I'm a 31-yo guy, and a week ago I had my first sexual experience (never too late for success I guess!)

It was really nice, my partner was great, and I am proud to report that I gave her an orgasm

However I couldn't come myself, despite being very aroused and my partner really wanting to help. What's weirder is that later I tried to masturbate and still couldn't.

Two days later, we saw each other again, and we couldn't have s*x for logistical reasons but there was a lot of flirting and heavy petting. By the end my testicles were extremely painful (though still a lovely afternoon all things considered). And yet afterwards, nothing.

That was 5 days ago! Still nothing to date.

Since then whe has been traveling pretty far away. We've been exchanging some suggestive texts, I regularly fantasize about her, I have trouble focusing on anything complicated, and I have erections galore.

I initially speculated that it was stress (even though I felt relatively calm), but I've been sleeping well, and despite the distraction and the occasional testicular pain I feel quite good emotionally.

I tried watching porn etc, no effect, I just get bored. I've never experienced this state before.

I asked Claude what it thought but it gave me boilerplate "oh you just need to get used to the new situation, or maybe you're too stressed, if nothing changes a week from now you should see a Professional"

But this seems more like psychology than urology (otherwise why would it occur at this precise moment?), so any intervention is likely to have a small effect size. Besides, I know LLMs have their faults but how is a random doctor going to help if Claude has no idea?

We're planning to meet again this weekend, if I'm still in the same state then I guess I'll be a very altruistic partner again lol

But at some point she's gonna wonder what's wrong (even more than she did the first time I mean). I'm happy to tell her the facts but I'd also like to be able to explain them.

Does anyone know about this phenomenon, or have any idea what could be going on?

Or maybe you know someone I could get in touch with

Thank you!

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3 buses exploded in Israel tonight and undetonated bombs were found on another 2 buses.

According to initial reports, they were supposed to explode tomorrow at 9am but instead exploded tonight at 9pm when the buses were empty and not in use pic.twitter.com/iX9h0WLfXB

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They should rename it the Gulf of Girldick

Just a thought

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Do you mind pointing me to your sources for these statistics? (9)

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K. Why? (-7)

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Why do you not think they should compete? If you think they have an unfair advantage, I advise educating yourself more on the subject. (-25)

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Leftists take every logical take the right has (or even ones that may technically be wrong but are not coming from a bad place), add an ist or an ism, add nefarious intent where there isn't any, emotionally supercharge it, then scream it from the roof tops constantly in unison in an attempt to invalidate and vilify any and everything else the right does. Examples:"You don't care about women, you just hate trans people!!""You don't care about immigration, you're just racist!!""You don't care about runaway government spending, you just hate poor people!!" *as if the US government has been an effective vehicle for supporting them lolAnd on and on and on. You're not allowed to care about or discuss blatant, obvious issues-even ones that literally the rest of the non-western world has no issue calling what they are and managing properly like illegal immigration-without them making some disingenuous emotional argument that immediately falls apart under any scrutiny. Meanwhile they complet... (1)

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An educated citizenry is a vital requisite for our survival as a free people.Apple podcasthttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/trumps-american-takeover/id928790786?i=1000687599740Slate https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/amicus-with-dahlia-lithwick-law-justice-and-the-courts/id928790786Spotifyhttps://open.spotify.com/show/7DpL32jgjwBTah8o9HQkBl?si=oDZr7d9WQPivjhddnonGswTrump doesn't want any constraints. He wants to be able to sign with a pen and do whatever he wants.MAGA performative cruelty is designed to accomplish two things. One is it's designed to develop scapegoats and people to blame, and to also create distractions from the consolidation of executive power going on with things like the restructuring of the executive office of the president, which doesn't seem as important because it doesn't leave bodies buried in the streets yet. Important, but a distraction. But here's the second. It puts everybody else in fear. Because if Trump can do this to anybody he pulls out of a ... (1)

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Trans women are women so denying them rights or space in places set up for women is transphobia. The question is why don't you want them in sports? Below are the most common misconceptions people have:MYTH"TRANS WOMEN HAVE A 'BIOLOGICAL ADVANTAGE' OVER CIS WOMEN."FACTEVIDENCE INDICATES TRANS WOMEN DO NOT HAVE AN ADVANTAGE & BIOLOGICAL DIVERSITY IS EVERYWHERE.In elite level sports, trans women are required to suppress testosterone in order to compete in the women's category, lowering T levels to cis women levels. There is no testosterone level advantage.Available evidence indicates trans women who haveundergone testosterone suppression have no clear biological advantages over cis women in elite sport.Consider that when cis men are good, they are praised. (e.g. Michael Phelps.) But when women - especially marginalized (Black or Brown and/or trans) women are good, they are accused of being unfair. (e.g. Serena Williams, Simone Biles, Sha'Carri Richardson, Caster Semenya, and many more.... (1)

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I think we should commit genocide on Russia and China and Iran and North Korea with nuclear weapons.

