I had a long weekend back in SF. I took this woman all over the region from Santa Cruz to Presidio and showed her all the things that would make her happy. She loved it and completely fell in love with the area. She couldn't believe that I was telling the truth about everything (how beautiful the area is, how physically ugly the people are, and how god darn expensive it is).

We role played for a few days that we were in a relationship and I was showing her the area. I was still recovering from my surgery but even more importantly - this was the death rattle of our time together as lovers. I've grown more distant to this woman and care for her a lot but on this trip I felt love for her but not the kind that would blossom into an ever lasting relationship.

I've been really having a hard time adjusting with so many factors. I'm in my third year of living in NYC, I miss the bay area, I'm losing my apartment and have to find another, and I still can't get a job due to this frozen butt economy. I've been stuck in team match for closing in on a year with one of the biggest tech companies because they simply aren't hiring. I'm plenty good at interviewing but no one is really hiring.

And all the while, I feel that this surgery was quite intense for what will be minor payoff. It truly is a 1% better type thing. It's going to be unnoticeable on the daily but it's like having your teeth a couple shades whiter. It'll subtly move you towards being more attractive and therefore getting people to acknowledge you as a potential suitor.

I'm just feeling down because I turn 35 sooner than later and this is just not the life I've imagined a 35 year old me would be doing. Cosmetic surgery? Unemployed? Nearly homeless? Unable to find a woman who is suitable for a relationship? It's incredible to think I've worked so hard at so many facets of my life and I've still come up so incredibly short. It truly speaks as to how much is determined by your genetics and the environment you're born into. I've truly done incredible things to get where I am and I've never met anyone who has gone from where I was and gotten to where I am. But the fact I am no closer after three years of insane effort to being in a happy family speaks to how broken the idea of pulling yourself up by your bootstraps is.

The woman who I spent time with is great in many ways btw. If it wasn't for a few things, she would otherwise be very good. The biggest one though is that I just don't have that urge - that urge that normally compels me to be with someone and talk to them endlessly and want to always be around them. It's not there at all and never really was there to begin with. I've tried to make it happen but it isn't there. I want it to be because then my life would be easier (not perfect) but it hasn't happened and I've really given it a shot.

Trump frees another neighbor from the tyrannical Dems

The letter notes "independent reasons" as to why Adams' case was being tossed — including that the case was retribution for him speaking out against the Biden administration for its handling of the migrant crisis.

"It cannot be ignored that Mayor Adams criticized the prior Administration's immigration policies before the charges were filed, and the former US Attorney's public actions created appearances of impropriety…"

https://old.reddit.com/r/nyc/comments/1imksh1/justice_dept_to_seek_dismissal_of_federal/

https://old.reddit.com/r/newyorkcity/comments/1iml2n0/justice_department_to_drop_federal_corruption/

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@WootFatigue

ENHANCE

!chuds !transphobes he told the same joke with different doodles :3

We've covered this in the past with:

• /r/starbucksbaristas: "we're so tired of homeless people overdosing in our stores". Also /r/starbucksbaristas "noo you can't ban homeless people from our stores, they're people too "

• /r/starbucksbaristas are still defending the homeless

They're still mad... OP has written an absolute wall of unhinged nonsense so let me pick out the key bits:

But this back to Starbucks stuff might have me at my breaking point. It all feels so illogical, it's not even smart capitalism the direction we are going. It's money-hungry greed packaged in between "we care" statements and vague community pledges.

"Back to Starbucks" = "you can't be in a Starbucks unless you're a paying customer", with the aim of returning Starbucks to the local coffee shop feel it once had, rather than a homeless daycare centre.

Anyway, since the reset, we have turned homeless people away from getting water, people who haven't purchased anything away from using the bathrooms, there was one woman holding her tooth asking for a cup of ice because she went to the dentist that we turned away because she didn't want to buy anything.

lmao you wouldn't give a woman holding her tooth some ice? YTA

One customer in the drive through wanted a cup of water and even offered to pay for it without any way for us to charge for just a single plain cup of water.

Who the frick goes to a drive thru for a cup of water?

What's stopping someone from buying a petite vanilla bean scone or avocado spread, using the restroom, then asking for a refund?

Nothing, but a homeless person won't do that.

I've seen SSV's be yelled at, baristas be heckled and given attitude

But I bet you haven't been assaulted by a homeless person or had to clean up the bathroom after an OD since the change.

If a human being is thirsty, I will give them water. If a human being is hungry and I can give them food, I will.

Work for UNICEF then.

Our CEO private jet commutes to work. He makes tens of thousands a second.

Calculator needed.

Dont believe it will evee be a coffee house. the way the company has gone downhill since howie left. we are far too gone to return back to pur roots. our roots are buried deep and new ceo is very focused on profits than experience

The new CEO is actually laser-focused on the coffee house experience, these baristas are deranged.

