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Disposing of very large quantities of blood is an onerous chore. You can't give the stuff awayโ€”well, perhaps you can, but few are willing to endure the stares that proving this point entails.

Yet the slaughtering and butchering trade has long faced precisely this dilemma. London butchers in Newport Market during the 19th century were banned from tipping blood into the street sewers, due to the rats it attracted, though enough of them flouted this law that sewers under meat markets became commonly known as "blood sewers." Among London sewer workers, toiling in these "blood lines" vied in unpleasantness with the caustic rivers that ran under soapmakers and the boiling drains beneath sugar refineries. Indeed, one of the better ways for meat merchants to dispose of cattle blood was by selling it to these sugar mills, which used it in their refining process.1

Recycling was already the order of the day: bones were ground up for phosphorus matches, tobacco ash was turned into tooth-cleanser, old wool sweaters shredded into wallpaper flocking, and it was discovered that desiccated fish eyes made delightful buds for artificial flowers. Unlucky stray dogs wound up as phony cod-liver oil, and tallow makers in Paris were not above fishing dead dogs and cats out of the Seine when production quotas demanded it. But blood and animal waste remained a perennial problem. New Yorkers found one promising use for it in the 1870s: they tried mixing blood with other discarded offal to manure their fields.2

But perhaps the most creative approach to blood disposal is one we might all still readily grasp, as this headline from the January 1892 issue of Manufacturer and Builder magazine attests:

Door Knobs, etc., from Blood and Sawdust.

Doctor W.H. Dibble, of New Jersey, had patented an exciting material for interior decorators: hemacite, he called it. Hemacite, the magazine explained, was "nothing less than the blood of slaughtered cattle and sawdust, combined with chemical compounds, under hydraulic pressure of forty thousand pounds to the square inch."

Advertisement hawking hemacite skate wheels in the 11 October 1885 edition of the

Advertisement hawking hemacite skate wheels in the 11 October 1885 edition of the New York Times.

Sawdust back then had already found use in papermaking and as a filling for dolls, and desperate Swedes had also figured out how to distill brandy from it. But these base ingredients of blood and sawdust remained plentiful, and were wonderfully effective when combined together as an animal polymer, the blood's albumen binding with the wood particulate. "Hemacite," noted the magazine, "is susceptible of a high polish, is impervious to heat, moisture, atmospherical changes, and, in fact, is practically indestructible." Starting out as brownish powder resembling snuff, hemacite could be molded into any shape and dyed to any color, and it became a popular and reasonably priced substitute for both wood and metal among architect and decorators.

In fact, by the time of the Manufacturer and Builder article, the Trenton headquarters of the Dibble Manufacturing Company had been for some years producing hemacite house trimmings and drawer pulls, and it now had a catalogue of hundreds of designs of their most popular product, hemacite doorknobs. The doorknobs carried a guarantee for the lifetime of the door, because rather than having a separate knob and shaft to wear out, they were molded as one unbreakable piece. It was a successful enough product that Dibble eliminated his own name from the enterprise entirely: Trenton became the proud home of the Hemacite Manufacturing Company.

Dibble branched out into products like hemacite cash register buttons and, quick to pick up on the latest fads, roller skates.3 "To skate manufacturers and dealers," boasted an ad in the 11 October 1885 issue of the New York Times, "the superiority of our Hemacite Roller over boxwood is now well known." The campaign seems to have worked: the 21 February 1903 Times carries an ad by the Siegel Cooper department store, hawking athletic supplies, and nestled among promotions for medicine balls and $12 Swedish Dogskin Coats ("For sporting use or driving") is an entry for 75-cent roller skates with hemacite wheels, a more expensive option than skates with plain "black wheels." Curiously, Siegel Cooper's ad appears over a plug for Plasmon Cocoa mixโ€”"A blood-invigorating and muscle-making beverage of the highest order." Plasmon's active invigorating ingredient? Albumen, which was also the organic binding agent behind hemacite roller skate wheels.

