Hubby and I finally got round to watching Adolescence on Netflix this week.

When we finally finished we chatted for ages about it and at one point he asked what incel meant. So I explained it was involuntary celibacy and that it was guys who couldn't find a woman to sleep with. He joked "so married men?".

This got me prickly and I responded that it's different, but he thought about it for a bit and then made the point that if a husband wants s*x and his wife doesn't, he's therefore involuntary celibate. I couldn't argue, as I got what he meant and he wasn't have a dig at me or women in general, just stating what it conjured up for him. But it got my back up all the same and I've not been able to stop thinking about it.

I know why. At the beginning of our relationship and marriage we had a very healthy s*x life. He's great in bed, generous and still gorgeous. But after 3 kids, my body changing and generally mellowing, I don't really feel sexual desires anymore. And I'm happy with that. It feels right for me.

So I can't even remember the last time we had s*x. It's definitely been over a year.

He's clearly still keen, flirts and tries it on from time to time. But I just don't feel like it. He never guilts or pressures me and is super respectful, but I can see it hurts him to be rejected. And he definitely seems less joyous than he used to and just generally deflated.

So I'm worried that I've made my husband an incel, if not in terms of red pill forums and Andrew Tate etc (he's not an idiot), but the feelings of sadness and resentment that come from being rejected.

When it comes to s*x, I have all the control. He has none and has to wait for if and when I feel like it. Which is almost never anymore. When I put myself in his shoes, and if the situation were reversed, I would be angry and feel powerless.

So I find myself in a place where I really don't know what to do. I love him to bits and adore our life together, but I've changed and now he's got to live without something as fundamental as s*x - through no fault of his own.

I don't know why I'm writing this here, but would love to know if anyone else is going through the same and if you have any advice.

An incel has an ideology. They want to use women for s*x and that includes r*pe. Incels have killed people and are considered extremists. They don't see women as human beings but something they're entitled to.

That doesn't sound like your husband. I wouldn't want to be in a celibate relationship but he's obviously made his peace with it.

I think part of the issue with incels is that they want the 'emotional support animal' aspect of a wife/GF as well as the s*x. Assuming your H gets the former, his lack of the latter isn't quite in incel territory.

lol being into shit like emotionally supportive relationships, what a bunch of losers

I mean he could no longer be involuntary celibate if he stopped being a self pitying ladygarden. If you're anything like me, you'll find there's nothing more unattractive than a man who is unkind and whines about not getting s*x. It makes my vagina clamp shut tighter than a Yorkshire man's wallet. Just ask him why he thinks he's entitled to a shag when he behaves like a manchild.

You tell 'em, there really is nothing less attractive than a man who would like some sexual contact in his relationship.

Whoa. Did you read what I wrote? He doesn't whine and isn't unkind, quite the opposite - which is what breaks my heart. He's never made me feel pressured or resented. He's been nothing but understanding.

Sorry but making a snippy comment about never getting s*x is whining. He clearly feels he's entitled to it

Im also amazed he doesn't know what an incel is. Has he been living under a rock?

You WILL go without s*x for years and if I hear any complaints I'm gonna be even more sexless

No he's not an incel. That is quite a specific term attached to a very hateful ideology that has led to murder.

Watch out! The anxious, scrawny, nerdy internet dweller is gonna come and get ya

One thing I would say is, IME the less you have s*x the less you feel like having it.

Interesting insight into female psychology

Meanwhile men who don't ejaculate for 3 days:

I don't think it's necessarily saying there is something wrong with the person who doesn't want s*x, but it's a usual expectation in a marriage. If the partners in a marriage have very different libidos then counselling (or at the very least talking about it) can be a good way forward.

>I haven't had s*x for years because my wife isn't attracted to me
>oh, and how does that make you feel?
>like I want to fricking kill myself
>oh I see, well I'm sure you feel better after that expression of emotion and that'll be £183453134 please

It is completely valid that you no longer want s*x.

But it is deeply unfair that he may never have s*x again for the rest of his life due to this.

Leaving the years just to go by while he flirts are tries to be intimate with you is quite cruel. You need to sit down and have a conversation and ask him is he okay with your lack of s*x (his incel comments say otherwise).

I personally think you either work on your libido and sexual desire and see if you fancy doing it, but if you don't then you need to consider an open relationship.

Ethical non monogamy doesn't have to be a hugely scary thing. With very strict boundaries and guidelines it can be great, especially when you love each other and want to stay together.

