good evening/morning !bookworms! i am making the executive decision to change the bookclub book we are reading to Atomised aka The Elementary Particles because: a) u complained, b) i think it is more topical (drama surrounds this book, incel themes, etc etc i'm very tired), c) it is shorter and we will probably have more meaningful discussion about it, d) more of u will read it bc it isn't as intense, and e) i'm in a houellebecq mood and i feel like it. you're welcome or sorry.

chapter breakdown

Part 1: read ch 1-15 in week 1 and 2.

Part 2: read ch 1-22 in week 3 and 4, we can push this back if we need to, discuss in discussion posts to come.

Part 3: read ch 1-7 in week 4 or 5 (re pushing back)

i rly think this book will be a better fit and i'm more excited to read it and hear what everyone thinks about it. goodnight all, take a day or so to like download off libgen or buy it or whatever, i am usually a kindle-paperwhitecel bc books are expensive but i would rather read paperback for this so if u all need time before we start week 1 then that's ok. love u mean it gn

Just take a look through any of his all day long rants about people, he is also well known for stickying his opinions to the top of threads for no reason.

/u/PankoKing

Really he has out done himself by defending the latest anti-cheat above what even the literal employees are doing. Banning everyone even mentioning they had problems while the company was trying to collect issues people were having to actually solve them (they actually made a thread later to directly collect these because the Jannies were working too hard and preventing them solving peoples issues )

https://old.reddit.com/r/leagueoflegends/comments/1civ4l7/update_from_riot_on_vanguard/?sort=controversial

The highlight of which was stickying a post calling people racists for having tech issues, he then went to defend himself from people making fun of him, but then locked the thread after people kept laughing at him.

https://old.reddit.com/r/LeagueOfMemes/comments/1ci2kr3/vanguard_is_racist/l27axcg/?context=8&sort=controversial

the /r/leagueoflegends mod team also control every related league of legends subreddits so also have locked threads making memes about them.

Please take your tech issues to https://old.reddit.com/r/LeagueofTechSupport/, a subreddit he just created as an excuse to ban all the threads he doesn't like

For good measure they also control /r/lol just to make sure no one can make a competing subreddit for the game with a reasonable name.

!g*mers discuss one of the worst gaming subreddits

Bear, because statistically, women have crashed at least a thousand times more vehicles than bears, or any other carnivores for that matter. I want to live.

A bear bc apparently I'm statistically less likely to sexually assault it.

As someone who was once injured in a car accident where the women was driving, i'm entitled to speak on this matter....so id go with bear.

SamohtGnir 81 points 1 day ago locked comment

Silly joke, women can't drive cars.

travellingathenian -22 points 22 hours ago locked comment

That's funny considering most accidents are caused by men

bonus seething in the cross posted thread on r/BlatantMisogyny

I would highly prefer if those kind of men were trapped inside a car with a bear rather than a woman.

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It threatens violence or physical harm

At me

Would you rather be in a car driven by a woman or a bear?

Poll:

18 yrs ago I met my wife, 13 yrs later I lost her.

3 yrs ago I got her back and built @HostageTape into an 8 figure business. (#Thread 🧵) pic.twitter.com/I59pbp7Az6

— Alex Neist (@AlexNeist) May 3, 2024

yeah I stole this but the point still stands

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Previously, I had declared my feelings of affection to a female friend of mine (let's just call her Sarah because her name is Sarah). The feelings were not reciprocated, but she let me down in a weird way, she spoke about how she doesn't know how she feels, but she's not looking for a relationship at the moment. She embraces the asexuality meme which is partially how we ended up being friends.

More recently, I decided to give it another shot but to be more tactful this time. I told her I don't think I'm asexual anymore, and that I want to be in a relationship. Once again, she reiterated that she doesn't know how she feels and that a relationship isn't what she wants. Nevertheless, as always, she was nice about it and continues to actively pursue my friendship and constantly tells me she loves me.

At first, this confused me. However, I think I have some of it figured out. I have learned a bit about women and human relationships in general from this experience, and I'd like to share some of the reasons why it's almost certainly a bad idea to pursue your female friends. Now, of course there will be exceptions. Sometimes your female friend genuinely does like you and you'll have a romcom moment. My point is that that's probably not the case, and while you may view the friendship with rose-tinted glasses, she sees things totally differently.

1. They're used to it

Since they started developing breasts, women have been the center of sexual attention. It comes from all angles including older men, teachers, family members, and even other women. At some point, they get used to it and it becomes background noise. "Yes, he's ogling my breasts but I need to finish scanning my groceries".