W.H. Dibble was certainly an inventive fellow, having previously patented a dentist's contraption to simultaneously pry patients' mouths open while draining away their saliva, but his hemacite products were not quite the amazing innovation that he led others to believe.4 Like a true American, what he had really done was nick a foreign idea and improve upon it. Long before Dibble's 1877 application, the Parisian writer Francois Lepage secured an 1855 patent for what he called bois durci: a pressurized mixture of sawdust and cattle blood or, less economically, egg whites. Lepage founded the Bois Durci Company and exhibited its wares at the Great International Exhibition of 1862, back when Dibble was still tinkering with ways to suck the spit out of dental patients. Bois durci went on to turn up in a variety of 19th century inkstands, plaques, picture frames, and furniture; Edison even used it for the housing on early telephones.5 Even bois durci was not the first use of blood in buildings. Cattle blood had long been used in "blood cements," as, for that matter, had albumen from eggs, milk, and cheese. One Chinese recipe called for 100 parts slaked lime, 75 parts bullocks' blood, and 2 parts alum. Floors in South Africa gained a black marble-like polish with the use of blood, and an early London tennis court acquired its hard and glossy surface in the same way; it has even been used as an additive in roofing material.6 It seems there is no part of a house that cannot be manufactured, in part, from blood. Hemacite certainly captured the attention of Victorian architects. By the turn of the century, though, Dibble's firm had already suffered a factory fire, moved shop to a new building, and changed its name to Trenton Brass and Machine Company. The old Hemacite Company was as much a victim of changing times as fire: new plastics like Bakelite were in the offing, pushing aside the quaint notion of sawdust mixed with blood. The rechristened company soldiered on for many more decades, surviving the Depression and a postwar strike, and until recently still supplied fittings to plumbing contractors. But even Trenton Brass is gone now, and with it the last faint trace of Dr. W.H. Dibble and his Hemacite Company.7 But old hemacite house fixtures, strong and durable as they are, live on. So the next time you find yourself running short on bouillon, you may take this token of advice: consider boiling your doorknobs.


!chemistry !chuds :#marseydracula:

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Gender wars in r/genz

https://www.reddit.com/r/GenZ/s/4QjaT63Qp0

https://www.reddit.com/r/GenZ/s/AeqBgoTHxW

https://www.reddit.com/r/GenZ/s/V4KiiRK8zw

https://www.reddit.com/r/GenZ/s/OSAXqPKPOF

https://www.reddit.com/r/GenZ/s/pDr7wRr5gt

Bonus points for a 40 year old misandrist :marseytrain2: with a "theyfab" 20 years younger than her calling people incels.

https://www.reddit.com/r/GenZ/s/1e1Z2200Si

https://www.reddit.com/r/GenZ/s/BxaROiiUDQ

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!g*mers !fightclub

!macacos o Sifudeu tรก de graรงa

https://i.rdrama.net/images/1735670979sTpAKr52-6YCPg.webp

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Longest 3 days of my life :marseytime:

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F2m navigates the problem with cis-male friendships and men in general.

It's uncommon for a columnist in any publication to write about navigating friendships, but I feel the need to talk about navigating male friendships as a transgender man. In doing so, I will highlight what is wrong with men these days โ€” and what is not wrong โ€” and I can pinpoint various areas where masculinity still remains toxic, and areas where it doesn't.

Alright. Go off queen.

When I first started transitioning to be a man I hated all cisgender men: they were the bane of my existence. I was conditioned to hate cis men because they historically were the ones who repressed trans people. I found though, that when I went on testosterone and started passing as a man all the time, that people suddenly expected me to be nice to cisgender men and to be friends with them.

Who tf is this mean manlet? Just be nice you dumb b-word.

As a trans man, let me dissect what it's like to find the right guy friend. Let's first take a look at all men. Let's say, for instance, that 70% of men are transphobic to some degree. Suddenly, I am faced with only making friends with 30% of these remaining men. Out of these 30% of men, some will not have the same hobbies as me, share the same interests, share the same educational background, or be in the same age bracket as me. Only 5% of these men are similar to me in some way shape or form: they might like literature, they might be smart, they might have traveled to many countries, they might also have a twin, and they might be roughly the same age, or work in the same industry.

yeah. All of us bros hang with people who are only like us. i have plenty of successful and absolutely r-slurred friends who just like to joke around.

I have had many cis men as friends. But even among those woke, non-transphobic men, there are a few issues that arise. The first is that I have a difficult time talking about any surgeries with them or about my bottom dysphoria. In this same vein, it is difficult to talk to them about anything trans-related, because trans-related issues do not conform to cisgender culture. I've found that even the most well meaning, progressive men find talking about something like dysphoria awkward. Cisgender men are conditioned to make small talk about the NBA, poker, women, and football.