I don't want regime change, I just don't want their government and citizens to be alive at all

!burgers

All the sass!

Also, please upmarsey or donate to help fight the good fight c:

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This is a crazy exchange.

Does the media really think the holocaust was caused by free speech? https://t.co/EBUKx75Wfm

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Rory Feek’s daughter rips country singer for shaming her mom after discovering he’s not biological father https://t.co/niXl5OMhiR

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I like this place a lot :) It makes me smile.

honestly it's kinda mindblowing hearing stories about japanese teenagers like, ages 12~14 just. quitting school, leaving home, and just traveling the country following their favourite bands, being supported by their online friends and other people in the community, and just spending their time faking their age hanging out at bars and adult clubs that they aren't supposed to be at. cause it's like. from an american perspective the immediate reaction is "holy shit how are these kids not in serious peril" but then it's like. "how are they so lucky and so safe that they get to just do this without their lives getting ended in some way. how are they so lucky that doing this has actually improved their physical and mental health cause they're no longer stuck at home or stuck at school, and can instead find the places where they belong at and just thrive in those spaces". like kids literally stop being suicidal because they get to live their lives the way they want to

it's just mindblowing cause this kinda shit would straight up never work in the usa. and like, japan is by no means a country where crimes against minors are uncommon, and yet that kind of lifestyle is still possible for them, and it's just like, man.

https://rdrama.net/post/338842/diddykongdancediddykongscaredkongmaxxing-event-badges-galore-return-of

!badgemaxxers refer to above thread

Also a sneak peek of something

Also if I can figure out how to stream from the steamdeck would you guys watch me play donkey kong

I'm not very good

There would be no voice or camera or anything literally just dkc2

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According to data from USASpending.gov, the U.S. government has granted over $270 million to the East-West Management Institute (EWMI) over the past 15 years. EWMI is an organization partnered with George Soros' Open Society Foundations. Additionally, another $90 million was obligated to the institution over several contracts. The East-West Management Institute describes its mission as "strengthening democratic societies by fostering collaboration between governments, civil society, and the private sector to build transparent and accountable institutions." Its funding primarily comes from USAID and the U.S. Department of State. Programs include judicial reform, legal aid, and rule of law initiatives in countries like Albania, Armenia, Cambodia, and Georgia, as well as civil society training in nations such as Kyrgyzstan and Uganda.It's important to note that while EWMI has received substantial funding from USAID, this funding is directed towards the organization's initiatives and n... (15)

I never voted to have any of my tax dollars spent in Albania, Armenia, Cambodia, Georgia, Kyrgyzstan and Uganda. I am all for cutting USAID and keep all of our money to fix the problems we have in this Country We could house all of the Homeless in America for the amount of money we give to foreign nations (-9)

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USAID also someone how paid $8M for 47 Politico "subscriptions" which happens to be a left leaning media source. The corruption by dems is out of control. (-4)

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Not accurate. (3)

accurate, it's officially stated as payment for their "pre editorial" product. like please read between the lines. (-4)

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Look, idk wtf happened to reddit where it became this woke safe haven. And God it's annoying that any kind of nuanced opinion that isn't left leaning is downmarseyd immediately....But bro all of this USAID shit is getting annoying as frick. Like don't get me wrong, if there is waste and it leads back to the left ok fine, end that waste... But Jesus Christ this feels so witch hunty. I'm not hearing a goddarn thing about right wing waste and I do not believe for one second that those mother frickers are any cleaner than the left.ALL of those people are funneling money from all kinds of mother frickers to other mother frickers and in their own pockets. Left, Right... 2 sides, same coin. (And don't give me that "lesser evil" bullshit)It's just so annoying to see all of these right wing talking heads (Even Joe Rogan) go on and on about the left doing all this dark money shit while not hearing a peep about the Republicans. Nah son.... You're all dirty as sin. Please shut the frick up with this h... (1)

