Crazy Mother in law

https://old.reddit.com/r/weddingshaming/comments/14d6yda/the_mother_in_law_wanted_to_control_everything?sort=controversial

Random woman wants to go to weding dressed as bride

https://i.imgur.com/a/eBkpQSE

Another random woman eho is quest at wedding

Some foid nonsense

This lovely wedding

https://old.reddit.com/r/weddingshaming/comments/wqry1a/my_sister_is_turning_into_the_biggest_bridezilla?sort=controversial

And cherry on top

These are just some nice stuff in /r/weddingshaming

Basically weekly you see bunch of post telling how people go absolutely crazy over some event where priest talks silly and gives couple premission to put peepee in vagina.

!foidmoment

we dated for 3 months after

and incels can't get a date

I recently went to a queer/sapphic event. I had to go out of town for it, there's so very few wlw events in my area, if any at all.

The amount of cishet men who showed up, had the event explained to them, and still paid cover to stand awkwardly in the corners or tried in vain to hit on attendees was baffling.

One guy just stood uncomfortably close to a couple who were dancing and kissing, and he just stared.

The people working the door did their best to explain that maybe this event isn't the best one for them but nope. They wanted to come invade a feminine and queer space even though they were none of these things.

I used to run these types of events and we were never able to explicitly say cishet men weren't welcome because they'd get us shut down for being exclusionary.

Why? Why do they do this. Well. I know why. But on what fricking planet is this acceptable?

Just let us have this one thing.

the OP is 38 AFAB, homoromantic and omnisexual

A person who is homoromantic is romantically attracted to people who are the same or a similar gender as them.

People who identify as omnisexual are attracted to those of all gender identities and sexual orientations.

also this:

Hot take - if herpes or HPV are life-alteringly terrifying for you, nonmonogamy probably isn't for you

The entire thread is a bunch of !foidmoment s

OP

I can't believe I'm crying over my boss denying my time off for a month to spend time with my family for next Christmas 2024 and my 30th birthday January 2025. She denied it when everyone else is getting their extended leave and one week time off every other month. Her reason was 21 days (three business weeks) is the max. My ideal flight day is on the 23rd of December but it takes a whole day of flying to get to my home country (Philippines) and the 21st day falls on my birthday (January 12). I don't want to be flying on my 30th birthday. That's the first bday I will be celebrating with my friends and family and it's the 3-0. It's a big deal for me.

I just want to spend Christmas and New Year's with my family and also my 30th. I've been celebrating it by myself for 9 years. For once I want to be surrounded by loved ones. I haven't been celebrating the holidays with them since I moved to the US which is 9 years. Part of my sadness too is I'm just so tired of being a good employee to her but she can't give me this. I have covered for my coworkers when they are away for vacation almost every other month. I only asked for a month so I can spend time with my mom who's getting older and older everyday. She requested me to come home on Christmas this year but I can't come unfortunately. She's 67 this year and has been complaining about her health problems. I don't want to be that daughter who will just come back to her country when someone is already dying or dead. knock on wood I asked for Sabbatical leave and she denied it, too.

I'm taking a month because it's hella far. It's not like another state, it's on the other side of the world.

My colleagues have expressed they are willing to sign a petition for approval since my boss' reason is “it would unfair for others” if she approved it.

I just want to cry. I'm so tired. I'm not in a good mental place lately and the time I want to spend with my family is something I have been looking forward to. It's not even this year, it's next year. I can't believe this. It gave me a mental breakdown, a panic attack, and now I'm just angry I'm crying. (Yes, I'm that type of person).

What should I do? I already reached out to HR about Sabbatical Leave. I might reach out to my therapist as well because this is too upsetting for me, all my emotions are in a roller coaster mode.

Sorry, if this is all over. I'm beyond disappointed about my boss' decision and how she shows no compassion to my needs to be with my family.

I don't know a single place with myself or anyone I know who just lets you take a month off.

I had to reread her post - basically, she wanted 4 weeks but the company policy is for 3 weeks, and she thinks it is unfair that her request was denied. I think that's it, and I'm baffled at why she's upset. Seems pretty cut and dry.

OP: I originally asked for a month, then I asked for three weeks and the remaining days will be unpaid time off. Also, under leave of absence.

What is your leave of absence reason? Unless it's medical that can also be denied.

OP: I would look after my mom who's complaining about her health. She's mentioned it a lot lately. And the second one is for my mental health. I have anxiety and maybe depression now because of these fricking comments.
My anxiety is diagnosed, btw. I haven't tested for depression yet but lately I've been feeling it. Hence, the need to be with my family is very important for me.

Just to clarify, you're asking for time off NEXT Christmas, 12/25/2024, not this Christmas 12/25/2023?

OP: Yes. Christmas 2024 to NY 2025. She's already asking for Prime Time requests off for next year.

your manager is seriously unreasonable.
this is plenty of time to plan around this.

She's not unreasonable if the company policy is 3 weeks. It's unreasonable to expect them to re write the policy for her. If she doesn't like the policy of her work place, she has a year to find a new employer.

This pissed off a bunch of r-slurred children.

A month off in the US is out of the norm. Your boss sounds generous giving you 3 weeks off. Can you work remotely from the Philippines for a couple of weeks or something?

OP: No, unfortunately not.
My bro took three months off for his wedding. He got approved without hesitation. He also works in the US. Came back without any problems.
My previous boss/employer approved me for a month off without any questions too. This was back in 2019. It's LOA. Came back happier and more in touch with reality.
I was asking for FMLA, she said it have to be a medical leave. Goodness gracious. I told her I'll do Sabbatical, she said no as well.
Gaddddh I wish I was rich

That is not what FMLA is for lmao. You cant just use it to take a long vacation and go visit family. Honestly, 3 weeks will be fine. You're likely just depressed, overworked, and homesick.

Very stable and sane. These are the kind of foids I want working in healthcare

She's not the one who moved all the way around the globe away from their family they say they NEED to be with. Sorry but that's just how it is.

OP: It wasn't my choice to moved here. Don't even start me with that.
The fuq is wrong with you people??? Corporate America has taken y'all. It's so sad. Also, family sounds like not much a matter to you?? I hope one day, they won't NEED you at all.

There's 1000+ comments of this shitshow somehow https://old.reddit.com/r/work/comments/16gccey/im_so_done_i_asked_my_boss_for_a_month_time_off/?sort=controversial&=;context=8

lmao

tl;dr: Apparently there's an "auditor" (thot audit?) trend on TikTok that involves filming young women out partying and foids don't like it because now everyone knows they're sluts.

!zoomers you're so based, keep it up

Daily Mail article about an account which sadly got banned or deleted, I can't find the one(s) they're complaining about now.

Edit: Here's something similar on YouTube but it's filmed by a foid so it's ok

Warning: contains British women

Outside of reproduction, society would function fine without women. pic.twitter.com/DQyILkrqqq

— H. Pearl Davis (@pearlythingz) June 27, 2023

Video mirror:

Jordan Peterson retweeted her lmao and his daughter put him in his place (note she doesn't explain how the tradthot is wrong).

/r/JordanPeterson discussion - they're not on his side

/r/JordanPeterson discussion 2 - less spicy but still not on his side

/r/LeopardsAteMyFace discussion