Sorry dude. I don't want to hear about how u wish ur kitty is a peepee. I'm trying to drink.

Perhaps I take issue with how all cisgender men are socialized, then. I've found that cisgender, straight men are conditioned to not talk about their emotions or have conversations about love or s*x. As a former woman these types of conversations were very commonplace, either in the Yale women cross country's locker room or in small group settings with female roommates.

Wait. Are you saying women are different than men?

It is hard to find a man who I can talk to about transphobia or bottom dysphoria. On that note, the best "male" friends I have in the current day are actually cisgender men who are secretly trans women. It's shocking, at first, to learn that my close friend from college is secretly a trans woman. But then it's enlightening, and it makes sense why they were so comfortable with me being trans to begin with. It's sad, though, that the only "men" I feel the closest to are those who secretly don't want to be men. It's not sad in the sense that I don't want them to transition โ€”every bit of me wants them to transition โ€” but it's sad that I can't get close to other cis men in the same way.

Mmhmmm.

Most of the men I've talked about in this piece are straight, cis men, and I have neglected to speak about gay or queer cis men. In a previous piece for the Blade, I spoke of issues in gay men's culture. I've found that there are many cisgender gay men who mean well for trans men, but that in another regard, a lot of cis gay men are socialized to cast social judgments and prioritize being skinny and fashionable instead of developing genuine friendships, especially when they are in their 20s and 30s. Instead, I've gravitated toward being friends with straight men mainly because I also harbor an attraction to women, and I do, admittedly, like to occasionally make raunchy and lewd jokes, and I feel less judged by straight men. Such a statement may come across as bold, but the truth is that I have very few gay male friends.

Lol.

In any event, dissecting male friendships as a trans man is difficult and multifaceted, but worth it nonetheless. As a trans man, it's fascinating to study other men, and in particular the ways in which they maintain, or don't maintain, friendships. I am eternally perplexed by how some men make jokes and cut others out of friendship circles, but also happy that, at the end of the day, both straight and queer cisgender men can be accepting of someone like me.

Keep yourself safe.

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Loyal devoted cow takes drunk owner home

!macacos

@kaamrev love sucking peepee

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You're not playing those extremist games are you anon? :toddhoward:
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Love ๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ˜˜ :marseyflagsouthafrica:
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Salaam alaikum brothers and sisters, I don't usually post on subreddits like these but I've been having a situation that requires me to ask for some proper advice.

I've been together with my wife (Mahiru Shiina from MILGRAM) for about a year, ever since her second trial music video has been released. I've been 100% loyal and have been eating no one else's rats since then, but we've had some differences these past few weeks for the first time in our relationship.

My beloved is a shia alawite while I'm a sunni muslim, it's never been a problem in our relationship up until now, but ever since the Assad regime in Syria has fallen, there have been cracks showing up between us. I was over the moon and celebrating all day since I heard Damascus has been liberated by rebels, however my SO doesn't seem to share my enthusiasm.

Mahiru expressed concern about how Shia's would be treated under the new government, which I admit, might be a valid concern, but I tried to tell her that no matter what happens, it can only go up from here. Mahiru disagreed strongly with me and reminded me of what happened to Iraq after the US invasion, and she mentioned her friend, Yuno, who belongs to the Assyrian orthodox church, who has been worried sick ever since the news came out.

Our argument became pretty heated and the word "Kaffir" slipped out of my mouth. I am not proud of it, but I can't take it back now. Mahiru was visibly upset by my careless comment and has refused to speak with me ever since. It's been a whole week since that argument and even though I apologized profusely, she still won't talk to me. I've been crying myself to sleep every night now that I have to wake up without my sweet Mahiru plush sitting right beside me.

My Imam has tolled me there are plenty of fish in the sea, and I should go out looking for a "real" relationship, but I don't want a "real" woman, I want Mahiru.