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Can you prove that investing that 10M would have stopped Al Qaeda from rising to power? When that same 10M could be used to provide at home infrastructure support or tax cuts?Also, how does supporting DEI initiatives abroad improve our national security? Asking for a friend. (1)

There has been countless studies that spending on foreign aid yields dividend in the form of both reduced military spending and increased foreign trade. This view was championed by Trump's own secdef, James Mattis. This view is not a controversial one. Trump and his people all are aware of the reality. But they said they would find waste and fraud in govt spending, and they can't find any actual waste or fraud, so they're pointing to the old reliable boogey man that his dumb supporters fall for every time, foreign aid.This last question is idiotic propaganda for weak minded people. Point to a bad program. Don't regurgitate your masters bs. (1)

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Nice attempt to divert from the truth. The liberal meltdown over the USAID getting forensic accounting is astonishing. What are you so afraid of? (-2)

If they expose a bunch of bad things in those lying liars worldwide and claim but everything we did as bad because most of what we did as bad. No, even if we do a bunch of bad things that doesn't prove that everything we do is bad. No, we still do good things. With all that tax money we're taking the giveaway, we still do a few good things. We shouldn't destroy so much government waste Internet up to save money. (1)

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Guess the fact that those 10 athletes aren't exactly regularly outperforming their biological counterparts parts doesn't matter hey? Ofcourse it doesn't you don't give a frick about women lol. (85)

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Why have competition if you are going to let it be unfair? It's silly (22)

Because you are making a mountain out of a mole hill. The amount of trans athlethes is minescule in the big picture. There are bigger problems to be solved. (-26)

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Out of 500,000 NCAA athletes 10 are transgender 😂 completely made up issue (239)

This logic is flawed. While there maybe only 10 transgender athletes, those athletes impact more than just 10 people. They individually impact everyone they ever play with and against. That number is certainly larger than 10. Rules like this aren't for the individuals that they prohibit, they are for everyone else that are affect by them. (-8)

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Imagine if someone made a rule that red headed people were no longer allowed to go to the movies, because their red hair was so bright it might hurt other people's eyes while watching. That's silly, right? There's no evidence of that, there are very few red haired people even that exist, and the majority of the people watching movies are cool with red haired people.Maybe not getting to go to the movies and have a source of major enjoyment that other people get to have isn't a big deal to you.But next they will say red haired people are distracting - we shouldnt allow them to drive either, they can cause accidents.Redhaired people start getting fired from jobs and no longer getting hired, or their businesses no longer patronized since people don't want to risk being around themRed haired people start being murdered and r*ped and committing suicide more often, because criminals know they can get away with it.Then they will say we should round all the red haired people up and put them... (2)

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The reasoning behind it is flawed and masked in "protecting women" when it's about targeting the LGBTQ community Cis women are being targeted and accused of being trans if someone feels they are too good, too masculine presenting or they just don't like them/what they have to sayCis women are being accused of being trans because of how they biologically exist, such as naturally occurring variance in hormones. Once this information is released people refuse to the believe they're women and all their accomplishments as athletes are thrown away. I was born with 9 times the amount of testosterone that I am suppose to have. It never made me a better athlete but people don't care and if that were given out the the public, people would die on the hill that I am biologically male even though I have had two children emerge from my body that lived in my uterus with my eggs that were naturally released through my fallopian tubes.This issue unfairly targets people of color who have a long histo... (8)

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J.K. Rowling says it bestJ.K. Rowling@jk_rowlingThis 'why do you care about a tiny fraction of the population?' line is, and always was, utterly ridiculous.Gender ideology has undermined freedom of speech, scientific truth, gay rights, and women's and girls' safety, privacy, and dignity. It's also caused irreparable physical damage to vulnerable kids.Nobody voted for it, the vast majority of people disagree with it, yet it has been imposed, top down, by politicians, healthcare bodies, academia, sections of the media, celebrities, and even the police. Its activists have threatened and enacted violence on those who've dared oppose it.People have been defamed and discriminated against for questioning it. Jobs have been lost and lives have been ruined, all for the crime of knowing that s*x is real and matters.When the smoke clears, it will be only too evident that this was never about a so-called vulnerable minority, notwithstanding the fact that some very vulnerable people have been ha... (1)

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