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I was kind of here for "Espresso" as a song of the summer, but now it's like you had your 15 minutes and you're still here???
This new track is just godawful, reddit-hornyposting tier...
GET IT???
Has anyone ever said "bed chem"? Is that a real thing that zoomers say?
Fricking get the frick out of here. Honestly will take Chappell Roan over this shit.
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OP has been asking chatGPT for therapy:
See a therapist. Talk it through and find out if you have a problem. A therapist can help you identify healthy outlets for your urges.
There are no Therapists where i live. My best option is chatGPT and it has definitely given some solutions but I have not seen any improvement. I think stopping porn will solve all of this
Enjoying these things is not turning you into a predator. There is a thing called CNC (consensual non consent) where women enjoy the fantasy of being SA'd. There is nothing wrong with that. When you begin to actual trying doing something to a girl who has in no way consented, that's when you become a predator. Lay off the porn a bit though. It unfortunately can be addictive and gives you a false sense of reality. Go meet a girl. You can also check bdsm dating sites for a girl you can act out your fantasies with without being a predator
""Progressive"" Redditors defending things would make the most misogynistic, anti-egalitarian rightoid blush.
You need to stop watching porn and go outside. Stop being so fricking weird.
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πΊπΈπͺπΊβEuropeans are our lapdogsβ
— Lord Bebo (@MyLordBebo) February 7, 2025
β Mearsheimer
He is right β¦ sadly
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Just to get it out of the way, he probably was trying to tap that. This was recommended to a lot of people's feed so there are accusations of "not a real lawyer" flying around that I'm not going to bother posting.
OP:
We have a new undergrad intern (a young woman, perhaps 19 years old), and I thought I'd take her to lunch to welcome her and answer questions about the work. Simple, right? Apparently, taking a female intern out to lunch is now a high-risk situation requiring oversight.
When we got back, it was suggested in the future that I invited other attorneys and avoided going to lunch one-on-one with female interns.
Lesson learned, and in hindsight I get where the firm is coming from. I still think it's a bit of an overreaction, though. I've gotten mixed responses when I've told people this. I'm curious what the subreddit thinks
His darning follow up post where he admits to having something in common with her and actually talked to her.
[β]TurnDownTheRadioJerk[S] -47 points 3 days ago
So here's more: I'm a 24 year old first year and the school she's going to is the same school I went to for undergrad, and she even has some of the same professors I had. We got talking and I asked her to lunch. No, I don't assign her work, but we seem to get along. Yes, there are other interns, but I haven't really had to talk to them yet
Responses to the follow up:
That sounds a little better than I initially imagined, given your ages are pretty close and the power dynamics aren't super crazy off (I'm assuming you don't have much influence at your firm). But your follow-up also makes it sound more like you are in fact trying to hit on her (or at least become her friend), and your firm gave you good advice. You shouldn't be doing anything that looks like you might be looking for a romantic relationship with anyone subordinate to you
Yea OP is totally hitting on her he wouldnt have done this for a dude I'm guessing.
That is pure speculation on your part, is really hard to imagine forming connections and mentorship in a professional field without ulterior motives. It seems reasonable to plausible to me I have gone to lunch with both male and female colleagues.
Dude⦠that's a crush let's be real, and you were testing the waters.
There's nothing mentor-ly about this. You were trying to get to know her in a personal capacity π
Why did this get so downmarseyd?
Because the world of genuine courteous courtship has gone entirely to the wayside and in its stead is this hyper-sensitive environment. All of this whilst people complain that they can't meet others organically anymore.
He's a young man and shes a young woman. If he is courteous and respectful in his proceeding with her and he doesn't have power over her directly or otherwise in the firm, I don't see the issue. Statistically, the workplace used to be a great place to meet your spouse.
Young man and a younger** woman. She's a teenager AND an intern. He is an adult who can drink and her mentor at a law firm trying to isolate her. He can treat all the interns or a few more so they arent alone.
There is nothing improper, legally or ethically, about a 24 year old and a 19 year old dating
Got ourselves a over here.
Other Responses:
More context is needed. Are there more interns than just her? Are you working closely with her? If you were her direct supervisor or somebody formally assigning her work, and she was the only intern, I don't think it would necessarily be weird. If you were some random associate who just showed up and was like, "Yo, wanna grab lunch", and didn't invite any of the male interns in the same room, I could see how that might not have the best appearance
I think he left them out on purpose. He didn't want to look like a creep
Two comments in we have him being called a creep. Doesn't appear to be a lawyer and posts in a really odd mix of subreddits including /r/aupairs.
Barely a crumb of context which might be explanatory in itself.
Is this the only intern you've ever taken out? If so, why this sudden exception?
Is she the only intern? If not, why exactly did you choose her and her alone?
Do you work more closely with her than anyone else? Most attorneys work more closely with paralegals, so why her and not them?
[β]PoundTown68 -35 points 3 days ago
That's a lot of useless questions. In a sane world, two consenting adults can go to lunch without concern. Two consenting adults should be able to do whatever they want together if we're being honest. This is exactly why feminists should be ignored. We've allowed them to create a culture of fear, where everyone is tiptoes around unnecessary regulation that benefit nobodyβ¦.except for 40 year old feminists, jealous that they're no longer sexually attractive, who want to force everyone else to be unhappy with them. Misery loves company.
Darn, found the incel
$100 this guy sexually harasses people on the daily
Yeah, I mean, look alive brother. Avoiding the appearance of a questionable situation is very easy if you have situational awareness.
Was it actually questionable? That's not the right question and doesn't matter (unless it got weird). Protect yourself and the firm. Heck, the vast majority of lunches I went to as an intern or otherwise young firm employee were with multiple people, now that I think about it.