Does anyone have experience with this? Any advice is appreciated.

https://i.pinimg.com/736x/a1/49/b3/a149b38c08b68713f7f57c02a01326ad.jpg :#heartbeat: https://i.pinimg.com/736x/90/84/9a/90849ad533c5fb6ef7ceddd574831998.jpg !ummah !islam !anime !weebs !schizos

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Self-proclaimed BWC BVLL falls for sextortion scam :marseyemojirofl:

https://old.reddit.com/r/SingaporeRaw/comments/1ho7syy/help/

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:!#marseydetective: https://i.rdrama.net/images/1735465240RL068SKdlZIOYA.webp :#marseydicklet:

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Neurodivergent finds rampant abuse in h1b database

Holy frick dude. Imagine the other programs

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LOVELY MOMMA BOMBAY ๐Ÿ’•

I hope you all have beautiful days ahead. It's baba-removal day for the boys :troll2:

Take good care in this interesting but beautifully foggy weather :marseybow: :marseyhearts:

!animalposters !cats

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Helpful Spiderman :marseyspiderman2:

Twitter started recommending me weird animation :xencat:

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Cute little lizard
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Neolibs ree at Social Security

					
					
					
	

				
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The lizard is deathly afraid of a blueberry, covers in black spots in defence.

This is how the lizard reacts to normal wiggly food offered to it:

This is how she snipes crickets from above (bonus lounging cat):

This is how she reacts to an innocent blueberry. Note how she hyperventilates and gets covered by black dots in defense:

@Aevann this is the best post ever in this hole.

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[๐Ÿ”ฅ๐Ÿ”˜๐Ÿ”˜๐Ÿ”˜๐Ÿ”˜] Why does honesty never work when dating women?

					
					

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Exactlyโ€ฆ.. OP is being honest which is fantasticโ€ฆ.. that doesn't mean these women have to stick around. Good news : he isn't wasting anyone's time because he's being honest. (291)

True. The problem then becomes these women are so used to believing the thrill of a lie, that an up front truth is not refreshing, just disappointing (-11)

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Honesty is working. If you don't want to build a relationship and want to have s*x and leave make it clear. Maybe you're some sort of handsome irresistible man? That's why they want to keep you if they can, but when they find out you really mean what you say then they leave. In reality, s*x is a sacred bond and causes people to be emotionally attached. Because of this, it affects your partner and creates an attachment, even if it doesn't affect you. Continue to be honest with them. They can't blame you for anything if you told them from the start that you're looking for s*x not into making love. (27)

The serious problem is that most of the time if a man says he just wants casual s*x, most women already give up. It's better to hide your goals to seduce a woman and tell the truth after having s*x. (-29)

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Being honest doesn't guarantee that she will like what you have to say. (651)

Which is why you are better off just telling her what she wants to hear. (-23)

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Oh no I'm not expanding. Sexual abuse is many things - including manipulation or lying to get access to a person's body. Sexual assault involves attacking but abuse can occur without physical violence. If a guy I'm dating wants a bj but I'm not in the mood - he then responds by calling me a b-word and refusing to talk to me and giving me the cold shoulder so that in future when he wants a bj, I give him one to avoid that reaction - is that not abuse? Of course it is. S*x should be mutual.Think about it this way. If I go out with you and you pay for dates, pay for my nails to be done, pay for my phone so we can chat, pay for my hair, etcโ€ฆall while I lead you on with the impression I will be your gf one day and/or put outโ€ฆam I financially abusive? Of course. I'm stringing you alone so that you'll pay for my shit. Abuse is rampant and it's often things that people don't consider to be abuse. We need to move the conversation forward. It's not evil. (4)

What you defined, well explained, can indeed be abusive, but linking it to the field of sexual abuse is very dangerous, even for greater reasons such as the trivialization of the concept, because if the concept of sexual abuse expands more and more, it will be so bureaucratic to be correct that we will have to file contracts for the protection of men and women.Here in Brazil we have the concept of sexual fraud, which is when a person deceives another to achieve sexual intimacy, this has been somewhat common for a long time, but the law that turns this deception into a crime is something very new. This is bad, but expanding into a sexual context could equate this minor crime with actual violent sexual crimes. There is a huge difference between subjective violence and objective violence and equating both things can further disadvantage the real victims.This example of a woman deceiving men with seduction that could result in casual s*x or dating happens a lot. It is common for men wit... (1)

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What you defined, well explained, can indeed be abusive, but linking it to the field of sexual abuse is very dangerous, even for greater reasons such as the trivialization of the concept, because if the concept of sexual abuse expands more and more, it will be so bureaucratic to be correct that we will have to file contracts for the protection of men and women.Here in Brazil we have the concept of sexual fraud, which is when a person deceives another to achieve sexual intimacy, this has been somewhat common for a long time, but the law that turns this deception into a crime is something very new. This is bad, but expanding into a sexual context could equate this minor crime with actual violent sexual crimes. There is a huge difference between subjective violence and objective violence and equating both things can further disadvantage the real victims.This example of a woman deceiving men with seduction that could result in casual s*x or dating happens a lot. It is common for men wit... (1)