My DH and I have been ENM for around 5 years and I know loads of couples who are similar.

You don't owe anyone s*x and being pressured means it isn't true consent. You shouldn't feel guilty for not wanting it or force yourself to do it to "keep a man".

But you also need to consider you and your husband as well rounded human beings outside of the relationship, otherwise resentment will build.

I also agree with PP that the incel part is a red herring. Incels are dangerous, vile, terrifying men. I think both you and your husband probably need to educate yourselves further on that topic.

Ending on a more sensible post because not all mumsnet posters are completely insane tbh. Maybe just like 50% of them. Funny though how something becomes acceptable if it's given the correct current year relationship label.

>sexless marriage with a mistress on the side that the wife just tries not to think about

>sexless marriage with a mistress on the side that the wife just tries not to think about but it's called 'ethical non monogamy'

BREAKING: JD Vance says, "We must take back every piece of U.S. land controlled by China. Not a single blade of grass should be theirs." pic.twitter.com/JPZDJaB7P6

— Brilyn Hollyhand (@BrilynHollyhand) April 5, 2025

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— XTrends (@xtrends4u) April 5, 2025

Liberals

you know this is fake right?

You were saying?

And who president before Biden ? 💀🤣🤣🤣 @shutmzz Magatards are something else

circling the point of most growth? are you fricking r-slurred?

CCP shill bot will malfunction when stock prices rise up again.

Keep coping magatard

''Keep coping magatard''

You fricks are such facebook boomer tier cringy buttholes

You can't talk about cringe with your Reddit butt pinned tweet

"God isn't real. Theists are big strong smart children pretending and they try to force everyone else to pretend with them."

Reddit has been a disaster for atheism

Stock market doesnt effect you lil bro

It affects everyone you moron.

how has it impacted your life thus far

But how does it affects you personally?

Shut up CCP botted account.

the chinese are after u guys lol

You're right, the chinks really are after you. Run!

Should have never been sold to them in the first place.

Let's also stop buying tech from them with who knows what listening/tracking devices are in them. Buying tech and military supplies from your number one enemy is wild.

— Jake Day (@WhiskySmiles) April 6, 2025

Just curious, how much land do you think China owns in the US? Best number. Now, how much land do you think the US has inside of it?

Of course the United States owns more land in the United States than China does you fricking r-slur?

Are we sure about that tho?

You have been fighting wars almost continuously against the USSR and Russia since World War Two but you think China is the enemy

so caught up in your own biases your vision is completely clouded

China clearly isn't an ally and they've been more focused on taking our spot as world superpower #1 thats why we havent been to war with them. If they do take that spot were in trouble

nah that's just the politics of fear they usually roll out the china bashing when they want to divert attention from themselves (Trump's popularity sinking, the markets haemorrhaging) or a slow news day. China produces products to a higher standard and significantly cheaper.

arguing china vs russia is dumb cus Israel has literally already infiltrated your government. They control your laws and your banks. You're not even allowed to question anything they do without being labeled "anti semitic". Even Trump bends over for Netanyahu

You can't have enemies as long as Israel exists

Israel is who you need to worry about. They own 100% of the US.

Exactly. All this "China China China" is just a distraction/deflection.

😂 , China owns several toll roads , and farm land. Conveniently have several properties by different air for bases ect. Wake up

China is 1000x better as an ally than Israel

Selling America to China to own the jews

@grok how much land in the US is owned by a foreign interest? Who is it owned by?

As of 2022, foreign entities own 43.4M acres of U.S. agricultural land, about 3.4% of the total. Canada leads with 32% of foreign-held acres, mostly forest land in Maine. Other key owners include the Netherlands, Germany, and the UK. China holds <1% (350K acres). Data from USDA AFIDA reports.

It's the ones you least expect

Dumbass … your orange man is selling citizenship too…

Dumberer. Citizenship for $5m investment is bliss but of course you can't understand it

You're a clown… so don't come here crying why land and citizenship are sold to Chinese… or you think they didn't pay huge amount of money to acquire the land??

Fricking r-slur. Land and citizenship are two different things.

: You r-slur. You fricking clown.

Who authorized this? You don't have any idea what your authorities do without telling you. USAID was used to finance terrorism and NATO to start the war in Ukraine. Did you know that?

Oh, sweetheart, let's not pretend anyone in 'Native America' is a 'legal immigrant'—unless we're counting the charming European settlers who just adored real estate so much they helped themselves to a continent. And that precious Constitution of yours? Such a heartwarming document, really—penned with one hand while the other held a knife to the throats of entire nations. But sure, go ahead and lecture everyone about 'legality.' Your entire existence is basically a *crime scene with a flag.