Someone tells OP they're wrong but they're buried at the bottom of the thread:

The bathroom policy has been good overall actually in my district. I'm in Manhattan. And while it is annoying sometimes to tell people they can't use the bathroom, and some people have an issue, it's MUCH better than dealing with: Guy who comes in weekly and takes all the napkins out of the dispensers and throws them all over the floor; the guy who would "take a shower" in the bathroom and leave the floor covered in water, and leave his loofah and soap behind; the guy who would come in and ask for a "sample coffee" 5x a day; the guy who would bring in multiple bags of cans and spread them out and organize them on the floor; the guy who would roll up his blunts and have loud explicit phone calls, and the NYPD said they couldn't do anything lol; the guy who would stay in our bathroom for 20 mins, and when we'd ask him to get out he'd sit at a table and put his needles on the table while he slept; the lady who would sit in the lobby all day and occasionally yell and insult customers

(I think paragraphs are banned on the subreddit, I wish I wasn't shadowbanned)

I saw the face of God,

It was a thing neverending,

My eyes forever trying to grasp,

Cast adrift, a visage too vast to hold.

/

It was a thing without angles, edges, or depth,

It was a thing from a time long before them,

It was the first time I felt grateful,

To possess a mind too feeble, to comprehend.

/

My good man, the man of science,

He was not so lucky a soul,

Somehow the ant managed to grasp,

A single crevice and hold on, for but a moment.

/

A moment I will never understand,

'cept for this, the man was changed,

I could not sense it right then,

'cept for the stars that now felt too cold to bear.

/

We walked back to the car,

And traveled down an hours long road, without break,

We couldn't even drift our eyes away no longer,

And so carried on in silence, staring at our hands.

/

We parted ways without a word,

And as I said, I was fortunate,

That I could not comprehend,

And so I went about life,

With the additional knowledge of "don't go there. Don't frick with that."

/

My good man of science on the other hand,

They say he disappeared,

and after months of searching,

There still hasn't been a trace.

/

That's not the worst that bothers me though,

It is the fact that I at times must pass through his town,

And more and more people now I see,

Prefer to stare at the ground, unwilling to recognize the stars.

/

I think he brought back some understanding with him,

And now it is in the very ground where he lived,

But thankfully I am just an average fool,

And all I need to know about the place," Don't go there. Don't frick with that."

/

Lucky me, I know a few other routes that skip the town entirely.

@jackie !writecel

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I'm a petty beefy guy. Have been for most of my adult life. I'm changing my eating and hitting the gym again to get healthy, but I don't think I'll ever be super thin again.

There seem to be a decent amount of men who find plus size women sexy, which I think is fantastic. But as a man, I can't say that my experience has been proportional or at all similar. Outside of fetish communities, I've not encountered a woman who was sincerely attracted to someone with my body type, and thats... hard.

I don't want to be a fetish. I don't want to be in a feeder-type relationship. I want to be healthy, but I also accept that healthiness for me might still be a hefty body type. The BHM communities I've found on reddit are very sexually oriented. I'm not here to kink shame anyone, but that's just not me.

I'm a man with a deep capacity for love and connection. I'm very connected to my feelings and really would like to find a meaningful relationship based on mutual interest, attraction, and compatible personalities.

I just don't know where to find women who would be interested in dating a guy like me. The apps are out. So are the popular dating sites. I just feel like modern dating isn't made for the plus sized man.

Does anyone have some good advice for me? I'm a 46 year old man, who at this point, is kind of at a loss.

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!Coolcobras the bwoy is dwown bad. He's beywond fwucking twoasted fwor appwoximatewy 7:30 pm Cwobwa Standard Tim (yesterday).

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Clips

Pwesidents Day/Bweaking dwown in tears

Vodka tumble

A smaww pwour

His dwink cwombwo is 50-50 Mwonster and Vodka. Fwor swome reaswon this is stwong

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swomeonye ping bwoozers pls

!meowr

"The attention market?! You mean people clicking on things? That will never go away!"

Ok so I know this sounds bonkers, but MARK MY WORDS:

• People will literally give up and stop clicking on things as much.

• The lack of supply will crash the attention market, influencers and ad firms will see stats go down

• the average person increasingly is aware of dead internet theory

• no phones youth movement is bigger than ever

• dumbphone edc people are increasingly seen as cool

• even 20 something trustafarian girls are tired of "GRWM" advertising slop disguised as content, and has begun making "um, im reducing my routine and unplugging bc all this shit is toxic fr..." type videos

• ^ (they probably won't but the meta is shifting)

• the basketball of pickleball will be invented (As grass touching behavior increases, someone will popularize a new sport played with basketballs)

• personal pages are making a comeback even faster all the sudden, after 5 years of steady rise in popularity. At this rate, there will be more personal pages than there was in 1999.

• The rage and indignation is building towards slop blasters. "We should do something about this." People who watch brainrot videos with the audio on will soon be as publicly shamed as an able bodied man draft dodging during WW2, and that is only the beginning

who the frick even stands with their toes touching

and as @corp discovered, it was all anime girls

!chads !art

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Glocks don't have safeties. Safeties on carry guns are dumb and dangerous. And you see that black thing the gun's resting in? That's a holster. And harness? Wtf is this 1970? Who carries with a harness?

My precious bbs

!animalposters !cats