Your first two paragraphs - your argument is that sexual fraud (as it is called in your country) is not akin to sexual abuse because it is not as serious and the victims aren't real victims. You do not understand how s*x is viewed for women. If we find out a guy has been lying to use us - we feel shame, disgust, low self-esteem, we are more likely to accept poor treatment in future because of our lower self-worth - it's very violating and it absolutely is sexual abuse. I was in a relationship like I describe above in my earlier comment - it very much fricked with my head. Adding to it - let's make it murder instead of sexual abuse. The definition of murder I will use is "Person A took action to end Person B's life". The murder could be that A shot person B in the head and they died quickly without pain. Maybe A even had an (almost) understandable reason for wanting B dead. A murder could also be A kidnapping B, tying them down, slowly carving them up, and then setting them on fire. O... (2)

Angriness: ๐Ÿ˜ก๐Ÿ˜ก๐Ÿ˜ก๐Ÿ˜ก๐Ÿ˜ก

It is not sexual abuse for two reasons:1- This never happened, I only spoke of the hypothesis.2- Sexual abuse involves forcing and attacking, these are two things I have never done.His mentality lacked common sense. Sexual abuse is something very serious, do not try to expand this concept to other things as this is pure evil. (0)

Oh no I'm not expanding. Sexual abuse is many things - including manipulation or lying to get access to a person's body. Sexual assault involves attacking but abuse can occur without physical violence. If a guy I'm dating wants a bj but I'm not in the mood - he then responds by calling me a b-word and refusing to talk to me and giving me the cold shoulder so that in future when he wants a bj, I give him one to avoid that reaction - is that not abuse? Of course it is. S*x should be mutual.Think about it this way. If I go out with you and you pay for dates, pay for my nails to be done, pay for my phone so we can chat, pay for my hair, etcโ€ฆall while I lead you on with the impression I will be your gf one day and/or put outโ€ฆam I financially abusive? Of course. I'm stringing you alone so that you'll pay for my shit. Abuse is rampant and it's often things that people don't consider to be abuse. We need to move the conversation forward. It's not evil. (4)

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EVERY SINGLE HORROR MOVIE (except the thing) SUCKS DOG PEEPEE

Yes, every single one. They are all shit and boring.

I do enjoy horror games though

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what

why am I here?

quick, interpret this:


the old year's gone

will the new one be any better?

I have my hopes, but then

optimism is in short supply.

still.

there is something.

goodnight.

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No, I didn't watch this "movie". Yes, I will call it dogshit :gigachad4:

https://i.rdrama.net/images/1735388813hxXaTuEq0FKz-w.webp

https://i.rdrama.net/images/1735388812bCoE9pe4lqR5ng.webp

https://www.imdb.com/title/tt23552010/

Reminds me of the time red letter media made their own short film and it was garbage as well :marseyxd:

https://old.reddit.com/r/shittymoviedetails/comments/1fk4436/in_the_trailer_for_the_critical_drinkers_film/

rare nonchud w

https://old.reddit.com/r/CriticalDrinker/comments/1b3lfbi/a_frank_discussion_about_the_rogue_element_trailer/

:marseylongpost: :marseylongpost: :marseylongpost: :marseylongpost: :marseylongpost: :marseylongpost: :marseycope: :marseycope: :marseycope: :marseycope: :marseycope: :marseycope:

Rightoid cope overload:

https://old.reddit.com/r/MauLer/comments/1hgr1cg/critical_drinkers_rogue_element_was_garbage_does/

https://old.reddit.com/r/CriticalDrinker/comments/1h1l65h/critical_drinker_released_a_tv_show_to_show/

Dawg this isn't even a show it's a low budget concept pilot people out here like he ruined his YouTube channel

>its not a movie its a tv pilot proof of concept bro even though the kickstarter literally says its a movie bro please ignore the shit dialog bro please bro cut him some slack bro please dont insult my favourite youtuber bro please

Even if it was overly successful whatever that means they would still find a way to disparage it come on we know this with these types of people

https://media.tenor.com/kXBOAv7krF4AAAAx/copium-meme.webp


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The Meta employee relations department's investigation into Kevin Crawley has concluded. Separately, I've learned from industry sources that Kevin Crawley is no longer employed by Meta. Being a member of Kiwi Farms and engaging in racist and transphobic tirades is bad for one's career.