This redskin appears to be upset about something

This white savage European settler thinks we don't know the truth about their ancestors 😂😂😂😂

I completely agree. I can't believe we even sold land to China. I would love to know who authorized this.

🤣 based dumb bïtch. Israel owns american politicians and controlls american politic, and you worry about China? 🤣🤣🤣 Gtfo ya sharmuta

Rude, you can't just go around calling people shawarmas

But they don't want china to take back Taiwan 😁😁

But Taiwan has never been Chinese...😯

But America has never been America.

I think this is the first time I've ever seen the Zimbabwe flag

Why isn't this happening all over the US. We keep talking about all these ideas/changes and cheering then on, but nothing is getting done. Epstein files release, Chinese owned land, etc etc. Where the frick is RFK on all his promises? Starting to feel like we've been fed a load of bullshit!! Stand the frick up!!

The fact that you're barely smelling the roses now is crazy but expected for many.

Frick you and the roses you're smelling. I'm MAGA all the way, just wish shit would happen quicker is all dumbass.

MAGA all the way? No surprise. Y'all been fed lies and you're still begging for scraps. Keep waiting, clown.

Not lies. MAGA people don't beg, we are self-sufficient and make our way without government handouts. Like real Americans. Too bad you don't know what that looks like.

The whole movement's built on whining about the government, not doing anything real. The only thing MAGA's good at is selling lies to keep the poor and uneducated stuck. Keep waiting and cope harder

Funny you mention the lies because DOGE is finding nothing but fraud and laundering by Biden and all of the liberal hacks who worked for him. All lies by Biden's liberal government. We whine about the government because government officials who we are supposed to trust have been stealing our tax dollars.

Funny you bring up Doge like it's the smoking gun. You've been so deep in that bubble you can't see past your own biases. The same ones crying fraud are the ones who've been peddling lies from the start, and you're still buying it. Instead of pointing fingers, maybe ask yourself why your movement's stuck in the same cycle of empty promises, while the supporters keep chasing shadows.

"The same ones crying fraud are the ones who've been peddling lies from the start, and you're still buying it."

The people working at DOGE and Elon Musk are the ones present the fraud. They have not been peddling lies and they just started a few months ago. Their claims of fraud and laundering are based in evidence of what they've found. Trump is delivering on what he campaigned on which is more than what Biden can claim. Oh wait, Bidens senile so he can't legally claim anything. But his handlers can.

Delivering? You mean delivering on promises like 'no war' and 'America first', all while sending billions overseas? Talk about hypocrisy. Let's not forget how the markets tanked the second day he took office. The meme coin rug pull, then Melania's meme coin. His followers got fleeced in real-time. But here you are, still pretending like he's the savior. Who's been arrested for the fraud you claim to have uncovered? Why is no one being held accountable for this mess? You've been sold the same empty promises over and over again.

Where has he sent billions overseas, give me the countries and purpose of the support. Markers didn't tank on the second day of his second term. There were market fluctuations due to discussions surrounding the potential tarrifs, market overvaluation, and a global reaction as a retaliatory measure. The DOJ continues to investigate the individuals who doge have referred to them.

You know who. The 'purpose' is what you learn to repeat. Meanwhile, billions of taxpayer dollars are flowing overseas while Americans are left to deal with their own struggles. As for the market, Maybe you are looking at a different market, where do you want to begin the S&P or even BTC? The fact remains: the rug was pulled out from under his own supporters. Fraud claims are being 'investigated,' but where's the accountability? Where's the action? This is just another cycle of talks with no real results, and you're still following along with the soap opera. Look at inauguration dates and what follows, but they didnt tank according to you.

You said that Trump sent billions overseas but you have no fricking clue about that do you. You've got no idea about the billions Trump supposedly sent because you lied about that. It wasn't true and you know it.

Instead you just brushed the billions question aside and went to the markets bullshit and that wasn't even correct. Your graphs show that both were underperforming most of last year compared to Jan. 21, 2025 or the second day that he took office. But you claim the markets tanked on that day and that's another lie.

You literally have no good arguments centered on facts. You're a fricking liar, and you have been a colossal waste of my time. I'm done. You'll wake up one day to the fact that your political beliefs have been an absolute sham but it'll be too late.