This is crazy. Taking someone out to a business lunch in a public place is not out of bounds or even close.
Why was this intern chosen for a solo business lunch with an older male attorney? I'm not saying OP had any untoward intentions, but let's not pretend the optics don't raise valid concerns.
Also, though, based on the follow up, op definitely does have untoward intentions
The optics of it are not great. Put yourself in the shoes of a supervising partner. Perhaps his 28 years old associate has no bad intention when he asks the 19 year old intern to lunch. Perhaps the 28 year old intern has romantic intentions. Partner has no idea. Does the 19 year old intern know your intentions. Did you take any male interns to lunch. If there is no romantic intention perhaps bring along another associate (perhaps female) and more than one intern or staffer.
Yeah he has to think what the firm partners would think if this 30 year old associate took the 19 year old to lunch. It's a bad look when a 34 year old associate is doing that with an 18 year old intern. The 17 year old intern doesn't know she can decline the lunch invite from the 38 year old.
When I was a 19 year old college student, I invited a visiting professor to lunch to discuss their career. I thought thats what we were supposed to do "networking" and all, build a rapport. The lunch was 100% professional the entire time. No drinking. I paid for myself. All day time hours in public. Afterwards i was invited into the deans office and told that my behavior was inappropriate and unprofessional and that I needed to learn my place and not be so forward. When I was ultimately asked to leave the school (we aren't expelling you, we want to encourage you to go to a place better fitted for you) they cited my inappropriate relationships with visiting professors as one of the reasons.
It was humiliating.
15 years later that school got sued into the ground for 30 decades of sexual abuse against minors.
(am woman)
Talk about getting absolutely on.
I think they are trying to help you out.
I went to not-lunch with a support staff ... we were both new to the org, and she accused me of being a predator. And then coworkers hacked my email and spread it around the community. It was too late by the time we established that she was lying, for my email inbox was everywhere and the firm decided I had to leave before I could figure it out.
You need to be extraordinarily careful.
I found one of the few dissenting voices that wasn't downmarseyd into oblivion.
I strongly disagree with this take. Be professional about it. Make sure it's a public place, but refusing to take women to lunch in a professional environment is Mike Pence culture crap that prevents women from having the same opportunities as men.
IMO, a work culture that discourages men from meeting 1 on 1 with women is a massive red flag and usually the #1 sign that the employer has fostered an anti-woman environment.
There is a difference between "men and women can't have lunch together" and "attorney shouldn't take young intern of the opposite s*x to lunch alone". The power imbalance inherent in the latter certainly has a higher chance of producing a bad situation, from either direction (attorney actually taking advantage, or intern falsely claiming they did).
Keeping that sort of thing as a small group activity avoids all the possible issues.
Muh power imbalance.
You're a lawyer and don't understand professional conduct or ethics?
OP about to be disbarred.
Why is no one talking about the 19 year old intern's perspective. That's what matters here. And that's what the others at the firm are focused on, not the intentions of the OP.
Possibly the most incorrect response in the whole thread.
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New York literally just invented garbage cans
I'm sure it cost the city tens of billions of dollars to pilot this program.
Orange sight: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=42918425
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The jeet in charge is trying to tell everyone it's a great thing, but any time an equity firm buys you out, you are gone soon. lol Only people winning here are the jeet and the execs.
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A federal judge, in a ruling late Friday evening, has denied an effort to block the Department of Government Efficiency from accessing sensitive data from the Department of Labor.
During the hearing, the plaintiffs' attorneys argued that if DOGE accessed DOL data, it would cause irreparable harm to their clients.
However, in his ruling, Bates found that the plaintiffs did not show that "at least one particular member is substantially likely to suffer an injury at the hands of the defendant."
Fricking wrecked.
These people can't do ANYTHING
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!cuteandinvalid !lgbt !nonchuds Fcuk you Emlo and Drumpf the Resistance will get yuor butt
- Salvadore_Ally_Chud : Wine DARK sea. Not wine-red. I am betting are the lit tards are wrong about eye color thing.
- Vegeta : That's literally what both the thread and the wordcel longpost say
- Nightcrawler : can I report without logging into redscarepod.net? jimie ping !classics
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Getting surgery this week. Flying to 90210 for it. I can't find any women in nyc who find me physically attractive. I'm gonna be injecting about 8 peptides a day after this as well. Been taking a couple for about a month and I haven't noticed significant improvement but here's to hoping somehow taking a frickload more will do something.
I'm just feeling like nothing works. I deleted another dating app tonight because I spent 3+ weeks on it without a single match. This one didn't even have a chat feature and is new to the US. You just match and go on a date. No excuses of "you've got bad game" or something in the texts. Still not even one match after swiping every single day.
I'm going to be 35 sooner than later and I'm one of my surgeon's oldest patients for this particular surgery I'm getting. He says he doesn't get "older" men very often. Talk about being a fricking loser. I'm not supposed to be getting cosmetic facial surgery at this age - I'm supposed to be a dad but here we are.
Grim fricking world we live in.
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Just go to the search bar and type in
"When I was 13"
"When I was 14"
"When I was 15"
"When I had s*x"
"I lost my virginity"
"I weighed around"
And sort by oldest
Thanks for that story carp
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Not uncommon actually. pic.twitter.com/VDPJL2GDyz
— HannahReading π (@readtoyourkid) February 5, 2025
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I'm trans and I'm going to rpe you. I'm gonna call up all my goons and we're going to break into your house and rpe you until you're gaped far enough to fit a fire hydrant in there.
Should I call the fricking fbi, b-word?