The sexual attention also comes from male friends. You're NOT the first male friend to express romantic emotions, and you won't be the last. She's turned all of them down, what makes you think things will be different with you? She's used to it, she probably saw it coming, and she doesn't want it. If she did, you wouldn't have to ask because she'd make it obvious to you that she's romantically interested.

Now, there is the possibility of misreading signals, which brings us to the next point.

2. Women genuinely have platonic feelings

This is not to say that men are incapable of having platonic relationships. Nay, that is not my point. My argument is that it is much harder for men to do so. People shit on Steve Harvey but he was 100% correct when he said the following:

Things aren't the same with women. They can genuinely love you deeply without any sexual or romantic feelings. Why is this? Women don't have to deal with the famine mentality. For many men, s*x and love are scarce resources, so when it even vaguely seems like there's an opportunity for it, the feelings come on strong. Hence the cliche of "the cashier smiled at me now I want to marry her". (Most) women aren't leading you on intentionally when they allow intimacy into a friendship. That's the way friendships should be. But it doesn't mean she wants anything sexual or romantic.

3. You're in love because you're lonely

This is probably the crux of the issue. When you're starving, even a mud pie looks delicious. As men, you will face long stretches of loneliness and never being told you're beautiful, attractive, or worthy of anything. Inasmuch as catcalling and sexual objectification should be chastised, it at least serves as some kind of validation of one's attractiveness.

A friendship with a woman can bring about those feelings of validation within men and if you're not ready for it, it's going to develop into obsessive love. If you had higher self-esteem, more experience with women, or a source of love, your friendships with women would be completely normal and platonic. It's when these elements are missing that any smile, hug, or eye-gaze turns into fantasies of marriage.

When she inevitably turns you down, what are you left with? Nothing yet again. Nobody to say they love you or assure you that you are wanted in this world.

Things get more complicated if you're an introvert. Most relationships seem useless unless you're benefitting considerably. In your mind the thinking is "I'd only put this much effort into a relationship if I had romantic feelings". Whereas if the woman is an extrovert, it isn't costing her much mental energy to maintain the relationship. I hope that make sense.

4. She knows already

Don't bother. She already knows you like her. She accepts that as part of the cost of the friendship. That's not a bad thing. It means there's something good about you that she wants in her life even if its not of the romantic nature. You should be flattered by this even if it is heartbreaking at times.

Some women are a bit mean with this. They essentially get everything they would get from a boyfriend (someone to talk to, someone to take care of them) without the need to commit. But that's not always the case. In my case, Sarah goes out her way to be nice to me and to spend time with me. She's not using me for anything - a genuine, platonic friendship is all she wants. It's hard for my brain to wrap my head around it. I thought it was obvious that she felt something. Maybe I had to take the lead and break the ice? Nah, I'm convinced she knew ages ago I liked her but loved me enough to still be my friend despite not sharing romantic feelings.

5. You may lose everything

Life is about taking risks so I don't want to stress this point too much. However, if she doesn't already know and you spring it up on her, she may never trust you again and you will lose all the intimacy of your friendship. She will remain guarded around you, and perhaps even think of you as a slimy coomer who tried to use friendship to get into her pants. Shit can get brutal.

I've been lucky to have an understanding friends who has continued to be nice to me. I know that this isn't the case for everyone, and it also depends on how you respond to the rejection.

CONCLUSION

Heartbreak is one of the worst feelings to experience. It's like a knife constantly twisting in your chest. But it's part of life for most of us. A lucky few will find high-school sweethearts and never have to play the dating game, but for most of us, we're going to get rekt a couple times before we find the right one (if we ever do). Please, for the love of god, don't go looking for a girlfriend from your female friends. There's a difference between a girl friend and a girlfriend.

I'm probably preaching to the choir, and this may be obvious to most people here. But I know there are some autists who may need to read this to spare themselves the heartache I went through. The funny part is that if you're in love, nothing I write is going to change anything. You'll think your case is different. You'll try your luck. And you'll get rekt. But don't let me stop you. Some mistakes are meant to be made.

I know the asexuality meme isn't true. One day, she'll find a guy she likes (not me) and all that asexuality shit will disappear. And when it happens it will hurt like heck. However, I'm prepared, and I'll still be her friend. I'm wiser now thanks to the mistakes I've made. Thanks for reading.

https://old.reddit.com/r/4chan/comments/1cjdh6v/anon_interacts_with_women/?sort=controversial

Either this youtuber regularly browses rdrama, or regularly browses multiple sites which are 1 step away from rdrama.

https://youtube.com/@StoicStick/videos

!foidmoment

What is it with women getting lost and dying/nearly dying less than 3 hours from help?