You're done, because every time you open your mouth, you just dig a deeper hole. You don't understand the markets, and you have no clue about the billions being sent overseas. Every point you've tried to make has been disproven, and you just keep doubling down on your ignorance. Keep talking, but know this: staying in this conversation is only making you look dumber by the second.

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https://old.reddit.com/r/worldnews/comments/1js5wpb/hamas_says_it_wont_move_hostages_to_safety_israel/

https://old.reddit.com/r/pittsburgh/comments/1js8xqu/downtown_pittsburgh/

https://old.reddit.com/r/thescoop/comments/1jsf0xt/in_dc_today_a_massive_banner_has_been_unveiled/

https://old.reddit.com/r/lostgeneration/comments/1jsc1vz/in_dc_a_massive_banner_has_been_unveiled_with_the/

https://old.reddit.com/r/texas/comments/1jsjif7/hands_off_protest_man_heckled_and_booed_for/

https://old.reddit.com/r/PublicFreakout/comments/1jsko9c/man_heckled_and_booed_at_for_saying_democrats_and/

https://old.reddit.com/r/Austin/comments/1jsjh32/hands_off_protest_man_heckled_and_booed_for/

https://old.reddit.com/r/Irony/comments/1jsfdwr/trumps_says_while_supporting_israel_who_sank_our/

https://old.reddit.com/r/Jewish/comments/1jsdy66/they_dont_have_issues_with_jews_they_just_want_to/

https://old.reddit.com/r/geopolitics/comments/1jscfhv/israel_admits_mistakenly_killing_15_aid_workers/

https://old.reddit.com/r/politics/comments/1js3t63/this_college_staffer_lost_her_job_after_showing_a/

https://old.reddit.com/r/JewsOfConscience/comments/1jscq0b/this_feels_anti_semitic_to_me/

Also @sandkwinn

https://old.reddit.com/r/changemyview/comments/1jslh6d/cmv_muslims_are_afforded_a_right_to_be_bigoted_in/

https://old.reddit.com/r/ucla/comments/1js4qxm/trump_administration_revokes_visas_of_multiple/

https://old.reddit.com/r/Kanye/comments/1js3wtd/i_just_wanted_you_to_be_aware_that_your_sub_has/

https://old.reddit.com/r/asktransgender/comments/1jshrem/is_it_wrong_for_me_to_go_to_universal_studios_and/

https://old.reddit.com/r/unitedkingdom/comments/1js7azz/bbc_accused_of_islamist_propaganda_for_calling/

https://old.reddit.com/r/atheism/comments/1js4rhp/texas_gov_greg_abbott_blocks_construction_of/

https://old.reddit.com/r/geography/comments/1jsk2lp/why_greece_has_so_many_abundant_mosque/

https://old.reddit.com/r/changemyview/comments/1js5syg/cmv_muslims_should_not_condemn_isis_for_marrying/

People at the cinema are going crazy over the new Minecraft movie like it’s the end of Avengers Endgame 💀

pic.twitter.com/UDjZJmTqxL

— JV🕷️ (@vinhlegacy) April 6, 2025

These people might be worse than Rick and Morty fans.

someone threw water on a guy during the minecraft movie and yelled "WATERBUCKET RELEASE!" then the guy chased the teenager out and called the cops. It was fricking hilarious. pic.twitter.com/CTXepUV3hp

— chinese darwin (@conniedefc0n) April 5, 2025

OMG THIS GUY JUST STOOD UP AND SHOUTED TOGETHER WE ARE MINECRAFT AND EVERYONE CHEERED LMAO pic.twitter.com/mMoTA2ApBL

— Vivian 🏳️‍⚧️ (@thedrugvivian) April 5, 2025

Absolute dogshit.

Tell me this isn’t peak. pic.twitter.com/tmggycFFEh

— Retrora (@Retrora) April 5, 2025

Sheila is raging in the fvcking cage.

My local stores are short on very much, thank you, may I please quietly leave this planet?

!animalposters !cats

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Weak males, beware the uggo nurse

@WayOut @Redactor0 @HailVictory1776

Absolutely, I hit my head as one might a tv with a shaky image, I like to think of it as me attacking my brain for being regarded.

A married PE teacher accused of sexually abusing two teenage students has been hit with fresh charges ahead of the court case.

Tayla Brailey, who taught at Lurnea High School in Sydney's southwest, was charged last August over allegedly abusing a 17-year-old male student.

Less than a week later, the 30-year-old was hit with further charges of abusing another male student after police went though her phone and found further evidence.