Liz Fong-Jones (ๆ–น็ฆฎ็œŸ) (@lizthegrey.com) 2024-12-27T18:02:56.656Z

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I can small talk with people I like, I just don't like most people. (313)

well you're probably a bad conversationalist if you can't get enough chat out of people to find at least something to connect with them on (-40)

Basedness: ๐Ÿ”ฅ๐Ÿ”ฅ๐Ÿ”˜๐Ÿ”˜๐Ÿ”˜

I have absolutely zero desire to talk about the weather or your haircut. Zero desire. So I'm a bad conversationalist? (103)

Yup, if you can't make small stuff like that interesting then talking to you about the big stuff won't be that interesting either. Small talk and big talk go hand in hand (-41)

Basedness: ๐Ÿ”ฅ๐Ÿ”˜๐Ÿ”˜๐Ÿ”˜๐Ÿ”˜

I feel like its also that sometimes I am busy thinking about important stuff and small talk is a pointless distraction from that. Makes me assume people who insist on small talk have little going on up there.EDIT: I clearly don't think that its anyone who small talks is dumb, but people who are almost uncomfortable with silence and are bothered by others not small talking (81)

tub enjoy expansion spark future air rinse point shelter causeThis post was mass deleted and anonymized with Redact (-22)

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Notice how I never said that disliking or not participating in small talk is inherently bad; I specifically talked about people who condescendingly look down on those who do participate in it, yet you chose to get offended in this manner by calling me entitled for some reason. I wonder why.I don't know, I think interacting with the people around you is good, it's nice to have a more closely knit interconnected society. On the whole, people have become more atomized, like particles floating through space never colliding, and while there are bigger socioeconomic causes for this, I think anti-social behavior/mindsets are both a symptom and a perpetuating factor.I understand people can have personal issues, trauma, etc. and at the end of the day, I can't force anyone to do anything. Doesn't change my view on the merits of it, though. (-3)

I'll tell you what the issue with your reply to people reading it is - in your list of examples, you denoted negatives to any situation in which someone would not like small talk and said that's fine. You gave "excuses" for not liking small talk like social anxiety (meaning they want to be able to talk to people but cant) or having a bad day/tired (would normally like small talk, but this is not the time).Then in your next reply, you listed personal issues and trauma, again explaining that not liking small talk is due to negatives.Then, your counter to that is that the other people who don't have those negatives are "often" arrogant, condescending, etc.You know what you forgot to list? Introverts. People with a natural personality type in which they are drained by social interaction in general and thus pick and choose when they want to interact.By excluding that, which is the largest source of people that generally dislike small talk, you're either coming off that you think that... (3)

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I know I'm a bad conversationalist, that's why I hate small talk lol (5512)

Yeah but at least i know im a bad conversationalist. Lots of these people that are just talking to talk are just as bad. There's the I did something incredibly simple people. what am I supposed to clap bc you tied your shoes? There's the I'm going to ask you a bunch of inane questions then get pissed that you don't carry the whole conversation on your back. Do you have a car, yes, ๐Ÿ˜ค. There's the I can't afford a therapist so I'm going to unload my burdens on random people, people. There's the I'm going to trap employees in a conversation they can't actively disagree with or leave bc that would be rude to the customer, people. Oh and anyone who's classically bad at conversation knows it's only rude one way. when you don't care about the conversation it's rude, but when they talk over you that's just the flow of the conversation. (2)

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Strongly agree! There's so much you can learn about someone, and connect over, in seemingly "meaningless" conversation. The ability to use small talk to show that you care about the mundanity of someone's daily life, build connection, and bridge the gap between "stranger" to "friend" is an essential part of human relationships and I get that it's not easy, but I hate how people disparage it as if it is less worthy. Someone jumping into "deep" topics with me without first building a rapport via small talk so we have a better sense of each other's boundaries, conversational preferences, communication style, etc. is only going to make me feel nervous and uncomfortable!And that's coming from someone who is very introverted and has very limited social battery. What I hate is wasting my limited energy on small talk with people I dislike and don't want to build a relationship with, but that's not a problem with the small talk per se, it's a problem with the people (I'd hate to have a "deep... (1)

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