The Office of the Director of Public Prosecutions has now finalised which charges it will proceed with as the case works its way through the NSW District Court.

In relation to the first teenager, Brailey is facing charges of sexual intercourse with a child under authority and sexually touching a child under authority - and has now been hit with a fresh charge of using a carriage service to access child abuse material.

A charge of aggravated sexual assault of a child under authority was withdrawn.

In regards to the second student, Brailey is charged with sexually touching a person under special care, inciting a person under care to have sexual intercourse, a related offence of inciting a person under care to sexually touch, and a fresh charge of using a carriage service to transmit child abuse material to herself.

Three charges relating to alleged solicitation, access or control of child abuse material were withdrawn.

- 13 votes

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Hey, /u/PradaAndPunishment, what's the deal with this bullshit? You know it's bullshit. We know it's bullshit.

https://old.reddit.com/r/CircumcisionGrief/comments/1jq60yz/circumcisionsuicide/

Sabrina Carpenter debuting a new Juno position at night two of #StockholmShortnSweet

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— Sabrina Carpenter Tour Info 💋 (@SabrinaTourInfo) April 4, 2025

sorry, i’m supposed to assume she’s doing this in a man’s WHAT?? https://t.co/Y5hVMdMWjs

— pepper 🌶 (@stillidreamof) April 5, 2025

https://x.com/SabrinaTourInfo/status/1908258899246936222/quotes

KILL KILL KILL KILL KILL

in other news, i saw her on tour a while back and she said my marsey sticker was awesome. forgot to get it on video but please (please, please, like the song) believe me.

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Congratulations to @realdonaldtrump on winning the Club Championship at @TrumpPalmBeach , his third win this year alone following the Senior and Super Senior Championships. Absolutely incredible! pic.twitter.com/4HcvqbxrgV

— Trump Golf (@TrumpGolf) March 17, 2024

Reddit seethe:

https://old.reddit.com/r/facepalm/comments/1js9zhg/breaking_news_president_trump_won_his_clubs_golf/

https://old.reddit.com/r/politics/comments/1jskhz7/trump_has_another_miracle_golf_victory_at_his_own/

I would consider reporting them for forcibly removing your PPE without consent. This is so horrifying and exhausting, I'm so sorry OP.

I wouldn't consider it - I'd be all in on getting this person fired. This is egregious even outside of Covid concerns.

Egregious violation of personal space. From a doctor, no less. Might even top the time that my doctor molested me by pulling my pants down and fondling my balls.

Seriously. That is fricking horrifying, and fully qualifies as assault even without the risk of infection. No one is entitled to physically remove an item of clothing/an accessory from your body without your consent. No one is entitled to touch you without your consent. Even if she weren't a doctor, it would be assault, but the fact that she IS a doctor and has tremendous power over you as a patient makes it beyond the pale. You absolutely must report her. I know doctors look after their own and it's likely that your report won't be taken seriously enough, but this NEEDS to be on the record. Someone who would do this is going to cause harm to other patients in a thousand other ways, and a paper trail will help those other patients when they need to report her.

In a perfect world, I think I'd report this to police for criminal charges. In this world, I don't think the system would allow it to inconvenience the very nice and important doctor.

Police are not our friends. They are more likely to have done something like this.

Jesus Christ the r-sluration is endless.

What kind of shitty doctor encourages their patients to catch covid? They really let anyone through medical school these days it seems.

Not getting a lot of "trust the science" vibes here. They're even drafting up complaints to the licensing board you gotta love it 😂

Is this a parody subreddit?

Couldn't make it out there myself this time, so this is is via reddit.

It appears to have been much more a crowd of normal people than the "punk rock" zoomers and aging hippies looking for fights who populated these protests in Trump's first term. In a shithole like Portland it's easy forget that the majority of the population actually aren't weirdo redditors. Of course we do still have a few of those too:

i give up on finding wammin sadge

just be a man to be less of a failure from my dad, he wanted a man anyways lol

he'd rather have a trans man than a cute butch

either way i'm screwed in life

A regionalist confronted a vendor for not knowing Marathi, but didn't realize the vendor was Muslim and that he was standing in a Muslim-majority area. Within moments, he was mobbed and forced to apologise, ironically, in Hindi.

This is the reality of regional chauvinism… pic.twitter.com/6uCGfjCxa3

— THE SKIN DOCTOR (@theskindoctor13) April 6, 2025

Inshallah

go shoot some b-words or nah

she thinks she's still 22 lol